Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar beech pal mein aati hai, jab bachcha dekh raha ho aur faisla taaza ho.
Kuch maa-baap niyam soch-samajhkar banate hain kyunki unhein apna bachpan yaad hai: bahut niyamon wala ghar, ya lagbhag bina niyamon wala.
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe sabko khush rakhna hai, dekhne walon ko bhi,” ya “Apne hi ghar ke baare mein meri raay ki koi ginti nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kamre ka mahaul halka karne ke liye wahin dheel de dena
- Jisne poochha nahi, use wajahein lambi samjhane lagna
- Niyam pakde rehna, phir baaki dopahar khud ko dekha jaata mehsoos karna
- Jab wo insaan aaye, tab ghar ke niyam badal dena
- Baad mein us pal ko har taraf se dohrakar niyam ko parakhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Clubhouse mein doosri mithai
Mumbai ke ek clubhouse mein birthday party. Aapka bachcha doosri mithai maangta hai aur aapne mana kar diya. Paas baithi Mausi hanskar boli, “Arre, itni sakhti? Bachcha hai.” Kuch rishtedaaron ne sir hilaya. Aapne muskurakar baat taal di, par andar kuch kas gaya. Ghar lautte hue wahi pal dobara chala: jo faisla theek laga tha, ab safai maangta laga.
Doosron ki manzoori chahiye
Neeche ek niyam hai: “Meri parvarish ko doosron ki manzoori milni chahiye.” Ye aam ichchha lagti hai, seedhi samajhdaari jaisi. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har faisle ko numaish bana deta hai. Rishtedaar ki har tippani review ban jaati hai, aur aap ek aankh darshakon par rakhkar parvarish karne lagte ho.
Parvarish itni maayne kyun rakhti hai
Ise hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki parvarish bahut maayne rakhti hai aur hum use sahi karna chahte hain. Bahuton ne bachpan mein iska koi roop seekha, aur tab wo theek bhi lagta tha. Shayad har faisle par aapka bahut sochna hota hai. Shayad aapki parvarish alag rahi aur apna raasta abhi ban raha hai. Manzoori chahna kamzori nahi, gehri parwah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har tippani ka thoda shak
Har “Itni sakhti” thoda shak jodti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakad mein nahi aata. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par andar mehsoos hota hai. Faisle dohraye jaate hain. Milan-samaarohon mein parakhe jaane jaisa lagta hai. Ghar mein theek lage faislon par bhi shak hota hai. Maa-baap ke roop mein bharosa dagmagata hai, aur paarivarik mauqe nazron ki jagah ban jaate hain.
Kya unki manzoori is layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya manzoori ka intezaar karne se kabhi maa-baap ke roop mein aap zyada pakke hue? Ya zyadatar khud par shak hi badha? Parvarish par sabki raay hoti hai, aur wo shayad hi milti hai. Jawab sirf aapka hai, galat koi nahi. Jo bhi ho, ek milan ki ek tippani aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske layak hai?
Aapke faisle aapke hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki apne faislon par sochna band. Matlab ye ki ek tippani ab unka review nahi karti. Aap baat sun sakte ho, muskura sakte ho, aur apni raay apne paas rakh sakte ho. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Chhoti shuruaat, ek pal mein. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: faisle aapke rehte hain, aur milan phir garmjoshi bhare lag sakte hain.
If comments about your parenting ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri parvarish ko doosron ki manzoori milni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere faisle mere hain. Tippaniyan guzar sakti hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek tippani ko baar-baar dohraye bina guzarne dein
- Kadam 2
Apne ek faisle ka naam lein jis par aapko achha lagta hai
- Kadam 3
Milan ke baad apne liye ek shaant pal nikaalein
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne aapko sakht kaha, tab niyam kis baare mein tha aur kaun dekh raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kuch shabd, aapke banaye ek niyam par #
Sunday ko society ke clubhouse mein birthday party. Aapne kaha, “Chalo, ghar chalne ka time ho gaya.” Paas khadi Dadi boli: “Itni sakhti? Bachche hain abhi, thodi dheel do.” Ghar ke ek chhote-se niyam ko ab poora kamra taul raha hai.
Sunne mein baat ek niyam ki lagti hai, par chot aksar niyam banane wale par lagti hai. Niyam aapka faisla tha, un wajahon ke saath jo kamre ne suni nahi, aur ye shabd aisa bana dete hain jaise faisla karna hi galti thi.
