Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aur chubh sakta hai kyunki kapde soch-samajhkar chune jaate hain, aksar kisi wajah se jo kehne wale ko pata nahi.
“Ye rang to baad mein pehene jaate hain.”
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Mera pehnawa meri umr jaisa hona chahiye,” ya “Mujhe waise pehenna chahiye jaisa log ummeed karte hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Program se pehle kuch saada badal lena
- Kapde ki safai dena, kahan se aaya aur kyun liya
- Hans dena aur akadkar wahi pehne rehna
- Poori shaam sheeshon aur dukaanon ke kaanch mein khud ko dekhte rehna
- Chamakdaar cheezein un jagahon ke liye rakhna jahan gharwalon mein se koi nahi hoga
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek jacket, phir ek nazar
Bhopal mein chachere behen ki shaadi se pehle marriage garden ka gate. Aapne wo jacket pehni hai jo ek ghanta pehle bilkul sahi lagi thi. Mausi aapko upar se neeche dekhti hain aur kehti hain, “Is umr mein yahi pehna hai?” Do-teen aunties bhi nazar daalti hain. Chehra garm ho jaata hai, aap hans dete ho, aur poori shaam har sheeshe mein khud ko check karte rehte ho.
Kapde meri umr jaise hon
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere kapde meri umr jaise hone chahiye.” Ye seedhi-saadi tehzeeb lagti hai, aur zyadatar log sir hilayenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: jo rang aapko pasand hai, use jokhim bana deta hai. Jacket jacket nahi rehti, ghar se nikalne se pehle hi bachav ki cheez ban jaati hai, aur pasand dabi reh jaati hai.
Sahi pehenna saath kyun tha
Hum ise isliye thaame rehte hain ki bahut logon ne seekha ki sahi pehenna saath bane rehne ka hissa hai. Shayad ghar mein alag chunaav par kamre ke paar se nazrein uthti thi. Jinhein pyaar karte hain, unke jaisa dikhne ki chaah galat nahi. Niyam usi chaah se aaya, aur use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Almari ka saavdhaan hote jaana
Har tippani aapko thoda aur saavdhaan bana deti hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Chamakdaar shirt almari mein reh jaati hai, aakhri waqt par kapde badalte ho, aur program mein pehle se tension mein pahunchte ho. Aapki apni pasand, jiske paas kehne ko kuch hai, dheemi padne lagti hai.
Kya nazar ke liye pehenna theek?
Khud se sach-sach poochiye: nazar ke hisaab se pehenne se kya kabhi apne bheetar zyada ghar jaisa laga? Ya zyadatar aisa ki koi dekh raha hai? Kapde kisi bhi umr mein din aur pehenne wale par jach sakte hain, aur pasand ki umr nahi hoti. Ye aap hi bata sakte ho, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna theek hai?
Kapde aapke apne hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki program ya wahan ke logon ki parwah chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapke kapde aapke reh sakte hain, chahe saath koi bhi aankda ho. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: jo pasand hai wo chupchaap pehen sakte ho, aur ek tippani ek gate tak hi reh sakti hai.
If what you wear at home is ever met with threats, anger that frightens you, or being hurt, keeping quiet can be the safe choice; that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere kapde meri umr jaise hone chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere kapde mere hain, kisi bhi umr mein.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Aaj ek cheez sirf isliye chuniye ki pasand hai
- Kadam 2
Apne pasandida outfit mein jo achha lagta hai, uska naam lijiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj ki ek cheez par gaur kijiye jo aapne apne liye chuni
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pichhli baar jab kisi ne “is umr mein” kaha, tab wo kaun sa outfit tha, aur aapke liye uska kya matlab tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kapdon par baat, asal mein umr par #
Bhopal mein chachere behen ki shaadi se pehle marriage garden ka gate. Mausi aapke kapdon par nazar daalti hain jo ek ghanta pehle bilkul sahi lage the, aur kehti hain, “Is umr mein yahi pehna hai?” Do aunties bhi nazrein uthakar dekhti hain.
Sunne mein kapdon ka sawaal hai, par kapdon ke baare mein kuch poochha hi nahi gaya. Kaun sa hissa, ya kya behtar hota, ye koi nahi batata. Vaakya umr ke baare mein hai, aur kapde bas wahin aa pade.
