Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Saath tab sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai jab kaam anishchit ho: nayi naukri, career badalna, mushkil boss, koi project jo doob bhi sakta hai.
Kai baar ye tasveer kisi mausi ya mummy-papa se aati hai jinke kaam par ghar mein taaliyan bajti thin: deewar par tange certificate, exam ke baad khaas khaana, kisi ka der raat tak presentation mein haath bantana.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bharosa hota to mere kaam ka saath dete,” ya “Saath ka matlab hai jab main utsaah mein hoon, tab ve bhi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Ghar par kaam ki baat karna hi band kar dena
- Sirf jeetein sunana, fikr kabhi nahi
- Kaam ko zaroorat se zyada samjhana, is ummeed mein ki ab shayad pahunche
- Jashn office ke saathiyon ya doston ke saath manana
- Ghanton par apradh-bodh mehsoos karna, phir us apradh-bodh par jhunjhalana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Proposal chuna gaya, jawab saapat
Wednesday ki raat, Patna. Abhi pata chala hai ki hafton ki mehnat wala aapka proposal ek bade project ke liye chun liya gaya. Khaane par aap muskurate hue partner ko batate ho. Ve kehte hain “Achha hai”, phir poochhte hain ki gas book karwayi ya nahi. Aap jawab dete ho, aur utsaah dheere-dheere, poora-poora, sink ke paani ki tarah bah jaata hai.
Aapka kaam gambhirta se liya jaaye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Partner ko mere kaam ka saath dena chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Aapke liye kaam maayne rakhta hai, to ghar mein bhi rakhna chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka kaam tab tak aadha-sa asli lagta hai jab tak partner use gambhirta se na lein. Aapki jeetein khaane ki table par jawab ki raah dekhti hain, aur garv us jawab tak ruka rehta hai.
Ghar mein saath kyun maayne rakhta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki ghar mein saath milne se office ke mushkil din aasaan ho jaate hain. Shayad aapne unke kaam par taali bajayi aur wahi lautne ki aas rakhi. Shayad kaam aapki pehchaan ka bada hissa hai. Jo bhi ho, unka saath chahna swaarth nahi hai. Ye chaah hai ki aapki mehnat sabse kareebi insaan ki nazar mein aaye. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Kaam ki baatein kam sunana
Har saapat pratikriya chamak thodi ghata deti hai. Aap ghar par kaam ki achhi khabrein sunana band kar dete ho. Jin baaton ki aapko sabse zyada parwah hai, unmein akelapan mehsoos hota hai. Bartan dhote hue unka saapat “Achha hai” dohrate ho. Jis kaam se pyaar tha, wo aisi cheez lagne lagta hai jise akele dhona hai, aur har baar uska garv thoda aur simat jaata hai.
Kya unki taali ka intezaar theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unke saath ki raah dekhne se aapka kaam kabhi zyada asli laga? Ya zyada-tar aapki jeetein chhoti lagin? Jis kaam ko poora samajhte nahi, usmein dilchaspi dikhana kuch logon ke liye mushkil hota hai, aur kuch saath yun dikhate hain ki chupchaap doosre kaam sambhal lete hain. Jo bhi ho, unki pratikriya aapke kaam ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itne kaskar pakde rakhna sahi hai?
Pehle apne kaam par garv
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap unse dilchaspi ki ummeed chhod do. Matlab ye ki aapke kaam ko asli hone ke liye ab unki pratikriya nahi chahiye. Aapko pata hai aapne kya banaya. Us par garv sabse pehle, poora-poora, khaane se pehle kiya ja sakta hai. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapka kaam aapke garv ke liye hai, aur jo saath mile, wo upar se mila inaam hai.
