Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Baat karna hi aksar nazdeeki banane ka tareeka hota hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se shuru hui jahan kuch bhi seedhe nahi kaha jaata tha: pareshani band darwaze se, chhote jawab se, ya rasoi mein thodi der ki khamoshi se jatayi jaati thi.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Parwah hoti to baat karte,” ya “Nazdeeki ka matlab hai sab kuch zor se kehna.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sabki tarah mudde ke aaspaas se saavdhani se nikal jaana
- Kya kehna hai use dohrana, aur mauka haath se nikal jaane dena
- Intezaar karna ki koi aur pehle baat chhede
- Chhoti-moti baaton se chuppi bharna, taaki din halka rahe
- Thoda peeche hat jaana, aur asli khabrein doston ke liye rakhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wednesday hai, aur baat ab bhi nahi
Sunday ke lunch par garmi ki chhutti ke plan ko lekar chhoti si nokjhok hui thi. Ab Wednesday hai, aur kisi ne uska zikr nahi kiya. Behen aapke har message ka jawab “hmm” mein deti hai. Mummy sabzi ke bhaav ki baatein karti hain. Sab aise bartaav kar rahe hain jaise kuch hua hi nahi, par ghar ki hawa bhaari hai. Raat ko bistar par aap sab dohrate ho, aur chahte ho ki koi bas kuch keh de.
Parivar chup na rahe, baat kare
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere parivar mein chuppi nahi, baat honi chahiye.” Ye sehatmand lagta hai. Baat karne se hawa saaf hoti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki shaanti ko doosron ke chot sambhalne ke dhang se baandh deta hai. Aap aaram se reh paoge ya nahi, ye us parivar par tik gaya jo shayad hamesha jhagde ko chup reh kar aur waqt guzaar kar nipata aaya hai.
Jhagde ki chuppi akeli kyun lagti hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki jhagde ke baad ki chuppi akeli aur asurakshit lag sakti hai. Shayad doston ke saath khul kar baat karna aapko kitna achha lagta hai, ye aap jaan chuke ho. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan chuppi ka matlab kuch bahut galat hota tha. Jo bhi ho, baat karna chahna zabardasti nahi. Ye nazdeeki aur sahaj ghar ki chaah hai. Ise humdardi milni chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Chhoti nokjhok jo badi hoti jaati hai
Har chup din chhoti nokjhok ko badi bana deta hai. Aap kahi gayi baatein baar-baar dohrate ho. Sochte ho ki kya wo ab bhi aapse naraaz hain. Ghar mein paanv dabakar chalte ho, kisi ishaare ke intezaar mein ki sab normal hai. Dheere-dheere chuppi jhagde se zyada bhaari ho jaati hai, aur aap aisi baat par neend ganwate ho jo unke liye shayad aadhi bhulayi ja chuki ho.
Kya baat ka intezaar karna sahi hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya unke baat karne ka intezaar karne se chuppi kabhi chhoti hui? Ya zyadatar aur bhaari? Kuch parivar jhagde ke baad chup ho jaate hain; us chuppi ka unke liye kya matlab hai, ye wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, unki khamoshi na aapki keemat ka paimana hai, na iska ki parivar aapke liye kya hai. Is niyam ko itna kas kar pakadna aapko jitna deta hai, usse zyada leta hai.
Meharbani se chalte rehna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap imaandaar baatcheet ki qadar karna chhod dein. Matlab ye ki aapki shaanti is par nahi tiki ki parivar jhagde ko kaise sambhalta hai. Aap chuppi ko chup rehne de sakte ho, meharbani se chalte reh sakte ho, aur bharosa rakh sakte ho ki hawa aksar apne aap saaf ho jaati hai. Yahin thodi shaanti lautti hai: neend behtar aati hai, aur ghar phir ghar lagne lagta hai.
If the quiet comes with threats, fear or someone being hurt, or you worry about how someone is managing, that is different from this hope, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere parivar mein chuppi nahi, baat honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleChuppi unka thanda hona hai. Meharbani se chalna mumkin hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is parivar ki ek cheez sochiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Din 2
Jhagde ka zikr kiye bina ghar mein ek bhali baat kijiye
- Din 3
Sone se pehle aaj raat jhagde ko aaram karne dijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke parivar mein kab koi mushkil baat achhe se hui, aur kis cheez ne madad ki?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo vishay jisse sab bachkar nikalte hain #
“Mere parivar mein chuppi nahi, baat honi chahiye.” Ye khayal Sunday ke lunch ke beech aa sakta hai, jab koi baat ek pal mein badal de aur sabko maaloom ek mudda chupke se mez ke neeche sarak jaye.
Zubaan par ye aksar khane ya traffic ki bezaroori tippani ban jaata hai. Andar ye zyada seedha ho sakta hai: chaah ki koi mushkil baat ek baar din ke ujaale mein keh di jaye aur nipat jaye, ghar ke sab log use mahinon na dhoyein.
