Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye sabse zyada thakaan aur sabse zyada pyaar ke ek saath wale pal mein aati hai.
Bahut se log yaad rakhte hain ki unke apne ghar mein rone ko kaise sambhala jaata tha: kahin rote bachche ko fauran baahon mein le liya jaata, kahin chhod diya jaata, bina wajah bataye.
Andar kahin ek yaqeen ban sakta hai: “Kuch bigde to shayad meri hi galti hai,” ya “Mujhse ye galat nahi hona chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jhulana rokkar intezaar karna, aadha saboot dene ke liye
- Galiyare mein phusphusakar apna faisla samjhana
- Chupchaap lage rehna aur baad mein jaagkar wahi baat dohrate rehna
- Agli baar us insaan se raat chhipa lena
- Kuch dhoondhna jo saabit kare ki wo galat the
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Saade teen baje darwaze par Biji
Ludhiana ke flat mein raat ke saade teen baje hain. Bachcha ghante bhar se ro raha hai aur Biji paani peene uthi hain, darwaze par khadi. “Rone de, phephde mazboot hote hain.” Wo pyaar se kehti hain aur sone chali jaati hain. Aap jhulate rehte ho. Kandhe tane hain aur sar mein unka line ghoom rahi hai. Subah tak pata nahi chalta ki sahi kiya ya bas thake hue the.
Mujhe sahi tareeka pata hona chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mujhe pata hona chahiye ki bachche ko kaise chup karana hai.” Ye zimmedaari jaisa lagta hai, aur zyadatar log haan mein sar hilayenge. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: har rona imtihaan ban jaata hai, har raay number, aur darwaze wala insaan number dene wala. Aap galiyare ki taraf ek kaan lagakar paalne lagte ho, aur bachche ko aapka thoda kam milta hai.
Hum sab sahi karna kyun chahte hain
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki bachche se pyaar hai aur hum sab sahi karna chahte hain. Bahuton ke ghar mein rone par ek pakki raay rahi, idhar ya udhar, aur unhone maan liya ki achhe parents ko bas pata hota hai. Shayad aapne saari kitaabein padhin, shayad sab andaaze se karte ho. Sahi karne ki chaah kamzori nahi, gehri parwah se aati hai, aur use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har faisle se judta shak
Har faisla thoda shak jod jaata hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Jitna socha tha usse ek minute zyada rukna, jo kiya use jaagkar dohrana, nashte par kahani kaat-chhaant kar sunana. Mushkil raatein ab thakaan ke saath parakhe jaane ki jagah bhi ban jaati hain.
Kya unki haami is keemat ki hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochiye: kya kisi ki haami ka intezaar karne se kabhi mushkil raat aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar yahi hua ki apne bachche ko jo aapne dekha, us par shak hone laga? Rone par har kisi ki raay hai, aur raay aapas mein kam hi milti hain. Jawab sirf aapke paas hai, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna, kya iski keemat waqai chukane layak hai?
Raat aapki rehti hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki bachcha kaise chup hota hai, uski parwah chhod dein. Matlab ye hai ki ek tippani ab raat ko number nahi degi. Tippani suniye, sar hilaiye, aur apne bachche ko padhne ki apni samajh paas rakhiye. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Ek raat se bhi shuru ho sakta hai. Wahin se thodi shaanti lautti hai: raat aapki rehti hai, aur subah halki lagti hai.
If comments about how you look after your child ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe pata hona chahiye ki bachche ko kaise chup karana hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleApne bachche ko main sabse achha jaanti/jaanta hoon.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek raay ko dohraye bina guzar jaane dijiye
- Kadam 2
Mushkil raat mein jo ek baat achhi ki, uska naam lijiye
- Kadam 3
Mushkil raat ke baad apne liye ek shaant pal nikaaliye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki bachche ko rone do, tab kya chal raha tha, aur aap kitne thake the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sabse bhaari raat ki salaah #
Raat ke teen baje hain, ya uske baad wala dhundhla pehar, aur bagal ke kamre se badon ki awaaz aati hai. Kabhi gate par khadi padosi aunty, kabhi phone par koi saheli. “Rone de, phephde mazboot hote hain.” Kisi ne poocha nahi tha. Bachcha ab bhi ro raha hai, aur use uthaye khada thaka hua insaan bhi rone ke kareeb hai.
Sunne mein ye rone ke baare mein hai, par chot aksar jaagne wale ko lagti hai. Salaah ke andar ek faisla teh karke rakha hota hai: ki jo aap kar rahe the wo galat tha, aur sahi raasta aasaan tha, bas aapse chhoot gaya. “Humne bhi to pale hain” kabhi bola nahi jaata, par sunayi de jaata hai.
