Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
“Chahiye” tab bhaari lagta hai jab usme aur awaazein bhi hon: aapke maa-baap ne aapse kya chaha, rishtedaaron ne jamavdon mein kya poochha, kisi kathin saal mein aapne khud se kya waada kiya.
Kuch logon mein tasveer is tarah bani ki apne maa-baap ko un maukon ke liye mehnat karte dekha jo khud unhein nahi mile: ek maa ka “Padh le, to tere paas chunne ko hoga”, pita ka report card par table par garv.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachchon ko mujhse aasaan mile to meri mehnat ka matlab hua,” ya “Unki mushkilein batati hain ki maine kaafi nahi kiya.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har nateeje aur message mein dekhna ki wo aapse behtar kar rahe hain ya nahi
- Apne shuruaati saal dobara sunana, taaki wo samjhein kitni door aaye hain
- Unhein un chunaavon ki or modna jo aapke liye kabhi khule nahi the
- Bachche ke ek aam bure hafte ko apni haar ki tarah mehsoos karna
- “Bas khush raho” kehna, phir fikar karna jab unki khushi aapse alag dikhe
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Daftar ki job ki jagah baking
Sunday shaam Bhopal ke flat mein aapki beti batati hai ki wo office ki job chhodkar baking seekhegi aur weekend market mein chhota counter lagayegi. Aap muskurakar kehte ho, “Theek hai, jisme tumhari khushi.” Par mann mein wo lambe ghante aate hain jo isliye jiye taaki wo dhakke na khaye, wo mauke jo aapko kabhi nahi mile. Baad mein akele sochte ho: kya saari mehnat isi ke liye thi?
Aapke bachchon ki zindagi behtar ho
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachchon ki zindagi meri zindagi se behtar honi chahiye.” Ye har maa-baap ki sabse gehri aas lagti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka chain is par tika deta hai ki unki zindagi aapki “behtar” ki tasveer se mile. Aapki qurbaaniyan saarthak rahin ya nahi, ab un chunaavon par tika hai jo unke hain, unke apne paimane se.
Hum itna kyun dete hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki unhein zyada dene ke liye hum bahut kuch dete hain. Shayad aap bahut kam mein bade hue aur unke liye use badalne ki mehnat ki. Shayad apne sapne murjhate dekhe aur aas ki ki unke sach hon. Dono haal mein, unke liye behtar zindagi chahna zabardasti nahi hai. Ye gehre pyaar se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har chunaav par jagne wali fikar
Har chunaav jo peeche hatne jaisa dikhe, fikar jagata hai. Aap unki zindagi ko apni se taulne lagte ho. Sochte ho ki aapki mehnat kahin bekaar toh nahi gayi. Wo salah dete ho jo unhone maangi nahi, phir khud bahar mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere aapka pyaar ek chupchaap bani scoresheet mein ulajh jaata hai, aur saamne ki khushi chhoot jaati hai kyunki wo tasveer jaisi nahi dikhti.
Kya aapki “behtar” tasveer keemat laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya “behtar” ki apni tasveer pakde rehne se kabhi unki zindagi zyada khush hui? Ya zyadatar aapki fikar badhi? Bachche aksar achhi zindagiyan aisi shakalon mein paate hain jinki maa-baap ne kalpana nahi ki thi. Jo bhi ho, unke chunaav is baat ka paimana nahi ki aapki qurbaaniyon ka kya matlab tha. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
“Behtar” wo khud tay karein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapki qurbaaniyan bemaayne thin. Matlab ye ki aapka chain ab unki zindagi ke kisi ek dhang par nahi tika. Aapki mehnat ne unhein sachche chunaav diye, aur ab wo unka istemaal kar rahe hain. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap dekh sakte ho ki “behtar” ka matlab azaad, khush ya bas unka apna ho sakta hai, aur usme aapne unhein kuch diya hai.
Basic respect and safety are never too much to expect; if anyone in the family is threatened, hurt or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bachchon ki zindagi meri zindagi se behtar honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri mehnat ne unhein chunaav diye. “Behtar” unka apna ho sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Gaur kijiye bachcha abhi kis baat mein khush dikhta hai
- Din 2
Wo ek chunaav yaad kijiye jo aapki mehnat ne unhein diya
- Din 3
Aaj ek cheez sirf apne liye kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapne pehli baar khud se kab waada kiya ki aapke bachchon ko aasaan milega, aur tab kya chal raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo aas jo barson ko ek disha deti hai #
“Mere bachchon ki zindagi meri zindagi se behtar honi chahiye.” Ye school ke Annual Day mein aa sakti hai, kitchen ki table par kisi course ka form bharte hue, ya jab beta Habibganj se train mein aise sheher ke liye baithe jo aapne uski umar mein dekha bhi nahi tha.
