Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar doosron ke saamne aata hai, aur sabke saamne shak kiya jaana do baar chubh sakta hai: ek baar shabdon se, aur ek baar un chehron se jinhone suna.
Aisa sawaal usi chinta ke darwaze par dastak de sakta hai, aur shayad isiliye ek chhoti-si tippani aam dinon ke poore hafte se zyada der tak goonjti hai.
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhse ye theek se nahi hota,” ya “Mere achhe maa-baap hone ka faisla logon ki raay se hota hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Us din jo-jo kiya, wo sab ginana, zor se ya mann mein
- Hanskar taal dena, phir baaki mulaqat chup rehna
- Aaspaas ke chehre dekhna ki kaun sehmat laga
- Agli baar ke liye teekha jawab baar-baar rehearse karna
- Bina tay kiye us insaan se kam milne ke bahane dhoondhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Bachche par rishtedaar ka mazaak
Thane ke aapke flat mein Bua aayi hain. Bachche ko dekhkar, aadha hanste hue, boli, “Arre, isse khilate-pilate bhi ho?” Sab muskuraye. Aapne bhi hanskar baat badal di. Par raat ko bartan maanjte hue wo vaakya baar-baar lautta raha, aur maa-baap ke roop mein apna sab kuch ek-ek karke jaanchna shuru ho gaya: kya kuch bhi sahi ho raha hai?
Koi sawaal yaani naakaam maa-baap
Ye shabd ek aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Koi meri parvarish par sawaal uthaye, to main naakaam hoon.” Ye bahut parwah jaisa lagta hai, aur parwah hai bhi. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: achhe maa-baap hone ka ehsaas har aate-jaate ki tippani ke haath mein de deta hai. Aapka chain ab un logon ki baaton par tika hai jo aapke jeevan ke kuch minute dekhte hain.
Maa-baap hona itna mayne kyun rakhta hai
Ise hum isliye pakadte hain ki maa-baap hona bahut mayne rakhta hai aur hum ise sahi karna chahte hain. Shayad bachpan mein aapne logon ko maa-baap ko taulte suna. Shayad aap roz bahut mehnat karte hain aur har tippani gehre lagti hai. Jo bhi ho, ye niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Ye bachche ke liye pyaar se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Wo shak jo ghar tak aata hai
Is tarah ki har tippani aapka bharosa thoda khurchti hai. Un cheezon par bhi shak hone lagta hai jo aap jaante hain ki achhe se karte hain. Har paarivarik mulaqat se pehle safai taiyar karni padti hai. Lagta hai aapko dekha ja raha hai, jab koi dekh bhi nahi raha. Dheere-dheere bachche ke saath ki khushi mein logon ke kehne ki chinta ghul jaati hai, aur pehle wali sahajta kam hoti jaati hai.
Kya ek baat itna bojh hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya har tippani ko khud par faisla maanne se kabhi aapki parvarish behtar hui? Ya zyadatar mulaqaton se pehle ka tanav hi badha? Unke shabd unke chune hue the, aur unka matlab wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, raah chalti tippani aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadne ki keemat iske fayde se zyada hai. Kya ye iske layak hai?
Apni dekhbhaal par bharosa
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani pyaari ya sahi thi. Matlab ye ki achhe maa-baap hone ka aapka ehsaas ab is par tika nahi ki koi chalte-chalte kya kah gaya. Aap apne bachche ko jaante ho, aur roz-roz jo dekhbhaal dete ho use bhi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: tippani usi ke paas rehti hai jisne ki, aur aapki dekhbhaal sachchi rehti hai.
Where someone really does react badly to being answered, with threats, anger or fear, that is worth taking seriously, and staying quiet is allowed.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleKoi meri parvarish par sawaal uthaye, to main naakaam hoon.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe apni dekhbhaal pata hai. Raah chalti baat ise nahi taul sakti.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte bachche ke liye kiya ek kaam yaad kijiye
- Kadam 2
Vaakya laute to ek lambi, dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj bachche ke saath ek chhota pal poora jiyein
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne wo sawaal poochha, kaun sun raha tha, aur aapne sabse pehle kiska chehra dekha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chaar shabd jo dekhbhaal ko faisla bana dein #
Thane ke flat ke darwaze par gaon se aayi Bua, Dubai se video call par Chachi, ya school gate par kisi aur ki Mummy, aadhi muskaan ke saath: “Isse khilate-pilate bhi ho?” Phir baat kisi aur cheez par chali gayi, aur sawaal usi ke paas chhoot gaya jisse poochha gaya tha.
Sawaal ki shakl mein hai, par jawab ka intezaar kam hi karta hai. Wo pal se aage badhkar bachche ki poori dekhbhaal ke kaam tak pahunchta hai aur use sabke saamne taulne ki cheez bana deta hai, un logon ke saamne jinki nazar mein aapki tasveer achanak daanv par lagti hai.
