Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ek hi ghar mein pale bade log uski alag-alag tasveerein liye ho sakte hain, aur har tasveer use liye baithe insaan ko poori lagti hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye dekhkar bani: bhai jo saath dukaan chalate the, behenein jo har shaam phone par, cousin bhai-behen jo ek hi gali mein rehkar ek-doosre ki rasoi mein aate-jaate the.
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Maine theek se pala to ye kareeb rahenge,” ya “Jis parivaar mein jhagde hote hain wahan kahin chook hui hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Unke beech sandesh pahunchana, har sandesh raaste mein naram karke
- Har get-together ki plan banana ki kaun kiske paas baithega
- Niji mein ek bachche se sahmat hona, aur sabke saamne doosre se
- Chhote mein unki nazdeeki yaad dilana, ki baat lag jaye
- Kuch na kehna, aur phir pichhle khaane ko raat bhar dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Remote, phir pichhle saal ka jhagda
Bhopal mein Itwaar ki dopahar. Aapke dono bachche phir lad rahe hain, pehle remote par, phir kisne kya kaha, phir pichhle saal ki kisi baat par. Aap beech mein padkar maamla shaant karte ho, aur das minute baad phir shuru ho jaata hai. Aap rasoi mein jaakar counter se tikkar aankhein band kar lete ho. Bas itna chahte ho ki wo dost banein, aur ye bahut door lagta hai.
Bachchon mein aapas mein bani rahe
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachchon mein aapas mein bani rehni chahiye.” Ye har maa-baap ke sapne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ghar mein aapka chain do insaanon ke mizaaj aur swabhaav se baandh deta hai. Aapka hafta shaant rahega ya nahi, ye un bhai-behenon par tika hai jo shayad bas bahut alag hain, aur saath ki jagah baantna ab bhi seekh rahe hain.
Hum kareebi, garm parivaar kyun chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum chahte hain ki parivaar kareeb aur garm ho. Shayad aap apne bhai-behenon ke kareeb the, aur wahi apne bachchon ke liye chahte hain. Shayad aap kareeb nahi the, aur ummeed thi ki unke liye alag hoga. Jo bhi ho, unki aapas mein bani rahe ye chahna zyada nahi hai. Ye pyaar se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har jhagda kitni urja le jaata hai
Har jhagda aapki thodi urja le jaata hai. Aap baat shuru hone se pehle hi beech mein padne lagte ho. Apne hi ghar mein referee jaisa lagta hai. Aap fikr karte ho ki unki ladaiyaan aage ke barson ke baare mein kya kehti hain. Dheere-dheere ghar mein tanaav rehne lagta hai, aur har bachche ke saath ke chhote garm pal chhoot jaate hain kyunki aap agli ladai par nazar rakhte ho.
Kya har pal ki shaanti laayak hai?
Imaandari se poochhiye: kya unka aapas mein banna zaroori maanne se kabhi jhagde ruke? Ya zyadatar aap bas aur thak gaye? Bhai-behen bade hone ke raaste mein aksar jhagadte hain, aur bahut-se baad mein kareeb aate hain. Jo bhi ho, aaj ka jhagda unke rishte ya aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Rishte jo dheere-dheere badhte hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap unke kareeb aane ki aas chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapka chain har dopahar ke suchaaru chalne par nahi tika. Aap chhote jhagdon se peechhe hat sakte ho, har bachche ke saath akele waqt ka maza le sakte ho, aur bharosa rakh sakte ho ki bhai-behenon ke rishte dheere-dheere badhte hain. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: ghar phir ghar lag sakta hai, jhagdon samet.
