Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kisi ke kareeb hone se hum maan baithte hain ki hum jitne khabar mein hain, usse zyada hain.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se aati hai jahan wo pale: ek maa jo sab kuch jaanti lagti thin, ya ek pita jinhein hamesha sabse aakhir mein pata chalta tha.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Main achha maa-baap hoon to wo sabse pehle mere paas aayenge,” ya “Agar wo mujhe pehle nahi batate to hum sach mein kareeb nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sambhal-sambhalkar bahut sawaal poochna, aur jawab chhote hote dekhna
- Doosron se pata chale to aise jatana ki pehle se pata tha
- Beete mahine ko tatolna, ki kaun sa pal batane ka tha
- “Hum hain na, kuch bhi bata sakte ho” phir se kehna, zara alag dhang se
- Chot ko chupchaap rakhna, ki kahin agli baar batana aur kathin na ho jaye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Baad mein pata chala mushkil mahina
Padosi ki ek maa se aapko pata chalta hai ki pichhle mahine school mein aapke bete ka samay bahut bhaari raha: doston se anban, haftom akele pad jaane ka ehsaas. Ghar par usne ek shabd nahi kaha. Aap us maa ko muskurakar kehte ho ki aapko pata tha. Par ghar lautte hue seene mein halki tees hoti hai: usne mujhe kyun nahi bataya? Aapse madad hi milti. Hamesha milti hai.
Sabse pehle aapke paas aayein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bachchon ko kuch gadbad ho to sabse pehle mere paas aana chahiye.” Ye duniya ki sabse swabhavik baat lagti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke achhe maa-baap hone ke ehsaas ko unke batane-na-batane ke chunaav se bandh deta hai. Aap kitne kareeb hain, ab us yuva par tika hai jo shayad khud sambhalna chahta hai.
Surakshit jagah banna kyun maayne rakhta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki unki surakshit jagah banna maa-baap hone ka dil lagta hai. Shayad aapke apne maa-baap aise nahi the jinke paas jaya ja sake, aur aapne khud se waada kiya ki aap alag honge. Shayad aap hamesha cheezein suljhane wale rahe ho. Dono haal mein, chahna ki wo aapke paas aayein, taak-jhaank nahi hai. Ye pyaar se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Maa-baap ke roop mein khud par shak
Doosron se suni har mushkil aapko apne par shak karna sikhati hai. Aap aur sawaal poochne lagte ho, aur jawab kam milte hain. Sochte ho aur kya hai jo unki zindagi ke baare mein nahi pata. Pehle chot lagti hai, phir fikar. Dheere-dheere aap un par mushkil ke nishaan dhoondhte rehne lagte ho, aur beech ki sahaj garmjoshi mein thodi saavdhaani, thoda tanaav aa jaata hai.
Kya pehle sunne ki zaroorat sahi hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unke paas aane ki zaroorat ne kabhi unhein zyada aane diya? Ya zyadatar aapko aur fikrmand kiya? Yuva aksar cheezein akele sambhalte hain, bada mehsoos karne ke liye, ya maa-baap ko fikar se bachane ke liye. Jo bhi ho, na batana is baat ka paimana nahi ki wo aapse kitna pyaar karte hain. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Unki surakshit jagah bane rehna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap unke liye maujood rehna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapke achhe maa-baap hone ka ehsaas ab unke sab kuch batane par nahi tika. Aap garm, shaant aur baat karne mein aasaan reh sakte ho, aur unhein taiyaar hone par aane de sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap unki surakshit jagah bane rehte ho, aaj wo istemaal karein ya baad mein.
Basic respect and safety at home are never too much to expect; if anyone is threatened, hurt or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBachchon ko kuch gadbad ho to sabse pehle mere paas aana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnki surakshit jagah bani reh sakti hai, jab bhi zaroorat ho.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte baat karne mein aasaan rahiye: zyada suniye, kam suljhaiye
- Din 2
Wo ek baar yaad kijiye jab wo aapke paas aaye the
- Din 3
Chot lage to yaad dilaiye ki wo bade ho rahe hain
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun si khabar aap tak der se pahunchi, aur aapke bachche se pehle aapko kisne batayi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sabse pehle jis darwaze par dastak dein, wo main #
“Bachchon ko kuch gadbad ho to sabse pehle mere paas aana chahiye.” Ye aksar tab uthti hai jab khabar der se pahunche: result kisi cousin ke message se pata chale, beete mahine ki mushkil khaane par yunhi batayi jaye jaise khatam ho chuki baat, ya kisi jhagde ka pata uske nipatne ke haftom baad chale.
Zyadatar ye maa-baap ki sabse swabhavik chaah lagti hai: bachcha jis jagah bhaagkar aaye, wo hum hon. Isiliye der se pata chalne par do baar chubhta hai: ek baar pareshani par, aur ek baar is par ki sabse pehle humein nahi bataya gaya.
