Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Is chaah mein aur awaazein bhi mili ho sakti hain: wo teacher jisne aapmein kuch dekha, wo dost jisne raasta badla aur halka dikhne laga, aur aapki apni awaaz, jo us zindagi mein kuch kehna chahti hai jo zyadatar aapki jeeni hai.
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se bani: ek dost jiske Mummy-Papa ne kandhe uchkakar kaha “Jo mann kare karo,” videsh mein basa koi cousin jisne do baar bina baithak ke raasta badla, ya pasandida teacher jisne kaha ki ye vishay tum par jamta hai.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar unhein mujh par bharosa hota, to wo mujhe chunne dete,” ya “Mere kaam ka saath milna yaani jaisa main hoon waise pyaar milna.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har paarivarik mulaqat mein kaam ko phir samjhana, har baar thoda aur byora dekar
- Kisi jaani-maani company ya naye title ka zikr karna, is ummeed mein ki sawaal nipat jayega
- Wo course chunna jo ghar mein achha sunayi de, aur phir doosre wale ke baare mein sochte rehna
- Kaam ke sirf wahi hisse batana jo table par prabhavshali lagte hain
- Chunav chahne par apradh-bodh hona, aur wo aasani se na mile to chubhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Design ka kaam phir samjhana
Jaipur mein Sunday ka lunch. Mausi poochhti hain ki aap karte kya ho, aur is saal teesri baar aap design ka kaam samjhate ho. Papa baat cousin ki engineering ki seat par le jaate hain, aur sabke chehre zara zyada khil jaate hain. Aap dal aage badha dete ho, kuch nahi kehte. Ghar lautte waqt haath ghutnon par bhaari lagte hain, aur khidki par bhaap jam jaati hai.
Unhein kaam chunne dena chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mummy-Papa ko mera career chunne dena chahiye.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Aapka kaam, aapki zindagi, aapke din. Par dekhiye ab ye kya karta hai: aapka chunav unki manzoori ke intezaar mein adhoora rakhta hai. Jis kaam se aap pyaar karte ho uske har din mein, mann ka ek hissa us baatcheet mein bachav karta rehta hai jo kabhi poori nahi hoti.
Kaam hamara hissa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kaam hamari pehchan ka bada hissa hai, aur hum chahte hain ki uska saath mile. Shaayad ghar mein career bahut pehle tay ho jaate the, lagbhag tab jab aap unke baare mein bol bhi nahi sakte the. Shaayad aapne cousins ko usi raaste par wahwahi paate dekha. Jo bhi ho, chunna chahna bagaawat nahi. Ye apni zindagi apni chahne se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Gaadi mein bachav ka rehearsal
Aisa har lunch muqadma phir khol deta hai. Aap gaadi mein bachav ka rehearsal karte ho. Office ki achhi khabar daba lete ho taaki behas na chhide. Cousin ko milti muskurahatein ginte ho. Kaam ke sabse achhe dinon mein bhi ek halka tanav rehta hai, jaise chunav ab bhi katghare mein ho, aur vakeel bhi aap ho aur aaropi bhi aap.
Kya unki haami itni zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unki manzoori ka intezaar karne se kabhi aapko apne kaam mein zyada maza aaya? Ya zyadatar aap usi cheez ka bachav karte rahe jo aap chun chuke? Mummy-Papa aksar kaam ko lekar apne darr dhote hain, jo bahut pehle bane. Jo bhi ho, unka sir hilana aapke raaste ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us muqadme ke laayak hai jo kabhi band nahi hota?
Unke sir hilaye bina aapka kaam
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki ummeed karna band ho ki wo maan jayenge. Matlab ye ki aapka chunav aaj poora ho sakta hai, ho chuka hai, aapka hai. Kaam se pyaar banaye rakhne ke liye behas jeetna zaroori nahi. Kaam ke achhe din ko aap poore mann se jee sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: muqadma apne hi mann mein khatam hota hai, aur kaam bas aapka kaam reh jaata hai.
If choosing your own work has ever been met with threats, being shut out, or being kept at home, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mera career chunne dena chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleChunav ho chuka. Mera kaam unki haami ke bina bhi mera hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne kaam ka ek hissa chuniye jo pasand hai, sirf apne liye
- Kadam 2
Mann mein behas shuru ho to rukiye aur saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj kaam ka ek achha pal poore mann se jee lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sabse pehle kisne dekha ki aap kis cheez mein achhe ho, aur unhone kya kaha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Khaane ki table par intezaar karta vaakya #
Sunday ke khaane par design ka kaam ek baar phir samjhaya jaata hai, aur udhar cousin ki engineering ki seat par chehre zyada khil jaate hain. Ghar lautte waqt vaakya intezaar kar raha hota hai: “Mera career chunna mujh par chhodna chahiye.”
Sochne wale ko ye aisi baat lagti hai jo har bade ko milni chahiye: jis kaam mein din guzarte hain, use chunna apna haq. Isiliye ise ek ummeed ki tarah pehchanna ajeeb lag sakta hai.
