Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isme wo sab chhoot jaata hai jo us insaan ne mehsoos kiya ho ya na kiya ho.
Dadi ki tareef ki kabhi munh se ek shabd nahi nikala, shaadiyon mein us cousin behen ki misaal jo kabhi nakhre nahi karti, report card par “class mein shaant”.
Neeche ek manyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe mazboot rehna hai,” ya “Kuch mushkil hai toh meri hi galti hogi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Muskurakar kehna ki koi baat nahi, aur thaaliyan samet-ne lag jaana
- Pichhle kuch mahinon mein dhoondhna ki kahin koi shikayat jaisi baat toh nahi hui
- Us ghar mein kam bolna, kahin ginti na ho rahi ho
- Mann hi mann sochna ki unhein asal mein kya laga hoga, aur poochhna kabhi nahi
- Baad mein vaakya dohrana aur wo sab waqt jodna jab ye naam aaya tha
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Kadchhi chalti rahi, baat laut gayi
Almora mein sasural ka Sunday ka khana. Sab baithe hain, bhaat ghoom raha hai. Chachiji kisi se nahi, bas hawa se kehti hain, “Hamari badi bahu ne toh kabhi uff tak nahi ki.” Koi hansta hai. Kadchhi chalti rehti hai. Aap kehne wale the ki in dinon har hafte aana bhaari pad raha hai. Iske badle aap kehte ho ki daal bahut achhi bani hai, aur wo baat laut jaati hai jahan se aayi thi.
Theek rehne ko zarooratein chhoti rakhna
Pehle saaf baat: wo vaakya do logon ki tulna karta hai, aur dono ke baare mein kam batata hai. Par usse ek niyam ban sakta hai jo aapka apna ho jaata hai: “Yahan theek rehne ke liye mujhe apni zarooratein chhoti rakhni chahiye.” Ye sunne mein aasaan bane rehna lagta hai. Par dekhiye wo kya karta hai: saamanya sa khayal bhi kami lagne lagta hai, aur kisi ke poochhne se pehle aap khud ko kaat-chhant lete ho.
Hum swagat kyun chahte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki chahte hain swagat ho. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain, aur ye sabse aam chaahaton mein se hai. Shayad bachpan mein aapki pehchaan wahi thi jo kabhi tang nahi karta. Shayad dar hai ki achha din aapki wajah se bigde. Jo bhi ho, table par shaanti chahna kamzori nahi hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Bolne se pehle har baat jaanchna
Har aisi tulna dher mein thoda jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Bolne se pehle aap har baat jaanchte ho. Logon se kehte ho sab sahi hai. Jo baatein kahi nahi gayin, unhein ghar lautte hue saath le aate ho, aur jo ghar parivaar hona chahiye, wo nibhane ki jagah lagne lagta hai.
Kya chup rehna is keemat ke layak?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya apni zarooratein chhoti rakhne se kabhi us ghar mein aap zyada sahaj hue? Ya zyadatar aisa laga ki koi nazar rakh raha hai? Aasaan bane rehna aur zarooratein rakhna saath chal sakte hain. Ek vaakya kisi insaan ki keemat ka paimana nahi hai. Bina dosh diye dheere se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Sukhad bhi, aur apni raay bhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki agle khane mein kuch kehna hi pade, ya ki tulna achhi lagi thi. Matlab ye hai ki aapki zaroorton ko shikayat jaisa lagna zaroori nahi. Aap sukhad bhi reh sakte ho aur apni raay bhi rakh sakte ho. Ye ek din mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap table par apne jaise baith sakte ho.
