Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wahi pal achha ya feeka lag sakta hai, is par nirbhar karte hue ki hum kya sochkar aaye the.
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan se shuru hui: chhat par qataar mein sote cousins, bhor se pehle chalti rasoi, ek raat pehle nikaalkar rakhe naye kapde, aur poori gali der raat tak roshan aur shorbhari.
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Juda hua parivar bade dinon par saath aata hai,” ya “Ghar ki parwah hoti to yahan hote.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hafton pehle poochh lena ki kaun aa raha hai, aur kuch din baad phir poochhna
- Jo bhi aaye, pasandeeda pakwaan toh banana hi
- Mezbaani ka poora kaam khud le lena, taaki kisi ke na aane ki koi wajah na bache
- Is baar ise “Bas ek aur din” keh dena, aur aadha hi maanna
- Din ka plan unhi ke hisaab se banana jo pakka aayenge
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Tyohaar, aadha parivar door
Phir tyohaar ka mausam. Aapko yaad hai jab poora parivar ek ghar mein thasathas hota tha: cousins chhat par, har taraf khaana, der raat tak shor. Is baar aadhe log bahar hain, do Chachiyan aapas mein bolti nahi, aur group mein paanch alag plan chal rahe hain. Aap Mummy-Papa ke saath ek shaant mez par baithte ho aur tyohaar ki purani tasveer thodi aur door khisakti mehsoos karte ho.
Tyohaar par sab saath hon
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Tyohaar par poore parivar ko saath jutna chahiye.” Ye swabhavik lagta hai. Kai logon ke liye tyohaar ka matlab sabse pehle parivar hi hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: mausam ka maza doosron ke plan se baandh deta hai. Asli tyohaar lagna safar, purani takraron aur vyast zindagiyon par tik jaata hai, jinhein aap chahe jitni koshish karein, tay nahi kar sakte.
Tyohaar ki yaadein itni khush kyun
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki tyohaar ki yaadein aksar hamare sabse khush dinon mein ginti jaati hain. Shayad aap bade aur shorbhare jamaavon mein bade hue aur aaj bhi unki garmahat mehsoos karte ho. Ya shayad wo kabhi nahi mila aur hamesha chaha. Dono haal mein sabko saath chahna purane zamane ki baat nahi. Ye apne se badi kisi cheez ka hissa hone ki chaah se aati hai. Use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Purane tyohaar aur yaad aana
Har bikhra tyohaar purane tyohaaron ki yaad aur badha deta hai. Aap is saal ki tulna beete saalon se karte ho. Jashn ke beech udaasi lagti hai. Jo hain unka maza lene ki jagah jo nahi hain unhein ginte ho. Dheere-dheere jo mausam aapko pyaara tha, wo badlaav ki yaad dilane lagta hai, aur har saal uska darr zara badhta jaata hai.
Kya purani tasveer iske layak?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya use waisa hi chahne ki zid se tyohaar kabhi bhara-bhara laga? Ya zyadatar khali? Parivar phailte aur badalte hain, aur jamaave unke saath shakl badalte hain, kisi ke kuch todne ke irade ke bina. Chhoti mez aapke ghar ke pyaar ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Tyohaar, jis bhi shakl mein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki bade jamaavon ki yaad aana band ho jaye. Matlab ye ki aapka tyohaar ab sabke aane par tika nahi rehta. Aap apni mez ke logon ka maza le sakte ho, door walon ko phone kar sakte ho, aur apni chhoti nayi rasmein bana sakte ho jo abhi ke hisaab se theek lagein. Yahin kuch chain lautta hai: tyohaar phir garm lagta hai, jis bhi shakl mein is saal aaye.
