Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Thande pal ko dil par le lena bhi bahut insaani hai.
Kuch log ab bhi ek cousin ke partner ki tasveer rakhte hain jo parivaar mein aise ghul gaye jaise hamesha se the: Dada-Dadi ko chedna, purane qisson par hansna, har birthday par yaad rakhe jaana.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Pyaar karte to mere parivaar se bhi karte,” ya “Mera parivaar unka bhi parivaar lagna chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Mulaqaatein chhoti aur achhi tarah plan ki hui rakhna
- Har mulaqaat se pehle dono taraf ek-doosre ki taareef kar dena
- Kamre mein partner ke paas rehkar unke liye anuvaad karte rehna
- Parivaar se akele zyada milne jaana
- Baad mein kisi cousin se mulaqaat ki baat karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Raksha Bandhan par kinare baithe partner
Patna, Boring Road ke paas aapke Mummy-Papa ke flat mein Raksha Bandhan ka lunch. Kamra bhara aur shor wala hai, thaaliyan ghoom rahi hain. Aapke partner kinare par baithe hain, vinamra, chup, zyadatar phone par. Baad mein Bua pyaar se poochhti hain, “Khaana pasand aaya na?” Aap kehte ho “Haan, bahut,” aur bartan rasoi mein le jaate hue gaal halke se garam ho jaate hain.
Unhein aapke parivaar se garm hona chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere partner ko mere parivaar ke saath garmjoshi se pesh aana chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Ye wahi log hain jinhone aapko paala. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapko har mulaqaat ka referee bana deta hai. Aap partner ka chehra, parivaar ki reactions aur dono ke beech ki doori dekhte rehte ho, aur khud din ka maza lete kabhi aaram nahi kar paate.
Hum apnon ko juda kyun chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki jinhein hum chahte hain, unka aapas mein pyaar chahte hain. Shayad aapne aasaan mulaqaaton ki kalpana ki hai, sab table par saath hanste hue. Shayad aapka parivaar garm aur shorgul wala hai, aur shaanti aapko doori lagti hai. Dono haal mein unke beech garmaahat chahna zyada nahi. Ye apni poori duniya ke mel ki chaah hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Baad mein unke liye maafi maangna
Har thandi mulaqaat thodi aur fikar jodti hai. Aap partner ki taraf se maafi maangne lagte ho, ya parivaar ki taraf se, kabhi dono ki. Gaadi mein safayi ki rehearsal karte ho. Do pakshon ke beech bantaa feel karte ho, jabki kisi ne chunne ko nahi kaha. Jin tyohaaron se pyaar tha, wo mehnat jaise lagne lagte hain, aur aap jaane se zyada thakaan lekar lautte ho.
Kya perfect mel itna laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya har mulaqaat ki refereegiri se kabhi wo aapas mein garm hue? Ya zyadatar mulaqaatein aapke liye hi bhaari hui? Log garmaahat alag-alag tarah se dikhate hain, aur bade family get-together kuch logon par bhaari pad sakte hain. Jo bhi ho, unka andaaz aapke parivaar ya aapke partner ki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna uske laayak hai?
Unka apna raasta, aapka din
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap ummeed chhod do ki wo kareeb aayenge. Matlab ye hai ki har mulaqaat aapko chalani nahi padti. Wo ek-doosre ke saath apna raasta, apni raftaar se, khud dhoondh sakte hain. Aap baith sakte ho, kha sakte ho, hans sakte ho, aur apne parivaar ka maza le sakte ho. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: tyohaar phir aapke maze ke hain, sambhalne ki duty nahi.
Being kept from your family, checked on, put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mere parivaar se garmjoshi se milna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleWo apna raasta khud dhoondhein. Din ka maza mera.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agle family khaane mein ek pakwaan aaram se chakhiye
- Kadam 2
Jab sabko khush rakhne lagein, to ek saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Paanch minute wo kijiye jo aapko pasand hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun sa family get-together aapko bas khushnuma yaad hai, aur use aisa kya banata tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Thaali se zyada kisi ka chehra dekhte hue #
“Mere partner ko mere parivaar ke saath garmjoshi se pesh aana chahiye.” Ye tyohaar ke lunch mein ubhar sakti hai jab partner kamre ke kinare tika rahe, parivaar se milne jaate waqt gaadi mein jab maahaul chup ho jaaye, ya jab Bua pyaar se poochhein, “Khaana pasand aaya na?”