Where someone really does treat you badly, threatens or frightens you, or controls what you do, that is worth taking seriously, and how much to show in that house is yours to judge.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleYahan theek rehne ke liye zarooratein chhoti rakhni hain.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAasaan bhi reh sakte hain, aur zarooratein bhi rakh sakte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Kisi bharosemand insaan se apni ek chhoti pasand keh dijiye
- Kadam 2
Aaj jo ek baat nigli, bina parkhe bas notice kijiye
- Kadam 3
Mulaqat ke baad kuch aisa kijiye jo sirf aapke liye ho
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab aapne suna ki badi bahu ne kabhi uff nahi ki, tab khane ki table par kya ho raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek naam jo kamre mein tha hi nahi #
Almora mein sasural ka Sunday ka khana. Saasji bhaat parosa rahi hain, chachiji daal daal rahi hain, koi gaderi ki sabzi aage badha raha hai. Tabhi halke se koi kehta hai, “Hamari badi bahu ne toh kabhi uff tak nahi ki.” Bina zor diye, jabki jiski baat ho rahi hai wo wahan baithi hi nahi hai.
Upar se suno toh ye kisi aur ki tareef bhi lag sakti hai, ek pyaari yaad jaisi. Par kuch logon ko ismein feeta dikhta hai: jo yahan nahi hai, usne paimana bana diya, aur jo yahan hai use usi ke bagal mein khada kar diya gaya.
Jis naam ki jagah bhi na lagi ho, wo bhi thaali ke paas kursi gher sakta hai.
“Uff tak nahi ki” aakhri baar kab suna, aur us waqt aapki thaali mein kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Bolne se pehle ke wo pal #
Kuch log batate hain ki chehra achanak garam ho jaata hai, phir nazar chupke se ghoomti hai ki aur kisne suna. Kuch ka jawab banne lagta hai, theek-thaak sa, aur phir nigal liya jaata hai, kyunki daal ab bhi ghoom rahi hai aur baat aage badh chuki hai.
Kisi ghairhaazir insaan se tulna tezi se lagti hai. Na koi saamne hai jise palatkar keh sakein, na aasaan tareeka ki poochh lein iska matlab kya tha. Toh baat andar baithkar intezaar karti hai, aksar lautte waqt gaadi mein ya seedhiyan chadhte hue bahar aati hai.
Parivaar ki table par pehli pratikriya kam hi chunav jaisi lagti hai.
“Uff tak nahi ki” sunte hi aapke chehre ne kya kiya, aur jawab kahan chala gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Feete wala chhupa hua vaakya #
Is baat mein ye nahi kaha gaya ki kuch galat tha. Bas itna kaha gaya ki kisi aur ne galat kuch bataya nahi. Dono ko saath rakho toh mann mein kuch mehsoos karna hi ek kami ban jaata hai, maano chup rehna hi paimana ho.
Isme wo sab chhoot jaata hai jo us insaan ne mehsoos kiya ho ya na kiya ho. Uff na karna bahar se dikhta hai, aur uska matlab aaram bhi ho sakta hai, thakaan bhi, ya barson ki aadat ki sab andar rakho. Tulna ko bas bahar wala hissa chahiye.
“Uff” jaise shabd ke neeche ek poora insaan hai jiski asli zarooratein hain.
Pichhle hafte ya mahine us ghar mein kaun-si chhoti baat kehne ka mann tha, aur uska kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tulna andar bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno toh wo shabd seekh leti hai. “Chhodo, chhoti baat hai.” “Wo toh chupchaap nibha leti.” “Baat bigadne wala kyun banun.” Rasoi mein ek katori girne se pehle hi wo bolne lagti hai.
Rishtedaar doosre shehar mein hon, phir bhi awaaz saath chalti hai: mummy ko phone par thaki hui dopahar “sab sahi hai” ban jaati hai, message dobara likhkar halka kar diya jaata hai, dukhti kamar ka zikr reh jaata hai. Kyunki ye lihaaz jaisi lagti hai, apne achhe sanskaar bhi maan li jaati hai.
Andar ki awaazein aksar kahin se lehja udhaar leti hain.
“Shikayat mat karo” kehne wali awaaz kiski yaad dilati hai, aur zindagi ke kin kamron mein pehle bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Chup rehne ka paimana kahan se aata hai #
Dadi ki tareef ki kabhi munh se ek shabd nahi nikala, shaadiyon mein us cousin behen ki misaal jo kabhi nakhre nahi karti, report card par “class mein shaant”. Kuch log bachpan mein hi seekh lete hain ki kin bachchon ko achha kaha jaata hai aur kinhein zidd.