Being threatened, hurt or frightened, watched, kept in or kept from people, having money used to control you, or being pressured to change who you are is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleTyohaar par poore parivar ko saath jutna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleTyohaar jis bhi shakl mein aaye, garm ho sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Jo aapki mez par hain, unke saath ek pal ka maza lijiye
- Kadam 2
Apni ek chhoti-si nayi rasm shuru kijiye
- Kadam 3
Tyohaar ki ek khushnuma yaad sochiye aur us par muskuraiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke parivar mein kaun tyohaar ko tyohaar jaisa banata hai, aur wo kya karte hain?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Din se hafton pehle shuru hota sawaal #
“Tyohaar par poore parivar ko saath jutna chahiye.” Ye khayal tab aa sakta hai jab mithai ka order badalna pade kyunki ghar mein shayad aadhe log hi honge, jab Toronto wali Didi kahe ki is baar taareekhein baith nahi rahin, ya us video call par jahan sab ek saath bolte hain aur kisi ki hasi par screen atak jaati hai.
Zubaan par ye aksar halka-sa sawaal hota hai: “Is baar kaun-kaun aa raha hai?” Neeche uske poore mausam ki tasveer ho sakti hai, ek ghar, ek lambi pangat, sabki awaazein, wo shor jismein aap bade hue. Agar tyohaar kisi ki kami ya bimari ke qareeb padta hai, to narmi se chaliye, ya ise abhi rehne dijiye.
Tyohaar ko lekar ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur us waqt aap kis taiyaari mein lage the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Apne aap shuru ho jaati ginti #
Kuch log ise tab pakadte hain jab calendar mein tyohaar ki taareekhein dikhti hain: zara-si khushi uthti hai, phir jhat se ginti ki kaun aa paayega. Kuch ko tab kasaav mehsoos hota hai jab Bhaiya ke message mein likha dikhta hai “Koshish karenge, par...”.
Ye ehsaas kisi plan se pehle aa sakta hai: mann hi mann mithai ka order badal jaata hai, chhat par ek atirikt gadda bichha dikhta hai ya almari mein rakha reh jaata hai, khaane ka menu ghatta-badhta hai, aur kisi ne abhi haan ya na kaha bhi nahi.
Aakhri baar jab tyohaar par kaun aa raha hai, ye baat uthi, to kuch bhi kehne se pehle aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Wo din jab parivar phir se milta hai #
Is chaah mein dam hai. Tyohaar ke din aksar wahi din hote hain jinmein bikhre hue saal ke baad parivar khud ko phir paa leta hai, isliye sabko ek chhat ke neeche chahna aisa lag sakta hai jaise parivar ko hi aage ke saal mein pehchaana hua chalte dekhna chahna.
Wahi pal achha ya feeka lag sakta hai, is par nirbhar karte hue ki hum kya sochkar aaye the. Tyohaar ka khaana bhara-bhara ya soona lag sakta hai, is par ki dimaag mein ek mez ki tasveer thi ya teen ki, bhale khaana, hasi aur log lagbhag wahi hon.
Agar parivar ke saath tyohaar ko ek hi pal ki tasveer mein rakhna pade, to usmein kya ho raha hoga, aur sabse zor se kaun hans raha hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Mehmaanon ki soochi rakhne wali awaaz #
“Ek hi toh hafta hai, nikaal hi lenge.” “Pehle kitna bhara-bhara rehta tha.” “Main na sambhaloon to kaun sambhalega?” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab khareedaari ki soochi ban rahi ho, ya tyohaar ki shaam der tak jab aakhri mehmaan apni chappalein dhoondh rahe hon.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki taareekhein paas aane par shak ki awaaz oonchi hoti hai: kaun mana karega, kiska phone aayega. Wo shak koi bhavishyavaani nahi; wo bas wahi ho sakta hai jo kisi bade din ke qareeb aane par hota hai.
Jab awaaz aapke mann mein mehmaanon ki soochi dohrati hai, to sabse pehle kis naam par rukti hai, aur aas karti hai ki wo insaan kya kahe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bhare hue ghar ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan se shuru hui: chhat par qataar mein sote cousins, bhor se pehle chalti rasoi, ek raat pehle nikaalkar rakhe naye kapde, aur poori gali der raat tak roshan aur shorbhari. Aisi shuruaat tyohaar ka naap zindagi bhar ke liye tay kar sakti hai.