Ye ummeed hai ki jinhein aap chahte ho wo ek-doosre ke saath sahaj hon: Mummy ya Papa ke saath saajhi hansi, kisi cousin se poochha gaya sawaal, chai par badle gaye qisse. Dikhaavti lagaav nahi, bas itni garmaahat ki ghar ki mulaqaat do zindagiyon ki jagah ek lage.
Aapke partner aur aapke parivaar ke beech ka kaun sa pal, chahe chhota, aapko muskaan ke saath yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Dehleez par kasaav #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ghar ki dehleez par kandhe tan jaate hain, aur mann pehle se bhaanp raha hota hai ki mulaqaat kaisi jaayegi. Kuch ko chhote jawab par jhenp ki lehar feel hoti hai, ya chuppi ko koi qissa sunakar bharne ki fauri ichha.
Ye reactions kuch hone se pehle hi shuru ho sakti hain. Mann anuvaad karne, baat sambhalne aur samjhane ko taiyaar ho jaata hai, aur khaana parose jaane se bahut pehle parivaar ka lunch ek chhoti duty ban sakta hai.
Apne partner ke saath pichli family mulaqaat mein, shuru ke kuch minuton mein aap kis cheez par nazar rakhe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Apnon ka aapas mein sahaj hona chahna #
Ye chaah samajhna aasaan hai. Parivaar kai logon ke hone ka hissa hai, aur partner ki garmaahat uske poore itihaas ke liye garmaahat lag sakti hai: ghar, khaana, purane mazaak. Ise chahna aam hai, aur jaayaz bhi.
Thande pal ko dil par le lena bhi bahut insaani hai. Sharmeela, thaka hua ya bas alag mizaaj wala partner door lag sakta hai, aur wo doori parivaar ya aap par tippani jaisi lage, jabki shaayad dono na ho.
Aapki apni tasveer mein, ek aam mulaqaat par partner aur parivaar ke beech garmaahat kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Kamre ke beech mein khadi awaaz #
“Ek muskaan itni mushkil thi kya?” “Mere gharwale to hamesha pyaar se mile.” “Baaki sab to kar lete hain.” Ye awaaz aksar wahan jaate waqt gaadi mein bolti hai, thaaliyan uthate hue rasoi mein, ya lautte hue jab mulaqaat dohrayi ja rahi ho.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz do wafadaariyon ke beech khadi hai aur dono ko aasaan rakhna chahti hai. Neeche se wo aksar ek lunch se kam aur har baar pul banne ki zaroorat na padne se zyada judi hoti hai.
Jab beech ki awaaz tez ho, to agli family mulaqaat mein wo sabse zyada kya hone ki ummeed karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ek garm parivaar ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch log ab bhi ek cousin ke partner ki tasveer rakhte hain jo parivaar mein aise ghul gaye jaise hamesha se the: Dada-Dadi ko chedna, purane qisson par hansna, har birthday par yaad rakhe jaana. Sahaj swagat ki wo tasveer lambe waqt tik sakti hai.
Kahin aur naye aane walon ko barson door rakha gaya, aur chaah uthi ki apne partner se alag bartaav ho: swagat, pyaar se chhedchhaad, table ke beech mein baithne ki jagah.
Aapke bade parivaar mein kaun naye aaye logon ko ghar jaisa feel karane mein maahir raha hai, aur wo kya karte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Do parivaaron ke milne ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Pyaar karte to mere parivaar se bhi karte,” ya “Mera parivaar unka bhi parivaar lagna chahiye.” Jo sunayi deta hai wo garmaahat ki ummeed hai; niyam tay karta hai ki parivaar ki table par har thande pal ka kya matlab nikle.
