Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Plan usi taraf bhi jhuk jaate hain jo zyada banata hai, ya jis group ko jodna aasaan hai, bina kisi ke tay kiye.
Kuch logon mein ye us jode ko dekhkar bani jiske dost sab ghul-mil gaye the: har birthday par ek lambi table, aur kisi ko pakka nahi ki kaun kiska dost hai.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar inhein meri parwaah hoti, to mere doston ki bhi hoti,” ya “Unke doston ke saath plan matlab mere dost maayne nahi rakhte.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Apne doston ke zyadatar plan khud bana lena
- Unke plan mein chale jaana aur apne doston ko working days ke liye rakhna
- Kisi birthday par dono tolian milwa dena aur ummeed rakhna
- Apne doston se alag-alag, apne waqt par mil lena
- Chupchaap ginte rehna ki is baar kiska weekend tha
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Sirf unke plan wala weekend
Thursday ki shaam, Jaipur ke C-Scheme ka flat. Aapke partner weekend zor se bana rahe hain: Saturday ko college walon ke saath cafe, Sunday ko cousin ke yahan lunch. Aapko yaad aata hai ki hafton se aapke dost kisi se nahi mile. Aap group chat kholte ho, chhoote hue dinner ki photo dekhte ho aur chupchaap band kar dete ho. Seene mein halka-sa khaalipan baith jaata hai.
Mere dost bhi plan mein hon
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Partner ko mere doston ke saath bhi plan banane chahiye.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Dono ke apne log hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har weekend ko scoreboard bana deta hai. Kiske dost, kiske gharwale, kiski baari. Aur aap ginte rehte ho to aapki apni dostiyan kisi aur ke calendar mein aane ka intezaar karti hain.
Dost humara hissa kyun hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki dost humara hissa hain, aur hum chahte hain ki wo saajhi zindagi mein bhi hon. Shayad is rishte se pehle dost hi aapki poori duniya the. Shayad aapne unke doston ke liye bina soche jagah bana di. Barabari chahna chhoti baat nahi. Ye apne logon ke maayne rakhne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har weekend ki chupchaap ginti
Unke plan se bhara har weekend chupchaap ginti badhata hai. Aap wo photo dekhte ho jinmein aap nahi ho. Apne hi weekend mein mehmaan jaisa lagne lagta hai. Doston ke message ka jawab der se jaata hai, kyunki pata nahi kab milna hoga. Jin dostiyon ne aapko sambhala, wo dheere-dheere zindagi ke peeche chali jaati hain.
Kya ginti rakhna sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya kiske dost kitne gaye, ye ginne se kabhi aapka calendar apne logon se bhara? Ya weekend bas tedhe lage? Kuch log sirf zyada plan banate hain, aur wajah koi pakka nahi jaanta. Calendar ka khaali khana aapke doston ki ahmiyat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna theek hai?
Doston ke liye waqt khud nikalna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki apne doston ko saajhi zindagi mein chahna band ho. Matlab ye ki aapki dostiyon ko partner ke plan ka intezaar nahi karna. Ek dost ke saath chai aap khud calendar mein daal sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aapke log zindagi mein rehte hain, aur weekend chupchaap ka muqabla nahi rehte.
Being kept from your friends, checked on, put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mere doston ke saath bhi plan banane chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere dost maayne rakhte hain. Waqt khud nikalna mere haath mein hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is mahine ki ek khaali shaam apne plan ke liye rakhiye
- Din 2
Doston ke saath ki purani photo dekhkar muskuraiye
- Din 3
Jab ginti shuru ho, ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Apne doston ke saath kaun si shaam aapko seedhe-seedhe shaandaar yaad hai, aur kyun?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Phir is weekend bhi unki toli #
“Partner ko mere doston ke saath bhi plan banane chahiye.” Ye aksar tab aata hai jab aage ka mahina dekha ja raha ho: Saturday ko unke college walon ke saath cafe, Sunday ko unke cousin ke yahan lunch, aur aapke doston ka naam kahin nahi.
Kuch logon ke liye baat ye nahi ki unke dost kam pasand hain. Baat ye hai ki saajha calendar saajha lage: unke yaar-dost bhi aur aapke bhi, dono ka number aaye, aur aapke dost us zindagi ka hissa hon jo aap dono ki hai.
Apne doston ki kaun si mehfil aapko sabse achhi yaad hai, aur usmein kya khaas tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Calendar par nazar daudate hue #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki agle weekend ka plan sunte hi seene mein halki-si kasaav aa jaati hai, aur wo phir usi group ke saath hai. Kuch ke dimaag mein turant ginti chal padti hai ki aakhri baar unke apne dost list mein kab the.
Ye sab ek pal mein ho jaata hai, ye sochne se pehle ki plan aise kyun bane. Unke doston ke saath achha bhi lag sakta hai aur apne doston ki yaad bhi aa sakti hai, ek hi Saturday mein.
