Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kuch log har nayi cheez se ghabrate hain, ya kisi apne ke saamne usmein kachche dikhne se darte hain.
Kuch logon ke liye ye parivaar ke us jode se aayi jo sab kuch saath karta tha: wahi sair, wahi filmein, cricket par wahi behesein.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Care hoti to meri pasand baantna chahte,” ya “Meri cheezein pasand nahi to main pasand nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Apni pasand ki cheezein sujhana band kar dena, aur unhein alag rakhna
- Unki cheezon mein saath chale jaana, is ummeed mein ki kabhi apni baari aayegi
- Shauq kisi aise dost ke saath karna jise bhi pasand hai
- Suggestion ko chhota aur aasaan bana dena, taaki haan mile
- Chupchaap ginna ki weekend kiski plans par chalte hain
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Ye apni cheez nahi hai”
Saturday ki subah, Dehradun. Aap partner se kehte ho ki bas ek baar us painting class mein chalein jo aapko pasand hai. Ve hanskar kehte hain “Ye apni cheez nahi hai”, aur phir match dekhne lagte hain. Aap akele chale jaate ho. Class hamesha ki tarah achhi hai, par bagal ki khaali kursi par baar-baar nazar jaati hai, aur ek chhoti, akeli-si bhaavna bus mein ghar tak saath aati hai.
Unhein aapki pasand aazmani chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Partner ko wo cheezein aazmani chahiye jo mujhe pasand hain.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Aap bhi to unki cheezein khushi se aazma lete. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke shauq ko tab tak adhoora-sa mehsoos karata hai jab tak ve saath na aayein. Jo cheez kabhi shuddh maza thi, usmein ek halki mayoosi ghul jaati hai, aur aapka apna maza unke saath ki raah dekhne lagta hai.
Baantna kyun maayne rakhta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki jo pasand hai use baantna khud ko baantne jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aapne kandhe se kandha milakar cheezein karne ki kalpana ki, apni tedhi-medhi tasveeron par saath hanste hue. Shayad aap unke matchon mein gaye aur ummeed ki ki ve bhi aayenge. Jo bhi ho, unse aazmane ki chaah zabardasti nahi. Ye un cheezon mein kareebi ki chaah hai jinhein aap chahte ho. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har inkaar se ghatti chamak
Har “Ye apni cheez nahi” thodi chamak ghata deta hai. Aap unhein bulana band kar dete ho. Class achhi gayi ho tab bhi uska zikr karna chhod dete ho. Aap chupchaap ginne lagte ho ki aapne unke liye kya-kya aazmaya. Jis shauq se pyaar tha, wo thoda akela lagne lagta hai, aur kabhi-kabhi aap use chhod hi dete ho, kyunki akele jaana bagal ki khaali kursi ki yaad dilata hai.
Kya unke saath ki zaroorat sahi hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unke saath aane ki aas ne kabhi aapka shauq zyada mazedaar banaya? Ya zyada-tar thoda maza chheen liya? Logon ko bahut alag-alag cheezein pasand aati hain, aur kuch aazmana na chahna hamesha poochhne wale ke baare mein nahi hota. Jo bhi ho, unka “Na” aapke shauq ki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itne kaskar pakadna, jo ye aapse leta hai, uske layak hai?
Maza, saath ho ya na ho
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap kabhi-kabhi unhein bulana chhod do. Matlab ye ki aapke shauq ko poora hone ke liye ab unki maujoodgi nahi chahiye. Painting class achhi thi. Aapki tasveerein aapki hain. Aap uska poora lutf akele, har hafte, utha sakte ho. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: jo cheezein aapko pasand hain, ve saath hon ya na hon, phir shuddh maza ban jaati hain.