Isme sachchai hai: ye udaar tasveer hai. Par niyam garmaahat se tay waqt par aane ko keh sakta hai, jabki badon ke beech nazdeeki aksar dheere badhti hai, aur doori ki apni wajahein ho sakti hain, kisi bhi taraf se.
Kuch log aise niyam ko apne parivaar mein naye logon ke saath hue bartaav se jod paate hain; kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Garmaahat wala niyam kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan bahut jaldi bahut zyada maangta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Pul banne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisi family mulaqaatein jo maze ki jagah nigrani mein beetein, tyohaar ka lunch jismein khaane ka swaad bhi na mile, aur baad ki shaamein ye dohrate hue ki kisne kya kaha. Mulaqaat ho jaati hai, par uski kuch garmaahat use sambhalne mein kharch ho jaati hai.
Dheere-dheere parivaar ka waqt is taalmel ke hisaab se mudne lag sakta hai: chhoti mulaqaatein, sochi-samjhi baithak, din ki zaroorat se thodi zyada planning. Sab kuch sahaj rakhna chupchaap wahan hone ke kaam ka hissa ban sakta hai.
Pichle saal ka kaun sa family mauqa aap bas maze se jeena chahte the, aur wo kis cheez ka tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Saalon baad family lunch, ab bhi sambhale jaate hue #
Ek aam tyohaari dopahar ki tasveer banaiye jab “unhein mere parivaar se garmjoshi rakhni chahiye” sabse tez khayal ho. Bas ek tasveer, tay karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad family lunch mein thaali se zyada partner ka chehra dekhna; chuppi bharne ko koi qissa sunana; mulaqaat ko chhota rakhna taaki achhi rahe.
Inmein se kuch bhi poorvaanumaan nahi; ye aisa khaaka hai jise kabhi mitaya ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: safar, dehleez, baithne ki jagah, baatcheet, wo mulaqaatein jo aapne sochi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us dopahar mein kya bhara hai, aur kya peeche reh jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us tyohaari dopahar mein kaun sa pal aapka dhyaan sabse zyada kheenchta hai, aur wahi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Garmaahat, kis shakl mein? #
Garmaahat kai shaklon mein aati hai. Jo partner aasaani se baatein nahi karte, wo har mulaqaat ke liye lamba raasta chala sakte hain, kisi relative ka phone theek kar sakte hain, bhaari bag utha sakte hain, ya baad mein chupchaap poochh sakte hain ki Mummy kaisi hain.
Isse ummeed zyada nahi ho jaati, aur table par thandapan theek bhi nahi ho jaata. Bas itna ki “mere parivaar se garmjoshi rakho” mein kai ummeedein ho sakti hain: milansaarita, koshish, izzat, ya bas ye ki aapko sambhalna na pade.
“Mere parivaar se garmjoshi rakho” mein jo kuch hai, usmein sabse bada farq kya dalega: milansaarita, koshish, ya izzat?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se aapke paas hai #
Akdi dopaharon ke bagal mein kuch cheezein pehle se aapki hain: wo relatives jinhein aap chahte ho aur jinka chehra aapke aane par khil uthta hai, parivaar ke wo qisse jo ab bhi hansate hain, aur logon se bhare kamre mein aapki apni garmaahat.
Isse doori theek nahi ho jaati, aur iske badle aapse kuch nahi maanga ja raha. Apne parivaar mein aapki apni jagah bhi tasveer ka hissa hai, table par koi bhi ho.
Parivaar ka kaun sa relative ya rivaaz pehle se aapko khushi deta hai, jis par aap thoda aur dhyaan dena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Family mulaqaatein, pul banaye bina #
Sulah ka matlab ummeed ko khada rehne dena hai, faisla sunaye bina. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Aapka parivaar aapka hai; unse milne se roka jaana, chunne ko majboor kiya jaana, ya har mulaqaat ki baad mein keemat garmaahat ka sawaal hai hi nahi.
Na hi aap par nazar rakhi jaana, track kiya jaana ya password maanga jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paison par qabza, kaagzaat rakh liye jaana, doston, family, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillana, ya mood ka dosh aap par daala jaana.