Aakhri baar jab kisi ne kaha “rone de, phephde mazboot hote hain”, tab kitne baje the, aur usse pehle kitni raatein guzar chuki thin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Wo ek second jab ye sunayi de #
Kuch log chup ho jaate hain aur jhulate rehte hain. Kuch ke chehre par garmi daud jaati hai aur wo jawab nigal lete hain. Kuch bachche ki taraf dekhkar ek pal sochte hain ki kahin galti unhi ki to nahi. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai dene ki zaroorat nahi.
Thakaan har cheez se parat utaar deti hai. Dopahar mein jo baat tal jaati, wo chaar baje seedhe andar chali jaati hai, kyunki taulne ki taakat bachi hi nahi hoti. Wajahein agli subah aati hain, shaant aur saaf, par der se.
Un shabdon ke theek baad aapne kya kiya: jhulana jaari rakha, ruk gaye, ya jam gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us pehli harkat mein andar kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye tab aati hai jab jawab dene ki taakat nahi #
Salaah bachche ko chup karane ka ek tareeka aise batati hai jaise sahi jawab sirf ek hi ho. Usmein bachcha nahi hai, wo raat nahi hai, aur wo wajahein nahi hain jinse maa ya papa ne use uthaya. Mann faisla sun leta hai, aur faisla usi par girta hai jiski baahon mein bachcha hai.
Ye sabse zyada thakaan aur sabse zyada pyaar ke ek saath wale pal mein aati hai. Koi andhere mein bachche ki zaroorat poori karne ki koshish kar raha hai, aur beech mein faltu raay aa khadi hoti hai. Us pal mein raay aur bachche ko alag karne ki jagah hi nahi milti.
Yahi baat Sunday ki chai par, aaram se baithe hue kahi jaati, to shayad bas ek ki raay lagti.
Us waqt aisa kya badla, aur chubhan mein kitna hissa us ghadi ka tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab shak andar basne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Kahin baat mujhse hi aur mushkil to nahi ho rahi?” “Ruk jaoon, koi sun raha hoga.” “Shayad wo sahi hain aur kami meri hi hai.” Kabhi-kabhi sawaal bachche ke theek se rona shuru karne se pehle hi aa jaata hai.
Kehne wala shayad bagal ke kamre mein so raha ho, par shak ab paalne ke paas aapke saath baitha hai. Kyunki wo aapke apne khayalon mein bolta hai, wo kisi aur ki tippani nahi, apna zameer lagta hai.
Raat mein bachcha roye aur aap sochein ki bahar se kaisa dikhega, tab aapke mann mein kiski awaaz judd jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch parents ke liye rone ki ek purani kahani hai #
Bahut se log yaad rakhte hain ki unke apne ghar mein rone ko kaise sambhala jaata tha: kahin rote bachche ko fauran baahon mein le liya jaata, kahin chhod diya jaata, bina wajah bataye. Kisi yaad ko faisle ki zaroorat nahi. Har ek ke saath ek khinchav aur ek ulta khinchav reh sakta hai.
Kuch log is chubhan ko bachpan ke “chup ho ja, shor mat kar” tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi le jaate. Jo bhi ho, rone par ki gayi ek tippani us raat se kahin purani kisi cheez ko daba sakti hai.
Bachcha roye to kya karna hai, ye aapko sabse pehle kahan se mila, aur jab koi alag raay deta hai to kiski awaaz yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Raat ke neeche ek chup niyam #
Andar kahin ek yaqeen ban sakta hai: “Kuch bigde to shayad meri hi galti hai,” ya “Mujhse ye galat nahi hona chahiye.” Uska dheema roop hai: “Agar kisi ki raay alag hai, to unhein zaroor kuch pata hoga jo mujhe nahi pata.”
Aise yaqeen yaqeen jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo saavdhani jaise lagte hain, jaise taala do baar kheench kar dekhna samajhdaari lagta hai. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhaar raushni mein rakhkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Jo bhi ho, ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin raaton mein “shayad meri hi galti hai” aaj bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Us ghadi ka faisla kya chheen sakta hai #
Ye kabhi us baat par shak ban sakta hai jo andhere mein sahi lagi thi, ya agle kamre par ek kaan lagakar kuch aur dhang se karna. Kuch parents dekhte hain ki wo sunne wale ke liye bachcha paalne lage the, isse bahut pehle ki sunne wala kaam ka raha hi nahi.
Ek chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Mushkil raat pehle se bhaari hoti hai, aur upar se ek faisla us bhaaripan ko akela bana deta hai. Kuch hafton mein bahut si aam raatein apni asal mushkil se zyada fikr dhone lagti hain.