Sunne mein isme kuch kathin nahi lagta. Ye disha wale pyaar jaisi lagti hai: subah jaldi uthne ki wajah, lambe baras, wo chunaav jo isliye kiye gaye ki bachche ko aapse zyada khuli jagah mile. Isiliye ye ummeed kam aur maqsad zyada lagti hai.
Bachchon ke liye apne se behtar zindagi ki chaah aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi, aur tab abhi-abhi kya hua tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Uchhaal aur dhansna #
Kuch maa-baap ko achhi khabar par seene mein uchhaal mehsoos hota hai, koi number, koi nayi job, koi sheher jo hamesha dekhna chaha, aur turant dhansna bhi, jab bachcha course chhodne ya atke hone ki baat kare, jaise khabar kuch had tak maa-baap ki bhi ho.
Ehsaas kisi khayal se pehle aa sakta hai: ek sawaal zara jaldi poochh liya jaana, “Par wo…?”, bachcha abhi samjha hi raha ho aur muskaan phisal jaye. Sochna baad mein hota hai, shaam ki shaanti mein din ko dohrate hue.
Pichhli baar jab aapke kisi bachche ne bataya ki kuch theek nahi chal raha, to jawab dene se pehle shuru ke kuch second mein aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Unke liye zyada chahna samajh aata hai #
Ye ummeed isliye jaayaz lagti hai ki agli peedhi ke liye zyada chahna ek aam, pyaar bhari aas hai, aur shayad barson ki mehnat ke peeche yahi hai. Ye us mehnat ka matlab lagti hai, uske upar lagi alag chaah nahi.
“Chahiye” tab bhaari lagta hai jab usme aur awaazein bhi hon: aapke maa-baap ne aapse kya chaha, rishtedaaron ne jamavdon mein kya poochha, kisi kathin saal mein aapne khud se kya waada kiya. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki bachche ki aas mein unki apni kahani chal rahi hai.
Agar bachchon ki behtar zindagi ko unke ek aam din ki tarah sochna ho, to us din mein kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Feeta haath mein liye hui awaaz #
“Isiliye toh itna kiya tha ki ye dhakke na khayein.” “Hamare zamaane mein ye mauka milta to…” “Mujhse kahan chook hui?” Ye awaaz aksar kisi bhaari phone ke baad bolti hai, ya doosron ke bachchon ki khabrein scroll karte hue.
Bachche ke liye achha chahna koi samasya nahi; wo tab bhaari hota hai jab har jhatka faisle jaisa lagne lage. Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki awaaz bachche ke aam din ko apne jiye barson se taulne lagti hai.
Jab awaaz aapke bachche ki zindagi ko aapki zindagi se taulti hai, to aapke apne kaun se barson par baar-baar lautti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Wo waada pehli baar kahan kiya gaya #
Kuch logon mein tasveer is tarah bani ki apne maa-baap ko un maukon ke liye mehnat karte dekha jo khud unhein nahi mile: ek maa ka “Padh le, to tere paas chunne ko hoga”, pita ka report card par table par garv. Kuch parivaaron mein har peedhi ko seedhi ka agla paayedaan kaha jaata hai.
Kuch mein ye apne kisi pal se aati hai: chhoota hua mauka, na khula darwaza, pehla bachcha hone par chupchaap kiya waada. Kuch log aisi aas bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapki apni zindagi ka kaun sa pal tha jab pehli baar bachchon se behtar ka waada kiya, aur aap kahan the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo unke bure hafte padhta hai #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachchon ko mujhse aasaan mile to meri mehnat ka matlab hua,” ya “Unki mushkilein batati hain ki maine kaafi nahi kiya.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki unka har kathin hafta kaise lage.
Ye kabhi khud ko niyam nahi batata. Ye maa-baap ka pyaar jaisa lagta hai jiske saath paimana juda ho, aur isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, bachchon ki aaj ki zindagi ke baghal mein, unke apne aam utaar-chadhaav ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapke bachchon ki aaj ki zindagi mein behtar zindagi ka niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Taulte rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisa phone jisme bachche ki jagah tarakki ko suna jaye, bachche ki ek feeki shaam ko khatre ki ghanti maan lena, ya mulaqaat jisme yojanaon ke sawaal aasaan baatcheet ko daba dein. Kuch bhi shor wala nahi; sab kuch wahan.
Yeh ulti taraf bhi ja sakta hai. Jab bachche ki aam mushkilein maa-baap ki nakaami ka saboot lagein, to uska bura hafta aapka bura hafta ban sakta hai, aur chhoti kathin baatein dono ke liye kehna aur kathin ho jaati hain.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ke saath kaun sa aam pal sabse zyada is jaanch se ranga tha ki uski zindagi aapse behtar nikal rahi hai ya nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Taulte rehne ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “mere bachchon ko mujhse behtar zindagi milni chahiye” zor se sunai de. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad unke message mein ye dhoondhna ki wo aapke us umar ke haal se behtar kar rahe hain, kisi saheli ke bete ki khabar par jhat se taulna, yojanaon par lautti call, unke weekend ki photo mein suraag khojna.