Bahut gharon mein kam pareshan karna hi pyaar paane ka raasta tha. Kisi ka irada zaroori nahi: jo sabse kam maange, tareef usi ko mil jaye, bas. Bachcha isse ye seekh sakta hai ki apni zaroorat ko dekhe ki wo kitni jagah gherti hai.
Aisi baatein aksar naye parivaar mein bhi saath chali aati hain.
Aapke bachpan mein kise “kabhi tang nahi karta” kehkar saraha jaata tha, aur jo bol dete the, unka kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chup niyam jo andar baith sakta hai #
Neeche ek manyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe mazboot rehna hai,” ya “Kuch mushkil hai toh meri hi galti hogi.” Kuch logon mein iska narm roop hota hai: “Meri zarooratein tabhi theek hain jab chhoti rahein.”
Aisi baatein manyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo aise lagti hain jaise saath nibhana, jaise kisi aur ke ghar mein awaaz dheemi rakhna sirf tameez hai. Isiliye kabhi-kabhi unhein bahar nikalkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jod paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono theek hai.
Aaj ki zindagi mein kahan “chhota hi rakhna chahiye” aaj bhi kaam aata hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kabhi uff na karne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai saal bhar ki chhoti baatein nigalna: bhara hua saptahant, wo sabzi jo banane ka mann nahi tha, aapki naukri par kahi baat jo jaane di. Kuch log dekhte hain ki kehna unhone tay karne se bahut pehle chhod diya tha.
Ek dheemi keemat aur hai. Har baat tolkar bolna pade toh ghar sustane ki jagah kam aur nibhane ki jagah zyada lagne lagta hai. Barah mahinon mein ye kai saamanya shaamein ban jaati hain jo thodi tani hui guzrin.
Ye kamzori nahi hai: andar rakhne mein bhi taakat lagti hai, bas dikhti nahi.
Pichhle saal chup rehne ki keemat aapne kismein chukayi: thakaan mein, ankahi baaton mein, ya un kamron mein jahan poori tarah sahaj hue hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, sab chhota rakhte hue #
Ek aam Wednesday sochiye, jis din “mujhe chhota rehna chahiye” tez bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, theek karne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad usmein hafte ke aakhir ki mulaqat par thaki hui haan hai, ek yojana jo chupchaap badal di taaki kisi ko bura na lage, ek vaakya jo shuru karke narm kar diya, ek dost ko bheja “arre theek hai, sach mein.” Kuch fit hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya-kya hai: phone, chhote-mote kaam, wo baatein jinhein aapne theek hai kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Wednesday ko dekhne par, agar kuch dikhta hai, toh kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Uff na karna aur theek hona, do baatein hain #
Jo chup hai wo santusht ho sakta hai, ya vyast, ya saavdhan, ya bas apne dhang ka. Bahar se sab ek jaisa dikhta hai. Tulna unhein ek hi cheez maan leti hai, kyunki wo sirf awaaz ki oonchai naapti hai.
Aise dekhein toh mushkil batana shikayat kam aur khabar zyada lag sakta hai. Ghar tab chalte hain jab sabko pata ho ki asal mein kya hai, chahe sunne ki aadat daalne mein ek pal lage. Kuch ko halka lagta hai jab bolna roz ki baat lage, kisi par nishaan nahi.
Har koi apne dhang se kehta hai.
Agar jisne “kabhi uff nahi ki” wo aapke bagal mein baithi hoti, toh un saalon ke baare mein wo kya kehti, aur kya chahti ki kehna aasaan hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log pal ko dheere se dohrakar dekhte hain ki kitna kam laga tha: ek vaakya, awaaz oonchi nahi, kadchhi ab bhi patile mein ghoom rahi. Vaakya ka aakaar aur baad mein uska wazan aksar alag-alag nikalta hai.
