Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Chhoti shishtataon se hi anjaan log bina jaan-pehchaan ke saath nibha lete hain.
Kuch logon ke liye ye kisi nana-dada se aaya jo har darwaaze par “Pehle aap” kehte the, chhote-bade kisi se bhi.
Vichar ke neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bhale log apne peeche wale ka khayal rakhte hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jaati hui peeth ki taraf zor se bol dena, “Koi baat nahi!”
- Gaadi tak pahunchte-pahunchte wo pal dohrana
- Ek din ke liye doosron ke liye darwaaza thaamna chhod dena
- Har darwaaza khaas saleeqe se thaamna, taaki dikhe ki kaise karte hain
- Baad mein wahi kissa sunana ki log kitne beparwah ho gaye hain
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo darwaaza jo laut aaya
Mumbai ka bheed bhara railway station, shaam ka waqt. Aap dono haathon mein bhaari thaile liye office walon ki bheed ke beech se nikal rahe ho ki aage wala insaan darwaaze se nikalkar use chhod deta hai, aur wo seedhe aapke kandhe par aa lagta hai. Wo palatkar dekhta bhi nahi. Aap ek pal thailon ki rassiyon ko ungliyon mein gadta mehsoos karte ho, phir tez gusse ki ek lehar, aur uske baad ek ajeeb-si chubhan.
Log darwaaza thaamkar rakhein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Log darwaaza thaamkar rakhein.” Ye bilkul theek lagta hai. Isme do second lagte hain aur dikhta hai ki kisi ne aapko dekha. Par dekhiye ye kya karta hai: har band hota darwaaza is par chhota-sa faisla ban jaata hai ki log aapse kaise pesh aate hain. Ek laparwah anjaan poori kharidari ka mood rang deta hai, aur aap uski berukhi thailon ke saath uthaye ghoomte ho.
Chhoti shishtataein kyun maayne rakhti hain
Hum ise isliye thamte hain kyunki chhoti shishtataein roz ki zindagi ka jod lagti hain. Shayad aapko har baar har kisi ke liye darwaaza thaamna sikhaya gaya tha. Shayad aap khud karte ho, aur dhyaan jaata hai ki lautkar nahi aata. Jo bhi ho, is chhoti meherbaani ki chaahat purani nahi padi hai. Ye chaahat hai ki log ek-doosre ko dekhein. Ise narmi milni chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har darwaaze ki khijh
Har lautta darwaaza thodi khijh jodta hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap har beadab anjaan ko ginne lagte ho. Us pal ko escalator par dohrate ho. Bheed mein thoda aur akelapan mehsoos karte ho, jaise koi kisi ko nahi dekhta. Achhe din bhi peeche ki badbadahat ke saath beette hain ki aajkal log aise kyun hain, aur wo badbadahat ghar tak peecha karti hai.
Kya khijh iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya band hote darwaazon par chidhne se logon ne unhein thaama? Ya zyada-tar aapka bahar nikalna badmaza hua? Log apne khayalon mein khoye ho sakte hain, jaldi mein ho sakte hain, ya bas peeche kaun hai ye dekh nahi paate. Jo bhi ho, ek jhoolta darwaaza na duniya ka paimana hai, na aapka. Kya is niyam ko itni kaskar pakde rakhna theek hai?
Darwaaza isliye thaamna ki achha lagta hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki tameez maayne nahi rakhti. Matlab ye ki ek laparwah anjaan ab tay nahi karta ki aapka din kaisa lage. Aap doosron ke liye darwaaze thaamte reh sakte ho kyunki aapko achha lagta hai, bina lautaye jaane ki zaroorat ke. Yahin thoda sukoon lautta hai: aapki meherbaani aapki rehti hai, aur jhoolta darwaaza bas ek darwaaza reh jaata hai, jaldi bhula diya jaane wala.
Being harassed, followed, filmed, touched or grabbed, or picked on for who you are is not about a door; it is worth taking seriously, and moving away can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleLog darwaaza thaamkar rakhein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleDarwaaza main isliye thamun ki mujhe achha lagta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek darwaaza sirf isliye thaamiye ki aapko achha lagta hai
- Din 2
Kisi anjaan ki ek meherbaani par gaur kijiye
- Din 3
Darwaaza laute to saans chhodkar aage badh jaaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kis anjaan ki chhoti shishtata aapko barson baad bhi yaad hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Bhaari darwaaza, bhare hue haath, aur jaati hui peeth #
Chandigarh mein Diwali se ek shaam pehle, Sector 17 ki mithai ki dukaan. Dono haathon mein thaile, upar chai ka cup tika hai. Aage wala kaanch ka darwaaza dhakelkar nikal jaata hai aur chhod deta hai. Wo wapas aata hai, aap kandhe se rokte ho. Mann mein jhat se aata hai: “Log darwaaza thaamkar rakhein.”
Ye bas ek-do second ki baat hai. Par agle ghante ka rang badal sakti hai. Chai, line, gaadi tak ka raasta, sab aisi jagah jaise lagte hain jahan koi kisi ka khayal nahi rakhta.