“Isse khilate-pilate bhi ho?”
Aakhri baar kahan suna tha, aur kaun itne paas khada tha ki sun sake?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Bina soche hi kyun lag jaata hai #
Kuch maa-baap ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur bahut jaldi wali hansi nikal jaati hai. Kuch ke dimaag mein poora din chalne lagta hai, har kaam ki sunwayi-si list. Kuch ko ghanton baad lagta hai. Inmein se kisi reaction ko samjhane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kuch maa-baap kehte hain ki dekhbhaal karne wale ke roop mein shak kiya jaana kaam mein shak se zyada chubhta hai, isliye aisi baat sochne se pehle lag sakti hai. Jawab ke shabd aksar bahut baad mein soojhte hain, raat ek baje, ekdam taiyar aur ab kisi kaam ke nahi.
Us sawaal ke pehle second mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya, aur wo reaction batata hai ki aapke liye bachche ki roz ki dekhbhaal kitni mayne rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat ek pal ki hai, par lagti poore kaam par hai #
Kisi ek dopahar par tippani ek dopahar ki baat hoti. Ye sawaal dopahar ko chhodkar seedhe maa-baap tak jaata hai, jaise mahinon ki aam dekhbhaal darwaze ki ek jhalak mein ya screen ke kuch seconds mein tauli ja sakti ho.
Ye aksar doosron ke saamne aata hai, aur sabke saamne shak kiya jaana do baar chubh sakta hai: ek baar shabdon se, aur ek baar un chehron se jinhone suna. Mann sawaal se zyada un chehron ko dohrata reh sakta hai.
Agar sawaal aapki saari dekhbhaal ki jagah kisi ek khaas cheez ke baare mein hota, to wo cheez kya hoti, aur asal mein kitni badi hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal khud ko poochhne lage #
Baar-baar poochha jaaye to ye andar aa baithta hai. “Aakar dekhenge to kya kahenge?” “Unke aane se pehle sab perfect kar lo.” “Unhein lagega mujhse sambhalta nahi.” Kabhi-kabhi sawaal tab bhi chal padta hai jab kisi ne kuch kaha hi nahi.
Poochhne wali shaam tak bhool bhi gayi hon, par jaanch ab andar hoti hai: rishtedaaron ke aane se pehle, Family group mein photo daalne se pehle, school gate se pehle. Ye apni hi awaaz jaisa lagta hai, isliye zimmedari lagta hai, kisi aur ka shak nahi.
Jab ye aapke andar poochhta hai ki bachche ki aapki dekhbhaal kaafi hai ya nahi, to shak ki awaaz kiski lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch maa-baap ke liye shak pehle se intezaar mein tha #
Aisa sawaal usi chinta ke darwaze par dastak de sakta hai, aur shayad isiliye ek chhoti-si tippani aam dinon ke poore hafte se zyada der tak goonjti hai.
Kuch log chubhan ko aur peechhe le jaate hain, un shuruaati saalon tak jab un par nazar rakhi gayi, unhein toka gaya ya doosron se tola gaya. Kuch nahi le jaate. Dono tarah se, dekhbhaal karne wale ke roop mein shak kiya jaana us pal se purani kisi cheez ko chhu sakta hai.
Kuch maa-baap bataate hain ki pehle bachche ke saath ek halki chinta aayi aur poori tarah gayi nahi: kya mujhse ye theek ho raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Achhi dekhbhaal karne wala maana jaane ka mamla pehli baar kab aisa laga ki doosre number de rahe hain, aur qalam kiske haath mein thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche banne wala ek chup niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Mujhse ye theek se nahi hota,” ya “Mere achhe maa-baap hone ka faisla logon ki raay se hota hai.” Kuch log iska dheema roop dhote hain: “Ek baat boli, matlab unhone poora sach dekh liya.”
Aisi maanyataein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Lagti hain saavdhan maa-baap hone jaisi, jaise ghar se nikalne se pehle bag dobara jaanch lena seedhi samajhdaari lagta hai. Isiliye inhein din ki roshni mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Ek baat se poora sach dikh gaya” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Sawaal dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mehmaanon ke aane se pehle muaayne jaisi taiyari, kisi ke poochhne se pehle bachche ke din ki har baat ki safai, aur kisi khaas rishtedaar ke aane se pehle ruki hui saans. Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki ghanti bajte hi badan tan jaata hai, bahar kaun hai ye sochne se pehle.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Roz ke sabse zaroori kaam par shak dhona thaka deta hai, aur bachche ke saath aam ghanton ko rang deta hai, itna ki saath bitaya waqt saboot jaisa lagne lage. Saal bhar mein kai shaamein aadhi-safai dete beet jaati hain.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ki dekhbhaal ka kaun sa aam hissa aisa ho gaya jise aise insaan ko saabit karna pade jo wahan tha bhi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, muaayne ki taiyari mein #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “wo sochte hain mujhse poora nahi ho raha” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad safai dete biti ek family video call, group mein daalne se pehle dobara khinchi gayi photo, gaadi mein rehearse ki gayi ek mulaqat, bachche ke saath ek dopahar jisme darshak ghus aaye, asli ya kalpanik. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch pakka nahi.