Kuch ko wo pal bhi dikhte hain jo ulte gaye: kisi rishtedaar ne bina kahe khane ke liye shukriya kaha, kisi bua ne kaha “zyada ho gaya toh batana”, kisi cousin behen ne baad mein message kiya. Kabhi wo pal us tippani se dheeme the, kabhi bahut kam, aur dono ko saaf dekhna theek hai.
Tulna ke bagal mein chhoti meharbaniyan chhoot jaati hain.
Us parivaar mein kab kisi ne aapke liye apni baat kehna aasaan banaya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Chup rehne ki hod jeetni nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki chup rehna behtar hai, na ye dikhawa ki vaakya kuch chhod gaya hi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka is par kam chale ki aap us ghar mein apna kitna hissa aane dein, aur din ka kitna hissa hisaab rakhne mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab we doosre insaan ko aisi hod ka pratidwandi maanna chhod dete hain jismein dono mein se kisi ne naam nahi likhaya tha. Tulna do logon ko daud mein rakhti hai, aur beech mein koi table par bas waise nahi baith pata jaisa wo hai.
Jahan koi sach mein bura pesh aaye, wo gambhirta se lene ki baat hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aapka faisla hai.
Agar “uff tak nahi ki” ka Sunday ke khane par kam chale, toh wo khana kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “yahan meri koi zaroorat nahi honi chahiye” pehle saal se chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iske badle ek vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Do log alag hote hain, aur har kisi ki apni zarooratein hone di ja sakti hain.”
Pehle-pehal sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek pankti hai jise kuch log mulaqat ya ghar ke phone se pehle aazmate hain, aur kehte hain ki chupchaap dohrane se wo thodi jagah le leti hai jo purani pankti gherti thi.
Sachcha vaakya kisi ka paksh liye bina bhi baat keh sakta hai.
Zarooratein hone aur saath rehne mein aasaan hone, dono ke liye jagah banane wala vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein darwaze par utaari ja sakti hain #
Har tulna ko jawab, dobara likhna ya agli baar ki yojana nahi chahiye. Kuch ko bas notice kiya ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur din khatam hone par juton ki tarah darwaze par utaar diya ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai, na ye sehmati hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse din ke wo hisse bach jaate hain jo pehle se unke apne hain: ek sair, purane dost ka phone, aadha dekha hua show.
Shaam ke liye vaakya utaar dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat khatam ho gayi. Bas itna ki kisi ghairhaazir ke baare mein kahi kuch baaton ko baaki raat tak saath nahi jaana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki wo niyam ek darja halka ho gaya. Doosra insaan jaisa hai waisa rehta hai, aur aap saamanya pasand wale insaan rehte ho jise paas hone ka number nahi chahiye.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise saamanya awaaz mein “wo kisi aur din kar lenge” kehna, apni pasand ki jagah baithna, ya dost ko batana ki din asal mein kaisa raha.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, wo aapka hai aur dhyaan dene layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Theek se dekhna ho toh ek baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir tulna aa gayi”
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal aapko asal mein kya chahiye tha, chahe kitna chhota
- Chupke se poochhiye: ye paimana kiska hai, aur kahan se shuru hua?
- Aaj kisi se bhi, kisi bhi baare mein, apni ek aam pasand zor se keh dijiye
- Ek aisi jagah dekhiye jahan bolne se pehle aapko sochna nahi padta
Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo aaj ho sake, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab aapne suna ki badi bahu ne kabhi uff nahi ki, tab khane ki table par kya ho raha tha?
- Us parivaar mein kaun-si chhoti baat aapne apne paas rakhi hai, aur zor se kehne par wo kaisi sunayi degi?
- Kisne aapke liye apni baat kehna aasaan banaya, aur unhone kya kiya?
- Aapne pehli baar kab jaana ki aasaan bane rehne par hi tareef milti hai?
- Agar tulna ka aapke Sundayon par kam chalta, toh sabse pehle kya dikhta?