If one of your children is ever frightened of, or hurt by, another, that isn't a quarrel to step back from; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bachchon mein aapas mein bani rehni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJhagde bade hone ka hissa hain. Rishte dheere-dheere badhte hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Chhote jhagde mein padne se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 2
Har bachche ke saath das minute akele bitaiye
- Din 3
Is hafte unke beech ka ek naram pal notice kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun sa paarivaarik khaana aap ab bhi dohrate hain, aur wo mod kaun sa tha jahan baat palti?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Har paarivaarik mez par rakhi ek chaah #
“Mere bachchon mein aapas mein bani rehni chahiye.” Ye chhote-chhote palon mein ubharta hai: birthday ki daawat mein do kursiyan door-door lagi hui, raat ko bhai-behenon ke group mein padhi gayi ek chubhti line, ya koi ek jaldi nikal gaya to parking mein khade hokar.
Isme kuch sakht nahi. Ye maa-baap ki sabse saadi chaahat jaisa sunayi deta hai: saath pale log ek-doosre ki taraf rahein, aur school ke barson ke baad bhi parivaar ki mez par sabke liye jagah rahe.
Apne bachchon ke aapsi rishte wala ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur tab aap unmein se kiske baare mein soch rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek shabd kahe jaane se pehle ki taiyaari #
Kuch maa-baap ko ye kasaav ki tarah lagta hai jab ek hi message mein do naam dikhein, ya jab ek bachcha kahe “Wo aa raha hai to mera aana rehne do”. Mez par kuch kaha jaane se pehle hi body tan sakti hai.
Kuch ko baat sambhalne ki hadbadi lagti hai: bahut jaldi kiya gaya mazaak, theek waqt par aage badhayi gayi thaali, purana jhagda paanv jamaye usse pehle badla gaya vishay. Sambhalna aksar is soch se pehle shuru ho jaata hai ki zaroorat bhi hai ya nahi.
Pichhli baar jab aapke do bachche aapke saamne bhide, to theek karne ke liye hilne se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Parivaar hone ke dil ke paas #
Ye ummeed waajib isliye lagti hai ki ye parivaar hone ke dil ke bahut paas baithti hai. Saajhe kamron, school ki gaadiyon aur chhuttiyon ke barson ke baad swabhaavik lagta hai ki kareebi bas chalti rahe.
Ek hi ghar mein pale bade log uski alag-alag tasveerein liye ho sakte hain, aur har tasveer use liye baithe insaan ko poori lagti hai. Maa-baap ko jo ek saajha bachpan dikhta hai, wo bheetar se do-teen alag bachpan jaisa dikh sakta hai.
Aapke bachchon ki aapas mein ban rahi ho, ye ek aam dopahar ki tasveer mein sochein, to wo saath kya kar rahe honge, aur kahan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Sab kuch thaamne ki koshish wali awaaz #
“Ye baat jaane kyun nahi dete?” “Main inhein jodkar na rakhoon to kaun rakhega?” “Jab ye chhote the tab mujhse kya chook hui?” Ye awaaz get-together jaldi khatam hone ke baad bolti hai, ya bhai-behenon ki chat ke shabd se zyada uska lehja padhte hue.
“Chahiye” tab bhaari lagta hai jab uske saath aur awaazein sawaar hon: rishtedaar jo poochhein ki “Ek kyun nahi aaya?”, padosi ke parivaar ki photo phone par, aapke apne maa-baap ke purane shabd “Parivaar to parivaar hota hai”. Kuch maa-baap ko in sabke neeche apni chaah sunna mushkil lagta hai.
Jab paarivaarik khaane ke baad ye awaaz bolti hai, to kiske shabd udhaar leti hai, aur sabse zyada kya sanjokar rakhna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kareebi bhai-behenon ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye dekhkar bani: bhai jo saath dukaan chalate the, behenein jo har shaam phone par, cousin bhai-behen jo ek hi gali mein rehkar ek-doosre ki rasoi mein aate-jaate the. Kuch gharon mein bhai-behenon ka ek rehna bas aisa hi tha.