Kuch mein ye baaton se aayi: “Saal mein yahi toh ek mauka hota hai jab sab saath hote hain,” jo har saal rasm ki tarah kaha gaya, ya mez par ginti karte hue maa-baap ka garv. Kuch parivaron mein yahi mausam hai jahan apnapan naapa jaata hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bachpan ki kaun-si tyohaar ki subah aapko sabse achhi yaad hai, aur us din ghar kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Tyohaar ki mez ke neeche ka niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Juda hua parivar bade dinon par saath aata hai,” ya “Ghar ki parwah hoti to yahan hote.” Pehla wo hai jo log bolte hain; doosra tay karta hai ki har “Is baar nahi aa payenge” kaise lagta hai.
Pehle vaakya mein samajhdaari hai, aur barson tak usne is parivar ko theek bayan bhi kiya hoga. Doosre ke saath kasakar pakda jaye to har ghairhaazri poore parivar par faisla ban sakti hai, aur mithai aur shor wale din mein wo kaafi bhaari cheez hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuru ke saalon tak pahunchate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke parivar mein bade dinon ka niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ginti ki kya keemat ho sakti hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai tyohaar ka hafta rasoi mein maze ki jagah phone par pakka karwate beetna, ek aisa khaana jismein khali jagahein ginti jaati hain aur bolti awaazein kam suni jaati hain, ek mausam jo shuru hone se pehle hi feeka lagne lage.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki chinta taiyaari ke din bhi kha jaati hai. Kaun pahunchega, ye sochte hafte us din se zyada jagah gher sakte hain, aur battiyan, pakwaan aur milna-julna aadhe mann se, phone ki or kaan lagaye nipatte hain.
Pichhle kuch tyohaaron mein kaun-sa pal sabse zyada is ginti ke rang mein ranga tha ki kaun aa paayega, aur tab aap kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Gaadiyan ginte paanch aur saal #
Tyohaar ka ek aam din sochiye, jab “parivar ko saath jutna chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Yahan bas dekhna hai.
Shayad tyohaar ki subah ghar ke bahar khadi gaadiyan ginni ja rahi hon, wo saal yaad kiya ja raha ho jab wo agli gali tak phail gayi thin; mithai ka order phir chhota hua; phone mez ke upar uthaya hua taaki koi cousin khaana dekh sake.
Ye bhavishyavaani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein chhodi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: pakana, phone call, milna-julna, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya ek taraf rakha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhkar aapko agar kuch alag dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath hona, ek se zyada shakl mein #
Saath jutna ek se zyada shakl le sakta hai: khaane ke waqt video call par tikaya gaya koi cousin, wo bhai-behen jo agle hafte ghar aaye, doosre sheher se courier mein aaya mithai ka dibba, parivar ke group mein teen peedhiyon ka ek photo-collage.
Jinke hum hain, unke liye kuch karna sachmuch maayne de sakta hai, chahe wo ek bada jamaava ho ya kai chhote. “Saath jutna” ka matlab ek ghar bhi ho sakta hai, aur alag-alag shehron mein ek hi ghadi par bana ek hi pakwaan bhi.
“Saath jutna” ke shabdon mein jo-jo bhara hai, usmein aapke liye sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai, aur kaun-sa hissa doori ke paar bhi pahunch sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Mausam jo pehle se laata hai #
Bhari mez ki aas ke bagal mein kuch aisa bhi ho sakta hai jo ye mausam pehle se laata hai, chahe chhota: bhatiji jo mithai banane mein haath bantane ko kehti hai, padosi jo har saal aa jaate hain, koi purani recipe jo ab bhi banti hai, door se aaya koi phone jo theek sahi ghadi par aata hai.
Inhein dekhna chaah ko chhota ya galat nahi banata, aur inke badle kuch dena nahi hai. Shukriya hamesha lafzon mein nahi aata; kabhi wo padosi mein pahunchayi gayi koi thaali hoti hai, ya ek din pehle taange gaye battiyon ki ladi.
