Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Zindagiyan bahut alag raftaar se chalti hain, aur bahut alag wajahon se, isliye ek hi umar mein dikhne wali tarakki bahut alag ho sakti hai.
“Tere mamere bhai ke do promotion ho chuke.”
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Mujhe aur aage hona chahiye tha,” ya “Jo kiya hai, wo kaafi nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jo-jo kiya hai, hadbadi mein sab gina dena
- “Kar rahe hain” kehkar baat badal dena
- Hanskar taal dena, phir poori shaam wahi mehsoos karna
- Baad mein chupchaap saalon aur bachat ka hisaab lagana
- Baad mein dost ko message karna: kya main sach mein itna peeche hoon?
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aapka saal, list mein simta
Ujjain mein Mamaji ke yahan Sunday ka lunch. Ek purani rishtedaar sunti hain ki pichhle kuch saal kaise beete aur pyaar se kehti hain, “Itne saal ho gaye, ab tak kya kiya?” Haath mein roti hai. Do-teen log sir hilate hain. Aapka jawab bahanon ki list bankar nikalta hai, aur agle hi pal khana besvaad lagne lagta hai. Jis saal par naaz tha, wo chand shabdon mein simat jaata hai.
Us rekha se peeche jo hai nahi
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe aur aage hona chahiye tha.” Ye imaandaari jaisa lagta hai, aur zyadatar logon ne iska koi roop suna hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: zindagi ke poore daur ko ek score bana deta hai. Shehar badalna, mushkil mahine, chhoti jeetein, sab ek aisi list se tolin jaati hain jo kisi ne likhi nahi, aur aap aisi rekha se peeche mehsoos karte ho jo hai hi nahi.
Timetable humne kyun seekha
Hum ise isliye thaame rehte hain ki timetable jaldi dikha diye gaye. Bahut logon ne suna ki kiska mamera bhai kitni umar mein kya kar chuka, aur wo tasveer shayad un parivaaron se aayi jo apne bachchon ko surakshit aur settle dekhna chahte the. Tarakki ki chaah galat nahi, aur wo aksar parwah se aati hai. Use narmi chahiye, chahe wo feeta bahut chhota thama de.
Dheere-dheere badhta bojh
Har “ab tak” thoda bojh jod deta hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se koi nahi dekhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Achhe hafte ko isliye ghata dete ho ki wo chhota lagta hai. Kisi kalpanik tareekh se pehle plan nipatate ho. Aaram kam karte ho, aur ek theek-thaak saal aisi kami lagta hai jo sirf aapko dikhti hai.
Kya ye list thaamna theek?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: list se apne ko tolne se kya kabhi zyada thehraav mila? Ya zyadatar kisi cheez ki kami lagi? Zindagiyan bahut alag raftaar se chalti hain, bahut alag wajahon se. Ye aap hi bata sakte hain, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Calendar faisla nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna theek hai?
Aapki raftaar aapki hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aage badhna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapke saal uske hisaab se ginay jaayein jo unmein hai. Aap apni raftaar se chal sakte ho, chupchaap, bina elaan ke. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: plan aapke rehte hain, raftaar aapki rehti hai, aur list ka wazan kuch kam hota hai.
If hearing this at home is ever met with threats, anger that frightens you, or being hurt, your safety comes first, and that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe ab tak aur aage hona chahiye tha.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere saalon mein usse zyada hai jo koi list dekh paaye.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is saal ki teen baatein khud ko bataiye
- Kadam 2
Is mahine jo achha raha, use apne liye likh lijiye
- Kadam 3
Ek kaam bas isliye chuniye ki usmein maza aata hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne poochha ki aur karna chahiye tha, tab aap sabse zyada kis baare mein poochhe jaana chahte the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Aapki umar, ek andekhi list ke saamne #
Ujjain mein Mamaji ke yahan Sunday ka lunch. Mami roti rakhkar kehti hain, “Itne saal ho gaye, ab tak kya kiya?” Koi Sharma ji ke bete ka naam le deta hai. Kabhi Chennai se aaya ghar ka phone, kabhi staff room mein sir jhukaye koi colleague. Phir wo intezaar karta hai.
Sunne mein fikr hai, par list kahin nahi hai. Cheezein koi nahi ginata, isliye haan ya naa kehne ko kuch nahi bachta. Vaakya bas ek umar ko kisi andekhi cheez ke saamne khada kar deta hai.