Pichli baar jab koi weekend plan aapke doston ke bina bana, to pehle pal mein aapne kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Dost bhi insaan ka hissa hain #
Ye chaah samajh mein aati hai. Doston ke paas aksar kisi ki lambi kahani hoti hai: purane mazaak, pehle wale roop, wo log jinhone sabse pehle jaana. Jab partner kabhi shaamil nahi hota, to zindagi ka ek poora hissa alag kamre mein reh sakta hai.
Plan usi taraf bhi jhuk jaate hain jo zyada banata hai, ya jis group ko jodna aasaan hai, bina kisi ke tay kiye. Isse chaah chhoti nahi hoti; bas itna ki calendar ka tedhapan kisi ki socha-samjha pasand na ho.
Kisi aam shaam aapke sabse purane doston ke saath apne partner ko hanste dekhna aapke liye kya maayne rakhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Calendar sambhalne wali awaaz #
“Hamesha unhi ke dost.” “Mere wale kab mile the aakhri baar?” “Mere doston ko lagta hoga, mera koi ata-pata hi nahi.” Ye awaaz aksar unke group ke ek aur dinner ki or jaate hue aati hai, ya us raat ki tasveerein dekhte hue jismein aap nahi the.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz us doosre group ke khilaaf nahi hai. Wo aksar poochh rahi hoti hai ki saajhi zindagi mein aapke apne logon ki jagah hai ya nahi, aur dostii plan mein utni maayne rakhti hai jitni dil mein.
Jab awaaz kahe “mere wale kab mile the”, to wo uski jagah kaun si tasveer dekhna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ek hi table wali tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye us jode ko dekhkar bani jiske dost sab ghul-mil gaye the: har birthday par ek lambi table, aur kisi ko pakka nahi ki kaun kiska dost hai. Us tasveer ke saamne alag-alag weekend kuch adhoore lag sakte hain.
Kuch ke dost tab chhoote jab zindagi mein koi naya aaya, aur unhone tay kar liya ki dobara aisa nahi hone denge. Dono raaston se apne doston ke saath saajha plan bahut maayne rakhne lag sakte hain.
Aapke jaanne walon mein kiske dost aur rishta aasaani se saath chalte dikhte hain, aur wo kya karte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kiske dost ginaa jaayein, ye niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar inhein meri parwaah hoti, to mere doston ki bhi hoti,” ya “Unke doston ke saath plan matlab mere dost maayne nahi rakhte.” Kahi hui baat weekend ki hai; niyam tay karta hai ki har calendar ka kya matlab nikle.
Isme sachchi samajh hai; saajhi zindagi mein dono taraf ke log hote hain. Par niyam har plan ko muqabla bhi bana sakta hai, aur dono mein se kisi bhi toli ke saath shaam ka maza mushkil kar sakta hai.
Kuch log ise pehle kabhi chhooti dostii se jod paate hain, kuch nahi.
Kiske dost ginaa jaayein, ye niyam kab theek baithta hai, aur kab chubhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ginti rakhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai unke doston ke saath shaamein aadhe mann se, kisi birthday mein dabi-si shikayatein, aur apne doston se jaldbaazi ki chai jo aur plans ke beech fit ki gayi. Weekend bhara ho sakta hai, phir bhi tedha lag sakta hai.
Samay ke saath kuch log dekhte hain ki ginti khud apni jagah gher leti hai: birthday cake ke maze ki jagah chehre ginne mein beet jaata hai. Dost ab bhi hain, aur unke saath ka waqt bachana ab bhi aapke haath mein hai.
Aap kis dost ke saath bina jaldi ka ek din sabse zyada bitana chahoge, aur kya karoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Saalon baad bhi ginee jaati diary #
Kuch saal aage ek lambe weekend ki tasveer banaiye, jiske peeche ab bhi “wo mere doston ke saath plan banayein” chal raha hai. Bas tasveer, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad weekend ka plan banate hue ginna ki kitne chehre unki taraf ke hain; unke dost ke ghar birthday; kisi purane dost se lambi call jo Sunday mein thoons di gayi.
Ye bas sketch hai, kabhi bhi band ho sakta hai; isse kuch tay nahi hota.
Usmein kya hai: nyote, group photo, diary ke naam, wo dost jinhein phone karna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo weekend Friday raat se kaise chalta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek kadam peeche se dekhein to us weekend ka kaun sa hissa aap apne kisi apne ke saath bitana chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Shaamil hona kai size mein aata hai #
Kuch partner har plan mein shaamil hote hain; kuch doston se ek-ek karke milna pasand karte hain, bade group se thak jaate hain, ya abhi jaante nahi ki kahan fit hon. Kuch koshish hi nahi kar paate, aur wo farq sachcha hai.
Is sab se chaah zyada nahi ho jaati. Bas itna ki “mere doston ke saath plan” mein kai ummeedein ho sakti hain: kabhi-kabhaar saajhi shaam, unke naam aur khabron mein dilchaspi, ya calendar mein aapke logon ke liye jagah.
