Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye ummeed ki koi bina kahe samajh jaye, bahut insaani hai, par saamne wale ke liye ek mushkil paheli bhi.
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: neeche rehne wali bua, school se ghar tak chhodne wali dadi, aur cousins jo aadhe is ghar mein aur aadhe us ghar mein pale.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Gharwale gharwalon ki madad bina kahe karte hain,” ya “Agar unhein hamari parwah hoti, to wo khud aage aate.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har aane-jaane, har ehsaan aur har “na” ka chupchaap hisaab rakhna
- Maangna hi band kar dena, taaki “na” sunni hi na pade
- Un doston ka zikr chhedna jinke Mummy-Papa har hafte madad karte hain
- Sab akele dho lena, aur phir chubhna ki kisi ne poochha nahi
- Kehna “Main theek hoon, sab chal raha hai,” jabki hafta kuch aur kehta hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Goad mein bachcha, kandhe par laptop
Indore mein baarish wali dopahar, school ki chhutti ka waqt. Ek bachcha baahon mein, laptop ka bag doosre kandhe par, bada bachcha tiffin maang raha hai. Gate par ek saheli batati hai ki uski mummy har Friday bachchon ko rakh leti hain. Aap muskurakar kehte ho, “Arre wah, achha hai.” Gaadi mein steering zaroorat se zyada kasakar pakda jaata hai, aur ek lambi saans bina chahe nikal jaati hai.
Mummy-Papa ko madad karni chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mummy-Papa ko bachchon mein aur haath bantana chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Gharwale ek-doosre ka saath dete hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har thaki shaam ko yaad dilata hai ki jo nahi mil raha wo kya hai. Aapki thakan par ab ek doosra bojh chadha hai: ye ehsaas ki aisa nahi hona chahiye tha, aur kisi ko aage aana chahiye tha.
Bachche paalna kyun bahut kaam hai
Hum ye isliye pakadte hain kyunki bachche paalna bahut kaam hai, aur hum use baanta hua sochte hain. Shaayad bachpan mein dada-dadi paas rehte the, ghar mein aana-jaana laga rehta tha. Shaayad doston ke Mummy-Papa hamesha taiyaar dikhte hain. Jo bhi ho, thodi madad chahna zyada maangna nahi. Ye us kaam mein saath chahne se aata hai jo zindagi ke sabse mushkil kaamon mein hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Wo chaah jo ooncha hoti jaati hai
Har mushkil hafta is chaah ko aur ooncha kar deta hai. Aapko wo har parivaar dikhta hai jahan dada-dadi madad karte hain. Pehle nirasha hoti hai, phir nirash hone ka apradh-bodh. Aap hisaab rakhne lagte ho ki kya kam hai. Thakan aur bhaari ho jaati hai, kyunki ab usmein shikayat bhi hai. Aapki shaamein aadhi bachchon ke saath aur aadhi ek purani maayusi ke saath beetne lagti hain.
Kya ye chaah bojh ke laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unki madad ki raah dekhne se kabhi hafta halka hua? Ya zyadatar thakan mein kadwahat hi judi? Doosron ke baare mein bahar se bahut kuch nahi dikhta ki wo kya de sakte hain aur kya nahi. Jo bhi ho, unki madad aapke roz ke kaam ka paimana nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar thaame rakhna us bojh ke laayak hai jo ye jodta hai?
Mushkil kaam, aur aap kar rahe ho
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki madad ki chaah band ho jaye, ya ye dikhaya jaye ki sab aasaan hai. Matlab ye ki aapki thakan bas thakan ho sake, us par shikayat ki parat na chadhe. Ye mushkil hai, aur aap ise kar rahe ho. Jahan se bhi sahara aata hai, chahe kitna chhota, use dekha ja sakta hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: intezaar ka bojh na uthao to bojh kuch halka ho jaata hai.
If a request for help at home has ever been met with a reaction that frightens you, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMummy-Papa ko bachchon mein aur haath bantana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleYe mushkil hai, aur ye nibh raha hai. Madad ek bonus hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte mile sahare ki ek chhoti baat par dhyaan dijiye
- Din 2
Bachchon ke sone ke baad paanch minute chupchaap baithiye
- Din 3
Khud se kahiye, “Ye mushkil hai, aur ye nibh raha hai”
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kisi ki bhi madad wali kaun-si dopahar aapko sabse achhi yaad hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
School ke gate par aayi ek baat #
Indore mein baarish wali dopahar, school ki chhutti ka samay. Ek bachcha baahon mein, laptop ka bag doosre kandhe par, aur paas khadi saheli batati hai ki uski mummy har Friday bachchon ko rakh leti hain. Tabhi ye baat mann mein aati hai: “Mummy-Papa ko bachchon mein aur haath bantana chahiye.”
Zyadatar ye us gaon-mohalle ki baat hoti hai jiski ummeed thi: school chhodne-laane ke liye koi dada-dadi, nahlate waqt ek extra jodi haath, aur hafta bikhar jaye to phone karne ko koi ek number.