Haal mein kisne aapke liye darwaaza thaama, koi anjaan ya koi aur, aur us chhote pal mein aisa kya tha jo yaad reh gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shabdon se pehle ka jhatka #
Kuch logon ke chehre par darwaaza lautte hi halki garmi chadhti hai. Kuch ki baanh rokne ke liye tan jaati hai aur naak se ek chhoti saans nikalti hai. Shareer pehle chalta hai. Shabd ek kadam peeche aate hain.
Phir nazar aksar us insaan ki peeth par jaati hai, ye dekhne ki use pata chala ya nahi. Zyada-tar baar koi ishaara nahi milta, aur wo khaali peeth darwaaze se bhi zyada chubh sakti hai.
Pichhli baar jab darwaaza aapki taraf lauta, to ek bhi vichar se pehle aapke haathon aur chehre ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chhoti-si shishtata jo kehti hai ki aapko dekha gaya #
Is chaahat se zyada seedhi chaahat kam hoti hain. Thaama hua darwaaza do second leta hai aur seedhi baat kehta hai: maine peeche kisi ko dekha. Jab ye nahi hota, to bhale kisi ne kuch chaha na ho, sandesh ulta lag sakta hai.
Chhoti shishtataon se hi anjaan log bina jaan-pehchaan ke saath nibha lete hain. Inse bheed wali jagah thodi surakshit aur thodi garm lagti hai. Jab ek chhootti hai, to us chupchaap ke samjhaute mein daraar jaisa lag sakta hai.
Jab koi anjaan darwaaza thaamkar aapka intezaar karta hai, to aapke agle kuch minute par kya farq padta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Darwaaze par chalti commentary #
“Itna mushkil tha kya?” “Aajkal kisi mein tameez nahi.” “Main to kabhi aisa na karun.” Awaaz darwaaze par bolti hai, phir counter par, har baar thodi oonchi.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki baat darwaaze ki hai hi nahi. Baat us tasveer ki hai jisme log ek-doosre ka khayal rakhte hain, aur darr is baat ka ki wo tasveer dhundhli ho rahi hai.
Jab darwaaze wali awaaz bolti hai, to pehli line kaun si hoti hai, aur wo logon ke baare mein kya sach maanna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Darwaaze ka niyam kahan seekha gaya #
Kuch logon ke liye ye kisi nana-dada se aaya jo har darwaaze par “Pehle aap” kehte the, chhote-bade kisi se bhi. Kuch ke liye school ka niyam tha, ya mummy-papa ka dukaan mein ghuste hue kehna, “Peeche dekhkar chalo.”
Darwaazon ki aadatein jagah-jagah badalti hain. Kuch shehron mein log din bhar darwaaze thaame rehte hain. Kahin darwaaze apne-aap khulte hain, guard kholta hai, ya sab bas tez bhaagte hain. Ek jagah jo berukhi hai, doosri jagah aam baat ho sakti hai.
Aapko sabse pehle darwaaze par peeche dekhna kisne sikhaya, aur anjaan logon ke baare mein unhone aur kya sikhaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Jhoolte darwaaze ke neeche ka niyam #
Vichar ke neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bhale log apne peeche wale ka khayal rakhte hain.” Ye naram niyam hai. Par iske chalte har darwaaza ek chhoti pariksha ban jaata hai jisme anjaan log pass ya fail hote hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko us ghar se jod sakte hain jisme pale. Kuch nahi jod paate, aur wo bas samajhdaari ki baat lagti hai. Dono tarah se ise roshni mein rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai.
Darwaaze ka niyam kahan aapka din behtar karta hai, aur kahan kisi bhaagte anjaan ko sab logon par faisla bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Jhoolta darwaaza kya chheen sakta hai #
Darwaaze mein do second lagte hain. Uska chhoda mood ghante bhar reh sakta hai: cashier se teekhi baat, lift mein maathe ki silvat, raat ke khaane par sunaya gaya kissa ki ab sab kitne beadab ho gaye hain.
Mahinon mein kuch log dekhte hain ki wo iski ummeed hi karne lage hain. Har darwaaze par tan jaate hain, peethein dekhte hain, aur chupchaap ek list rakhte hain ki kisne chook ki. Chhoti-si aas roz ki chhoti pehredaari ban jaati hai.
Jis din darwaaza aapki taraf lauta, us ghante mein aur kya tha jise kam dhyaan mila?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kandhe se darwaaze rokti ek subah #
Koi saadharan kaamkaaji subah sochiye, jab “Log darwaaza thaamkar rakhein” zor se baj rahi ho. Station, office ki lobby, chai ki dukaan: darwaazon ki ek qataar, aur peethon ki ek qataar. Bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer.
Shayad bhaagdaud mein darwaaza lautta hai, kandha rok leta hai, aur pehli meeting chehre par halki garmi liye shuru hoti hai.
Yahan kuch bhi andaza nahi hai, aur aap jab chahein tasveer se bahar aa sakte ho.