Parivar ko lekar ye chaah aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi thi, aur us waqt kya ankaha reh gaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Mez par ruki hui saans #
Kuch logon ko vishay paas aate hi ek thehrav mehsoos hota hai: chamach dheeme pad jaate hain, nazrein jhuk jaati hain, kamra intezaar karta sa lagta hai. Sharir kuch kahe jaane se pehle hi kas jaata hai, jaise kisi darwaze ke band hone ki aahat ho.
Kuch log jhat se kamre ko tatolte hain: kaun kis mood mein hai, agla minute kaisa ja sakta hai. Ye is soch se pehle aa sakta hai ki bolein, rukein, ya baat ko wahin chhod dein.
Pichhli baar jab koi baat chuppi mein dab gayi, to kuch kehne ka faisla karne se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Baat ka naam liya jaana samajh aata hai #
Is ummeed mein sachchi samajh hai. Jis pareshani ka naam le liya jaye, usse nipta ja sakta hai; jo ankahi rehti hai, wo aaspaas ki har baatcheet mein jagah gherti hai, aur uske paas se bachkar nikalna sabko thakata hai.
Baat karna hi aksar nazdeeki banane ka tareeka hota hai. Jo parivar keh sake “mujhe bura laga” ya “mujhse galti hui” aur phir bhi mez par baitha rahe, uske paas kuch tikaau hota hai. Ye chahna sahajta se apnapan chahne ka ek tareeka hai.
Apne parivar ka koi waqt yaad kijiye jab mushkil baat kahi gayi aur achhe se nipti: kya kaha gaya, aur kis cheez ne use kaam karne laayak banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo chahti hai ki baat kahi jaye #
“Bol do na.” “Koi kuch kehta kyun nahi?” “Ye kab tak chalega?” Ye awaaz aksar kisi get-together ke baad car mein bolti hai, ya us lambi shaam mein jab ek aam khane par wahi vishay latka rahe.
Baat karne wala “chahiye” ek se zyada chaahein dho sakta hai: bataye jaane ki, sune jaane ki, andaaze lagane se bachne ki. Kuch logon ko neeche ki chaah tanaav ke khatam hone ki lagti hai, aur wo hamesha baat karne ki chaah jaisi nahi hoti.
Jab ye awaaz “bol do” kehti hai, to agle minute mein kya ho jaane ki ummeed karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Baat karne ki chaah kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se shuru hui jahan kuch bhi seedhe nahi kaha jaata tha: pareshani band darwaze se, chhote jawab se, ya rasoi mein thodi der ki khamoshi se jatayi jaati thi. Kuch parivaron mein “munh phulana” hi asahmati nibhane ka tareeka hota hai, aur wo bachpan mein hi seekh liya jaata hai.
Kuch mein ye ek achhi baatcheet se ugi: ek raat jab kisi ne mushkil baat kahi aur agle din ghar halka tha. Aisi ek misaal iski chaah ko swabhaavik bhi bana sakti hai aur zaroori bhi.
Sabse pehle kaun sa pal dikha gaya ki baat karke ghar ki hawa badli ja sakti hai, aur wahan kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Chuppi ka matlab kya hai, iska niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Parwah hoti to baat karte,” ya “Nazdeeki ka matlab hai sab kuch zor se kehna.” Pehla sentence wo hai jo andar sunai deta hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har khamoshi aur har badla hua vishay kaise padha jayega.
Andar se ye niyam jaisa kam hi lagta hai. Ye saaf samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai, aur usmein samajhdaari hai bhi. Isiliye is parivar ko aaj jaisa hai waisa dekhna kaam ka hai, us din jaisa nahi jab chuppi shuru hui thi.
Kuch log aise niyam ko kisi khaas chuppi se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Baat karne ka niyam aaj ki zindagi mein kahan baithta hai, aur kahan thoda purana pad chuka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein ankahe ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aise mudde jo taalne se bade hote jaate hain, get-together jo ek vishay ke aaspaas ghoomte kat'te hain, aur har phone se pehle shabd chunne ki aadat. Chhoti keematein, par kai dinon ke peeche chupchaap chalti rehti hain.
Jab chahi hui baat nahi aati, to kuch log doosri tarah bhi peeche hatne lagte hain aur mez par khud ko kam dete hain. Baat kahi jaane ki chaah uske aaspaas ki aasaan baatcheet ko sikod sakti hai.
Pichhli baar parivar ke get-together mein koi shabd dabaya tha, to usne baaki din se kya le liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, iske aaspaas chalte hue #
Ek aam get-together ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “parivar baat karke suljhaye” zor se baj raha ho. Iske saath bas dekhna hai, kuch karna nahi.
Shayad ek aise vishay ke aaspaas paanv dabakar chalna jo sab jaante hain, kisi ke hafte ka ek halka sawaal, aur car mein ek khayal ki kya kabhi nahi kaha gaya.
Ye kisi cheez ki bhavishyavaani nahi; tasveer jab chahein sameti ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: namaste, soch-samajh kar chune shabd, vishay paas aate hi thehrav, badla hua mudda?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya chhoot gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us get-together ko dekh kar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chuppi mein kya ho sakta hai #
Ummeedein tab behtar chalti hain jab wo us hisaab se hon jo sachmuch ho sakta hai. “Baat karke suljhana” kai cheezein ho sakta hai: sab keh dena, thoda kehna, baad mein kehna, ya bas maan lena ki kuch hua tha.
