Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Zindagi shaayad hi kisi ke timetable par chalti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye kisi dost ke ghar se aayi jahan koi kisi se sawaal nahi karta tha, ya kisi pyaare mama se jo bas itna poochhte the ki aajkal kya padh rahe ho.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Mere plan mere hain jab tak main baantna na chunun,” ya “Agar wo meri izzat karte to poochhte nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Paarivaarik lunch ki drive se pehle teen jawab taiyaar karna
- Baat jaldi badal dena, cricket par, mausam par ya kisi cousin ki khabar par
- Sabse dhundhla jawab dena, phir lautte hue use dohrana
- Mulaqaatein chhoti rakhna, chalne ki ek shishta wajah pehle se taiyaar rakhkar
- Plan ko asal se kahin zyada pakka batana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Baithne se pehle hi sawaal
Jaipur mein Bua ke ghar Sunday ka lunch. Baithne se pehle hi sawaal shuru ho jaate hain: “Ab aage kya socha hai?”, “Kaun se shehar mein?”, “Course kab shuru kar rahe ho?” Har chacha ke paas ek salah hai. Aap muskurate ho, chhote jawab dete ho, aur dal-baati aage badhate ho. Meethe tak gaal muskurate-muskurate dukhne lagte hain, aur aap ghar jaane ke minute ginne lagte ho.
Unhein plan poochna band karna chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Rishtedaaron ko mere plan poochna band karna chahiye.” Ye waajib lagta hai. Aapke plan aapke hain, aur abhi ban rahe hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har paarivaarik jamavde ko jhelne ki cheez bana deta hai. Aap kasakar aate ho, chaukanne jawab dete ho, thakkar nikalte ho, aur sawaal daawat khatam hone ke baad bhi ghar tak peechha karte lagte hain.
Hamare plan nijee kyun lagte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki hamare plan nijee aur adhoore lagte hain. Shayad aapko khud abhi saare jawab pata nahi, aur ye theek hai. Shayad sawaal usi mez par baithe kishor hone ki yaad dilate hain. Kam sawaal chaahna badtameezi nahi. Ye apne plan shaanti se, apni raftaar par banane ki chaah se aata hai. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har jamavde ka dar
Har jamavda thoda dar jodta hai. Aap paarivaarik kaaryakramon se bachne lagte ho, ya der se pahunchte ho. Gaadi mein jawab ratte ho. Naram sawaalon se bhi aapko parkhe jaane ka ehsaas hota hai. Aapke plan, jo banate samay romanchak the, sabke saamne pass karne ke imtihaan jaise lagne lagte hain, aur har paarivaarik khaane se aap aane se zyada thakaan lekar nikalte ho.
Kya ye dar sehne laayak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya sawaal ruk jayein aisi chaah se kabhi wo ruke hain? Ya zyadatar jamavde aur mushkil hue hain? Kai parivaaron mein plan poochna bas dilchaspi dikhane aur jude rehne ka tareeka hai. Har rishtedaar ka irada kya hai, ye pakka koi nahi keh sakta. Jo bhi ho, koi sawaal aapke plan ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske laayak hai?
Sawaal bas ek sawaal hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki har cheez ka jawab dena hai. Matlab ye ki sawaal bas sawaal reh sakta hai, chhota jawab dekar rakh diya jaye. Aap keh sakte ho “Abhi soch raha hai mann, poochhne ka shukriya” aur khaane ka maza le sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapke plan aapke rehte hain, aur paarivaarik jamavde phir khaane aur saath ke ho sakte hain.
If questions ever come with threats, being watched or tracked, being kept in or kept from people, or anything that frightens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mere plan poochna band karna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSawaal bas ek sawaal hai. Mere plan mere hi rehte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Jaane se pehle ek chhota, naram jawab taiyaar rakhiye
- Kadam 2
Agle paarivaarik khaane mein ek cheez aaram se chakhiye
- Kadam 3
Sawaal shuru hon to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun sa rishtedaar aapke baare mein aise poochhta hai ki aasaan lagta hai, aur kya poochhta hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Har darwaaze par intezaar karte sawaal #
“Rishtedaaron ko mere plan poochna band karna chahiye.” Ye Bua ke ghar ki seedhiyan chadhte hue ban sakta hai, haath ghanti ke paas, aur mann mein teen jaane-pehchane sawaal qatar lagaye: aage kya, kaun sa shehar, aur us naukri mein abhi kitne din.
Ye deck roz ke plan ke baare mein hai: kaam, course, shehar, agla kadam, shaadi ya kisi rishte ke baare mein kabhi nahi. Chaah seedhi-si hai: mehmaan ki tarah mila jaye, kisi project ki tarah interview na liya jaye.
Rishtedaaron wali ye chaah aakhri baar kab aayi thi, aur aap kiske darwaaze par the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sawaal pahunchte hi kya hota hai #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki koi rishtedaar aage jhukkar poochhta hai, “Ab kaam ka kya chal raha hai?” “Abhi tak wahin ho?” aur chehre par shishta muskaan chadh jaati hai. Jawab taiyaar nikalta hai, wahi jo pichhli teen baar diya, har baar thoda chikna.
Kuch ko dil doobta lagta hai ya chidh ki chingaari, phir us chidh par galti ka ehsaas, kyunki sawaal chai, mathri aur baanh par ek garm haath ke saath aaya tha. Ye dono saath aa sakte hain, sawaal kyun poochha gaya iski koi soch aane se pehle.
Pichhli baar jab kisi rishtedaar ne aapke plan poochhe, to jawab nikalne se theek pehle aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Apni raftaar chaahna samajh mein aata hai #
Is ummeed mein sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Plan nijee, adhoore aur badalte ho sakte hain, aur unhein apne waqt par, apni chuni hui jagahon mein baantna apni zindagi chalane ka buniyaadi hissa lag sakta hai.
Zindagi shaayad hi kisi ke timetable par chalti hai. Iske beech poochha gaya sawaal kisi aise plan par pad sakta hai jo aadha hi bana ho, aur aadhe bane plan aksar zor se bolne mein sabse mushkil hote hain.
Agar aapke plan sirf aapke hote, aur taiyaar hone par hi baante jaate, to ghar ki ek aam mulaqaat kaisi lagti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Raaste mein rehearsal karne wali awaaz #
“Sabko sab batana zaroori hai kya?” “Jab kuch batane laayak hoga tab bata diya jayega.” “Ab cousin se tulna karenge.” Awaaz aksar jaate samay gaadi mein bolti hai, aur lautte samay bhi, jo kaha gaya tha use dohrati hui.
Hum aksar sochte hain ki doosre hamein jitna dekhte hain usse zyada dekhte hain. Kuch log paate hain ki jo sawaal unki poori dopahar bhar gaya, wo rishtedaar ke liye us din ke bees sawaalon mein se ek tha, jaldi bhula diya gaya; kuch paate hain ki wo rakha gaya aur phir poochha gaya.
Jab mulaqaat se pehle awaaz aapke jawab dohrati hai, to kis sawaal ki taiyaari sabse zyada karti hai, aur usi ki kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Nijta ki chaah kahan panapti hai #
Kuch logon mein ye kisi dost ke ghar se aayi jahan koi kisi se sawaal nahi karta tha, ya kisi pyaare mama se jo bas itna poochhte the ki aajkal kya padh rahe ho. Ek rishtedaar jo aapko bas rehne deta tha, mulaqaat kaisi honi chahiye iski tasveer bana sakta hai.
Auron mein ye un barson se aayi jab report card baithak mein padhi jaati thi aur nateeje phone par dada-dadi ko sunaye jaate the, har kadam poora hone se pehle baanta gaya. Kuch parivaaron mein plan milkar tay hote hain; kuch mein apne tak rakhe jaate hain.
Apne bachpan ki rishtedaaron ke yahan ki kaun si mulaqaat aapko pyaar se yaad hai, aur use aasaan kisne banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Jo mera hai, use baantne ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Mere plan mere hain jab tak main baantna na chunun,” ya “Agar wo meri izzat karte to poochhte nahi.” Pehli baat log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki darwaaze par har sawaal kaise padha jaye.
Is tarah ka niyam apna elaan nahi karta. Ye nijta jaisa lagta hai, aur jiski ye rakhwali karta hai usmein se bahut kuch rakhwali ke laayak hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, apne rishtedaaron ke saath, jaise wo aaj hain, apne dhang se dilchaspi dikhate hue.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati barson tak le jaate hain; kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Nijta ka niyam kin rishtedaaron ke saath ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinke saath nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein interview kya le jaate hain #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai tyohaar ki mulaqaat sawaalon ke ird-gird buni hui, koi achhi khabar rokkar rakhi hui taaki wo charcha ka vishay na bane, kisi cousin ki kaamyaabi halki chubhan ke saath suni hui, Bua ka phone baad ke liye tala hua. Chhoti cheezein, jo judti jaati hain.
Jab har mulaqaat interview lage, to rishtedaaron ka hi maza lena mushkil ho jaata hai: unke kisse, purane album, wo chutkule jo sirf unhein yaad hain. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo mulaqaat ko isse aankne lage hain ki sawaal kitne kam aaye.
Kisi haal ki paarivaarik mulaqaat ko sochiye: kitna kuch un sawaalon ne gadha jinki aapko ummeed thi, aur isne aapko kya keemat di?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Teen sawaalon ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “Rishtedaar poochna band karein” zor se baj raha hai. Kisi ko is par kuch karna nahi.
Shayad Sunday ke paarivaarik lunch ki drive se pehle teen jawab taiyaar, Bua ka message do baar padha ki peechhe kya ho sakta hai, koi chhoti achhi khabar abhi ke liye rokki hui.
Ye koi poorvanumaan nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein chhodi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: paarivaarik chat, hafte ke ant ki yojnayein, sir mein likhe jawab, chhodi hui khabar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko kya bharta hai, aur kya intezaar karta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar, agar kuch aankh mein aaye, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Poochhna band karein, ya alag tarah se poochhein? #
“Poochhna band karo” mein kai baatein ho sakti hain: koi sawaal nahi, kam sawaal, alag sawaal, plan ki jagah aapke baare mein sawaal, ya har mulaqaat ki jagah ek baar poochha gaya sawaal. Har ek alag chaah hai.
Ummeed tab sabse achha kaam karti hai jab wo uske hisaab ki ho jo sachmuch ho sakta hai. Kuch rishtedaar chahe jo ho poochhte rahenge; kuch logon ko thodi madad milti hai ye jaanakar ki sabse zyada kya chubhta hai: sawaal, tulna, ya sunta hua kamra.
Agar agli mulaqaat mein rishtedaar aapse bas ek sawaal poochhein, to aap sabse zyada kya chahenge ki wo sawaal ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Mulaqaaton mein pehle se kya hai #
Jis nijta ki aapne ummeed ki, uske bagal mein mulaqaaton mein chhoti cheezein bhi ho sakti hain jo dekhne laayak hain, bina maange di gayin aur sawaalon mein ghuli hui: aapke liye bachakar rakhi plate, dadaji ki koi purani kahani, wo cousin behen jo sawaal shuru hone par aankhon se baat kar deti hai.
Inhein dekhna kuch chukana nahi, aur ye nijta ki chaah ko kam waajib nahi banata. Chubhne wala sawaal aur garmaahat dene wali dayaluta ek hi insaan se, ek hi dopahar mein aa sakte hain.
Aaj kuch khaas na dikhe to theek hai.
Agli baar jaayein to paarivaarik mulaqaat mein kaun si chhoti cheez aap thodi aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sawaalon ke saath sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye faisla nahi ki nijta chaahna zyada tha, ya ki sawaal rukne chahiye. Matlab ye ki jis mulaqaat ki aapne aas ki aur jo hui, unke beech ka faasla poore hafte ko gadhna band kar de.
Jo ismein khara hai wo bana reh sakta hai: aapki apni raftaar, aapke plan aapke. Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi.
Agar sawaalon ke saath dhamkiyan aayein, nigraani ya peechha kiya jaana, ghar mein band rakha jaana ya logon se door rakha jaana, aapko kaabu mein rakhne ke liye paise ka istemaal, ya aap jaise hain use badalne ka dabaav, to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak.
Jahan koi sachmuch aapke plan par buri pratikriya deta hai, wahan wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur unhein apne tak rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Agli paarivaarik mulaqaat ki kalpana kijiye, is ummeed se sulah karke: aap kis baare mein, aur kiske saath baat karna pasand karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Darwaaze ke liye apni ek line #
“Rishtedaaron ko mere plan poochna band karna chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo poochh sakte hain, aur mere plan phir bhi taiyaar hone par mere hi baantne ke hain.” Ise jeetna zaroori nahi, bas purani wali ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Kuch logon ko apni line pehli kuch baar atpati lagti hai aur phir zyada apni lagne lagti hai; kuch ko kabhi nahi jamti aur wo kuch aur aazmate hain. Dono theek hain, aur aaj kuch tay nahi karna.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapke plan aapke hi rakhe aur mulaqaat ka maza bhi lene de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch plan jeb mein reh sakte hain #
Har sawaal ka poora jawab zaroori nahi, aur har plan taiyaar hone se pehle baantna zaroori nahi. Kuch abhi ke liye jeb mein reh sakte hain, drawer mein pade course ke brochure ki tarah.
Kuch parivaar abhi aisi chaah nahi sunenge, aur aapko unhein parakhna zaroori nahi. Jahan koi sachmuch aapke plan par buri pratikriya deta hai, wahan wo gambhirta se lene laayak hai, aur unhein apne tak rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aaj shaam ye khayal rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya sab tay hai. Bas itna ki agli mulaqaat aaj raat se shuru nahi karni padegi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar zara dheela ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye, ummeed ek darja dheemi. Nijta ki chaah ab bhi hai, par darwaaze ka sawaal ek sawaal hai, interview nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise jaane ki drive rehearsal ki jagah gaanon mein beetna, Bua ke aangan mein chai ka maza, ya mulaqaat ka sawaalon ki jagah kisson se yaad rehna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye wo aapka hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mulaqaat se pehle dekhiye ki mann kis sawaal ki taiyaari kar raha hai
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun sa sawaal jigyaasa jaisa lagta hai aur kaun sa jaanch jaisa
- Aaj ki koi ek chaahat chuniye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mujhe kaun se plan sachmuch baantne hain, aur kiske saath?
- Mulaqaat ke baad uska koi ek hissa yaad kijiye jiska plan se koi vaasta nahi tha
Chhoti, nijee aur sab vaikalpik. Jo ho paye wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun sa rishtedaar aapke baare mein aise poochhta hai ki aasaan lagta hai, aur kya poochhta hai?
- Paarivaarik mulaqaaton mein aap chahte hain ki koi kaun sa sawaal poochhe, aur aap kya kahenge?
- Agar rishtedaaron ke yahan plan ki koi baat hi na hoti, to aap kis baare mein baat karna pasand karte?
- Agar ye chaah zara halke se thaami jaye, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?
- Paarivaarik mulaqaaton mein pehle se kya hai jiska aap agli baar aur maza lena chahenge?