Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ek shaam milna aisa lag sakta hai jaise pehle rakha gaya, aur uska khisakna jaise baad mein rakha gaya, chahe kisi ka matlab na raha ho aur koi gin bhi na raha ho.
Kuch logon mein ye ek aise jode ko dekhkar bani jo har shaam khaane ke baad saath tahalta tha, wahi raasta, kone ki wahi chai ki tapri, aur baaki sab chalta rahe, wo ghanta bana rehta tha.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar meri ahmiyat hoti, to waqt nikalta,” ya “Pyaar waqt se dikhta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sab kuch khud plan karna, aur phir lagna ki bas aap hi chahte ho
- Plan sujhana band kar dena, aur dekhna ki koi aata hai ya nahi
- Plan khisake to “koi baat nahi” kehna aur poori shaam mehsoos karna
- Khaali shaamein doston se bhar lena
- Banaye gaye aur nibhaye gaye plan ki ginti rakhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Bas ek chhota-sa kaam hai”
Friday ki raat, Pune ke Kothrud ka flat. Poore hafte se aapne ek saath ki shaam ka intezaar kiya. Partner ghar aate hain, jaldi khaana khakar laptop khol lete hain: “Bas ek chhota-sa kaam hai.” Do ghante baad bhi laptop khula hai. TV par aapki chuni film ruki hui hai, aur akelepan ka ek dheema, pichka-sa ehsaas kamre mein bhar jaata hai.
Maayne rakhoon to waqt nikalega
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar meri ahmiyat hoti, to wo hamare liye waqt nikalte.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Saath ka waqt hi do logon ko paas rakhta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har vyast shaam ko aapki keemat ka sandesh bana deta hai. Partner ka calendar aapke pyaare hone ka paimana ban jaata hai, aur laptop par har der ki raat nijee lagne lagti hai.
Saajha waqt parwaah kyun dikhata hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki saajha waqt chahe jaane ki sabse saaf nishaani lagta hai. Shayad shuruaati din lambi shaamon se bhare the, aur aap unhein yaad karte ho. Shayad aapka hafta bhi lamba hai, aur wahi ek shaam aapka sahara hai. Saath chahna mohtaaji nahi hai. Ye nazdeeki ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har shaam jo faasla jodti hai
Har radd ya chhoti hui shaam thoda aur faasla chhod jaati hai. Aap plan sujhana hi band kar dete ho, taaki nirasha na ho. Aap intezaar karte ho ki wo khud dekhein. Ek hi kamre mein bhi akelapan lagta hai. Chhoti khatpat badi ho jaati hai, kyunki sabke neeche wahi chup sawaal hai. Jo shaamein paas laatin, wo faasle ka saboot lagne lagti hain.
Kya unke waqt ka intezaar theek hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya waqt nikalne ka intezaar karne se kabhi aapki shaamein bharin? Ya usne khaali shaamon ko aur bhaari kiya? Vyast season logon ka waqt nigal sakte hain, aur kisi ko laptop par kya rokta hai, bahar se dikhna mushkil hai. Vyast hafta aapke maayne ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna iski keemat ke laayak hai?
Apni shaam ka maza phir bhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki saath ke waqt ki chaah chali jaaye. Matlab ye ki aapki shaamein unki shaamon ke khulne ka intezaar nahi kartin. Aap film dekh sakte ho, kisi dost ko call kar sakte ho, ya tahalne ja sakte ho. Jab saath ka waqt mile, to tohfe jaisa lag sakta hai. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aapki shaamein saath hon ya nahi, aapki apni hain.
If the lack of time comes with worry for how your partner is doing, or you feel checked on, put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMaayne rakhoon to wo hamare liye waqt nikalenge.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri shaam achhi ho sakti hai, saath ho ya na ho.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Jo film chuni thi, akele hi dekh lijiye
- Din 2
Is hafte ki ek chhoti pasandida cheez plan kijiye
- Din 3
Is hafte ka ek pal dekhiye jo nazdeeki laga
Is par baat karni hai?
“Partner ke saath kaun si aam shaam aapko sabse pyaar se yaad hai, aur kya use achha banata tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Saturday jo “humara” tha, phir khisaka #
“Partner ko hamare liye waqt nikalna chahiye.” Ye tab uth sakta hai jab Sunday ki raat calendar khule, jab kab se tay shaam “agle hafte” par chali jaaye, ya jab koi dost apne partner ke saath weekend trip ki baat kare aur khayal apne aap peeche-peeche aa jaaye.
Baat kisi ek plan ki kam hai, chune jaane ki zyada: aisa ghanta jo aap dono ka ho, sirf din ke aakhir mein bacha hua nahi. Kehna aasaan hai, aur bhari zindagi mein thaamna hairani ki had tak mushkil.
Aakhri baar kaun si shaam aap dono ne saath bitayi jo sach mein sirf aap dono ki lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Plan khisakne par chhoti-si dhak #
Kuch logon ko message aate hi seene mein halki dhak-si mehsoos hoti hai: “Kal kar lein?” Kuch ka angootha jawab par ruka rehta hai, “koi baat nahi!” aur kuch zyada sachche ke beech, aur wo pehla chun lete hain.
