Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aas rakhna ki koi khud hi bata dega, bahut insaani hai, aur saamne wale ke liye ye mushkil paheli bhi ban sakti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: aisa ghar jahan sab kuch khaane ki table par bola jaata tha, ya ulta, jahan kuch nahi bola jaata tha, aur mann mein chupchaap thana ki apne ghar mein aisa nahi hone denge.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Hum kareeb hain to wo mujhe sabse pehle batayenge,” ya “Jo bachcha maa-baap se pyaar karta hai, wo unhein khabar mein rakhta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Phone par sawaal par sawaal poochna, aur jawab chhote hote sunna
- Khabar kisi cousin se sunkar aise jatana ki pehle se pata tha
- “Mujhe toh sabse aakhir mein pata chalta hai” mazaak mein kehna, taaki chot na dikhe
- Poochna hi chhod dena, aur chupchaap khabar ke aane ka intezaar karna
- Har “theek hai” ko jaan-boojhkar band kiya gaya darwaza maan lena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Theek.” “Bas sab.” “Pata nahi.”
Raat ke khaane par aap apni pandrah saal ki beti se poochte ho school kaisa raha. “Theek.” Aaj dost kaun the? “Bas sab.” Weekend par kya hai? “Pata nahi.” Wo khaana khatam karke kamre mein chali jaati hai. Darwaze ke paar se kisi call par uski hansi sunai deti hai. Aap plates sametate hue table ke paas ho, us zindagi se bahar, jiska pehle aapko har byora pata tha.
Bachche aapko sab batayein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bachchon ko mujhe apni zindagi ki baatein batani chahiye.” Ye swabhavik lagta hai. Maa-baap jaanna chahte hain, aur aap hamesha chahte rahe. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki nazdeeki ko unke khulepan se bandh deta hai. Aap jude hue hain ya nahi, ab us yuva par tika hai jo apni nijee duniya banana seekh raha hai, jo bade hone ka hissa hai.
Jaanna paas hona kyun lagta tha
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki unki zindagi jaanna kabhi paas hone jaisa tha. Shayad wo pehle sab batate the, har din ka har byora. Shayad aapko un sab baaton ki fikar hai jo aap nahi jaante. Dono haal mein jaanna chahna taak-jhaank nahi hai. Ye pyaar se aata hai, aur unki duniya ka hissa bane rehne ki chaah se. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har “theek” band hota darwaza
Har “theek” band hote darwaze jaisa lagta hai. Aap aur sawaal poochne lagte ho, aur jawab aur chhote aate hain. Pehle chot lagti hai, phir fikar. Sochte ho ki kahin kuch galat toh nahi hua, aur raat der tak jaagte rehte ho. Dheere-dheere khaane ki table ek chup interview ban jaati hai, aur jitna haath badhate ho, nazdeeki utni door lagti hai, aur unka darwaza band rehta hai.
Kya jawab poochte rehna theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unse sab kuch sunne ki zaroorat ne kabhi unhein zyada batane diya? Ya zyadatar kam batane diya? Kishor aksar bade hote hue apne jeevan ke hisse nijee rakhte hain; us nijeepan mein kya hai, ye sirf wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, “theek” aapki nazdeeki ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Jo baantein, uske liye garmjoshi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap unki zindagi ki parwah karna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapki nazdeeki har byora sunne par nahi tiki. Aap garmjoshi se maujood reh sakte ho, un palon ka maza le sakte ho jab wo khulte hain, aksar car mein ya der raat, aur neeche ke rishte par bharosa rakh sakte ho. Yahin chain lautta hai: aap kareeb rehte ho, sab jaane bina.
Basic respect and safety at home are never too much to expect; being threatened, hurt or frightened by anyone is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBachchon ko mujhe apni zindagi ki baatein batani chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMain garmjoshi se rahoon, aur jo wo baantein, uska maza loon.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Jab wo khulein, jaise car mein, to bas suniye
- Din 2
Ek halka sawaal poochiye, aur “theek” ko kaafi maniye
- Din 3
Khaane par apne din ki ek chhoti baat bataiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bachche ki kaun si khabar aap tak doosron se pahunchi, aur tab aaspaas kaun khada tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Doosron ki khabar ke kinare uthti chaah #
“Bachchon ko mujhe apni zindagi ki baatein batani chahiye.” Ye aksar doosron ki khabar ke kinare uthti hai: koi cousin munh se nikaal de ki nayi job lag gayi, kamre ka darwaza khatak se band ho, ya Indore se kahin bahar jaane ki badi baat kisi aur ke zariye pahunche.
Ye bahut maangna nahi lagta. Lagta hai shaamil hone ki chaah: unke doston ke naam jaanna, hafta sach mein kaisa raha, mann mein kya chal raha hai, isse pehle ki baaki parivaar ko pata chale, baad mein nahi.
Aakhri baar apne bachche ke jeevan ki koi baat kisi aur se pehle kab suni, aur batane wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Der se aayi khabar par chhoti si tees #
Kuch maa-baap ise aise mehsoos karte hain: koi rishtedaar kahe “Arre, aapko nahi pata?” aur muskaan zara der tak chehre par tiki rah jaye, ya kishor bachcha “Theek” aur “Kuch nahi” kehkar chai banne se pehle hi seedhiyan chadh jaye to bheetar kuch baith jaye.
Ehsaas kisi khayal se pehle aa sakta hai: bahar reh jaane ki chubhan, pichhla phone tatolna ki khabar kahan thi, family group mein likha sawaal mita dena. Sochna baad mein hota hai, aksar raat ko.
Pichhli baar apne bachche ki koi badi baat doosron se suni, to kuch bhi kehne se pehle sabse pehle kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Shaamil hona chahna jaayaz hai #
Ye ummeed isliye jaayaz lagti hai ki isme asli samajhdaari hai. Apne bachchon ki zindagi jaanna chahna, khabar ka hissa hona aur sirf sunne wala na rehna, maa-baap hone ke dil ke bahut paas baitha hai.
Ye aas rakhna ki koi khud hi bata dega, bahut insaani hai, aur saamne wale ke liye ye mushkil paheli bhi ban sakti hai. Jo maa-baap ke bheetar itna saaf hai, “Mujhe sabse pehle sunna chahiye”, wo table ya phone ke us paar se dikhna kathin hai.
Bachche se seedhe suni jaane wali wo kaun si khabar hai jo aapko sabse zyada chahiye thi, aur aapne kaise socha tha ki wo batayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo khaali jagahein ginti hai #
“Mujhe toh mausi se pata chala.” “Chhote the toh sab batate the.” “Ghar mein sabko pata hai, bas mujhe nahi.” Ye awaaz aksar family call khatam hote hi bolti hai, ya kisi aisi jagah ki photo dekhte hue jiske baare mein kisi ne kuch kaha hi nahi tha.
Kisi ke kareeb hona humein ye maanne par la sakta hai ki usne jitna kaha gaya usse zyada samajh liya. Kai maa-baap paate hain ki bachche ko pata hi nahi tha ki ek chhoti si khabar ka kitna matlab hai, kyunki ye baat kisi taraf se kahi nahi gayi thi.
Jab awaaz aapko wo ginane lagti hai jo nahi bataya gaya, to kis khabar par sabse zyada lautti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Batae jaane ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: aisa ghar jahan sab kuch khaane ki table par bola jaata tha, ya ulta, jahan kuch nahi bola jaata tha, aur mann mein chupchaap thana ki apne ghar mein aisa nahi hone denge.
Kuch mein ye un saalon se aati hai jab bachche chhote the aur sab batate the: khel ke maidan ki har ladai, naye dost ka naam, har banayi tasveer. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Bachche ke chhote hone ki wo kaun si yaad hai, jab wo sab kuch batata tha, jo aaj bhi sabse saaf lautti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Intezaar ke neeche ka niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Hum kareeb hain to wo mujhe sabse pehle batayenge,” ya “Jo bachcha maa-baap se pyaar karta hai, wo unhein khabar mein rakhta hai.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har der se aayi khabar ka kya matlab nikala jaye.
Bheetar se ye niyam jaisa dikhta nahi. Ye pyaar jaisa lagta hai jise update se naapa gaya ho. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, aapke bachche ke aaj ke roop ke baghal mein, uske apne doston, apni fikron aur baat batane ke apne tareeke ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Aaj ke paarivaarik jeevan ke kaun se hisson mein sabse pehle batae jaane ka niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kaun se mein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Khaali jagahein sunte rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har phone khabar tatolne mein beetna, kisi achhi shaam ka ek baat na bataye jaane se chupchaap bigad jaana, ya aise paarivaarik jamavde mein muskurana jahan sabko pehle se sab pata lagta hai. Chhote pal, phir bhi uthane mein bhaari.
Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki ankahi baaton ki ginti us sabse oonchi ho jaati hai jo bachcha batata hai, jisse batayi hui baaton ka maza lena mushkil ho jaata hai, aur ye ginti usi chaah ki jagah lene lagti hai jo uske neeche hai.
Taak-jhaank ki wajah se nahi: shaamil hone ki chaah ka asli wazan hota hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ke saath kaun si aam baatcheet sabse zyada is par tiki thi ki kya nahi kaha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Doosron se sunne ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Sunday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “bachche mujhe sab batayein” zor se sunai de. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad kisi cousin se bachche ki nayi job ka pata chalna aur aise muskurana jaise pehle se pata tha, ek phone jo suraag dhoondhne mein beete, kisi photo ko sandesh se zyada der dekhna, bachche se poochne ko ek sawaal likhkar agli call ke liye rakh lena.
Isme kuch bhavishyavaani nahi, aur kuch tay nahi karna.