Being pushed into things, checked on, put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them is something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein meri pasand ki cheezein aazmani chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere shauq mazedaar hain, saath hon ya na hon.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte apni pasand ki ek cheez kijiye, bas apne liye
- Din 2
Uska poora lutf uthaiye, khaali kursi ki or dekhe bina
- Din 3
Wo ek cheez yaad kijiye jo aap dono saath milkar pasand karte ho
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sabse pehle kisne kisi cheez ka shauq aapke saath baanta, aur wo kya thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Aapka shauq, ab bhi “phir kabhi” ki list mein #
“Partner ko wo cheezein aazmani chahiye jo mujhe pasand hain.” Ye khayal tab aa sakta hai jab Saturday ke kisi suggestion par bas kandhe uchak jaayein: painting class, subah ki sair, purane Kishore Kumar ke gaane, Paltan Bazaar ki chaat. Udhar unka cricket, phone ke games, shows weekend bhar dete hain.
Kuch logon ke liye baat saamne wale ko apna shaukeen banane ki nahi. Baat ek koshish ki hai: ek baar saath chalne ki utsukta, taaki jo cheezein aapko roshan karti hain, wo share zindagi ka hissa banein, alag duniya nahi.
Aapko apni pasand ki kaun si cheez kisi kareebi ko dikhane mein sabse zyada maza aayega, aur sabse pehle kya dikhayenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kandhe uchakna, aur uske baad ka pal #
Kuch logon ko halki-si hawa nikalne jaisa lagta hai jab koi suggestion theek se sune jaane se pehle hi haath hilakar taal diya jaaye. Kuch aur khud ko suggestion dene se pehle hi use chhota aur aasaan banate paate hain.
Ye pratikriyaein ek second mein aa sakti hain, is soch se bahut pehle ki saamne wala nayi cheezon se jhijhakta hai, thaka hai, ya bas anishchit. Baantne ki chaah aur zor na dene ki chaah saath aa sakti hain.
Pichhli baar jab aapke kisi suggestion par kandhe uchke, tab aapne apne andar sabse pehle kya mehsoos kiya, aur kahan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jo pasand hai use baantna, jaane jaane ka ek raasta hai #
Ye chaah samajh mein aati hai. Insaan jin cheezon se pyaar karta hai, ve aksar bahut kuch batati hain ki wo kaun hai: kya use sukoon deta hai, kya hansata hai, pandrah ki umar mein wo kaisa tha. Koi kareebi un cheezon ko ek baar bhi aazmaye, to dekhe jaane jaisa lag sakta hai.
Kuch log har nayi cheez se ghabrate hain, ya kisi apne ke saamne usmein kachche dikhne se darte hain. Isse chaah chhoti nahi hoti; bas ho sakta hai shauq ko diya gaya “Na” aapko diya gaya “Na” na ho.
Jab koi apna aapki pasand ki kisi cheez mein sachmuch dilchaspi leta hai, to aapke liye uska kya matlab hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Tale gaye suggestion wali awaaz #
“Kabhi koshish tak nahi karte.” “Har baar hum hi unke saath jaate hain.” “Agli baar nahi bolenge.” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab kisi aise event ki soochna se guzarna pade jo aapko pasand aata, ya unki kisi aur plan ki raah par.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz hisaab rakhne ke liye hisaab nahi rakh rahi. Wo aksar poochh rahi hoti hai ki jo cheezein aapko aap banati hain, unki share zindagi mein jagah hai ya nahi, aur jigyasa dono taraf chalti hai ya nahi.
Jab awaaz kehti hai “Kabhi koshish tak nahi karte”, to wo sabse zyada kya chahti hai ki ve aazmayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Share dilchaspiyon ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye ye parivaar ke us jode se aayi jo sab kuch saath karta tha: wahi sair, wahi filmein, cricket par wahi behesein. Dadu-dadi jinhone har purani film saath dekhi ho, unki wo tasveer alag-alag weekend ko kuch kam-sa bana sakti hai.
Kuch aur aise ghar mein pale jahan unki dilchaspiyan kinare kar di jaati thin, aur ummeed thi ki kareebi rishta aakhirkaar unke liye jagah banayega. Dono raahein ek share koshish ko bahut maayne de sakti hain.
Sabse pehle kisne aapki pasand ki kisi cheez mein sachchi dilchaspi li, aur usne aisa kya kiya ki achha laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Aazmane par bana niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Care hoti to meri pasand baantna chahte,” ya “Meri cheezein pasand nahi to main pasand nahi.” Zubaan par chaah shauq ki hoti hai; niyam tay karta hai ki har kandhe uchakne ka matlab kya nikala jaaye.