Kya zyada: pad, ghar, dukaan, bachche, salary?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhli baar jab kisi ne poocha, “Ab tak kya kiya?” tab wahan aur kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
List ankahi reh jaane ka pal #
Kuch logon ka dimaag usi pal jodne lagta hai: job, bachat, saal. Koi hanskar kehta hai, “Kar rahe hain, dekhte hain,” aur baat beasar girti mehsoos hoti hai. Kuch ekdam shaant ho jaate hain aur topic badalne ka intezaar karte hain.
Andekhi list se tola jaana sochne se bahut pehle, ek pal mein lag jaata hai. Jo baatein jawab detin, aadha bana hua project, mushkil beeta saal, chupchaap achhe se kiya gaya kaam, wo aksar baad mein yaad aati hain, jab koi poochh nahi raha.
“Ab tak kya kiya?” ke baad pehle palon mein aap kya karte ho, aur kya karna chahte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek adrishya feete se zindagi ki naap #
Ye zindagi ko aise feete se naapta hai jise koi pakde hi nahi hai. Vaakya mein na koi number hai, na deadline, na koi tay lakshya, phir bhi wo kami ka ehsaas paida kar deta hai. Mann kami sunta hai aur ye poochhna chhod deta hai ki rekha kisne kheenchi.
Zindagiyan bahut alag raftaar se chalti hain, aur bahut alag wajahon se, isliye ek hi umar mein dikhne wali tarakki bahut alag ho sakti hai. Chubhan aksar ankahe “zyada” se aati hai: ye us har cheez tak khinch sakta hai jiski sunne wale ko pehle se fikr ho.
Aapne haal mein jo kiya, usmein se kya chahte the ki sawaal gin leta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal khud ko poochhne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye pehle hi bolne lagta hai. “Maine ab tak aur kyun nahi kiya?” “Baaki sab aage nikal gaye.” “Phir poochha to mera jawab kya hoga?” Kisi ke kuch kehne se pehle hi din andekhi list se milaya jaata hai.
Kyunki awaaz mahatvakaanksha jaisi lagti hai, ye motivation lag sakti hai, kisi ki kahi tippani nahi. Shaant weekend bekaar padha jaata hai, achha hafta ghata diya jaata hai, chhoti jeet zikr ke layak nahi lagti aur bina kahe reh jaati hai.
Aapke andar kiski awaaz poochhti hai ki ab tak aur karna chahiye tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye feeta bahut pehle thama diya gaya #
“Tees tak apna ghar hona chahiye.” “Tere mamere bhai ke do promotion ho chuke.” Kuch log aise bade hue jahan parivarik jamavdon mein ek chup scoreboard chalta tha, uplabdhiyan cricket ke score ki tarah padhi jaati thin aur har line ke saath umar judi rehti thi.
Kuch gharon mein wo scoreboard asli tangi se aaya tha: jinhone sangharsh kiya, wo chahte the ki agli peedhi jaldi settle ho jaaye. Jo chupchaap reh jaata hai wo badi baat hai: ki zindagi ki raftaar doosre jaanchte hain, aisi tareekhon par jin par kabhi sahmati bani hi nahi.
Pehli baar kab laga ki aapki zindagi ko kisi timetable se milaya ja raha hai, aur tareekhein kiski awaaz mein padhi gayin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Zindagi kitni aage honi chahiye, is par ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek niyam ban sakta hai: “Mujhe aur aage hona chahiye tha,” ya “Jo kiya hai, wo kaafi nahi.” Kuch log ise us tareekh ke guzar jaane ke bahut baad tak dhote hain jis par ise lagu hona tha.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte nahi. Wo imaandaar aakalan jaise lagte hain, jaise bank balance dekhna seedhi samajhdaari hai. Isiliye inhein beech-beech mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapki zindagi ke kin hisson mein “Aur aage hona chahiye” ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Andekhi list ke peeche bhaagne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki theek-thaak saal bhi bura lage, kisi kalpanik tareekh se pehle hadbadi mein plan nipataya jaaye, koi shauk isliye chhoote ki wo “zyada” mein nahi ginaa jaata. Kuch log jo kiya hai usmein maza lena chhod dete hain kyunki wo hamesha usse tola jaata hai jo hua nahi.
Ek shaant keemat bhi hai. Score rakhne mein taaqat lagti hai, aur aas-paas ke log aksar bas busy, bachaav mein khada roop dekhte hain. Saal bhar mein kai shaamein aisi ho sakti hain jo jee nahi gayin, kisi adrishya bar se tolin gayin.
