Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Thakaan chhoti cheezon ko bhaari bhi kar deti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us mummy-papa ya dadi-nani se shuru hui jo school bag girne ke dhang se jaan lete the ki din bura gaya, aur bina bole kuch garam bana dete the.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar care hoti, to bina bataye dikh jaata,” ya “Kehna pade to maza khatam.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Thoda zor se saans chhodna aur ummeed rakhna ki sunayi de
- Kaam nipatne tak chalte rehna, phir chupchaap jhunjhalaahat ke saath baith jaana
- “Main theek hoon” keh kar chalte rehna
- Ginna ki kitni shaamein dikhin, aur kitni nahi
- Bina bataye jaldi so jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Kachra neeche daal doge?”
Tuesday ki shaam, Mumbai, das ghante ke din ke baad. Aap Malad ke flat mein ghuste ho, bag darwaaze par girate ho, aur partner kitchen se pukarte hain: “Kachra neeche daal doge? Plumber ko phone kiya?” Aap joote pehne darwaaze par ho, jawab dene ki bhi taakat nahi. Kisi ne nahi poochha ki din kaisa gaya. Ek bhaari, anjaana-sa ehsaas kandhon se neeche utarta hai.
Unhein meri thakaan dikhni chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Partner ko meri thakaan dikhni chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Aap bhi unki bhaanpte. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka aaram kisi aur ke bhaanpne tak ruka rehta hai. Jab tak wo na dekhein, aap chalte rehte ho, aur thakaan aur chot badhti jaati hai, aisi nazar ya shabd ke intezaar mein jo shayad aaye hi nahi.
Unke dekh lene se kya maayne
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki sabse kareebi insaan ka bhaanp lena care jaisa lagta hai. Shayad doosron ki thakaan aapko aasaani se dikh jaati hai. Shayad koi kabhi aapka thaka chehra dekhkar bina maange chai bana deta tha. Dekhe jaane ki chaah zyada nahi hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har shaam ka chup bojh
Har anjaani shaam ek chup bojh jodti hai. Aap choor hokar bhi kaam nipatate rehte ho, is ummeed mein ki koi rok le. Aap thoda zor se saans chhodte ho. Apne hi ghar mein anjaana-sa lagta hai. Aaram ki jagah jhunjhalaahat aa baithti hai, aur weekend tak thakaan aur chot itni ho jaati hai ki jo waqt aakhir apna mila, uska maza nahi le paate.
Kya dikhne ka intezaar theek hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya dekhe jaane ka intezaar karne se kabhi wo aaram mila jo chahiye tha? Ya usne zyada-tar aapki thakaan aur chot badhayi? Log apni soch mein uljhe rehte hain aur wo chook jaate hain jo hamein saaf dikhta hai. Anjaane rehna aapki ahmiyat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna theek hai?
Apni thakaan pehle khud dekhna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki chaah band ho jaaye ki wo dekhein. Matlab ye ki aapka aaram unki nazar ka intezaar nahi karta. Aap apni thakaan pehle khud dekh sakte ho, aur us par chal sakte ho: baith jaana, kettle chadhana, kachra baad ke liye chhod dena. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap apna khayal rakhte ho, aur unki taraf se jo care aaye, wo bonus ban jaati hai.
If tiredness has gone on a long time or feels much heavier than a long week, or you feel put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein meri thakaan dikhni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleApni thakaan pehle khud dekhna aur aaram karna mere haath mein hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ghar aakar pehle paanch minute baith jaiye
- Din 2
Koi bhi kaam karne se pehle apne liye chai banaiye
- Din 3
Din mein ek baar poochhiye, “Mujhe sach mein kitni thakaan hai?”
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kisne ek baar bina bataye bhaanp liya ki aap choor ho, aur usne kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Darwaaze par rakha bag aur wo nazar jo nahi aayi #
“Partner ko meri thakaan dikhni chahiye.” Ye aksar lambe din ke end mein aati hai: late shift ke baad darwaaze ke paas girta bag, Mumbai local mein poora raasta khade-khade, aur jooté utarne se pehle aaya khaane ka sawaal.
Ye bina bole padhe jaane ki chaah hai. Kuch log chhoti cheez sochte hain: bina kahe rakha chai ka cup, TV ki awaaz kam, kisi ka haath se bag le lena. Chhoti baat, aur galat shaam par ummeed karne ke liye phir bhi bahut.
Sabse haal ke lambe din par, ghar ke pehle paanch minute kya hote to zyada naram lagte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek shabd bole jaane se pehle ka pal #
Kuch logon ko darwaaze par tab mann baithta-sa lagta hai jab sabse pehle demand hi sunayi de: kachra, bill ka reminder, society group ka koi message. Kuch ka jabda thoda kas jaata hai, ya awaaz socha se flat nikalti hai.