Pichhle mahine mein kaun si raat is wajah se zyada bhaari lagi ki koi uske baare mein kya kahega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Sunne wale ke liye paanch saal aur raatein #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “shayad meri hi galti hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, kuch theek karne ko nahi.
Shayad usmein teen baje liya wo faisla hai jis par saat baje tak shak hone laga, nashte par sunayi gayi wo kahani jiska ant kaat diya gaya, wo raat jo chupchaap nikaal di taaki koi tippani na kare. Kuch hisse sach lagenge, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka jawab abhi nahi chahiye, aur tasveer kisi bhi pal rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: raatein, phusphusahatein, ghadi aur deewar ki taraf dekhna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch dikhe, to wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
“Phephde mazboot” kiski tulna mein? #
Paimana naam lete hi ye ek ki raay jaisa dikhne lagta hai, jiske bagal mein ek maa ya papa ki apne bachche ki gehri samajh rakhi hai.
Wahi rona ek kamre se sabak dikhta hai aur doosre se zaroorat. Mehmaan ko sirf awaaz sunayi deti hai; parents ko din bhar ka khana-peena, nikalte daant, pichhla hafta, wo sab pata hai jo mehmaan ne dekha hi nahi.
“Achha hai” ko kisi paimane ki zaroorat hai: kis bachche ke liye, kitni umar mein, kis raat, aur tay kaun kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi saheli bataye ki kisi ne uske raat mein rote bachche par yahi baat kahi, to aap usse sabse pehle kya poochna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch log kya paate hain #
Kuch parents raat ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain to bachche ko dekhte hain: rone ki awaaz kaisi thi, baahon mein lene par kya badla, saans kaise dheemi hui.
Kuch aur log ye dekhte hain ki unke saath kaun jaaga aur kisne naram baat kahi: saheli jisne likha “main bhi jagi hoon”, Nani jisne ek paari sambhali, koi aur jisne kaha “mera bhi mahinon aisa raha.” Kai baar wo awaazein hamesha se thin, bas dheemi.
“Phephde mazboot” ke bagal mein rakhkar, us raat ka dheema replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Mushkil raat mein kisne kabhi aisa kuch kaha jisse bojh halka laga, aur kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Behes suljhane ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki rone par kaun sahi tha, ya ye dikhawa karna nahi ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna hai ki ek tippani ki aapki agli raat aur agli subah par pakad dheeli ho jaye.
Jab parents apni safai ka rehearsal band karte hain, to kai baar halka lagta hai. Wo kabhi poora hota bhi nahi, kyunki har sunne wale ki apni raay hai, aur wo ek tippani ko har raat ke beech mein rakhta hai. Kuch kamre sunenge hi nahi, aur unhein aazmana kisi ka kaam nahi.
“Rone de” ko kehne wale ke paas hi rehne dein, aur apne bachche ki samajh apne paas rakhein, to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli raat ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar tab se “shayad wo sahi hain aur kami meri hi hai” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch parents uski jagah aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Apne bachche ko padhna mujhe aata hai, aur aaj raat jo ho saka, maine kiya.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log pehankar dekhte hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane se purane sawaal ke liye thodi kam jagah bachti hai, khaaskar raat ke un paharon mein.
Mushkil raaton ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho, aur jise har sunne wale ki haami na chahiye ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “rone de” ko safai, behes ya raat nipatane ka naya tareeka nahi chahiye. Kuch baaton ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur phir rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise lambe safar mein bhaari bag aakhir train ke farsh par rakh diya jaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch parents kehte hain isse baaki din ke liye jagah bachti hai: subah ki pehli chai, collar pakadti chhoti ungliyan, soye hue sar ke baad ki khamoshi.
Aaj raat tippani ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya maamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki agli baar rona shuru ho to wo saath baithe rehne ke liye majboor nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shak ki pakad thodi dheeli pade #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki shak ek darja dheema ho gaya. Bachcha ab bhi ro sakta hai, aur tippani ab bhi bas tippani hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ek raat jisme mann mein ek sawaal kam ho, nashta jisme kahani bina kaat-chhaant sunayi jaye, ek subah jisme kuch dohrana na pade.
Kisi ko kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to ek baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka lagega, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya ho sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo parents aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi rone de wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: kiski tulna mein achha, aur kahan se dekhkar?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubhta hai: baat, ya wo ghadi jab kahi gayi
- Akele mein yaad kijiye ki pichhli mushkil raat mein bachche ko kya chahiye tha
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne apne liye chaahi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wahi chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki bachche ko rone do, tab kya chal raha tha, aur aap kitne thake the?
- Faisla karte waqt aapke sar mein kiski awaaz thi?
- Us raat bachche ko kya chahiye tha jo kisi ne poocha hi nahi?
- Jis aam din shak zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar shak thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?