Isme sachmuch wazan hai; ek-doosre ki duniya ke baare mein utsukta jaayaz ummeed hai. Par yahi niyam shauq ko rishte se itna kaskar baandh sakta hai ki painting class ki seedhi napasandgi bhi faisle jaisi lagne lage.
Kuch log aise niyam ko us daur tak le ja paate hain jab unki dilchaspiyan kinare ki gayi thin; kuch nahi.
Aazmane wala niyam kab aap par sahi baithta hai, aur kab ek shauq par zyada bojh daalta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Aazmaye jaane ki raah dekhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai pasandida cheezein ruki hui, weekend ek hi insaan ki pasand ke hisaab se dhale, aur suggestion diye jaane se pehle hi sikude. Jo cheezein kabhi aapko roshan karti thin, ve zindagi ka hissa kam, private aadat zyada lagne lagein.
Waqt ke saath kuch log dekhte hain ki ve jo pasand hai wo karna hi kam kar dete hain, us saath ki raah mein jo nahi aata, aur shauq bahakne lagte hain. Jo khushi hamesha unki apni thi, wo chaah ke saath kinare ho sakti hai.
Aapko apni pasand ki kaun si cheez ke liye zyada jagah banana sabse achha lagega, aur wo kaisa dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek hi pasand par dhale weekend, saalon baad #
Kuch saal aage ka ek Saturday sochiye, jab “Unhein meri pasand aazmani chahiye” prishthbhoomi mein chal raha hai. Bas ek tasveer, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad Saturday unke shauq ke hisaab se banana aur apna “phir kabhi” ki list mein rakhna; ek class jo book karni thi; ek purani film jo phir dekhni thi, ab bhi bina dekhi.
Ek khaaka, poorvanumaan nahi, aur kisi bhi waqt band kiya ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: unki plans, aapke khayal, wo event jise aap scroll karke guzar gaye, almari mein pada shauq ka saamaan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Subah se raat tak wo Saturday kaise khulta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek kadam peeche hatkar dekhein to us Saturday ka kaun sa hissa aap kisi apni cheez par bitana sabse zyada chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dilchaspi ek hi roop mein nahi aati #
Kuch log saath ho lete hain; kuch poochhkar dilchaspi dikhate hain ki kaisa raha, naam yaad rakhkar, ya hafte mein shauq ke liye jagah banakar, bina saath chale. Kuch mein uske baare mein jigyasa hi nahi ban paati, aur wo fasla asli hai.
Inmein se kuch bhi chaah ko zyada nahi banata. Bas itna ki “Meri pasand aazmayein” mein kai ummeedein ho sakti hain: ek koshish, uske baare mein sachcha sawaal, hafte mein jagah, ya bas use taala na jaana.
“Meri pasand aazmayein” ke andar kaun sa hissa sabse zyada maayne rakhega: ek koshish, ek sachcha sawaal, ya hafte mein jagah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapke paas pehle se kya hai #
Tale gaye suggestions ke paas kuch cheezein pehle se aapki hain: jo kaam aapko pasand hain, ek dost jo unmein se koi ek baantta hai, saalon mein gadha hunar, aur wo khaas tareeka jisse uske baare mein baat karte hue aapka chehra badal jaata hai.
Ye baantne ki chaah ki jagah nahi leti. Aapki apni dilchaspiyan apni sharton par ginti jaati hain, baanti jaayein ya nahi, aur unmein jo khushi hai wo rakhna aapke haath mein hai.
Aapki pasand ki kaun si cheez pehle se sabse zyada khushi deti hai, jise aap thoda aur waqt dena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Jo aapko pasand hai, saath ho ya na ho #
Is chaah se sulah ka matlab hai ki ek kandhe uchakna tay nahi karta ki aapki dilchaspiyon ki jagah hai ya nahi. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hain, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Aazmana kabhi majboori mein karwane jaisa nahi; unki pasand unki hai, aur kisi par zor nahi daala jaana chahiye.
Is chaah ka nazar rakhe jaane, password maange jaane, phone ya messages khangaale jaane, paise par kabze, kaagzaat rakh liye jaane, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakhe jaane, neecha dikhaye jaane, chillaye jaane ya unke mood ka dosh aap par aane se koi lena-dena nahi.