Pichhli baar jab kisi ne “is umr mein” kaha, tab aapne kya pehna tha, aur kehne wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Nazar padne ke baad ka pal #
Koi neeche dekhkar apne hi kapdon ko doosri nazar se dekhne lagta hai. Koi hanskar kehta hai, “Comfortable hai.” Koi jacket kas leta hai, chup ho jaata hai, ya achanak agle teen ghante kahin aur hona chahta hai.
Nazar se tole jaana sochne se pehle lag jaata hai. Jo baat kehni thi ki ye kapde aapke liye kitne maayne rakhte hain, wo aksar baad mein aati hai, aaine ke saamne ya lautte waqt, poori bani hui, par gate ke waqt ke liye der se.
Us tippani ke baad wale pal mein aapne kya kiya, aur kya karna chaha hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kapde umr par faisla ban jaate hain #
Ye baat kapdon ko umr ke aankde se jodti hai, jaise har umr ki apni vardi ho. Sawaal rang ya fitting ka nahi hai. Isme ye ishara hai ki har umr mein insaan ka ek sahi roop hota hai, aur aapke kapde us paimane par tole gaye.
Ye aur chubh sakta hai kyunki kapde soch-samajhkar chune jaate hain, aksar kisi wajah se jo kehne wale ko pata nahi. Chunaav umr ke hisaab se galat bataya jaye to jawab dene ko kuch nahi bachta, kyunki umr to shaadi se pehle badli nahi ja sakti.
Jab tippani aayi, usse pehle wo kapde aapke liye kya maayne rakhte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab nazar andar aa jaye #
Baar-baar suno to ye trial room mein bolne lagta hai. “Ye kuch zyada to nahi?” “Log kya kahenge?” “Safe rang hi le le.” Kisi ke dekhne se pehle hi kapda chuna jaata hai, us par shak hota hai aur wo badal jaata hai.
Kehne wali Mausi door hon, par jaanch ab andar hoti hai: jacket wapas hanger par, koi shirt “baad ke liye” rakhi hui. Kyunki awaaz achhe zauq jaisi lagti hai, ye samajhdaari lag sakti hai, kisi ki kahi baat nahi.
Aapke andar kiski awaaz batati hai ki kis umr par kaun se kapde jachte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye kapdon ke saath umr ki rule-book aayi #
“Tumhari umr mein ye nahi pehente.” “Ye rang to baad mein pehene jaate hain.” “Log kya kahenge?” Kuch log aise gharon aur mohallon mein bade hue jahan har umr ka ek tay pehnawa maana jaata tha, aur alag pehenne par kamre ke paar se nazrein uthti thi.
Kai gharon mein ye saath bane rehne ka tareeka tha, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Jo chupchaap saath reh jaata hai wo bada vichar hai: ki aapka pehnawa hamesha umr ki nazar se padha jayega, aur aapki apni pasand jokhim hai.
Pehli baar kab dhyan gaya ki aapke kapde umr se tole jaate hain, aur tab kamre mein zyadatar kaun hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Dekhe jaane ke baare mein ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Mera pehnawa meri umr jaisa hona chahiye,” ya “Mujhe waise pehenna chahiye jaisa log ummeed karte hain.” Kuch log ise shaadi ke baad bhi dhote hain, dukaanon, offices aur chhuttiyon mein jahan koi dekh bhi nahi raha.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Ye zauq jaise lagte hain, tehzeeb jaise bhi. Isiliye inhein beech-beech mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai, bajaye iske ki bina dhyan diye unhi mein kapde pehne jaayein.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin kamron mein “kapde umr ke hisaab se” ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nazar ke hisaab se pehenne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki chamakdaar kurta almari mein pada rahe, “theek-thaak” cheez ki lambi khoj chale, aakhri waqt par kapde badle jaayein, ya program mein pahunchne se pehle hi tension ho ki koi dekhega. Kuch log pasand ki cheez khareedna tab band kar dete hain jab pasand khatam bhi nahi hui.
Ek shaant keemat bhi hai. Har kapde ko kalpana ki bheed ke saamne jaanchna mehnat hai, aur aaspaas ke log aksar bas saavdhaani se bana roop dekhte hain. Saal bhar mein kai din aise logon ke liye taiyaar hone mein ja sakte hain jo wahan hain hi nahi.