Ye khayal bachchon ke baare mein aakhri baar kab aaya, aur khabar aakhir aap tak kaise pahunchi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Muskaan thami rehti hai, pairon tale zameen khisakti hai #
Kuch maa-baap ise seene mein jhatke ki tarah mehsoos karte hain, jab Patna ki seedhiyon par padosi ki aunty kahein “Arre, school wali baat toh aapko bataya hi hoga” aur sach jawab sirf “Nahi” ho. Muskaan chehre par tiki rehti hai, aur zameen zara si khisak jaati hai.
Kuch ko ye ghar par hota hai, jab bada ho chuka bachcha chai par halke se keh de “Ab sab nipat gaya”, beeti baat ki tarah. Raahat aur chot ek saath aa sakti hain, kisi bhi khayal ke banne se pehle.
Pichhli baar jab bachche ki kisi mushkil ghadi ka pata uske guzar jaane ke baad chala, to kuch bhi kehne se pehle sabse pehle kya laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Unki surakshit jagah banna chahna samajh aata hai #
Ye ummeed isliye jaayaz lagti hai ki ye pyaar se aur barson ke abhyaas se ugti hai: ghutne ki kharoch, school ki fikrein, raat ko daravne sapne lekar aapke darwaze tak aana. Ek baar surakshit insaan reh chukne se lagta hai ki umar bhar wahi rehna swabhavik hai.
Kisi ke kareeb hone se hum maan baithte hain ki hum jitne khabar mein hain, usse zyada hain. Nazdeeki logon ko ye galatfehmi deti hai ki wo ek-doosre ko kitna samajhte hain, dono taraf se, isliye kareeb hone aur batae jaane ke beech ka faasla hairaan kar deta hai.
Agar bachche ka aapke paas aana ek lamhe jaisa dikhe, to kaun phone karta, sabse pehle kya kehta, aur aap kahan hote?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo ginti hai kise pehle pata tha #
“Mujhe hi sabse aakhir mein kyun pata chalta hai?” “Padosi ki aunty ko mujhse pehle pata tha.” “Mujhe bataya hota to madad ho jaati.” Ye awaaz aksar raat ko ya bartan maanjte waqt bolti hai, un haftom ko dohrati jab pata hi nahi tha.
Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki awaaz khabar se kam aur us jagah se zyada judi hai jo wo paana chahte the: pehla phone, pehla chehra. Kise pehle pata tha, ye ginti us chaah ki taraf ishaara karti hai, bachche ne jo kiya uski taraf kam.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki aapko bataya jaana chahiye tha, to wo kis pal par laut jaana chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Batae jaane ki tasveer pehle kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se aati hai jahan wo pale: ek maa jo sab kuch jaanti lagti thin, ya ek pita jinhein hamesha sabse aakhir mein pata chalta tha. Kuch maa-baap bahut pehle thaan lete hain ki unke bachchon ko akele bojh nahi uthana padega, jaisa unhone uthaya.
Kuch mein ye apne bachchon ke chhote dinon se aati hai: school se sabse pehla phone, sone se pehle ki awaaz, wo jo sab suljha deta tha. Kuch parivaaron mein sabse pehle bataya jaana kareebi ki ek chup nishaani hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Jab aap chhote the aur kuch bigadta, to sabse pehle kiske paas jaate the, aur unhein wo jagah kis baat ne di?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo har der se aayi khabar padhta hai #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Main achha maa-baap hoon to wo sabse pehle mere paas aayenge,” ya “Agar wo mujhe pehle nahi batate to hum sach mein kareeb nahi.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har der se aayi khabar ka kya matlab nikala jaye.
Ye bahut kam niyam jaisa dikhta hai. Ye kareeb hone ka seedha matlab lagta hai, aur isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, un bade hote bachchon ke baghal mein jo ab hain, kitchen mein rote hue aane wale bachchon ke hi nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke paarivaarik jeevan ke kaun se hisson mein sabse pehle batae jaane ka niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kaun se mein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ankahe ko sunte rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har phone mein wo sunna jo kaha nahi ja raha, chhutti ki mulaqaat khabar tatolne mein beetna, har baar “Arre, wo toh bahut pehle ki baat hai” wali kahani par ek chhoti chubhan. Kuch dramatic nahi, phir bhi roz ki baaton ke neeche bojh.
Khabar khud raaste mein kho sakti hai. Jab batae jaane ka matlab bharosa ho jaye, to bachche ki mushkil ghadi zyadatar maa-baap ke baare mein ek baat ki tarah suni jaati hai, aur ye khush hone ka mauka nikal jaata hai ki wo usse paar ho gaye.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ke saath kaun si baatcheet sabse zyada is par tiki thi ki wo aapko kya nahi bata raha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Baad mein sunne ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “mushkil ho to mere paas aayein” zor se sunai de. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad unke dost ki maa se pata chalna ki mushkil semester beeta, ek call jiske har viraam ko suna ja raha ho, “Asal mein kaisa chal raha hai” poochta message likhkar mita dena, aur shaam beete mahinon ko dobara tatolte hue.