Ye soch se pehle ho sakta hai: thakaan to pehle se hai, aur anjaan rah jaana uske upar doosri parat jod deta hai, ek chhoti chubhan jiska demand se kam aur timing se zyada lena-dena hai.
Pichhli baar jab aap thakaan se choor ghar ghuse, to sabse pehle kya suna, aur jawab dene se pehle andar kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Dikhai dene ki chaah jaayaz hai #
Isme samajh hai. Jo log ek ghar share karte hain wo ek-doosre ke chehre padhna seekhte hain, aur ummeed karna ki lamba din aapke chehre par dikhe, nazdeeki ka hissa ho sakta hai. Bina kahe thodi care milna, jaane jaane jaisa lag sakta hai.
Thakaan chhoti cheezon ko bhaari bhi kar deti hai. Jo demand Sunday ko halke mein nikal jaati, wo Thursday raat nau baje ek aur cheez lag sakti hai, aur dikhne ki chaah din ki length ke saath badhti hai.
Thaki shaam par bina kahe ki gayi kaun si ek chhoti cheez aapko batayegi ki aap dekhe gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Darwaaze par nazar rakhne wali awaaz #
“Dikh nahi raha ki main choor hoon?” “Baat ulti hoti, to mujhe unki thakaan saaf dikh jaati.” “Mujhe kehna kyun pade.” Ye awaaz aksar darwaaze par, sink ke paas, ya sone se pehle ke aakhri aadhe ghante mein bolti hai.
Kuch log paate hain ki awaaz ek saath do cheezein maang rahi hai: aaram, aur is baat ka saboot ki koi dhyaan de raha hai. Pehla kabhi akele bhi mil jaata hai; doosra tab chubhta hai jab nahi aata.
Jab awaaz kahe “Unhein dikhna chahiye tha”, to zyada-tar shaamon mein kya zyada maayne rakhta hai: khud aaram, ya dekha jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Dikhai dene ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye us mummy-papa ya dadi-nani se shuru hui jo school bag girne ke dhang se jaan lete the ki din bura gaya, aur bina bole kuch garam bana dete the. Us tarah ka dekh lena care ki tasveer bana sakta hai.
Kuch mein ulte se: aisa ghar jahan sab busy the aur lambe din ka zikr nahi hota tha, aur ek chaah jami ki koi kabhi nazar uthayega. Kuch log bata paate hain ki aisi tasveer kahan se aayi; kuch nahi.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapki thakaan bhaanp lene mein achha raha hai, aur usne uska kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Padhe jaane ka chup niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar care hoti, to bina bataye dikh jaata,” ya “Kehna pade to maza khatam.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har aam shaam ko kaise number diye jaayein.
Niyam mein samajh hai: bina shabdon ke padha jaana logon ka ek-doosre ke liye sabse garam kaam hai. Wo kisi se bahut maangta bhi hai, kyunki thaka chehra aur chup chehra kamre ke us paar ek-se dikh sakte hain.
Dikhai dene ka niyam kin shaamon par ab bhi theek baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek anjaani shaam saath kya le jaati hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai shaamein shikayat se shuru hona, chai bina bole banakar khade-khade peena, aur kaun pehle baitha iski chhoti ginti. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, aur sab kuch us taakat ko khaata hai jo pehle se kam thi.
Mahinon mein kuch log dekhte hain ki dikhne ki ummeed aaram ko hi mushkil kar deti hai: wo break lene ki jagah break milne ka intezaar karte hain, aur shaam intezaar mein nikal jaati hai.
Is season ke kisi lambe din par, ghar ki kaun si chhoti raahat chupchaap sabse achhi thi, aur wo kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Thaki shaamon ki ek pakdi hui tasveer #
Ek Wednesday lijiye jab “Unhein dikhna chahiye” zor se baj raha ho. Ye dekhne ki tasveer hai, isme kuch bhi sudharne ko nahi.
Shayad der se aana, bag darwaaze par girana aur intezaar karna ki koi nazar uthaye; wo khaana jo khaate hue kisi sawaal ka intezaar raha jo nahi aaya.
Ye sketch hai, bhavishyavani nahi, aur kisi bhi waqt rakha ja sakta hai. Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Usmein kya hai: aana-jaana, darwaaza, demands, kal par chhodi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun us shaam mein hai, aur kaun tal jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Wednesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dikhna, kis tarah? #
Dekh liya jaana kai shakl mein aa sakta hai. Jo partner chehre achhe nahi padhta, wo bhi wahi ho sakta hai jo bottles bhar de, gaadi garam kar de ya das ke baad awaaz kam rakhe. Kuch log dekhna kaam se dikhate hain, kuch shabdon se.