Kuch ke liye iske ulat se: apne maata-pita aur kisi chacha ke beech barson chala jhagda, aur chupchaap kiya waada ki apne bachche kabhi aise door nahi honge. Kuch log aisi tasveer chhoti umar tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Apne bade hone ke kaun se bhai-behenon ne aapki tasveer banayi ki bhai-behen kaise hone chahiye, aur aapne unhein kya karte dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Har jhagde ko padhne wala niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Maine theek se pala to ye kareeb rahenge,” ya “Jis parivaar mein jhagde hote hain wahan kahin chook hui hai.” Pehla sentence sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki unke beech har jhagda kaise padha jaye, aur dosh kise jaye.
Bheetar se ye niyam hai hi nahi, bas poore parivaar ke liye ek saath pyaar hai. Isi se ise dekhna zaroori ho jaata hai, aapke bachchon ke saath rakhkar jaise wo aaj bade hain, apne gharon, apne mizaaj aur apne itihaas ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko chhoti umar se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki paarivaarik zindagi mein bachchon ki aapas mein banne wala niyam kahan ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Beech mein khade rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki shaamein ek bachche se phone par, phir doosre se, ek hi kahani ko do shaklon mein dhote hue beetein. Khaane seating chart ki tarah tay hona. Kisi ek ki achhi mulaqat par is fikr ka saaya ki doosra is baare mein kya kahega.
Waqt ke saath kuch aur ghis sakta hai. Jhukna is par nirbhar karke alag lagta hai ki kyun: kuch achha laane ko, ya jhanjhat se bachne ko. Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki barson beech ki kadi bane rehne se har bachche ke saath apne saade, alag rishte ke liye bahut kam jagah bachti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein kaun sa paarivaarik mauka aapne zyadatar sambhalne mein bitaya, uska maza lene ki jagah, aur usme aapse kya chhoota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Beech mein khade paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din jab “Mere bachchon mein aapas mein bani rahe” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad paarivaarik khaane se pehle subah do bachchon ke beech sandesh pahunchate beeti, baithne ka naqsha do baar badla, ek bachche ki call chhoti rakhi ki kahin doosre ko pata na chale, group chat ka jawab dene ko shaam ki sair chhooti.
Isme se kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur ye tasveer jab chahein rakh di ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: callein, aage diye sandesh, Itwaar ke khaane ki plans, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhein to aapko kuch nazar aata hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Aapas mein banna, kis shakl mein? #
Aapas mein banne ki kai shaklein ho sakti hain. Kuch bhai-behen saal mein do baar baat karte hain aur zaroorat par haazir rehte hain; kuch roz message karte hain aur hafte mein jhagadte hain. Do bade log door se ek-doosre ko chaah sakte hain, ya bas shishtta rah sakte hain, aur dono ab bhi parivaar hain.
Ummeed tab sabse achhi chalti hai jab wo utni ho jitni nibh sake. Maa-baap mez laga sakte hain, darwaaza khula rakh sakte hain, aur zor se aas kar sakte hain. Do bade log ek-doosre ko kya maante hain, ye aakhir mein unka hi nibhana hai.
“Aapas mein bani rahe” ke shabdon mein aapko sabse zyada kiski aas hai: mez par shaanti, mushkil waqt mein madad, ya unke beech garmjoshi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Har bachcha pehle se kya laata hai #
Kabhi-kabhi kuch maa-baap ko ye dekhna bhaata hai ki har bachcha parivaar ko pehle se kya deta hai, chahe chhota ya betartib: koi jise har birthday yaad rehta hai, koi jo router theek kar deta hai, mez par wo saajhi hansi jo purana vishay chhidne se pehle aayi.
Isme kuch bakaya nahi, aur ise dekhne se aas waisi hi rehti hai; aur chahna tatha jo hai use dekhna ek mez par baith sakte hain. Unke beech ya aapki taraf ki chhoti bin-maangi meharbaniyan shayad sabse zyada dekhne laayak hon.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Ek aam hafte mein aapka har bachcha parivaar ko pehle se kya deta hai, jise aap aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur jo waajib hai use rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki aapke bachchon ke beech ki doori parivaar ki har plan, har phone call aur har get-together ke baad ki har shaam ko chalana chhod de.