Being kept from your work, checked on, put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleInhein mere kaam ko gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya rulePehle main apne kaam par garv karun. Unka saath upar se inaam hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte ki ek baat ka khud naam lijiye jis par aapko garv hai
- Din 2
Kaam ki ek jeet ka ek shaam, bas apne liye, lutf uthaiye
- Din 3
Dekhiye partner aapke kaam ke liye jagah kaise banate hain
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kisne kabhi aapke kaam ka aisa saath diya jisse sachmuch farq pada, aur usne kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Office ki khushkhabri, ek vaakya mein #
“Partner ko mere kaam ka saath dena chahiye.” Ye khayal tab aa sakta hai jab promotion ki khabar par “Achha hai, chalo khaana khaayein” sunne ko mile, jab deadline se pehle ki der raat par sirf aah mile, ya jab kisi naye idea ke baare mein utsaah se batane par jawab aaye “Ye bhi koi naukri hai?”
Ye chaah hai ki kaam ghar mein bhi ginaa jaaye: mehnat, chintayein, chhoti jeetein. Har email par taaliyan nahi, bas ye ehsaas ki sabse kareebi insaan jaanta hai ki kaam aapke liye kya maayne rakhta hai aur is baare mein aapke saath hai.
Haal mein office ki kaun si khabar ghar par sunane ka aapka sabse zyada mann hua, aur baat kaise aage badhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Darwaaze par sikudne ka ehsaas #
Kuch logon ko halka-sa sikudne ka ehsaas hota hai jab achhi khabar saapat jawab se takraati hai: kandhe zara jhuk jaate hain, muskaan ek second zyada tiki rehti hai. Kuch aur log tapish-si bachaav ki bhaavna mehsoos karte hain jab lambe din ka jawab “Itni der tak kaam kyun?” ho.
Ye ehsaas us soch se pehle aa sakte hain ki saamne wale ka apna din kaisa raha. Us pal mein ek daba-sa jawab kaam ke baare mein, aur use karne wale ke baare mein, dabi raay jaisa sunayi de sakta hai.
Pichhli baar jab aap office ki khabar ghar laye, to jawab sunne ke agle second mein aapke andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kaam insaan ki pehchaan ka hissa hai #
Is chaah mein samajhdaari hai. Zyada-tar hafton ka bada hissa kaam le leta hai, aur kai logon ke liye usmein garv, chinta, hunar aur mahatvakanksha sab hote hain. Sabse kareebi insaan se zindagi ke is hisse mein dilchaspi ki ummeed aam aur jaayaz hai.
Saath tab sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai jab kaam anishchit ho: nayi naukri, career badalna, mushkil boss, koi project jo doob bhi sakta hai. Tab ghar par ek hausla dene wala shabd sabse door tak jaata hai, aur uski kami sabse teekhi lag sakti hai.
Aapke kaam ka kaun sa hissa aap chahte ho ki ghar mein koi samjhe, aur agar samajh le to uska kya matlab hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo ek gawah chahti hai #
“Ghar par to koi poochhta hi nahi ki kaisa raha.” “Unka promotion hota to jashn manta.” “Inhein pata bhi hai, din bhar mera kaam hota kya hai?” Ye awaaz aksar ghar lautte waqt, achhi meeting ke baad, ya raat der gaye kisi office message ka jawab dete waqt bolti hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz taaliyon se zyada ek gawah chahti hai: koi jo kaam ki kahani jaane, log, daanv aur chhoti jeetein, taaki office ki jeet office mein hi na reh jaaye.
Jab awaaz saath maangti hai, to wo sabse zyada kya chahti hai ki partner samjhein ki kaam ka aapke liye kya matlab hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Saath dene wale saathi ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kai baar ye tasveer kisi mausi ya mummy-papa se aati hai jinke kaam par ghar mein taaliyan bajti thin: deewar par tange certificate, exam ke baad khaas khaana, kisi ka der raat tak presentation mein haath bantana. Kaam ka saath dene wale ghar ki wo tasveer reh sakti hai.
Kuch aur logon ne aise ghar dekhe jahan kaam ki baat kabhi hoti hi nahi thi, ya ek ka kaam ginaa jaata tha, doosre ka nahi. Uske khilaaf bani ummeed ka poora hona khaas taur par maayne rakh sakta hai. Dono tarah se chaah bhaari ho sakti hai.