Isse ummeed zyada nahi ho jaati, aur fasla kalpanik bhi nahi. Bas itna ki “mujhe dekho” mein kai chaahein ho sakti hain: ek shabd, kaam mein haath, chuppi, ya seedha ek sawaal.
“Thakaan dikhni chahiye” ke andar, kis hisse se kisi aam hafte ki raat mein sabse bada farq padega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapke paas pehle se kya hai #
Jo ummeed poori nahi hoti, uske paas bhi kuch aapka hai: lambe din par apna khayal rakhne ke chhote tareeke, wo dost jo ek message se din ki length bhaanp le, garam chai, nahana, jaldi so jaana.
Inhein dekhne se chaah wahin rehti hai jahan thi. Kuch hafton mein list bahut chhoti hoti hai, aur chhoti list bhi list hai. Apna khayal rakhna bhi gina jaata hai.
Lambe din par aap apne liye jo chhoti cheez karte ho, unmein se kise thoda aur baar dekhna aur rakhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Thaki shaam jo phir bhi aapki hai #
Is ummeed ko suljhane ka matlab hai ki iske size ka sawaal akela chhoda ja sakta hai. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hain, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Agar thakaan bahut samay se hai ya lambe hafte se kahin bhaari lagti hai, to use bhi gambhirta se lein, aur kisi dost ko bata sakte hain.
Kuch baatein poori na hui ummeed nahi hain: nazar rakhi jaana, password maange jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paise par kabza, kaagzaat rakh lena, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillana ya unke mood ka dosh aap par aana.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya private photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, kisi bhi tarah chot pahunchana, sex ya closeness par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Sab gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur savdhaan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Iska matlab hai ki dikhne aur na dikhne ke beech ka fasla ab tay nahi karta ki har shaam kaisi jaayegi. Dekhe jaane ki chaah rakhna jaayaz hai.
Ek lambe din ko dheele haath se pakdein, to ghar ke pehle aadhe ghante ki shakl kaisi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Darwaaze ke liye ek vaakya #
“Partner ko meri thakaan dikhni chahiye” se behes ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya paas rakhte hain: “Lambe dinon par dikhna mujhe achha lagega, aur apni thakaan ka khayal rakhna mere apne haath mein bhi hai.”
Naya vaakya lambe din par bahut saaf-suthra lag sakta hai. Kuch ko istemaal se us par bharosa aata hai; kuch shabd tab tak badalte hain jab tak vaakya unka na ho jaaye. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo dekhe jaane ki chaah bhi rakhe aur apne aaram ki jagah bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch shaamein bas thaki shaamein hain #
Har anjaani shaam ko jawab nahi chahiye. Kuch ko darwaaze ke paas hook par tange coat ki tarah rakha ja sakta hai: subah bhi wahin, par har kamre mein aaj raat saath nahi dhoya jaata.
Kuch baatein poori na hui ummeed nahi hain: nazar rakhi jaana, password maange jaana, phone ya messages khangaale jaana, paise par kabza, kaagzaat rakh lena, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillana ya unke mood ka dosh aap par aana.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya private photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, kisi bhi tarah chot pahunchana, sex ya closeness par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur savdhaan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek shaam ke liye chaah kinare rakhne se fasla theek nahi ho jaata, aur band bhi nahi hota. Bas itna ki aaj raat ka aaram kisi ka intezaar nahi karta.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar dikhne ka intezaar thoda dheela ho #
Tasveer ki tarah aur kuch nahi: ummeed ek darja dheeli. Dekhe jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par thaki shaam ko imtihaan se shuru nahi hona padta.
Shayad koi saadi baat: der se aakar apne liye kettle chadhana aur pehli garam ghoont ka maza lena, ya kisi dost ko din ke baare mein ek voice note bhejna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage, is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Chhoti, private cheezein aazmane ko #
- Ghar ke raaste mein, kisi se pehle khud gaur kijiye ki din ne kitna thakaya
- Aah ke neeche ki chaah ko naam dijiye: aaram, madad, ya ek achha shabd
- Pehli chai khud ke liye, dheere-dheere banaiye
- Is hafte ki ek shaam dekhiye jo thodi behtar gayi, aur kyun
- Din ke end mein dekhiye ki kaun si chhoti cheez sabse zyada kaam aati
Sab private, sab apni marzi ka. Jo ho sake, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kisne ek baar bina bataye bhaanp liya ki aap choor ho, aur usne kya kiya?
- Lambe din par aapka chehra ya awaaz kya karti hai, aur aas-paas kaun wo nazar pehchanta hai?
- Mushkil din ke baad koi aapko kis tarah ka aaram de, ye aap sabse zyada chahoge?
- Agar dikhne ka intezaar thoda dheela ho, to aapki shaamon mein sabse pehle kya badlega?
- Lambe din ke baad aap apne liye jo chhoti cheez karte ho, unmein se kise banaye rakhna chahoge?