Us subah mein aur kya hai, aur kise kam jagah milti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar aap kya gaur karte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Aage wale ne shayad aapko dekha hi nahi #
Hamein lagta hai log hamein jitna dekhte hain, asal mein usse kam dekhte hain. Aage wala khule paise gin raha ho sakta hai, koi message padh raha ho sakta hai, ya kisi mushkil meeting ke baare mein soch raha ho sakta hai. Uske liye shayad peeche koi tha hi nahi.
Isse darwaaza halka nahi ho jaata, aur aapki aas galat nahi ho jaati. Bas itna ki jhoolta darwaaza aapke baare mein, ya us anjaan ki logon ke baare mein soch ke baare mein, bahut kam kehta hoga.
Agar us anjaan ke din ka ek minute dekh paate, to aapka kya andaza hai, uske dimaag mein kya bhara tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo darwaaze thaame gaye #
Hafte mein kahin doosri tarah ka pal bhi raha hoga. Kisi kishor ne darwaaze ke saath intezaar kiya. Kisi delivery wale ne peeche hatkar aapko nikalne diya. Dukaan ke guard ne muskurakar handle kheencha.
Ye laute hue darwaaze ko radd nahi karte. Ye usi hafte mein hain, aur aasaani se anadekhe nikal jaate hain. Inhein dekhna bas ek nyota hai, koi pariksha nahi.
Kisi anjaan ki kaun si chhoti shishtata, is hafte ki ya kisi aur ki, aap thoda aur dekhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Do second jo din tay nahi karte #
Yahan sulah ka matlab shishtata ki aas chhodna nahi. Thaame hue darwaaze ki chaahat reh sakti hai. Jo badal sakta hai, wo ye ki ek jhoolta darwaaza baaki din mein kitni door tak pahunche.
Saarvajanik jagah mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur aapke aaspaas ke logon ke liye bhi.
Pareshan kiya jaana, peecha, video banana, chhoona ya pakadna, bheed mein dhakka dekar satna, ya aap jo hain us par nishaana banana (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, disability, ya aap kahan se hain) darwaaze ki baat nahi hai. Ise gambhirta se lein; hat jaana ya madad lena surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Agle dukaan ke darwaaze par is chaahat ko halke haath se thame hue sochiye: darwaaza jhoolta hai, aap rok lete ho, aur uske baad aap kis cheez ko dekhte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Darwaaze ke paas ke liye ek pankti #
“Log darwaaza thaamkar rakhein” ke bagal mein kuch log aisi pankti rakhte hain: “Mujhe thaame hue darwaazon wali duniya pasand hai, aur bina hisaab rakhe uska hissa banna bhi.” Ise jeetna zaroori nahi. Ye purani pankti ke bagal mein khadi hoti hai.
Shuru mein ye zyada suthri lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apne shabdon ki pankti jamti hai, chhoti, jo darwaaza pakadte-pakadte kahi ja sake.
Aapki apni pankti kya hogi, jo shishtata ke prati aapka pyaar bachaye aur jhoolte darwaaze ko chhota rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Darwaaza aapke peeche band ho sakta hai #
Har jhoolte darwaaze par faisla zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur peeche chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise thaile mein daali parchi, rehti hai par haath mein nahi.
Chhoti shishtata ki aas aapki reh sakti hai. Saarvajanik jagah par jis baat ne aapko hila diya, chot pahunchayi ya daraya, wo alag baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Aaj is pal ko jaane dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, aur isse kuch tay nahi hota. Bas itna ki agla ghanta aapka reh sakta hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar darwaaze ka niyam ek paaydan dheela pade #
Maan lijiye, bas ek tasveer ki tarah, ki aas ek paaydan neeche baithi hai. Darwaaza phir bhi lautta hai. Phir aap agla darwaaza kisi aur ke liye thaam lete ho, kyunki aap aisi jagah se guzarna chahte ho.
Wo chhota ho sakta hai. Counter tak thodi tez chaal. Cashier ke liye sachchi muskaan. Raat ke khaane par kisi aur baat ka kissa.
Ye aapke apne mann mein rehta hai, kisi ko sunana zaroori nahi. Aage: is chaahat se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur jo pehle se hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun sa chhota badlaav aap dekhoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Chhoti, private cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Darwaaza laute to mann mein us ehsaas ko ek shabd dijiye
- Is hafte ek darwaaza sirf isliye thaamiye ki aapko achha lagta hai
- Din khatam hone se pehle kisi anjaan ki ek shishtata par gaur kijiye
- Ginniye chubhan kitni der rehti hai, aur dekhiye hafte bhar mein badalti hai ya nahi
- Dekhiye zyada kya chubhta hai: darwaaza, ya anadekha kiya jaana
Jo aasaan lage, wo chun lijiye. Kisi mein kisi aur ki zaroorat nahi.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kis anjaan ki chhoti shishtata aapko barson baad bhi yaad hai?
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun hai jo sabke liye darwaaza thaamta hai, aur wo kaisa insaan hai?
- Duniya mein ya apne shehar mein kahan anjaan log aapko sabse naram lagte hain?
- Agar darwaaze ka niyam zara dheela ho, to aapki subahein kaisi lagengi?
- Anjaan logon ko aap kaun si chhoti shishtata sirf yun hi dena pasand karte ho?