Kisne aapke kaam par aise bharosa kiya ki aaj bhi yaad hai, aur usne theek-theek kya kaha ya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Saath diye jaane par bana niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bharosa hota to mere kaam ka saath dete,” ya “Saath ka matlab hai jab main utsaah mein hoon, tab ve bhi.” Zubaan par chaah kaam ki hoti hai; niyam tay karta hai ki har saapat jawab ka matlab kya nikala jaaye.
Isme sachmuch wazan hai. Par yahi niyam kisi partner se ishaare par utsaah ki maang bhi kar sakta hai, us duniya ke baare mein jise ve shayad samajhte hi na hon, jabki saath kabhi-kabhi utsaah ki jagah chupchaap ki gayi vyavaharik madad jaisa dikhta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko us ghar tak le ja paate hain jahan kaam ko jaise dekha jaata tha; kuch nahi.
Saath wala niyam kahan theek baithta hai, aur kahan kisi khaas tarah ki pratikriya maang raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ghar par saapat jawab ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai achhe din jo asal se chhote mehsoos hote hue khatam hon, office ki chintayein jo bina kisi ko bataye dhoyi jaayein, aur shaamein jinmein din ki sabse badi kahani ankahi reh jaaye. Kaam chalta rehta hai, par uska ek hissa office mein hi ruk jaata hai.
Ek saal aise chalne par do zindagiyan samanantar chalti reh sakti hain: kaam wali aur ghar wali, aur dono ke beech jod kam hota hua. Kuch log ye bhi dekhte hain ki kaam ka unka garv shaant hota jaata hai, jaise ginaa jaane ke liye use darshak chahiye.
Beete saal ka kaun sa office ka pal ghar pahunchkar sabse chhota laga, aur us din office mein hua kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kaam aur ghar, saalon baad bhi alag #
Ek Thursday sochiye jab “Mere kaam ka saath dena chahiye” baar-baar lautta hai. Bas ek tasveer, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad office ki achhi khabar ghar lakar ek vaakya mein nipta dena; raat der gaye deadline par shaant kamre mein kaam karna; koi naya idea jo khaane ki table par nahi, saathiyon ke liye bacha rakha gaya.
Ye kuch bhavishyavani nahi karta, aur jab chahein band kiya ja sakta hai.
Us din mein kya-kya hai: meetings, ghar ka raasta, jo khabar aap ghar le jaate ho, jawab, wo plans jo aapne apne tak rakhin?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Thursday mein kya ankaha reh jaata hai, aur kya kaha jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Thursday ko dekhte hue, uska kaun sa hissa sabse bhaari lagta hai, aur kaun sa sabse halka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath, kis roop mein? #
Saath kai roopon mein aata hai. Jo partner meetings ke baare mein nahi poochhte, ve bhi deadline ki raaton mein khaana garm rakh sakte hain, busy mahine mein ghar ke zyada kaam sambhal sakte hain, ya sofa par laptop dekhkar kabhi shikayat nahi karte. Kuch log shabdon se zyada kaam se saath dikhate hain.
Isse chaah zyada nahi ho jaati, aur saapat jawab theek bhi nahi ho jaata. Bas itna ki “Mere kaam ka saath dein” mein kai ummeedein ho sakti hain: dilchaspi, hausla, vyavaharik madad, ya zubaan se kaha gaya garv.
“Kaam ka saath” ke andar is mahine kaun sa sabse zyada maayne rakhega: dilchaspi, hausla, madad, ya garv?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapke paas pehle se kya hai #
Saapat jawabon ke paas kuch cheezein pehle se aapki hain: jo hunar aapne gadha, saathi ya dost jo aapki jeet par taali bajate hain, ek achhe din ke kaam ki tasalli, aur aapka apna andaza ki kaam aage kahan ja raha hai.
Inhein dekhna dilchaspi ki kami ko theek nahi bana deta. Aapke kaam ki qadar aap apni sharton par bhi kar sakte ho, kisi aur ke saath-saath.
Office ki kaun si haalia jeet, chahe kitni bhi chhoti, aap apne hi dhyaan ka thoda aur hissa dena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Kaam ki qadar, taali kisi ki bhi ho #
Is ummeed ke saath thahar jaane mein ummeed apni jagah rehti hai. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hain, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Kaam ya padhai karne se roka jaana, ya kaam chhodne ka dabaav, saath ki kami nahi hai; wo kuch aur hai.