Aakhri baar “Itni sakhti” kab suna tha, niyam kis baare mein tha, aur uske peeche ki kaun si wajahein kisi ne poochhi hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Logon ke saamne faisla karna #
Kisi ka jabda kas jaata hai aur awaaz thodi sapaat ho jaati hai. Koi dagmagane lagta hai, dheel dene ko aadha taiyaar, taaki kamre ka mahaul halka ho. Koi niyam pakde rakhta hai aur baaki dopahar khud ko dekha jaata mehsoos karta hai. Inmein se kisi ko safai ki zaroorat nahi.
Apne bachche ke baare mein logon ke saamne faisla lena tippani ko sochne se pehle laga sakta hai, kyunki faisla aur darshak ek saath aate hain. Wajahein baad mein yaad aati hain, ghar lautte waqt, saaf aur shaant, par kehne ke liye der se.
Un shabdon ke theek baad andar kya hua: niyam par ade rehne ka mann, dheel dene ka mann, ya bas kuch kehte na bane?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur wo pehli harkat andar kaisi lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Faisle par nahi, faisla karne wale par #
“Das minute aur rukne dete” ek niyam par raay hai. “Itni sakhti” niyam ko chhodkar maa-baap ko ek tarah ka insaan bata deti hai, aur mann chhote faisle ki jagah usi baat ko sunta hai.
Ye aksar beech pal mein aati hai, jab bachcha dekh raha ho aur faisla taaza ho. Maa-baap do darshakon ke beech phans sakte hain, saamne bachcha aur aaspaas ke bade, aur sochne ke liye koi shaant kona nahi bachta.
Agar tippani bas us ek niyam par hoti, aap par nahi, to kaisi sunayi deti, aur kitni chhoti lagti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab dobara sochna ghar kar le #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar aa baithta hai. “Zyada to nahi ho gaya?” “Jaane do, log dekh rahe hain.” “Shayad wo sahi hain, shayad main hi kadak hoon.” Kabhi-kabhi sawaal tab bhi aa jaata hai jab niyam bola bhi nahi gaya.
Kehne wali Dadi door bhi hon, tab bhi dobara sochna ab andar chalta hai: park ke gate par, khilaunon ki dukaan mein, sone ke waqt. Chunki ye apne hi zameer jaisa sunayi deta hai, ye insaaf lagta hai, kisi aur ki tippani nahi.
Bachche ke liye chhota niyam banate waqt aur ye sochte hue ki kamra kya kahega, kiski awaaz saath aa jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch maa-baap ke liye niyamon ke peechhe itihaas hota hai #
Kuch maa-baap niyam soch-samajhkar banate hain kyunki unhein apna bachpan yaad hai: bahut niyamon wala ghar, ya lagbhag bina niyamon wala. Kuch wo apnate hain jo kisi dost ya Didi ke ghar chala. Srot jo bhi ho, ghar ke niyam mein bahar se dikhne se zyada soch hoti hai.
Kuch log “Itni sakhti” ki chubhan ko bachpan ke un saalon se jodte hain jab unhein adiyal ya boring kaha gaya; kuch nahi jodte. Dono tarah se, kisi ke kadepan par tippani us dopahar se purani kisi cheez ko chhoo sakti hai.
Apne ghar ke niyamon ke peechhe ki soch pehli baar kahan se aayi, aur jab koi un par sawaal uthata hai to kiski awaaz yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Niyamon ke neeche ek chup niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhe sabko khush rakhna hai, dekhne walon ko bhi,” ya “Apne hi ghar ke baare mein meri raay ki koi ginti nahi.” Kuch log iska dheema roop dhote hain: “Kisi ne etraaz kiya to shayad main hi galat hoon.”
Aisi maanyataein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo samajhdaari lagti hain, jaise tang darwaaze par kisi ko pehle nikalne dena tameez lagta hai. Isiliye kabhi-kabhi inhein roshni mein uthakar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Kisi ne etraaz kiya to main galat” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nazron ke neeche faisla karne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har mulaqaat se pehle chupchaap badle gaye niyam, do-do baar samjhaye gaye faisle, aur bachche ko jawab dene se pehle bado ki taraf dekhne ki aadat. Kuch maa-baap ko bahut der baad pata chalta hai ki wo darshakon ke liye chun rahe hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. “Sakht” wala ban jaana akela kar sakta hai, aur nazron ke neeche faisle par tike rehne mein mehnat lagti hai. Saal bhar mein kai chhote pal aise jud sakte hain jab faisla karna us baat se bhaari laga jiska faisla ho raha tha.