Ye khayal Mummy-Papa aur bachchon ke baare mein aakhri baar kab aaya, aur us din kya ulat-palat gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Phone katte hi mann baith jaana #
Kuch logon ko ye mann baithne jaisa lagta hai, jab koi maang “Arre, dekhte hain” par tal jaati hai, ya phone par baat Mummy-Papa ke apne Sunday ke program par khatam hoti hai aur aapke poore hafte ki baat kahin reh jaati hai.
Kuch ko ye doosron ke gate par hota hai: kisi bachche ki dadi tiffin lekar khadi hain, kisi dost ke Papa swimming class mein baithe hain. Kisi ke hafte ki haqeeqat sochne se pehle hi ek teekha “mere wale kyun nahi?” aa jaata hai.
Aakhri baar jab kisi aur ke dada-dadi ko gate par dekha, to sochne se pehle aapko sabse pehle kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Mohalla chahna jaayaz hai #
Chhote bachchon ke saath madad chahna jaayaz hai, aur kai gharon mein yahi riwaaj bhi hai. Chhote bachche paalna bahut kaam hai, aur ye ummeed karna ki jo sabse kareeb hain wo thoda baant lein, samajh mein aata hai.
Ye ummeed ki koi bina kahe samajh jaye, bahut insaani hai, par saamne wale ke liye ek mushkil paheli bhi. Mushkil hafte ke andar se jo saaf dikhta hai, jaise chhoote hui neendein, uljhe program, lambi shaamein, wo doosre shehar mein baithe phone se mushkil se dikhta hai.
Agar agle Monday ko wo madad aa jaye jiski ummeed thi, to theek-theek kaisi dikhegi, aur din ke kis waqt?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo roster banati hai #
“Bhaiya ke bachchon ko toh rakh liya tha.” “Baaki dada-dadi Friday ko lene aate hain.” “Bas ek din ki toh baat hai.” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab subah chhe baje tiffin ban raha ho, ya is mahine teesri baar office ki meeting khisakani padi ho.
Ummeed tab halki lagti hai jab wo asal mein ho sakne wali baaton se mel khaati ho, aur bhare hue hafte ke andar se dono taraf ye dekhna mushkil hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki awaaz ghanton ki nahi, sab kuch akele dhone se thakan ki hai.
Jab awaaz tay karti hai ki Mummy-Papa ko hafte mein kya karna chahiye, to kaun-si ek dopahar sabse zyada farq daalegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye tasveer kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: neeche rehne wali bua, school se ghar tak chhodne wali dadi, aur cousins jo aadhe is ghar mein aur aadhe us ghar mein pale. Tab jo aaspaas tha, wo chupchaap aaj ke “saamanya” ki tasveer bana deta hai.
Kuch mein ye baaton se aati hai: “Bachche hon toh hum hain na,” kisi paarivarik khaane par barson pehle kaha gaya vaakya, ya dost jinke Mummy-Papa bachche ke aane ke saal hi paas aa gaye. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Aapke bade hote waqt kis parivaar ne sabse pehle dikhaya ki bachchon ke saath madad kaisi dikhti hai, aur madad kaun kar raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Madad ki chaah ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Gharwale gharwalon ki madad bina kahe karte hain,” ya “Agar unhein hamari parwah hoti, to wo khud aage aate.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki unka har busy Sunday aur har ansuni maang kaise padhi jaye.
Andar se ye niyam jaisa sunayi hi nahi deta; ye toh aisa lagta hai ki ghar aise hi chalte hain, aur kuch gharon mein aise hi chalte bhi hain. Isiliye ise dekhna zaroori hai, Mummy-Papa jaise aaj hain aur aapka hafta jaisa asal mein hai, unke saath rakhkar.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapke hafte mein kahan “gharwale bina kahe madad karein” ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein ye faasla kya le jaata hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aise Sunday jo maangne se bachne ke hisaab se banein, chhuttiyon ki ek mulaqat jo ye ginne mein gayi ki kisne kaun-sa bachcha uthaya, ya kisi aur ke dada-dadi ko gate par dekhkar halki-si chubhan. Kuch natakeey nahi, phir bhi har hafte ke andar ek bojh.
Madad dheere-dheere “parwah” ka paimana bhi ban sakti hai, aur tab har “na” aapke aur bachchon ke baare mein faisla lagne lagti hai, Saturday ke baare mein phone par le jaane ke liye bahut bhaari cheez. Kuch log do mulaqaton ke beech ki khaali jagah mein ek kadwahat baithti dekhte hain jo unhein pasand nahi.
Pichhle saal ka kaun-sa hafta sabse akela laga, aur us hafte aapne Mummy-Papa ke baare mein khud se kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Baarish wali school-chhutti, paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mummy-Papa ko bachchon mein aur haath bantana chahiye” zor se baje. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad baarish mein bachche ko lene jaana aur ye sochna ki doosre parivaaron mein kaun madad karta hai; ghar ka phone mausam aur bachchon ke numbers tak seemit; office ki ek deadline phir khisaki hui; aur ek shaam ye ginne mein ki is mahine kisne kya kiya.