Kaam aur Mummy-Papa ko lekar ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur table par abhi-abhi kya kaha gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab se pehle jo utarta hai #
Kuch logon ko halka-sa dhansna mehsoos hota hai, jab koi poochhta hai, “Achha, par tum din bhar karte kya ho?” ya jab kisi rishtedaar ke bachche ki medical mein seat lagti hai aur kamra bade aaram se aapki taraf mud jaata hai.
Kuch ko chehra garam hota lagta hai, jawab aadha ban chuka hota hai, aur haath ki chammach neeche rakh di jaati hai. Ye ehsaas aksar isse pehle aa jaata hai ki asal mein kya poochha gaya tha, aur safayi dena tab shuru ho jaata hai jab kisi ne maangi bhi nahi.
Pichhli baar jab Mummy-Papa ke saath aapke kaam ki baat nikli, to kuch bolne se pehle aapne apne andar kya dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chunav ki chaah mein asal baat hai #
Ye ummeed theek-thaak lagti hai, aur isme sach mein dum hai. Jo kaam aap chunte ho, wo barson tak aapke jaagne ke zyadatar ghante bharta hai, isliye use khud chunne ki chaah khwaahish kam aur bade hone ki buniyadi shakl zyada lagti hai.
Is chaah mein aur awaazein bhi mili ho sakti hain: wo teacher jisne aapmein kuch dekha, wo dost jisne raasta badla aur halka dikhne laga, aur aapki apni awaaz, jo us zindagi mein kuch kehna chahti hai jo zyadatar aapki jeeni hai.
Agar kaam ka chunav bas aapka hota, aur kisi ko kuch samjhana na hota, to ek aam Monday ki subah kaisi lagti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo rehearsal karti rehti hai #
“Meri zindagi hai, unki nahi.” “Wo mere kaam par garv kyun nahi kar sakte?” “Baaki logon ke Mummy-Papa toh chunne dete hain.” Ye awaaz aksar paarivarik lunch ke baad gaadi mein bolti hai, ya tab jab kisi dost ki nayi job ki post par ungli ruki ho.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki awaaz do baatein saath dhoti hai: chunne ki jaayaz chaah, aur chunav mein saath diye jaane ki ummeed. Jab saath nahi milta, to chunne ki chaah aisi cheez lagne lagti hai jise baar-baar jeetna pade.
Jab awaaz aapka paksh Mummy-Papa ke aage rakhti hai, to kaun-si line baar-baar lautti hai, aur wahi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Chunne ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se bani: ek dost jiske Mummy-Papa ne kandhe uchkakar kaha “Jo mann kare karo,” videsh mein basa koi cousin jisne do baar bina baithak ke raasta badla, ya pasandida teacher jisne kaha ki ye vishay tum par jamta hai. Jo doosron ko mila, wo chupchaap “saamanya” ki tasveer bana deta hai.
Kuch mein ye ghar se aayi: barson tak “Pehle number achhe le aao, phir dekhenge,” jo baad mein chunav ke vaade ki tarah suna gaya. Kuch parivaaron mein raasta tab se tay kiya jaata hai jab bachcha use chahne laayak bhi nahi hota. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Kaun-sa pal tha jab pehli baar laga ki aapka career aapka apna chunav hoga, aur us waqt kaun maujood tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ummeed ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar unhein mujh par bharosa hota, to wo mujhe chunne dete,” ya “Mere kaam ka saath milna yaani jaisa main hoon waise pyaar milna.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki kaam se juda har sawaal kaise padha jaye.
Ye seedha insaaf jaisa lagta hai, aur isme dum bhi hai. Isiliye ise dekhna zaroori hai, Mummy-Papa aur aapke kaam ke saath, jaise wo aaj hain, sirf pichhli behas ke waqt jaise nahi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi mein kaam chunne wala niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein ye faasla kya le jaata hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai tyohaar ka khaana jo us sawaal ke intezaar mein guzre, office ki achhi khabar jo chhoti karke batayi jaye taaki behas na chhide, ya job ka offer jo is hisaab se taula jaye ki ghar mein kaisa sunayi dega. Kuch bhi tez nahi; sab kuch maujood.
Kaam ka rang bhi kuch feeka pad sakta hai. Jab kaam ka har sawaal chunav par vote jaisa lage, to kaam ka maza lena mushkil ho jaata hai, aur kuch log dekhte hain ki wo apne din doston ko bhi sambhal-sambhalkar, sapaat dhang se batate hain.
Itne lambe waqt tak pakdi chaah ka wazan hota hai.
Haal mein kaam ka kaun-sa aam pal sabse zyada is rang mein ranga tha ki Mummy-Papa us par kya kahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Job samjhate hue paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mera career chunna mujh par chhodna chahiye” zor se baje. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad ek video call jismein kaam phir samjhaya jaye aur vinamra sir hilakar nipta diya jaye, office ka achha review jo aadhe vaakya mein bata diya gaya, kisi mulaqat ke ird-gird bana weekend, apne kaam ka ek idea jo kisi aur din par chhoot gaya.