Pichhle ek saal mein ghar ka kaun sa faisla is wajah se bhaari laga ki kaun dekh raha tha ya kya kahega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kamre ke liye faisle lete hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Kisi ne etraaz kiya to main galat” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad usmein rishtedaar ke ghar jaate hue gaadi mein badla gaya niyam hai, parivaar ke group par teen baar samjhaya gaya faisla, party mein di gayi wo “haan” jo “abhi nahi” honi thi. Kuch baatein sach lagengi, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi ek taraf rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: faisle, mulaqaatein, samjhaye gaye niyam, kamre par ek aankh rakhkar liye gaye faisle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sakht, magar kiske muqable? #
Paimane ka naam lete hi ye ek insaan ki pasand aur ek maa-baap ke faisle ka mel lagta hai.
Ek hi niyam ek kursi se kada aur doosri se aam dikh sakta hai. Mehmaan wo pal dekhta hai jab niyam lagta hai; maa-baap wo poora hafta, aur wo sab jo uske aaspaas hai, jo mehmaan ne kabhi nahi dekha.
“Bahut sakht” ka koi matlab banne ke liye paimana chahiye: kis ghar ke muqable, kaun si shaam, kaun sa bachcha, aur faisla kiska?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost bataye ki party mein ek niyam par kisi ne use sakht kaha, to aap usse sabse pehle kya poochhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to faisle ko hi dekhte hain: wo kya tha, kab aaya, kis cheez ko taul raha tha.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jinhone raay dene se pehle “Kyun” poochha: wo dost jo samajhna chahta tha, ek teacher, ek aur maa ya papa jinhone kaha “Hamare yahan bhi yahi hota hai.” Kabhi-kabhi wo awaazein hamesha se thin, bas tippani se dheemi.
“Itni sakhti” ke saath rakhkar, dheema dohrav us faisle ke baare mein kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke ghar ke niyamon par raay dene se pehle aapki wajahein kisne poochhin, aur wo baatcheet kaisi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Behes sulajhane ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki niyam sahi tha, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka agle faisle par, aur bachche ke saath us din ke baaki hisse par, kam chale.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab wo safai ka rehearsal chhod dete hain. Wo kabhi poora nahi hota, kyunki har mehmaan ko alag niyam chahiye, aur wo har faisle ke beech ek tippani ko rakhe rehta hai. Kuch kamre sunenge hi nahi, aur kisi ko unhein parakhna nahi hai.
Kaisa lagega agar “Bahut sakht” usi ke paas rahe jisne kaha, aur apni wajahein aap apne kareeb rakhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle milan ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar tab se “Shayad main hi kadak hoon” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap iski jagah ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine wajahon ke saath faisla liya, jo kamre ne suni nahi.”
Iska abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane par purane sawaal ke liye jagah thodi ghatti hai, khaaskar mulaqaat se theek pehle ke minuton mein.
Apne ghar ke niyamon ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho aur jise har mehmaan ki sehmati na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Itni sakhti” ko safai, behes ya agli baar naram niyam nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise ghar lautkar chaabiyan darwaaze ke paas ki katori mein chhod dete hain.
Ye peechhe hatna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain isse din ke baaki hisse ke liye jagah bachti hai: park se lautti sair, nahane ke waqt ka mazaak, gaadi mein banaya gaya gaana.
Tippani ko aaj raat neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi thi ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki use agle faisle, ya uske baad wale, mein baithna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar dobara sochna ek darja dheela ho #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki dobara sochna ek darja shaant hai. Niyam ab bhi aap banate aur badalte hain, aur tippani ab bhi bas tippani hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: apni raftaar se liya gaya faisla, gaadi mein wajahon ka rehearsal kiye bina ek mulaqaat, ya party dohraye bina ek shaam.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya ho sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi sakht wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: sakht kiske muqable, aur kahan se dekhkar?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubha: tippani, ya faisla karte waqt dekha jaana
- Is hafte banaye ek niyam ke peechhe ki wajah chupchaap yaad kijiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne apne liye chahi
Sab chhote, nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo theek baithe, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne aapko sakht kaha, tab niyam kis baare mein tha aur kaun dekh raha tha?
- Us faisle ko pakadte ya badalte waqt aapne kiski nazar apne oopar mehsoos ki?
- Us niyam ki kaun si wajah aap ghar le aaye, jise kisi ne sunna chaha hi nahi?
- Jis aam din dobara sochna zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar dobara sochna thoda shaant ho, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?