Isme kuch bhi bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: school se laana, messages, plan, jo maanga nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Madad, kis shakl mein? #
Bachchon ke saath madad ek se zyada shaklon mein aa sakti hai: park mein ek dopahar, nakhre wale bachche ko khilane ka koi purana nuskha, video call jo bachche ko tab tak bahla de jab tak khaana ban raha ho, ya sahi waqt par di gayi salaah. Inmein se kuch doori par tiki hain; kai nahi.
Zaroorat seedhe kehna atpata lag sakta hai, aur kuch logon ko wo andaaze se behtar nikalta hai; kuch ko jawab phir bhi “na” milta hai. Dono haal mein, jo ummeed kabhi shabdon mein rakhi hi nahi gayi, wo kisi ke liye bhi mushkil paheli hai, aur isme kisi taraf ki galti nahi.
“Bachchon mein madad” mein jo kuch aata hai, usmein aapke liye sabse zaroori kya hai, aur kaun-sa hissa asal mein sab akele na dhone ke baare mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se aapke hafte tak pahunchta hai #
Ho sakta hai madad pehle se chhoti ya aniyamit shaklon mein aapke ghar tak pahunch rahi ho: video call par sunayi gayi sone ki kahani, purani tasveeron wali kitaabon ka ek parcel, pichhle hafte ki school ke naatak wali baat jo yaad rakhi gayi.
Inhein dekhne se kuch tay nahi hota, kuch radd nahi hota; madad ki jaayaz chaah aur ye chhoti baatein dono sach ho sakti hain. Inhein dekhne ka matlab ye dikhana nahi ki hafta halka hai.
Mushkil hafte mein inmein se kuch bhi pakadna kathin hai, aur wo theek hai.
Mummy-Papa ke paas se bachchon ko pehle se kya milta hai jiska wo intezaar karte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Ek Friday jo thoda halka lage #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki madad ki chaah zyada thi, ya ki wo haq tha. Matlab ye ki jo mohalla aapne socha tha aur jo hafta aapke paas hai, unke beech ka faasla har phone aur har school-chhutti par rang na chadhaye.
Jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: ki aapka bojh dikhe, bachche dada-dadi ke kareeb hon, sab akele na dhona pade. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai ginti, taaki ek dopahar jo mili, wo bas ek dopahar rahe. Agar bachchon ka dada-dadi ke saath waqt kam rakhne ki aapke paas wajahein hain, to un par bharosa karna aapka haq hai.
Aapki, bachchon ki aur Mummy-Papa ki buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti. Madad maangne par kabhi aisi pratikriya mili ho jisse darr lage, to use gambhirta se lijiye.
Is ummeed se sulah wala ek Friday sochiye: school se laana kaisa dikhega, aur aap kya saraah rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
School se laane ke liye ek sachchi baat #
“Mummy-Papa ko bachchon mein aur haath bantana chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine ek mohalle ki chaah rakhi thi, aur jo hafta mere paas hai wo ab bhi mere dhang se chal sakta hai.” Ye jeetne ke liye nahi, purani ke bagal mein baithne ke liye hai.
Shuru ke kuch baar ye sach na lage, ye ho sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apne shabdon wala vaakya dheere-dheere purane wale ki thodi jagah le leta hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo us madad ke baare mein imaandaar ho jo aap chahte the, aur us hafte ke saath narm jo aapke paas hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch chaahein pichhli seat par baith sakti hain #
Parivaar ki har chaah ko isi satra mein nipatana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal thaama ja sakta hai aur wahin chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise gaadi ki dikki mein rakhi ek faltu seat, ya fridge par chipka dadaji ka number.
Kisi se dobara maangna zaroori nahi. Agar ghar mein madad maangne par kabhi aisi pratikriya mili ho jisse darr lage, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Madad ki chaah jab tak chahein nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi aapki hai.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki ye theek thi, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ka nahlana aur sulana poore sawaal ka bojh bhi na uthayein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ginti ek darja dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Madad ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ek “na” kisi ek Saturday ki “na” hai, aapke parivaar par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: baarish mein bachche ko lene jaate hue radio chal raha ho aur khayal thoda dheema, ek mulaqat jo ghante gine bina achhi lagi, ya kisi aisi dost ke saath ek shaam jiske bachche bhi chhote hain.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ki hafte ka kaun-sa ghanta sabse zyada ek aur jodi haath maangta hai
- School ke gate par dekhiye ki dada-dadi ke aate hi kaun-si kahani shuru hoti hai
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: is hafte ka kaun-sa hissa sabse zyada baanta hua chahiye?
- Aaj ka ek hissa dekhiye jo aapki chaah ke hisaab se hua
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kisi ki bhi madad wali kaun-si dopahar aapko sabse achhi yaad hai?
- Kiske dada-dadi school ke gate par aapko sabse zyada dikhte hain, aur wo aam taur par kya kar rahe hote hain?
- Agar wo madad aa jaye jiski chaah thi, to hafte ki ek khaali dopahar mein aap kya karenge?
- Kisi busy din jab ye chaah zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Mummy-Papa bachchon ko pehle se kya dete hain jiska aap thoda aur maza lena chahenge?