Alag log alag raftaar se baat ki taraf badhte hain, aur thehrav ka matlab kai cheezein ho sakta hai, waqt chahiye se lekar shuruaat kahan se karein tak. Kuch ko thehrav par hairat karna, usmein faisla padhne se aasaan lagta hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo bhi sach hai.
Parivar ke kisi mushkil vishay ko sambhalne ke tareekon mein kaun sa aapko jaayaz lagega, aur kaun sa bahut zyada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Jis vishay ka koi naam nahi leta, uske paas hi ye dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai ki parivar aapse pehle se kya kehta hai: koi bua jo aapka hafta poochhti hain, koi bhai jo baatcheet chalaye rakhta hai, koi cousin behen jo katori pakdate hue kuch garm keh deti hai.
Inhe dekhne se chuppi halki nahi hoti, aur ye dheeraj se chukane ka qarz bhi nahi. Ek saaf baatcheet ki chaah aur roz ki ek asli meharbani, ek hi mez par saath sach ho sakti hain, aur jab nazar faasle par ho to meharbani chhoot jaati hai.
Aaj kuch na aaye to khaali rehne dijiye.
Parivar ke kahe ya kiye ki kaun si chhoti cheez par aap thoda aur dhyaan dena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Ankahi baat se sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki baat karna chahna zyada tha. Matlab ye ki jis baat ki chaah thi aur jo chuppi mili, unka faasla har get-together ko na chalaye. Mushkil baaton ka naam liya jaana chahna bana reh sakta hai. Buniyadi izzat aur hifazat kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti.
Parivar mein kisi ki bhi chuppi ki gambhir wajah ho sakti hai: chot, darr, ya surakshit rehne ke liye doori. Kisi ke apni chuppi mein kaise sambhalne ki fikr is ummeed se alag hai, aur use seriously lena theek hai.
Agar koi dhamkata hai, nazar rakhta hai, aapko ghar mein ya logon se door rakhta hai, paise se aapko kaabu karta hai, ya aapko badalne ka pressure daalta hai, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use seriously lena theek hai; wahan saavdhaan ya chup rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Is chaah se sulah wale ek family khane ki kalpana kijiye: aap kis baare mein baat karte, aur din ka kaun sa hissa sabse achha lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli khamoshi ke liye ek vaakya #
“Mere parivar mein chuppi nahi, baat honi chahiye” se ulajhne ki jagah, kuch log paas rakhte hain: “Baat kahi jaye to achha, aur kisi behtar pal ka intezaar bhi ho sakta hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas haath ki pahunch mein rehna hai.
Aisa vaakya shuru mein bedhang lag sakta hai, jaise kisi seekhi ja rahi bhasha ka shabd. Kuch ko wo istemaal se sambhalta lagta hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo doosra likh lete hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo saafgoi ki chaah rakhe aur sahi waqt ke liye jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Baat almari mein rakhi ja sakti hai #
Har ankahi cheez aaj kehni zaroori nahi. Kuch ko mann mein naam dekar ek baar rakh diya jaye aur kisi aur din ke liye almari mein chhod diya jaye, jaise wo shaam jo bas chhoti-moti baaton mein beeti.
Agar koi dhamkata hai, nazar rakhta hai, aapko ghar mein ya logon se door rakhta hai, paise se aapko kaabu karta hai, ya aapko badalne ka pressure daalta hai, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use seriously lena theek hai; wahan saavdhaan ya chup rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Aaj raat is vishay ko almari mein rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo achha tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar baat sune jaane ki pakad zara dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Saafgoi ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ankaha vishay us mez ka ek hissa hai jiske kai aur hisse hain.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: vishay ke aaspaas chalte hue din ke un hisson ko dekhna jo uske baare mein hain hi nahi, ya koi shaam baghal wale insaan ke saath bitana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Iske baad dekhte hain ki is chaah se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Koi vishay chup ho jaye, to kuch tay karne se pehle dekhiye ki aap kya mehsoos karte hain
- Get-together se pehle ek aisa vishay sochiye jis par baat karna aapko achha lage
- Ek aise insaan par dhyaan dijiye jisse baat karna aasaan hai, aur wo kya karta hai
- Chupchaap poochhiye: ye keh diya jaye to kya badalne ki ummeed hai?
- Dekhiye ki din ke kaun se hisse us vishay ke baare mein hain hi nahi
Sab nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke parivar mein kab koi mushkil baat achhe se hui, aur kis cheez ne madad ki?
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun baat karne mein aasaan hai, aur wo kya karta hai ki aasaan lagta hai?
- Kisi mushkil vishay ka ek baar, din ke ujaale mein naam liya jaana aapko kya deta?
- Agar is chaah ki pakad thodi dheeli pade, to agle khane par sabse pehle kya badlega?
- Aapka parivar pehle se kya kehta ya karta hai jise aap aur dekhna chahenge?