Ye ehsaas aksar isse pehle aata hai ki wajah jaayaz hai ya nahi. Der ki meeting, shehar mein aaya koi relative, koi deadline: wajah bilkul theek ho sakti hai, aur pehla ehsaas phir bhi halki, chup nirasha ho sakta hai.
Pichli baar jab koi saajha plan khisaka, to aapne kya jawab likha, aur likhte waqt kya mehsoos ho raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Waqt se hi nazdeeki ko jagah milti hai #
Ye chaah samajh mein aati hai. Nazdeeki aksar aam saajhe waqt mein rehti hai: khaana, tahalna, barson dohraye gaye chhote mazaak. Jab saajhe ghante ghatne lagte hain, nazdeeki jee hui kam aur yaad ki hui zyada lagne lagti hai.
Ye bhi hai ki waqt kya kehta hai. Ek shaam milna aisa lag sakta hai jaise pehle rakha gaya, aur uska khisakna jaise baad mein rakha gaya, chahe kisi ka matlab na raha ho aur koi gin bhi na raha ho.
Saajhe waqt ka ek ghanta aapse wo kya kehta hai jo kaam ke beech ka message ya call nahi kehta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Calendar padhne wali awaaz #
“Hamesha sab kuch humse pehle.” “Har baar mujhe hi kehna padta hai.” “Baaki jode to nikaal lete hain.” Ye awaaz aksar calendar khulne par aati hai, kisi aur ke weekend ki photo dikhne par, ya ek aur chhoti shaam ke baad der raat.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz sirf ghante nahi gin rahi. Andar se wo aksar jaanna chahti hai ki rishte mein ab bhi aap dono ke liye jagah hai ya nahi, aur calendar bas wo jagah hai jahan ye sawaal sabse aasaani se padha jaata hai.
Jab awaaz kahe “ye to kabhi waqt nikalte hi nahi”, to wo asal mein ek saath bitayi shaam se kya dikhne ki ummeed karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
“Humara waqt” ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye ek aise jode ko dekhkar bani jo har shaam khaane ke baad saath tahalta tha, wahi raasta, kone ki wahi chai ki tapri, aur baaki sab chalta rahe, wo ghanta bana rehta tha. Wo tasveer bahut din tik sakti hai.
Kuch mein filmon, doston ki photo ya shuruaati mahinon se, jab waqt apne aap nikal aata tha. Kam maangon wale mausam mein bani tasveer pyaari ho sakti hai, aur vyast mausam ke liye use nibhana mushkil bhi.
Kaun sa jodi, asli ya screen par, aapko pehli baar dikha gaya ki saath ka waqt kaisa dikhta hai, aur wo kya karte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Calendar ke neeche ka niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar meri ahmiyat hoti, to waqt nikalta,” ya “Pyaar waqt se dikhta hai.” Kahi gayi baat shaamon ki hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har khisake plan ka kya matlab nikle.
Isme sachchi samajh hai; saajha waqt maayne rakhta hai. Par niyam har vyast hafte ko faisla bhi bana sakta hai, jabki hafta kai wajahon se vyast ho sakta hai, kuch ka aap dono se koi lena-dena nahi.
Kuch log is niyam ko aise ghar se jod paate hain jahan waqt se hi pyaar naapa jaata tha; kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin hafton mein waqt wala niyam theek baithta hai, aur kinmein chubhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Waqt ka intezaar kya chheen leta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai shaamein bas maan lene ke liye khaali rakhna, doston ke saath plan thode jhijhakte hue banana, weekend ki dopahar kisi sujhav ke intezaar mein aadhi beetna. Saath mein na bita waqt kahin aur bhi theek se nahi beetta.
Aisi jaanch ke neeche aam dinner ka maza bhi kam pad sakta hai.
Mahinon mein kuch log dekhte hain ki jo saajha waqt milta bhi hai, uski quality jaanchi jaati hai: kitna lamba tha, phone par the kya, ginaa jaayega kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Is season mein saath ki shaam ka kaun sa hissa aap wapas paana chahoge, aur wo kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Saalon baad bhi utna hi kasa calendar #
Ek aise hafte ki Sunday shaam leejiye jismein “wo waqt nikalein” hawa mein hai. Bas tasveer, suljhane ko kuch nahi.
Shayad calendar mein “hum” likha Saturday, phir agle hafte par gaya; zaroorat se thodi zyada khuli rakhi gayi shaam; baad ke liye save film jo save hi rahi.
Ye bas sketch hai, bhavishyavani kabhi nahi.
Usmein kya-kya hai: calendar, messages, bane aur khisake plan, wo cheezein jo aapne book nahi kin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun us weekend ka hissa hota, aur kaun bahar rehta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko aise phaila hua dekhein, to uske kis hisse ko aap alag tarah se bitana chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath ka waqt, kis shakl mein? #
Saajha waqt sirf plan ki gayi shaam nahi hota. Bazaar tak saath chalna, saath khaana banana, sone se pehle balcony mein das minute, koi series jo ek-ek episode karke dekhi jaaye: kuch jode paate hain ki nazdeeki zyadatar inhin mein rehti hai.