Pichhle ek saal mein nazar ke hisaab se pehenne ne kya liya: koi program, koi shopping, koi mood?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, nazar ke hisaab se pehente hue #
Ek aam Saturday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mere kapde meri umr jaise hon” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad pehenkar wapas hanger par taangi gayi shirt, darwaze par kapde badalna, bag mein padi chamakdaar cheez, program mein akdi hui muskaan jabki asli pasand almari mein reh gayi. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch bhi tay nahi, aur jab chahein ise neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: almari, aaina, plan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Nazar ke hisaab se pehenne ke poore din ki tasveer mein sabse zyada kya atakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Umr aakhir kiski? #
Aksar koi khaas dikkat nahi batayi jaati, bas aankda. Kabhi tippani kapdon se zyada bolne wale ki is soch ke baare mein hoti hai ki zindagi kaisi dikhni chahiye.
Kapdon ko is par parkha ja sakta hai ki wo din aur pehenne wale par jachte hain ya nahi, umr chahe kuch bhi ho. Kuch logon ko do cheezein alag karna kaam aata hai: jo kapda chuna, aur jis umr mein chuna. Pehle ko dekha ja sakta hai; doosra koi fit ya style nahi.
“Is umr mein” ke liye koi paimana chahiye: is umr ko asal mein kya pehenna chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapke humumr dost ne theek yahi kapde pehne hote, to aap unke baare mein kya sochte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere se dohrane par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to unhein yaad aata hai ki wo kapde kyun chune the: koi pasandida rang, kuch jo apna-sa laga, koi din jise wo achhe se jeena chahte the. Tippani ke baghal mein rakhkar kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo inmein se kisi tak pahunchi hi nahi.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jinhein unka pehnawa pasand hai: dost jo kehta hai, “Tujh par jach raha hai,” cousin jo jacket maangkar le jaati hai, colleague jo poochta hai kahan se liya. Kabhi wahi kaafi hote hain, kabhi darr kisi ek khaas parivaar ke baare mein sahi tha.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapke pehnawe ka maza leta hai, aur kya karta hai ki jo pasand hai wahi pehenna aasaan ho jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Behas se kapde badalne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki maan lein kapde galat the, ya ye dikhayein ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek gate par kahi ek baat ka agli almari mein kam chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo us umr ka intezaar chhod dete hain jab unke kapde akele chhod diye jaayenge. Wo umr dhoondhna mushkil hai kyunki paimana khisakta rehta hai, aur intezaar har subah ke beech ek insaan ka vaakya rakhe rehta hai.
Kuch rishtedaar sach mein kehte hi rahenge, aur unhein aazmane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar jo pasand hai, use poori tarah pehnein, chahe nazar pad hi jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek vaakya #
Agar “mere kapde meri umr jaise hone chahiye” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Kapde din aur pehenne wale ke liye hain, kisi aankde ke liye nahi.”
Ye sach lagni zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur program ya family dinner se pehle chupchaap kehne par, kuch paate hain ki purani line ki thodi jagah ye le leti hai.
Apne kapdon ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise kisi rishtedaar ki manzoori na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “is umr mein” ko jawab, lambi safai ya badle hue kapdon ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke baad coat khoonti par taang dete hain.
Ye baat ko taalna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse program ke liye hi zyada jagah bachti hai, aur un logon ke liye jo unhein jaise hain waise dekhkar khush hote hain.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo agli baatcheet, agli outing ya agle gharwalon ke phone tak peeche-peeche na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar umr kapde chunna chhod de #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Umr ab bhi ek aankda hai, par aapke kapde nahi chunti.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina behas ke do minute mein taiyaar ho jaana, pasandida rang ko aam dinner mein pehenna, ya program mein apne look ko lekar befikr pahunchna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar nazar kuch kam maayne rakhe, to sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapki pasand ko ijazat mile, to aap pehle kya karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi umr wali line”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: is outfit mein mujhe kya achha laga tha?
- Aaj ek cheez sirf isliye chuniye ki wo aapko pasand hai
- Kisi aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jise aapka pehnawa achha lagta hai
- Aaj ki koi ek cheez jo aapne apne liye chuni, chahe kitni bhi chhoti, us par gaur kijiye
Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Jo aasaan lage, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pichhli baar jab kisi ne “is umr mein” kaha, tab wo kaun sa outfit tha, aur aapke liye uska kya matlab tha?
- Kisne pehli baar aapke kapdon ko aapki umr ka sawaal bana diya?
- Almari ka kaun sa kapda aap bina kisi nazar ke pehenna chahenge?
- Jis aam din ye niyam zor se bole, aap alag kya chunte ho?
- Agar aapke kapdon ko akela chhod diya jaye, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhenge?