Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye isliye zyada chubh sakta hai ki parvarish dil ke bahut kareeb hai aur uska zyadatar hissa kisi ko dikhta nahi: subah ki bhaag-daud, lambi shaamein, wo chhote faisle jo kisi ne nahi dekhe.
“Hamare zamaane mein to ek toffee ko tarasate the.”
Neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Mere bachche ke liye kya sahi hai, ye doosre mujhse behtar jaante hain,” ya “Sabke saamne mujhe sab sahi karna hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jisne poochha bhi nahi, use poora qissa samjhane lagna
- Uske saamne bachche ko “na” keh dena, aur phir ajeeb lagna
- Baat khatam karne ke liye zor se haami bhar dena
- Ghar lautte hue tippani dohrana aur behtar jawab jodte jaana
- Doosre maa-baap kaise karte hain, ye dekhna aur tulna karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Talaab kinare ek gubbara
Sunday ki shaam, Siddheshwar talaab ke kinare. Bachche ne gubbare ki zid ki aur aapne kharid diya. Bagal ki bench se padosi aunty hanskar bolin, “Itna laad? Sir par chadha rakha hai.” Aapne muskurakar sir hila diya, par chehra garam ho gaya. Lautte hue bachcha gubbara liye khush hai, aur aapko lagta hai jaise aapke number kaat liye gaye hon. Baat chhoti hai, par ghar tak chalti hai.
Doosron ki manzoori chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Meri parvarish par doosron ki manzoori honi chahiye.” Ye aam samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: raah chalte ek vaakya ko poori parvarish ki review bana deta hai, aur khushi ki shaam par shak chha jaata hai. Gubbare ki khushi ab numberon mein bant gayi.
Achhi parvarish itni maayne kyun rakhti hai
Ise hum isliye pakadte hain ki bachche ko achhe se paalna bahut maayne rakhta hai. Bahut logon ne bachpan mein laad par kadi baatein suni hain, aur tab wo samajhdaari lagti thin. Shayad aap har faisla sochkar lete ho, shayad chahte ho ki bachche ko wo pal milein jo aapko nahi mile. Manzoori chahna bewakoofi nahi, parwah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har tippani jo shak jodti hai
Har “bigaad rahe ho” thoda shak jodta hai. Dheere-dheere judta hai, isliye pata nahi chalta. Anjaan logon ko bhi safai dene ka mann hota hai. Park aur dukaan mein nazrein mehsoos hoti hain. Raat ko tippaniyan dohrayi jaati hain. Bachchon ke saath aam, khushi wale pal bhi faisle ke saath aane lagte hain, aur unka maza kam ho jaata hai.
Kya unki manzoori is layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya doosron ki baatein pakde rehne se kabhi maa-baap ke roop mein aap zyada pakke hue? Ya zyadatar bachchon ke saath ke achhe palon ka maza gaya? Laad aur bachchon par har ghar ki raay alag hai. Koi galat jawab nahi. Jo bhi ho, raah chalti tippani aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske layak hai?
Raah chalti baat raah chal de
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki apne faislon par sochna band. Matlab ye ki kisi ki raah chalti baat ab ye tay nahi karti ki khushi ki shaam kaisi lage. Aap muskura sakte ho, chalte reh sakte ho, aur chipchipe haathon wale bachche ka maza le sakte ho. Chhoti shuruaat bhi kaafi hai. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: bachche ke saath aapke pal aapke rehte hain.
If comments about your children ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri parvarish par doosron ki manzoori honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleRaah chalti baat raah chal de. Ye pal hamara hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Bachche ke saath ek khushi ka pal poora jiyein
- Din 2
Ek tippani ko bina safai diye guzar jaane dein
- Din 3
Apne parivaar ki ek achhi baat mann mein dohrayein
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki sir par chadha rakha hai, tab aap aur aapka bachcha kya kar rahe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chhota pal, aur maa-baap par faisla #
Siddheshwar talaab ke kinare Sunday ki shaam. Bachche ne gubbare ki zid ki aur aapne kharid diya, ya thakkar bachche ko kandhe par bitha liya. Bagal ki bench se padosi aunty hanskar bolin: “Itna laad? Sir par chadha rakha hai ise.” Aur baat wahin chhoot gayi.
Sunne mein aam tippani hai, par ye bahar se dekhe ek pal par poore maa-baap ka faisla suna deti hai, aksar bachche ke saamne. Ye nahi batati ki pal ka kaun sa hissa galat tha. Kehne wali aage badh jaati hain, aur vaakya aapke saath ghar tak chalta hai.
“Sir par chadha rakha hai” aakhri baar kab suna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us waqt bachche ke saath aap kya kar rahe the, aur aaspaas aur kaun tha jo sun sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab aaspaas darshak bhi hon #
Kisi ke chehre par garmi chadh jaati hai, muskaan rehti hai par aankhon tak nahi pahunchti, aur achanak aaspaas ka har bada nazar aane lagta hai. Koi fauran safai dene lagta hai, koi chup hokar kaam nipatata hai aur baat ghar lautte auto mein chubhti hai.
Apne hi bachche ke saath apne tareeke par tippani ek second mein lag jaati hai, sochne se pehle, kyunki bachcha bhi wahin khada hai. Jawab aksar baad mein soojhte hain, ghar lautte waqt, jab kehne wali aage badh chuki hoti hain.
Apne bachche ke saath aapke tareeke par tippani ke theek baad, sabse pehle andar kya hua, aur phir aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek pal dekha, poora ghar taul diya #
“Ye khilauna bahut shor karta hai” khilaune ki baat hoti. “Sir par chadha rakha hai” khilaune ko chhodkar maa-baap par faisla deti hai, jaise talaab ya bazaar ka ek minute poore ghar ke din bata de. Mann pal ko nahi, parvarish par faisle ko sunta hai.
Ye isliye zyada chubh sakta hai ki parvarish dil ke bahut kareeb hai aur uska zyadatar hissa kisi ko dikhta nahi: subah ki bhaag-daud, lambi shaamein, wo chhote faisle jo kisi ne nahi dekhe. Ek minute par tiki tippani baaki sab mitati-si lagti hai.
Jab koi aapki parvarish ke ek pal ko taule, to aap chahte hain ki baaki din ka kya hissa wo dekh paata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab darshak sir ke andar aa baithein #
Kai baar suno to ye pehle bolne lagta hai. “Zyada to nahi ho gaya?” “Dekhenge to kya kahenge?” “Kahin bachche ko naram to nahi bana diya?” Ek baar uthana, chhota khilauna ya ek “haan”, sab kuch hone se pehle ek kalpanik bheed se poochhkar hota hai.
Kehne wali aunty ya rishtedaar door bhi hon, tab bhi nigrani ab andar hoti hai: sabzi mandi mein, park mein, kisi birthday party mein. Chunki ye saavdhaani jaisi sunayi deti hai, ye zimmedaari lagti hai, kisi aur ka bola vaakya nahi.
Aapke andar wo awaaz kiski hai jo poochhti hai ki aaj bachche ko zyada to nahi de diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur pehli baar kahan suni thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Laad par purani awaazein #
“Hamare zamaane mein to ek toffee ko tarasate the.” “Itna laad karoge to sir par baithega.” “Bachchon ko naram mat banao.” Kuch maa-baap ne bachpan mein bachchon ko kitna diya jaaye is par pakki raay suni, aur ab wahi raay doosri taraf se apne oopar sunte hain.
Kuch gharon mein is par kade vichaar rahe, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain.
Jo chupchaap saath chal sakta hai wo ek purani awaaz hai, jo bachche ko har “haan” par poochhti hai: zyada to nahi ho gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Bachchon ko kitna diya jaaye, is baare mein kiski baatein sunkar aap bade hue, aur wo aaj aapke din mein kahan dikhti hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kise zyada pata hai, is par ek chup niyam #
Neeche ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Mere bachche ke liye kya sahi hai, ye doosre mujhse behtar jaante hain,” ya “Sabke saamne mujhe sab sahi karna hai.” Kuch log ise har paarivarik milan mein saath le jaate hain, “log kya kahenge” ki tarah.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagte hain zimmedaar maa-baap hone jaise, jaise gaadi ki seat-belt do baar dekh lena. Isiliye inhein beech-beech mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin kamron mein “doosron ki raay meri parvarish tay karti hai” ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nazar ke neeche parvarish ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki rishtedaar ko dekhkar gale lagana beech mein ruk jaaye, ek chhoti “haan” sabke saamne “na” ban jaaye, ya poori mulaqaat apna kada roop nibhate beete. Kuch maa-baap ko apna tareeka tay karne se bahut pehle aam palon mein maza aana band ho jaata hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Nigrani mein parvarish karna mehnat maangta hai, aur har mulaqaat milne ki jagah jaanch jaisi lagne lagti hai. Saal bhar mein aisi kai shaamein jud jaati hain jab poori shaam kamra sambhalne mein gayi aur bachche ke saath rehna ho nahi paaya.
Pichhle ek saal mein “bigaad diya” kehlane ke darr ne aapke kitne pal, mulaqaatein ya seedhi-saadi khushi chheeni?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, darshakon ka khayal rakhte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Doosre mujhse behtar jaante hain” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad school gate par chhota rakha hua gale lagna, padosi ke liye kahi gayi ek “na”, gharwalon ke phone par chhote faislon ki safai, ghar ke shaant hone par kisi tippani ko dohrati ek shaam. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch bhi tay nahi, aur ise kabhi bhi neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: school chhodna, mulaqaatein, wo chhoti “haan” jinhein do baar jaancha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Poore din ki parvarish apne sir mein darshak lekar dekhein to kya alag se dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bigaadna, magar kiske muqable? #
Talaab ki sair ya mandi ka ek pal kisi parivaar ke poore hafte ka bahut chhota hissa dikhata hai, aur tippani bas us ek minute ki ho sakti hai jo kehne wale ne dekha.
Gharon ke apne tareeke hote hain, aur wo ghar, shehar aur peedhi ke saath badalte hain. Kuch maa-baap do hisse alag karke dekhte hain: jo pal dekha gaya, aur jo faisla us par jod diya gaya. Pal sachcha tha; faisla ek nazariya tha.
“Bigaadna” ko kisi paimane ki zaroorat hai: kiske muqable, aur kahan se dekhkar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi kareebi dost bataye ki uske bachche ke saath ek chhote pal par kisi rishtedaar ne ye kaha, to aap use kya jaanne dena chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Pal dheema karke dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dekhte hain ki asal mein hua kya tha: bachcha baahon mein utha, gubbara haath badla, ek chhoti maang par “haan” kahi gayi. Lautkar aaye shabdon ke saath rakhkar kuch ko dikhta hai ki shabdon ne kitna jod diya.
Kuch ko wo log yaad aate hain jo unke din zyada dekhte hain: wo dost jisne thake hue hafte ka aakhir dekha hai, school gate par wo maa ya papa jo bas muskura dete hain, wo bhai ya behen jo kehte hain “Apne bachche ko tujhse behtar kaun jaanega?”
Aapke aaspaas kaun hai jo ek pal se zyada aapke maa-baap wale din dekhta hai, aur wo kya dekhte hain jo baaki nahi dekhte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Har rishtedaar ko khush karna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab tippani se sehmat hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki bachche ke saamne wo chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki talaab par kaha gaya ek vaakya agli baar uthana, agli “haan” ya agli mulaqaat par kam chale.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab wo har rishtedaar aur padosi ko ek saath khush karne wali parvarish ki koshish chhod dete hain. Wo nishana khisakta rehta hai, kyunki har kisi ke mann mein alag tasveer hai, aur uske peeche bhaagna ek tippani ko ghar ke beech mein rakhe rehta hai.
Kuch parivaaron mein aisi raay pakki hoti hai, aur har milan mein behes jeetne ya aazmane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar tippani unhi ki rahe, aur apne bachche ki aapki samajh aapki rahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ek vaakya jo kuch maa-baap paas rakhte hain #
Agar tippani ke baad se “Mujhse sab galat hi ho raha hai” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Bahar se dikha ek pal bas ek pal hai.”
Iska shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch maa-baap ise parivaar ki mehfil mein jaate hue ya school gate par chupke se dohrate hain, aur dekhte hain ki purani line ki jagah mein se thodi bhar gayi.
Ek maa ya papa ke roop mein aapke baare mein sachcha vaakya, aapke apne shabdon mein, kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein darwaaze par rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “sir chadha rakha hai” ko safai, lambe qisse ya ghar ke naye niyam ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise sabzi ka bhaari thaila darwaaze ke paas rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki urja kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain isse bachche ke saath un aam palon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinhein kisi aur ko dekhne ya manzoor karne ki zaroorat nahi.
Tippani ko aaj ki shaam neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki use nahane ke waqt, sone se pehle ki kahani ya kal subah school chhodne jaane mein aana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar darshak thode shaant ho jaayein #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Doosron ki raay ab bhi hai, par wo raay hai, faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi ke saamne bhi gale lagna apni lambai tak chale, ek chhoti “haan” kamre ko dekhe bina kahi jaye, ya ek shaam jab tippani ko bulaya hi na jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Pehla nishaan kya hoga ki parvarish par kahi gayi koi baat apni pakad thodi kho chuki hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Bachche ke saath kaun sa chhota pal aap sabse pehle halka chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi sir-chadhane wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: bigaadna kiske muqable, aur kahan se dekhkar?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubha: shabd, ya aaspaas sunne wale
- Kisi aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne aapke maa-baap wale din zyada dekhe hain
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aaj ke din mein fit baithe, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki sir par chadha rakha hai, tab aap aur aapka bachcha kya kar rahe the?
- Parivaar se milne se pehle kiski raay ka darr mann mein sabse pehle aata hai?
- Aapke maa-baap wale dinon ka wo kya hissa hai jo ek pal kabhi nahi dikhata?
- Jis aam din doosron ki raay zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar wo awaazein thodi halki hon, to bachche ke saath sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?