Usme kya hai: phone, group chat, khabrein, poochhe bina reh gaye sawaal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko dekhkar kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Shaamil hona, kis tarah? #
Batane ki kai shakalein hoti hain. Kuch bachche car mein baat karte hain, kuch aadhi raat ko, kuch bas koi gaana ya khaane ki photo forward karke. Jo bachcha phone par kam bolta hai, wo calls ke beech bheji chhoti cheezon mein kaafi kuch bata raha ho sakta hai.
Parivaar ke kareeb hona aur apni alag zindagi rakhna, dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain. Khabar der se aane ki wajahein kareebi se kam aur kuch aur zyada ho sakti hain, aur kuch logon ko ye sochna madad deta hai ki unke bachche ka batana aamtaur par kis shakl mein aata hai.
Bachcha jin-jin tareekon se aapko batata hai, shabdon mein ya bina, unme se kise aap shayad sabse kam sunte rahe ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bachcha pehle se jo baantta hai #
Kuch din ye dekhna achha lagta hai ki bachcha pehle se kya baantta hai, chahe chhote ya tirchhe tareeke se: aadhi raat ka koi meme, bus ke safar ka voice note, poha-jalebi ki recipe poochna, kisi purani paarivaarik kahani par hansi.
Kuch na kehna aur kuch mehsoos na karna ek cheez nahi hai, aur bahut si nazdeeki wahi hai jo log karte hain, usme nahi jo batate hain. Ye dekhna kisi ka karz nahi, aur zyada batae jaane ki chaah ko radd bhi nahi karta: dono saath reh sakte hain.
Kuch hafte kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Kisi aam hafte mein bachcha pehle se aapse kya baantta hai jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur darwaza khula rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada maangti hai, ya ki wo sahi hai. Matlab ye ki jo aap sunna chahte ho aur jo sunte ho, unke beech ka faasla har call aur har jamavde ko rangna band kar de, jahan khabar kisi aur ke zariye aati hai.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: bachchon ki zindagi ka hissa banne ki chaah, unki duniya jaanne ki chaah. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo pakad hai, taaki kisi cousin se suni baat bas ek khabar rahe, aur bachche ke apne dhang se batane ka darwaza khula rahe.
Aapke aur bachchon ke beech buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi. Agar kabhi chinta ho ki bachcha surakshit nahi hai, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur us par kuch karna theek hai.
Is chaah se sulah wali ek aam call ki kalpana kijiye: kya baat karte, aur kis cheez ka maza lete?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Phone ke paas rakhne ko ek sachcha vaakya #
“Bachchon ko mujhe apni zindagi ki baatein batani chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mera mann hai ki mujhe andar aane diya jaye, aur kab aur kaise batana hai, ye unka chunaav hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke baghal mein khada rehna hai.
Pehle-pehal ye udhaar ka lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna vaakya istemaal se zyada jaana-pehchana ho jaata hai; kuch ko nahi jamta, aur wo bhi theek hai, kyunki koi aur vaakya hamesha aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jaanne ki chaah rakhe aur bachche ko apne dhang se batane ki jagah de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch khabrein apne waqt ka intezaar kar sakti hain #
Aapki jaankari ki har khaali jagah aaj raat bharni zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur alag rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Indore ki kisi kitchen ke counter par ulta rakha phone, ya shaam ke liye mute kiya hua family group.
Andar aane ki chaah jitni der chahe chupchaap aapki reh sakti hai, aur wo phir bhi maayne rakhti hai. Agar kabhi chinta ho ki bachcha surakshit nahi hai, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur us par kuch karna theek hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya sulajh gaya. Bas itna ki jo khabar nahi mili, use poori shaam bharne ki zaroorat nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaah ek paayedaan dheeli ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek paayedaan shaant hai. Andar aane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par phone par “theek hai” bas ek “theek hai” hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kisi cousin se khabar sunna aur bachche ke apne dhang se batane ka darwaza khula rakhna, bheji hui photo ka uske apne matlab mein maza lena, ya Sunday ki dopahar apne plans mein bitana.
Isme se kuch kisi ko kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai, aur dekhne laayak hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab koi rishtedaar kahe “Aapko nahi pata?”, apna pehla khayal dekhiye
- Jab khabar doosron se mile, gaur kijiye ki kaun sa ehsaas pehle aata hai
- Aaj apne liye jo ek chhoti cheez chahi thi, use dekhiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: mujhe asal mein kis cheez ka hissa banna hai?
- Bachche ko uski aaj ki umar mein sochiye, apne doston aur fikron ke saath
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bachche ki kaun si khabar aap tak doosron se pahunchi, aur tab aaspaas kaun khada tha?
- Bachcha chhota tha to aapko roz kya batata tha, jo aaj bhi aapko muskura deta hai?
- Aap sabse zyada kis baat ke liye chahoge ki bachcha sabse pehle aapko batayein?
- Agar sab kuch batae jaane ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhoge?
- Aapka bachcha pehle se jo baantta hai, shabdon mein ya bina, usme kya aap thoda aur jeena chahoge?