“Mere doston ke saath bhi plan” ke bheetar kis hisse ka sabse zyada matlab hoga: saajhi shaamein, dilchaspi, ya jagah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapke paas pehle se kya hai #
Tedhe weekend ke paas bhi kuch cheezein pehle se aapki hain: wo dost jo lambe antaraal ke baad bhi message karte hain, purana group jo aapke birthday par chamak uthta hai, aur aapka apna tareeka dostii ko garam rakhne ka, chahe season kitna bhi vyast ho.
Inhein dekhne se tedha calendar theek nahi ho jaata, aur ye barabar karne ko bhi nahi kehta. Jo dostiyan aapne chalaye rakhin, wo bhi tasveer ka hissa hain.
Aapki kaun si dostii vyast dinon mein bhi tiki rahi, aur ab usmein aapko sabse zyada kya achha lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Do tolian, aur aapki bhi jagah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab hai ki unke group ke saath ek aur weekend tay nahi karta ki kiske dost maayne rakhte hain. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hain, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Unke dost aur alag waqt unka bhi hai; ye ummeed kisi par nazar rakhne ki wajah kabhi nahi.
Kuch aur baat hai agar aap par nazar rakhi jaaye, password maange jaayein, phone ya messages khangaale jaayein, paise par qabza ho, kaagzaat rakh liye jaayein, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaaye, neecha dikhaya jaaye, chillaya jaaye ya mood ka dosh aap par aaye.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya nijee photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye kuch aur hai, gambhirta se lene laayak; saath chalna ya saavdhaan rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Jo partner aapke doston ko neecha dikhaye, ya har shaam ki keemat baad mein vasoole, wo bhi calendar ki baat nahi. Aapke doston ko jagah mile, ye chaah jaayaz hai, aur reh sakti hai.
Kisi purane dost ke saath aisi dopahar sochiye jismein kuch aur nahi chahiye: aap kahan ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Weekend plan ke liye ek vaakya #
Kuch log “partner ko mere doston ke saath bhi plan banane chahiye” ke saath doosra vaakya rakhte hain: “Mere dost hamare weekend mein shaamil hon, ye mujhe achha lagega, aur meri dostiyan meri apni hain, tab bhi.” Dono vaakya sach ho sakte hain.
Shuru mein ye thoda akda hua lag sakta hai; kuch ko wo sahara deta hai. Kuch shabd badalte hain jab tak wo apne jaise na lagein. Koi bhi imaandaar roop kaafi hai.
Aapka apna roop kya hoga, jo saajha plan ki chaah bhi rakhe aur dostiyon ko aapka bhi rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Ek weekend bas ek weekend hai #
Unke group ke saath ek aur shaam aapke doston par faisla nahi banti. Kuch plan maze se nibhakar diary mein chhode ja sakte hain, jaise coat ki jeb mein pada ticket: wahin hai, koi scorecard nahi.
Inmein wo sab shaamil nahi jismein aapke doston ke naam par neecha dikhaya jaaye, nazar rakhi jaaye, password maange jaayein, phone-messages khangaale jaayein, paise par qabza ho, kaagzaat rakhe jaayein, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaaye, chillaya jaaye ya mood ka dosh aap par aaye.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya nijee photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur saavdhaan rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Ek weekend chhod dene se chaah par koi faisla nahi hota. Bas itna ki aapke doston ke saath agla plan kisi ke intezaar mein nahi rukta.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar ginti thodi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye: chaah ek darja neeche. Aapke doston ko jagah mile, ye chaah ab bhi hai, aur apne plan ab bhi ban sakte hain.
Shayad apne doston ke saath ek Saturday, jo jaisa hai waisa hi achha lage, ya kisi aise dost se lambi baat jisne aapko pandrah ki umar mein jaana aur aaj bhi hansa deta hai.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kya badla lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke liye pehli aam cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch nijee cheezein aazmane ko #
- Kisi ek dost ko yaad kijiye jiski kami khalti hai, aur usmein kya pasand hai
- Dhyaan dijiye ki kaun se plan aapko sabse achhe lage, kisi ne bhi banaye hon
- Kisi dost ke saath sirf apne liye ek bina jaldi ki mulaqaat tay kijiye
- Koi mili-juli shaam yaad kijiye jo achhi rahi, aur kya kaam aaya
- Dekhiye aapki dostiyan chhote-chhote tareeqon se kaise chalti rahi hain
Har ek nijee aur apni marzi ka hai. Jo aasaan lage, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Apne doston ke saath kaun si shaam aapko seedhe-seedhe shaandaar yaad hai, aur kyun?
- Aapke sabse purane dost aapke baare mein kya jaante hain jo kam log jaante hain?
- Kis dost ke paas aap sabse zyada apne jaise rehte ho, aur usmein kya hai?
- Agar weekend kiska tha, ye ginna thoda halka ho, to weekend kaise lagenge?
- Aapki kaun si dostii ko aap thoda aur waqt dena chahoge?