Agar is saal kuch na soojhe, to wo bhi theek hai.
Parivar ke saath tyohaar ka kaun-sa chhota hissa aap thoda aur dhyan se dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Mausam jaisa aaye, uske saath chain #
Is chaah se sulah ka matlab ye tay kar lena nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya ki ye sahi thi. Matlab ye hai ki jo ghar aapne socha tha aur jo mila, unke beech ka faasla poore mausam ka ehsaas tay karna chhod de, aur tyohaar ka din ginne ke saath-saath jiya bhi ja sake.
Iska jaayaz hissa reh sakta hai: bade dinon par parivar ke qareeb rehne ki chaah. Agar kisi ke na aane se aapko unki fikar hoti hai, ki wo kaise chal rahe hain ya mehfooz hain ya nahi, to wo alag baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Apne gharwalon se door rakha jaana, ya wahan jaane se darna, wo bhi alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi.
Sochiye tyohaar ki ek shaam is chaah se sulah ke saath: kamre mein kaun hai, aur aapko sabse zyada kya achha lag raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Mehmaanon ki soochi ke paas ek vaakya #
“Tyohaar par poore parivar ko saath jutna chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe sabka saath aana bhaata hai, aur jo aaye hain wo bhi mera parivar hain.” Use purani tasveer ki jagah nahi leni, bas uske saath baithna hai.
Kai saal purani tasveer ke bagal mein naya vaakya halka lag sakta hai. Kuch log paate hain ki har mausam mein wo thoda aur wazan pakadta hai; kuch ko nahi pakadta, aur dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo bade dinon ki chaah ko rakhe aur phir bhi is saal ki mez ke liye jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Mehmaanon ki soochi aaj raat aaram kar sakti hai #
Kaun aa raha hai, iska har sawaal isi hafte suljhana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur soochi mein rehne diya ja sakta hai, jaise mithai ka dibba upar ki almari mein din tak chadha diya gaya ho.
Kuch parivar abhi purane dhang se jut nahi paate, aur zor lagakar wajah jaanna zaroori nahi. Bhare ghar ki chaah is saal nijee chaah reh sakti hai, aur bina kahi rehne se wo kam sachchi nahi ho jaati.
Aaj shaam soochi rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi tha, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki aaj raat ke khaane se pehle poora tyohaar tay nahi karna padta.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ginti ki pakad zara dheeli ho #
Sochiye, sirf tasveer ke taur par, ki ummeed ek paydaan shaant hai. Bhare ghar ki aas ab bhi hai, par mehmaanon ki soochi ek soochi hai, parivar par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise gin lena ki kaun aaya aur phir unke saath baith jaana, Chacha ki koi kahani shuru se aakhir tak sunna, ya apni pasand ka pakwaan sabko parosne ke baad nahi, garam rehte khaana.
Yahan kuch bhi kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur dhyan dene layak hai. Aage, is par nazar ki is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab mehmaanon ki ginti uthe, to note kijiye ki aap kaun-sa aankda chah rahe the
- Us din ka koi ek pakwaan, awaaz ya pal note kijiye jo apne aap mein achha laga
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: is saal bhari mez ka matlab kya hai?
- Mausam se jo chaha tha, uski ek cheez note kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Ek purane tyohaar aur ise sochiye, aur dekhiye ki kya saath chala aaya
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke parivar mein kaun tyohaar ko tyohaar jaisa banata hai, aur wo kya karte hain?
- Bachpan ki kaun-si tyohaar ki subah aapko sabse achhi yaad hai, aur rasoi mein kya chal raha tha?
- Agar ek tyohaar ki parampara hamesha ke liye rakhni ho, to kaun-si, aur wahi kyun?
- Agar tyohaar ko lekar ye chaah thodi dheeli pade, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Tyohaar ke mausam ka kaun-sa chhota hissa aapko pehle se sabse zyada ghar jaisa lagta hai?