Na hi dhamkiyan, khud ko, aapko, doosron ko ya pet ko nuksaan pahunchane ya nijee photos share karne ki, dhakka dena, pakadna ya chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki ke liye dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye sab gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur saath chalna ya satark rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Partner ke apne parivaar, waqt aur seemayein bhi maayne rakhti hain; garmaahat maangi nahi ja sakti, aur seva ya khushaamad karwana garmaahat nahi. Apnon ka aapas mein sahaj hona chahna jaayaz hai.
Ek aisa family lunch sochiye jo aapko apne aap mein achha lage: aap kiske qisse par hans rahe ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Wahan jaate raaste ke liye ek pankti #
“Mere partner ko mere parivaar ke saath garmjoshi se pesh aana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log aisi pankti paas rakhte hain: “Mujhe achha lagega ki wo aapas mein garmjoshi se milein, aur apne parivaar ka maza mujhe dono haal mein mil sakta hai.” Ye purane vaakya ke saath reh sakti hai, use haraye bina.
Shuru mein lag sakta hai ki ummeed ghatayi ja rahi hai. Kuch ko lagta hai ki isse wahan ka safar halka ho jaata hai; kuch shabd tab tak badalte hain jab tak wo zyada fit na baithein. Jo sachcha lage, wahi roop theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo garmaahat ki ummeed bhi rakhe aur aapko parivaar ka maza bhi lene de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch mulaqaatein bas mulaqaatein ho sakti hain #
Parivaar ki table par har thande pal ka matlab zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekhkar wahin chhoda ja sakta hai, kursi ki peeth par rakhi shawl ki tarah: din ka hissa, ghar saath nahi laaya gaya.
Isme ye sab nahi aata: parivaar se milne se roka jaana, chunne ko majboor kiya jaana, aap par nazar rakhi jaana, track kiya jaana ya password maanga jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paison par qabza, kaagzaat rakh liye jaana, doston, family, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaana.
Yahi baat dhamkiyon par bhi laagu hai, khud ko, aapko, doosron ko ya pet ko nuksaan pahunchane ya nijee photos share karne ki, dhakka dena, pakadna ya chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki ke liye dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ise gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur satark rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Ek mulaqaat ko thehrne dena use theek nahi banata, aur sawaal band bhi nahi karta. Bas itna ki agla din use dohrate hue shuru hona zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar pul banane ki zaroorat thodi dheeli ho #
Ek pal ke liye, sirf tasveer ki tarah, chaah ko ek darja dheela hone dijiye. Garmaahat ki ummeed ab bhi hai, aur thanda lunch bas ek lunch reh sakta hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki ye chhoti cheezein hain, jaise parivaar ke lunch mein Bua ka qissa aur apni thaali ka maza lena, ya kisi cousin se aisi phone call jo bas aap dono ki ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur jo pehle se aapke paas hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Apne taur par aazmane ki chhoti cheezein #
- Agli mulaqaat se pehle dekhiye ki aap kis cheez ke liye pehle se taiyaar ho rahe ho
- Fikar ke neeche ki chaah ko naam dijiye: garmaahat, izzat, ya sukoon
- Agle lunch mein ek pakwaan ko theek se chakhiye, bas apne liye
- Wo ek pal dekhiye jab dono taraf ke log aaram se baithe the, chahe kitna bhi chhota
- Parivaar ke kisi aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jise khulne mein waqt laga, aur jo khul gaya
Nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun sa family get-together aapko bas khushnuma yaad hai, aur use aisa kya banata tha?
- Apne parivaar ki kaun si baat aapko sabse pyaari lagti hai, jo aap chahte ho partner dekhein?
- Aapke parivaar mein kaun sabko sahaj feel karata hai, aur kaise?
- Agar mulaqaaton mein pul banne ki zaroorat thodi dheeli ho, to wo din kaise lagenge?
- Family get-together ka kaun sa hissa aap pehle se apne tareeke se pasand karte ho?