Isse asli shaam ki chaah zyada nahi ho jaati, aur ye bhi nahi ki beech ke pal kaafi hone chahiye. Bas itna ki “hamare liye waqt nikalna” mein kai chaahein ho sakti hain, aur kuch shaayad aadhi poori bhi hon.
“Hamare liye waqt nikalo” ke bheetar aapke liye sabse zaroori kya hai: waqt ki lambai, uski taiyaari, ya usmein dhyaan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapke paas pehle se kya hai #
Jo shaamein khisakti rehti hain, unke paas bhi kuch aapka hai: kabhi-kabhi milne wala khaali ghanta, wo dost jo hamesha tahalne ko taiyaar ho, koi shauq jo aapko dubo le, aur chhoti shaam ko bhari-bhari bana lene ka aapka apna hunar.
Inhein dekhne se faasla nahi bharta, aur ye aur waqt saath chahne se rokne ki wajah bhi nahi. Chhoti list bhi ginee jaati hai. Jo aapka apna waqt achha bharta hai, uska maza usi ke liye liya ja sakta hai.
Aisi shaam mein jo poori tarah aapki apni ho, aapko sabse zyada kya karna pasand hai, jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Aap dono ke liye jagah, bina scorecard #
Is chaah se sulah ka matlab hai ki ye sawaal ki ye badi hai ya chhoti, ab aaram kar sakta hai. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hain, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Aur agar waqt ki kami ke saath partner ke haal ki fikar bhi ho, to wo alag hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak.
Kuch baatein zyada waqt ki chaah nahi hain: nazar rakhi jaana, password maanga jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paise par qabza, kaagzaat rakh lena, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillana ya mood ka dosh aap par aana.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya nijee photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Sab gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur saath chalna ya saavdhaan rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Unke dost, gharwale aur alag waqt unka bhi hai; zyada saath chahna kabhi is baat ki wajah nahi ki pata rakha jaaye wo kahan hain ya kisse mil rahe hain. Asli saath ki chaah jaayaz hai.
Dheele haath se pakdi kisi khaali Saturday dopahar ki sochiye: usmein aap kya kar rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Calendar ke paas rakhne ko ek vaakya #
“Partner ko hamare liye waqt nikalna chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log aisa vaakya paas rakhte hain: “Mujhe unke saath asli waqt chahiye, aur meri khaali shaamein phir bhi meri apni hain.” Wo purane vaakya ki jagah nahi, uske bagal mein baith sakta hai.
Shuru mein ye feeka lag sakta hai. Kuch ko dohrane par aisa vaakya pakka lagne lagta hai; kuch use tab tak badalte hain jab tak wo apne jaisa na lage. Koi tareeka galat nahi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kaisa hoga, jo saath ke waqt ki chaah rakhe aur aapke apne hafte ki bhi jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch hafte bas vyast hafte hote hain #
Har khisake plan ka koi matlab hona zaroori nahi. Kuch ko note karke chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise jacket ki jeb mein ticket: rakha rahe, aaj raat dobara padha na jaaye.
Kuch baatein zyada waqt ki chaah nahi hain: nazar rakhi jaana, password maanga jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paise par qabza, kaagzaat rakh lena, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillana ya mood ka dosh aap par aana.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya nijee photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur saavdhaan rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Ek raat chaah ko neeche rakh dene se faasla theek nahi ho jaata, aur ye bhi tay nahi hota. Bas aaj ki shaam kisi aisi cheez ke liye khaali rehti hai jo aapko achhi lage.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar calendar par pakad dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja neeche hai. Saath ke waqt ki chaah ab bhi hai, aur shaam ab bhi aapki chuni ho sakti hai.
Log kuch aisi baatein batate hain: Saturday subah tahalne nikal jaana aur raaste mein koi achhi bakery mil jaana, ya khaali shaam kisi purane dost ke saath.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage, is chaah se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti, nijee cheezein aazmane ko #
- Jab plan khisake, dhyaan dijiye ki mann pehli kahani kya sunata hai
- Plan ke neeche ki chaah ko naam dijiye: nazdeeki, maza, ya chune jaane ka ehsaas
- Ek khaali shaam apni pasand ki kisi cheez ke liye rakhiye
- Is hafte ka koi beech ka pal dekhiye jo saajha laga
- Koi aasaan-si saath ki shaam yaad kijiye, aur kya cheez use waisa banati thi
Chhoti aur nijee. Koi aazmaiye, ya koi nahi.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Partner ke saath kaun si aam shaam aapko sabse pyaar se yaad hai, aur kya use achha banata tha?
- Ek shaam saath mein “chuni hui” lagne ke liye, thoosi hui nahi, kya hona chahiye?
- Hafte mein ek ghanta partner ke saath apni marzi ka mile, to usmein kya hoga?
- Agar saajhe waqt par pakad thodi dheeli ho, to aapki khaali shaamein kaisi dikhengi?
- Apne hafte ka kaun sa chhota beech ka pal aap zyada baar jeena chahoge?