Isme abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko jab chahein rakha ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: message, phone, tulnayein, na poochhe gaye sawaal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhkar kya aankh mein aata hai, agar kuch aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Behtar, kis maayne mein? #
“Behtar” mein bahut kuch aa sakta hai: zyada mauke, zyada aaram, zyada chunaav, apni galtiyan karne ki zyada azaadi. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki jo tasveer wo liye chalte hain wo unke apne chhoote hisson se bani thi, aur bachche ke chhoote hisse alag ho sakte hain.
Bachchon ke kareeb hona aur unhein apne chunaav ki jagah dena saath-saath chal sakte hain. Bachcha doosri raah le sakta hai, dheemi ya oobad-khaabad, aur us raah mein bhi achhi cheezein ho sakti hain.
“Behtar zindagi” shabdon mein jo kuch bhara hai, usme kaun sa hissa aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai, aur kaun sa sach mein aapke apne barson ki baat hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bachche abhi kya laate hain #
Aaj, kisi din ke bajaye, shayad usme kuch dekhne laayak hai jo aapke bachche pehle se laate hain, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya betarteeb: bus se bheja voice note, kisi recipe ki maang, purani paarivaarik kahani par hansi, koi naya gaana.
Ise dekhna koi farz ya karz nahi, aur ye chaah ko chhota nahi karta: unke liye zyada chahna aur jo yahan hai use dekhna, dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain. Bina maange ke chhote pal shayad sabse dekhne laayak hain.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo theek hai.
Aapke bachche kisi aam hafte mein pehle se kya laate hain jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur aas ko rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada thi, ya ki wo sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis zindagi ki aapne unke liye aas ki aur jo zindagi wo jee rahe hain, unke beech ka faasla har call, nateeje aur yojana ke ehsaas ko tay karna band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: bachchon ke paas chunaav hon, aapke barson ki mehnat ginti jaye. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo taulna hai, taaki unka kathin hafta bas kathin hafta rahe, jisme aap baghal mein hon, aapke khilaaf koi nishaan nahi.
Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha, aapke aur unke liye, “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi.
Is aas se sulah wali bachche se baatcheet ki kalpana kijiye: aap kya poochte, aur kya sunkar achha lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Aas ke paas rakhne ko ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mere bachchon ki zindagi meri zindagi se behtar honi chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unke maukon ke liye mehnat maine ki, aur unki zindagi unki apni hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke baghal mein khada rehna hai.
Pehle-pehal ise kehna ajeeb lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna vaakya dheere-dheere purani aas ke baghal mein jagah banata hai; kuch ko nahi jamta, aur dono theek hain. Koi aur vaakya kisi aur din aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo unke liye aapki aas rakhe aur unki zindagi unke haath mein chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch aasein drawer mein rakhi ja sakti hain #
Bachche ke bhavishya ki har aas ka is hafte jawab dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal thaama ja sakta hai aur rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Bhopal mein drawer mein sarkayi school ki photo, ya kitaabon ki almari par tiki.
Bachchon ke baare mein koi aas jab tak chahe nijee reh sakti hai, aur wo phir bhi aapki hai, jaanne laayak hai, unke agle nateeje ya agle kadam se alag.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya sulajh gaya. Bas itna ki unka agla nateeja ya agla kadam poori raat aapke baghal mein baitha rahe, ye zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar taulna ek paayedaan dheela ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek paayedaan shaant hai. Unki bhalai ki aas ab bhi hai, par unka kathin hafta bas kathin hafta hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: unke message mein ye padhna ki din kaisa gaya, weekend ki photo ka usme jo hai uske liye maza lena, ya apni yojanaon aur apne barson wali ek shaam.
Isme se kuch kisi ko kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai, aur dekhne laayak hai. Aage: is aas se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Kisi dost ke bachche ki khabar aaye to gaur kijiye ki aapka mann kya taulta hai
- Bachche ki khabar aaye to gaur kijiye ki aap sabse pehle kya sunte ho
- Aaj apne liye jo ek chhoti cheez chahi thi, use dekhiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: ye paimana kiske barson se bana hai?
- Bachche ka din uska apna sochiye, bina kisi tulna ke
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapne pehli baar khud se kab waada kiya ki aapke bachchon ko aasaan milega, aur tab kya chal raha tha?
- Bachche ka kaun sa kathin hafta aapke saath raha, aur aapne khud se uske baare mein kya kaha?
- Kaun sa mauka ya aaram aap bachchon ke liye sabse zyada chahte the jo aapko kabhi nahi mila?
- Agar unki zindagi ko apni se taulna thoda dheela ho, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhoge?
- Bachchon ke saath abhi ka kaun sa chhota, aam pal aap aur dekhna chahoge?