Usmein kya hai: subah ki bhaag-daud, message, mulaqatein, doosron ki nazar ke liye taiyar ki gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya alag se dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Darwaze se kitna dikhta hai? #
Darwaza, parking, video call ke kuch minute: har ek din ki ek jhalak dikhata hai. Bachche ki dekhbhaal ka zyadatar kaam wahan hota hai jahan koi nahi dekhta: subah ki bhaag-daud, school ke forms, 7:40 par mila khoya joota, dasvin baar diya gaya jawab.
To darwaze se poochha gaya sawaal ek jhalak ke baare mein hai. Isse chubhan gayab nahi hoti, par wo pehli baar sunne se chhoti lag sakti hai, kisi ek ki jaldbaazi wali nazar ke kareeb, poore ghar ki report se door.
Agar koi dost bataye ki uske darwaze par kisi ne poochha “isse khilate-pilate bhi ho?”, to un ghanton ke baare mein, jo kisi ne nahi dekhe, aap use kya yaad dilana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dekhte hain ki doosre ne din ka kitna kam hissa dekha tha: ek minute, kamre ka ek kona, dopahar ke aakhir ka thaka chehra.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo zyada dekhte hain: wo dost jo Saturday ko haath bantata hai, wo teacher jo subah ki bhaag-daud jaanti hai, wo padosi jisne sau baar bachche ko school jaate dekha hai. Kabhi-kabhi wo log hamesha se the, bas us ek sawaal se dheeme.
Sawaal ke saath rakhkar, us ek minute ka dheema replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki dekhbhaal ke lambe, aam ghante kisne dekhe hain, aur darwaze par wo sawaal sunkar wo kya kehte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sahi jawab ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab sawaal se sehmat hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki wo chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki darwaze par kahi ek baat ka is par kam chale ki baaki din kaisa lage, aur bachche ke saath agla aam ghanta kaisa beete.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab wo ekdam sahi jawab gadhna chhod dete hain. Wo jawab badhta hi jaata hai, aur poochhne wale ko poori shaam ke beech mein rakhe rehta hai. Jahan koi jawab milne par sachmuch bura react karta ho, wo gambhirta se lene layak baat hai, aur chup rehna theek hai.
Kaisa lagega agar sawaal usi ke paas rahe jisne poochha, aur ghar aap wahi lekar jaayein jo aapka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar ke raaste ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar us sawaal ke baad se “mujhse ye ho hi nahi pa raha” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bahas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap iski jagah ek line taiyar rakhte hain: “Kisi ne ek minute dekha. Poora din mere saath chalta hai.”
Iska pehle sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane par sawaal ki jagah mein se thodi bhar jaati hai, khaaskar rishtedaar ke yahan jaate hue.
Apne bachche ki dekhbhaal ke baare mein aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo sahi ho aur jise darwaze par khade kisi ki sehmati na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Aaj raat ke liye kuch neeche rakha ja sakta hai #
Har shak bhare sawaal ko poora jawab, safai ya agli mulaqat ki behtar yojana nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise thaka hua din khatam hone par bag khoonti par taang dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyan kahan jaaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain isse shaam ka thoda aur hissa aam cheezon ke liye bachta hai: nahlana, deewar par chipki drawing, phir wahi gaana ek baar aur.
Sawaal ko aaj raat neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki use sone ke waqt, ya kal subah ki bhaag-daud mein saath chalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shak ek darja bhi dheela ho #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki shak ek darja dheema hai. Mulaqat ab bhi mulaqat hai, aur darwaza din ki utni hi jhalak dikhata hai jitni dikha sakta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina dobara khinche bheji gayi photo, hafte ke aakhir ki ek dopahar jo sirf aapki aur bachche ki hai, ya rehearse kiye jawab ke bina ghar ka raasta.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kaun si chhoti cheez dikhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi darwaze wala sawaal”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mere din ka kitna hissa inhone dekha?
- Gaur kijiye ab zyada kya goonjta hai: sawaal, ya sunne wale chehre
- Kisi aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne lambe ghante dekhe hain, sirf minute nahi
- Aaj apne liye chahi ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyan dijiye
Sab nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo karna aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne wo sawaal poochha, kaun sun raha tha, aur aapne sabse pehle kiska chehra dekha?
- Aapne us din kya-kya kiya tha jo poochhne wale ne kabhi dekha hi nahi?
- Kaun sa jawab ghanton baad soojha, jab use sunne wala koi nahi tha?
- Jis aam din ye shak zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar shak thoda halka ho, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?