Waisa hi hai jab: nazar rakhi jaaye, password maange jaayein, phone ya messages khangaale jaayein, paise par kabza ho, kaagzaat rakh liye jaayein, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaaye, neecha dikhaya jaaye, chillaya jaaye ya unke mood ka dosh aap par aaye.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya private photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, kisi bhi tarah chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. In sabko gambhirta se lena theek hai, aur saath chalna ya savdhaan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Iska matlab hai ki kaam ginaa jaata rehta hai, darwaaze par jawab jo bhi mile. Ghar mein apne kaam ko gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah ab bhi jaayaz hai.
Ek achhe din ki sochiye jiska lutf ghar tak raaste bhar uthaya gaya: aap kis baat par muskura rahe ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar lautne ke raaste ki ek pankti #
“Partner ko mere kaam ka saath dena chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log haath mein aisa vaakya rakhte hain: “Mere kaam ko ghar par saath mile, ye mujhe pasand aayega, aur uski keemat jawab par tiki nahi hai.” Wo purane vaakya ke bagal mein baith sakta hai, uski jagah liye bina.
Shuru mein lag sakta hai ki kisi jaayaz cheez ko chhoda ja raha hai. Kuch ko lagta hai isse kaam ka lutf badhta hai; kuch shabd tab tak badalte hain jab tak theek na lagein. Aazmane ka koi galat tareeka nahi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo saath ki chaah bhi rakhe aur kaam ko apne pairon par khada bhi rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch jawab bas thake hue jawab hote hain #
Har saapat jawab ka koi matlab hona zaroori nahi. Kuch ko note karke chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise darwaaze ke paas rakhi table par pada ID card: wahan hai, par shaam bhar gale mein nahi.
Kaam chhodne ka dabaav, nazar rakha jaana, password maanga jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paise par kabza, kaagzaat rakh lena, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillana ya unke mood ka dosh aap par aana, ye isme shaamil nahi.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya private photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, kisi bhi tarah chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur savdhaan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Chaah ko ek raat kinare rakh dene se wo theek nahi ho jaati, aur band bhi nahi hoti. Bas itna ki shaam ko is par tikna zaroori nahi ki khabar kaise pahunchi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar saath paane ki zaroorat zara dheeli ho #
Tasveer mein hi, ummeed ko ek paaydan neeche aane dijiye. Saath ki chaah ab bhi hai, aur kaam ab bhi ginaa jaata hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye chhoti baatein hoti hain, jaise achhi khabar lekar ghar aana aur use kisi dost ke voice note ke saath manana, ya jeet ke baad lautte hue pasandida namkeen kharid lena.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi ko kehna nahi hai. Jo ubhre, aapka hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle halka-sa kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein, private taur par aazmane ko #
- Achhe din ke baad, kisi ke jawab se pehle khud ke liye jeet ka naam lijiye
- Dekhiye ki saath ka kaun sa roop sabse zyada chhootta hai: dilchaspi, madad, ya garv
- Us saathi ya dost ko yaad kijiye jo aapka kaam samajhta hai, aur kyun
- Ghar ki koi ek vyavaharik baat dekhiye jisne kaam ka hafta aasaan kiya
- Hafte ki ek chhoti jeet dheere-dheere dohraiye, bas apne liye
Private aur marzi ka. Jo bhaye, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kisne kabhi aapke kaam ka aisa saath diya jisse sachmuch farq pada, aur usne kya kiya?
- Aapke kaam ka kaun sa hissa aapko sabse zyada garv deta hai, aur use achhe se karne mein kya lagta hai?
- Aapki agli achhi khabar par sabse badhiya jawab kaisa sunayi dega?
- Agar ghar par saath paane ki zaroorat zara dheeli ho, to office ke achhe din kaise lagenge?
- Office ki kaun si haalia jeet, chahe kitni bhi chhoti, aap thoda aur sarahna chahoge?