Isme jo waajib hai wo reh sakta hai: unki ek-doosre ki khabar rakhne ki aas, dono ke liye darwaaza khula rakhna. Jo dheeli ho sakti hai wo unhein akele jode rakhne ka kaam hai, taaki khaana lagaya ja sake aur wo mez par apne shabd khud khoj lein.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke bachchon ke beech ya aapke prati. Agar kabhi aapka koi bachcha kisi doosre se darta ho ya usse aahat ho, to wo aisa jhagda nahi jisse peechhe hata jaye; use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Aur jahan parivaar mein koi sachmuch buri tarah pesh aata ho, wahan bado ke jhagde se bahar rehna jaayaz hai.
Sochiye, is ummeed se sulah wala paarivaarik khaana: aap kis cheez ka maza le rahe honge, aur kisse baat kar rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Parivaar ki mez ke liye ek zyada sachchi line #
“Mere bachchon mein aapas mein bani rehni chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ummeed hai wo ek-doosre tak apna raasta khojenge, aur tab tak har ek ko chahne ka kaam mera hai.” Ye jeetne ke liye nahi, purani ke bagal mein khadi hone ke liye hai.
Shuru ke kuch baar ye patli sunayi de sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apni line istemaal se thodi aur pakki hoti milti hai; kuch ko kabhi poori nahi baithti, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachchi line kya hogi, jo aas rakhe aur unhein akele jode rakhne ka kaam rakh de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch jhagde aaj raat dhone ke nahi #
Bade ho chuke bachchon ke har jhagde ko aapko, ya agle khaane tak, sulajhana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko bas notice kiya jaye, mehsoos kiya jaye aur kuch waqt ke liye rakh diya jaye, jaise mehmaanon ke jaane ke baad, Bhopal mein ho ya Melbourne mein, deewar se satakar rakh di gayi faltu kursi.
Jahan parivaar mein koi sachmuch buri tarah pesh aata ho, wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur bado ke jhagde se bahar rehna jaayaz hai. Agar kabhi aapka koi bachcha kisi doosre se darta ho ya usse aahat ho, to wo aisa jhagda nahi jisse peechhe hata jaye; use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Aaj shaam ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch galat hua hi nahi, ya ki baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki unka jhagda aaj raat aapki neend ka maalik nahi banna chahiye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ye kaam zara dheela pade #
Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, ummeed ek paayadaan dheemi hai. Unke liye aas ab bhi hai, par do bade logon ka jhagda unhi ka hai, is par faisla nahi ki unhein kaise pala gaya.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: khaana lagana aur unhein mez par apne shabd khud khojne dena, ek bachche ke saath aisi call jo bas usi bachche ke baare mein rahe, ya group chat par na bitayi gayi ek shaam.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur notice karne laayak hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dekhiye ki kab aap tay karne lagte hain kaun kahan baithega, aur kya use chhedta hai
- Sandesh aage dene se pehle dekhiye ki kiske shabd dhoye ja rahe hain
- Aaj ki apni koi ek chhoti-si chaahat notice kijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: isme se kya mere thaamne ka hai, aur kya unka?
- Har bachche ke saath apna rishta sochiye, doosre ko tasveer se bahar rakhkar
Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun sa paarivaarik khaana aap ab bhi dohrate hain, aur wo mod kaun sa tha jahan baat palti?
- Pehli baar kab aapne khud ko do bachchon ke beech shabd dhote paaya, aur wo shabd kya the?
- Chhote mein aapke bachchon ki saajhi kya cheez thi jo aap chahte hain ab bhi unke paas rahe?
- Bachchon ko kareeb rakhne ka kaam thoda dheela ho, to sabse pehle aap kya notice karenge?
- Paarivaarik dinon mein aapka har bachcha pehle se kya laata hai, jiska aap aur maza lena chahenge?