Isme kuch bhi bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein hatayi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: ghar ke phone, messages, meeting, jo ankaha reh gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapki nazar kis par rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chunne dena, kis tarah? #
Mummy-Papa ke kareeb rehna aur apne faisle khud lena, dono ek hi zindagi mein reh sakte hain. Kuch log paate hain ki Mummy-Papa raaste se poori tarah sehmat nahi hote, phir bhi doosre dhang se saath aate hain, jaise us kshetra ka forward kiya hua article, ya kisi saathi ka naam lekar poochha gaya sawaal.
“Mujhe chunne do” mein kai baatein ho sakti hain: roz ki behas khatam, kaam ke baare mein asli sawaal, garv jo kaha jaye, aur baad mein raasta badalne par bharosa. Inmein se kuch Mummy-Papa ki us kshetra ke baare mein raay par tiki hain; kuch shaayad nahi.
“Mujhe chunne do” ke shabdon mein jo kuch bhara hai, usmein abhi aapke liye sabse zaroori kya hai, aur kaun-sa hissa pehle se aapka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Kaam ke saath ghar ki chhoti baatein #
Kaam ke aaspaas ghar se chhoti-chhoti cheezein shaayad pehle se aa rahi hain: nayi job ke pehle din ek message, subah ki shift se pehle baandha gaya tiffin, padosi ko aapka job title dohraya jaana, zara galat.
Inmein se kisi ko chukana nahi hai, aur inse chunav ki chaah kam jaayaz nahi hoti; dono saath baith sakti hain. Jo cheezein kisi ne maangi nahi, wahi aksar chhoot jaati hain, aur unmein se kuch sambhalkar rakhne laayak ho sakti hain.
Kai mahine aise bhi ho sakte hain jinmein aisa bahut kam ho, aur wo theek hai.
Mummy-Papa aapki kaam ki zindagi mein pehle se kya laate hain jise aap nazar mein rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Kaam jo aapka hi rahe #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye zyada maang thi, ya sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jo saath aapne chaha aur jo hua, unke beech ka faasla har paarivarik khaane, har phone aur kaam ke har kadam ka ehsaas tay karna band kar de.
Jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: ki aapka kaam aapka apna ho. Agar apna kaam chunne par kabhi dhamki, baatcheet band kar dena, ya ghar mein rok liya jaana hua ho, to wo kuch aur hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak; saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai safayi dena, taaki jo chunav ho chuka hai wo ho chuka rahe. Jahan ghar mein koi sach mein buri tarah pesh aata ho, wahan use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Is ummeed se sulah wala ek paarivarik khaana sochiye: apne kaam ka kaun-sa hissa aap khushi se batana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mera career chunna mujh par chhodna chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine chaha tha ki wo mere chunav ka saath dein, aur kaam ka maza ab bhi mere haath mein hai.” Ise jeetna zaroori nahi, bas purane vaakya ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Shuru mein ye patla lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apne shabdon ka vaakya waqt ke saath thodi aur jagah bana leta hai; kuch ko nahi jamta, aur koi doosra vaakya hamesha aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chaah ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur phir bhi aapka kaam aapke haath mein rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch behasein darwaze par rakhi reh sakti hain #
Kaam se juda har sawaal isi lunch mein nipatana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise ghar ke darwaze par tika office ka bag ya Lucknow se lautti train mein band kiya gaya laptop.
Kuch tablein is baatcheet ke liye taiyaar nahi hotin, aur kisi ko un par aazmana nahi hai. Jahan ghar mein koi sach mein buri tarah pesh aata ho, wahan use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Kaam mein saath milne ki chaah jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki ye theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki purani behas ko har paarivarik table par aapke saath nahi baithna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar dheela ho, ek darja bhi #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Chunne ki chaah ab bhi hai, par khaane ki table par sawaal bas sawaal hai, muqadma nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: office ka achha din kisi dost ko bina kaat-chhaant ke batana, ek Sunday jismein us vishay ka intezaar na ho, ya ek shaam kaam ke us hisse par jo sabse pasand hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ki apne kaam ka kaun-sa hissa aap ghar par alag dhang se batate ho
- Ghar mein kaam ki baat chhide to dhyaan dijiye ki pehla ehsaas kaun-sa aata hai
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mere kaam ka kaun-sa hissa mujhe sach mein achha lagta hai?
- Dekhiye ki mann mein chalta jawab is sawaal ka hai ya kisi purane sawaal ka
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sabse pehle kisne dekha ki aap kis cheez mein achhe ho, aur unhone kya kaha?
- Khaane mein kaam par poochha gaya kaun-sa sawaal ab bhi bajta hai, aur aap kya keh dena chahte the?
- Aapke kaam ka kaun-sa hissa aap kisi aam din Mummy-Papa ko sabse zyada dikhana chahenge?
- Agar Mummy-Papa se chunne dene ki chaah thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aap kya dekhenge?
- Mummy-Papa aapki kaam ki zindagi mein pehle se kya laate hain jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?