Pichhle ek saal mein khud ko andekhi list se tolne ne kya liya: koi mood, koi faisla, koi aaram?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, score rakhte hue #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe ab tak aur karna chahiye tha” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad kisi colleague ki ghoshna do baar padhi gayi, ghar ka message jo “Kaam kaisa chal raha hai” se shuru hua aur chuppi par khatam, chhoti jeet jiska zikr nahi hua, khaali shaam jo laga ki aur achhe se bitani thi. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch bhi tay nahi, aur jab chahein ise neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, phone, tulna mein beeti shaam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aisi list se zindagi tolne ke poore din ki tasveer mein sabse zyada kya atakta hai jo kisi ne likhi hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Zyada, magar kisse? #
Kabhi peeche koi asli cheez hoti hai, koi hunar jo kisi ne dekhna chaha ya koi plan jo bolne wale ke liye maayne rakhta hai. Kabhi kuch nahi bataya jaata, bas saal.
Zindagi ko usse bhi dekha ja sakta hai jo usmein hai, sirf usse nahi jo kisi umar par nahi hai. Kuch logon ko do cheezein alag karna kaam aata hai: jo kiya hai aur jo kar rahe hain, aur calendar par saalon ki ginti. Pehle ki baat ho sakti hai; doosre se behes nahi ho sakti.
“Zyada” ke liye paimana chahiye: kisse zyada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aapka humumar dost theek wahi kar chuka hota jo aapne kiya, unhi utaar-chadhaavon ke saath, to aap uske baare mein kya sochte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere se dohrane par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to ginte hain ki pichhle kuch saalon mein asal mein kya hua: shehar badla, mushkil daur, koi project, kisi ki dekhbhaal. Sawaal ke bagal mein rakhkar kuch ko dikhta hai ki usne inmein se kisi ke baare mein poochha hi nahi.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo “zyada” shabd kabhi bolte hi nahi: dost jo poochta hai aajkal kya achha lag raha hai, purana colleague jo kehta hai raftaar apni tay karo. Kabhi wahi kaafi hote hain, kabhi fikr kisi ek kamre ke baare mein hoti hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun haath mein feeta liye bina poochta hai ki aajkal aap kya kar rahe hain, aur aisa kya karta hai ki ye aasaan ho jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Timetable pakadne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki maan lein kuch ho nahi sakta tha, ya ye dikhayein ki sawaal laga nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek table ka ek vaakya ye kam tay kare ki aapki zindagi ka ek saal kaise ginaa jaaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo us umar ka intezaar chhod dete hain jab aakhirkaar lagega ki ho gaya. Wo umar dhoondhna mushkil hai kyunki list badhti rehti hai, aur intezaar kisi aur ka feeta din ke beech mein rakhe rehta hai.
Kuch tablen naapti hi rahengi, aur har round mein hissa lene ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar aap apne saalon mein jo raha, use jaanein, us table par bhi jahan koi poochta nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek vaakya #
Agar “Mujhe ab tak aur karna chahiye tha” saalon se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mere saalon mein usse zyada hai jo koi list dekh paaye.”
Ye sach lagni zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur ghar ke phone ya reunion se pehle chupchaap kehne par, kuch paate hain ki purani line ki thodi jagah ye le leti hai.
Apne saalon ke baare mein aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jise kisi feete ki haami na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Ab tak kya kiya?” ko jawab, uplabdhiyon ki list ya catch-up ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag darwaze par chhod dete hain.
Ye aage badhna chhodna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinki unhein sach mein parwah hai, aur us raftaar ke liye jo unhein jamti hai.
Shaam bhar ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo agle phone, agle reunion ya kisi aur ki khabar par agli scrolling tak peeche-peeche na aaye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar feeta rakh diya jaaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Kuch karna ab bhi maayne rakhta hai, par calendar se daud nahi raha.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kitab bina ye dekhe khatam karna ki wo kis kaam ki hai, mahine mein jo achha hua wo dost ko batana, ya agla kadam apni wajahon se chunna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar koi saalon ko na naap raha ho, to sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar peeche timetable na chal raha ho, to aap pehle kya karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi andekhi list”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: zyada, magar kisse?
- Is saal ki teen baatein ginie, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Kisi aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jo poochta hai aapko kya achha lagta hai, kya hasil kiya nahi
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti cheez yaad kijiye jo aapne ki aur kisi ne gini nahi
Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Jo aasaan lage, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne poochha ki aur karna chahiye tha, tab aap sabse zyada kis baare mein poochhe jaana chahte the?
- Aapko kya lagta hai aapki zindagi ko kiske timetable se milaya ja raha hai?
- Pichhle kuch saalon mein aisa kya raha jise koi feeta nahi ginata?
- Jis aam din “Kaafi nahi” wala niyam zor se bole, aap kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar sawaal chubhna band kar de, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?