Isme abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko jab chahein rakha ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: phone, sawaal, doosron se suni khabar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Paas aana, kis tarah? #
Log kisi mushkil ko kai wajahon se kisi ke paas le jaate hain, aur kuch uske paas jaate hain jo us din sabse aasaan lage: koi dost, bhai-behen, roommate. Kuch bade ho chuke bachche maa-baap ko sabse aakhir mein batate hain, sab nipatne ke baad, aur akele ye kram nahi batata ki iska matlab kya hai.
Mushkil baat kehna jo aasaan banata hai wo chhota ho sakta hai: aisa sawaal jiska lamba jawab na chahiye, aisa jawab jo suljhane mein jaldi na kare, ye ehsaas ki baat usi kamre mein rahegi. Kuch maa-baap sochte hain ki inmein se kaun sa dena aasaan hai, aur kaun sa kathin.
Apne jeevan ko dekhte hue, kis baat ne aapke liye kuch mushkil kehna aasaan banaya, aur kisne kathin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bachche pehle se kya baantte hain #
Sabse pehle batae jaane ki chaah ke baghal mein shayad pehle se dekhne laayak kuch hai, jo aapke bachche aapko dete hain, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya der se: car mein sunayi koi kahani, roommate ke baare mein koi sawaal, beete semester ka baad mein kiya gaya bayaan, aur us par ab ki hansi.
Ye koi farz ya karz nahi hai, aur chaah ko naajaayaz nahi banata: jaayaz ummeed aur garm notice saath-saath reh sakte hain. Bachcha jo apni marzi se baante, der se hi sahi, shayad wahi sabse dekhne laayak hai.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke kisi bachche ne haal mein aapse kya kaha, chahe kitna bhi chhota, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur darwaza khula rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada maangti thi, ya ki wo sahi hai. Matlab ye ki pehle sunne aur der se sunne ke beech ka faasla har baatcheet ko chalana band kar de, taaki khabar khabar ki tarah suni ja sake.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: bachchon ke liye wo insaan banna jiske paas wo aa sakein, unki zindagi ke kathin hisson mein bhi jagah chahna, sirf achhe mein nahi. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo pakad hai, taaki der se sunayi kahani ka swagat dilchaspi se ho, haftom ki ginti se nahi.
Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi, aapke liye aur aapke bachchon ke liye. Parivaar mein kuch baatein achhi wajahon se, suraksha samet, chup rakhi jaati hain, aur iski ijaazat hai. Agar kabhi chinta ho ki bachcha surakshit nahi hai, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur us par kuch karna theek hai.
Is chaah se sulah wali ek call ki kalpana kijiye: aap kis baare mein poochte, aur kya sunkar bas achha lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ketli ke paas rakhne ko ek sachcha vaakya #
“Bachchon ko kuch gadbad ho to sabse pehle mere paas aana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mera mann hai ki wo jiske paas mud sakein, wo main rahoon, aur kab aur kaise aana hai ye unka chunaav hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke baghal mein baithna hai.
Pehle-pehal ise kehna ajeeb lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna vaakya har baar thodi aur jagah leta jaata hai; kuch ko nahi lagta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo unke paas aane ki chaah rakhe aur batana un par chhod de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Der se aayi kuch khabrein rakhi ja sakti hain #
Der se aayi har khabar ko phir se khangalna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek minute mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise Patna ki kisi purani drawer mein mila school ka report card, ya fridge par ab bhi chipka kisi ka purana number.
Parivaar mein kuch baatein achhi wajahon se, suraksha samet, chup rakhi jaati hain, aur iski ijaazat hai. Agar kabhi chinta ho ki bachcha surakshit nahi hai, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur us par kuch karna theek hai.
Aaj shaam ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya sulajh gaya. Bas itna ki bina pata chale beete haftom ko agli call mein saath le jaana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaah ek paayedaan bhi dheeli ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek paayedaan shaant hai. Bachche ke paas aane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par der se aayi khabar phir bhi sunne laayak khabar hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: der se pata chalna aur agla sawaal chhota aur jawab dene mein aasaan rakhna, call ka jo bhi laaye uska maza lena, ya bas khush hona ki wo usse paar ho gaye.
Isme se kuch kisi ko kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ye khayal kab aata hai, aur usse theek pehle aap kya kar rahe the
- Khabar der se mile to dekhiye ki chot khabar ki hai ya deri ki
- Aaj apne liye jo ek chhoti cheez chahi thi, use dekhiye
- Ek chhota, aasaani se jawab ho sakne wala sawaal sochiye, aur dekhiye kaisa lagta hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: unki umar mein mera sahara kaun tha, aur kyun wahi?
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun si khabar aap tak der se pahunchi, aur aapke bachche se pehle aapko kisne batayi?
- Jab aapka bachcha chhota tha aur kuch bigadta, to wo aapko kahan dhoondhne aata tha?
- Bachche ke kuch mushkil batane ke baad pehle minute mein aap use kya mehsoos karana chahoge?
- Agar sabse pehle batae jaane ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhoge?
- Aapke bachche ne haal mein kaun si baat batayi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti, jiska aap aur maza lena chahoge?