Na hi dhamkiyon se (khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki, ya private photos failane ki), dhakka dene, pakadne, chot pahunchane, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagne se. Ye kuch aur hai, gambhirta se lene layak, aur savdhaan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aapki pasand par mazaak udaya jaana, ya use karne se roka jaana, bhi isi list mein aata hai. Apni dilchaspiyan baantne ki chaah jaayaz hai, aur reh sakti hai.
Ek Saturday sochiye jo aapki pasand ki cheez mein beete: aap kahan ho, aur aapke haath kya kar rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Tale gaye suggestion ke liye ek pankti #
Kuch log “Partner ko wo cheezein aazmani chahiye jo mujhe pasand hain” ke bagal mein ek pankti rakhte hain: “Jo mujhe pasand hai use baantna mujhe achha lagega, aur wo har haal mein karne layak hai.” Dono panktiyan bina jhagde saath baith sakti hain.
Shuru mein ye thodi feeki lag sakti hai; kuch ko isme azaadi milti hai. Kuch shabd tab tak badalte hain jab tak fit na hon. Koi bhi imaandaar roop theek hai.
Aapka apna roop kya hoga, jo baantne ki chaah bhi rakhe aur jo aapko pasand hai use aapke hafte mein bhi rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Ek kandhe uchakna, bas ek kandhe uchakna #
Painting class ko diya gaya “Na” aapke ya rishte ke baare mein faisla nahi banna chahiye. Kuch kandhe uchakne jaane diye ja sakte hain, jaise chai ki dukaan ki table par pada koi parcha: dekha gaya, aur kisi aur ke liye chhod diya gaya.
Inmein wo nahi aata jisme pasand par mazaak udaya jaaye, nazar rakhi jaaye, password maange jaayein, phone ya messages khangaale jaayein, paise par kabza ho, kaagzaat rakh liye jaayein, doston-gharwalon-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaaye, neecha dikhaya jaaye, chillaya jaaye ya unke mood ka dosh aap par aaye.
Waise hi dhamkiyan, chahe khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki hon ya private photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna, kisi bhi tarah chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur savdhaan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek kandhe uchakne ko jaane dena chaah ke baare mein kuch tay nahi karta. Bas itna ki jo aapko pasand hai, uski jagah aapke hafte mein ab bhi reh sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar aazmaye jaane ki raah zara dheeli ho #
Chaah ko ek paaydan aur dheela pakadne ki tasveer sochiye, aur kuch nahi. Baantne ki chaah ab bhi hai, aur jo aapko pasand hai wo karna ab bhi aapke haath mein hai.
Shayad kisi dost ke saath painting class mein jaana aur ek tedhi-si tasveer ghar lana jo aapko pyaari ho, ya kisi purani film ke saath ek dopahar, haath mein achhi chai.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi ko kehna nahi hai. Jo ubhre, aapka hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kaun sa badlaav dikhega, halka-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke liye pehli aam baat kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch private cheezein aazmane ko #
- Apni pasand ki ek cheez chuniye aur isi hafte kariye, bas apne liye
- Aise dost ke baare mein sochiye jo aapki koi dilchaspi baantta hai
- Yaad kijiye ki aap apni pasand ki cheez tak kaise pahunche the
- Dekhiye ki aapke kaun se suggestion aap sujhane se pehle hi chhote kar dete hain
- Ek aisa event dekhiye jo aapko pasand aayega, bas apne maze ke liye
Har ek private aur marzi ka. Jahan sabse aasaan lage, wahan se shuru kijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sabse pehle kisne kisi cheez ka shauq aapke saath baanta, aur wo kya thi?
- Aapki pasand ki kaun si cheez aapko sabse zyada apne jaisa mehsoos karati hai, aur kyun?
- Kab kisi ne aapko chaunkaya ki use bhi wo pasand aaya jo aapko pasand hai?
- Agar unke aazmane ki raah dekhna zara dheela ho, to weekend kaise lagenge?
- Aapki pasand ki kaun si cheez ke liye aap aur jagah banana chahoge, bas apne liye?