Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jis ghar mein ek se zyada bachche hon, wahan bahut-se haath chahiye hote hain, aur bada bachcha sach mein haath banta sakta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye apni jagah se aati hai: bade hone ke naate baakiyon ko school chhodna, ya sabse chhote hone ke naate bheed bhare station par Bhaiya ka haath yaad rakhna.
Neeche koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bada baakiyon ko dekhega,” ya “Agar ye ek-doosre ka khayal rakhein to maine achhe se pala.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har kaam ke liye sabse pehle bade ko pukarna, lagbhag bina soche
- Use “kitna samajhdaar hai” kehkar saraahna, aur har baar thoda aur tek laga lena
- Jab wo apne doston ke saath ek Saturday maange to mayoosi ho jaana
- Chhoton ki khatpat mein bade se kehna ki “tum hi chhod do”
- Dekhna ki us par kitna bojh hai, phir bhi maang lena kyunki shaam bhari hui hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Headphone lagaye, chhote jhagadte hue
Saturday ki shaam, Ludhiana mein ghar par. Bada bachcha sofa par headphone lagaye phone dekh raha hai, aur bagal ke kamre mein dono chhote ludo par jhagad rahe hain. Aap awaaz dete ho, “Zara dekh lo na inhein.” Jawab aata hai, “Bas paanch minute.” Wo paanch minute kabhi nahi aate. Aakhir mein aap thakaan ke saath khud sulajhate ho aur sochte ho ki bada aage kyun nahi badhta.
Bade ko dhyan rakhna chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sabse bade ko chhoton ka dhyan rakhna chahiye.” Ye swabhavik lagta hai. Kai gharon mein aise hi chalta aaya hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek bachche ke kandhe par chupchaap ek duty rakh deta hai, aur ghar ki aapki shanti is par tika deta hai ki wo uthaye ya nahi. Aapka poora din us bachche par aa gaya hai jo khud abhi bada ho raha hai.
Hamein aise hi kyun pala gaya
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki aksar hamein aise hi pala gaya. Shayad aap bade the, aur chhoton ki dekhbhal aapki pehchaan ka hissa thi. Shayad aapke bade Bhaiya ya Didi aapka khayal rakhte the, aur wo pyaar jaisa laga. Chahe jo ho, bachchon se ek-doosre ka khayal chahna nainsaafi nahi. Ye ek paas-paas, naram parivaar ki chaah se uga hai, ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har ansuni awaaz ki chhoti mayoosi
Har baar jab bada bachcha “bas paanch minute” kehkar baitha rahe, thodi mayoosi jud jaati hai. Aap bade ki tulna apni us umar se karne lagte ho. Aap yaad dilate ho, phir aur baat aahon mein badal jaati hai. Jo baar usne nahi sambhala wo yaad rehti hai, jo sambhala wo chhoot jaati hai. Dheere-dheere aapke aur bade ke beech halki tanatani baith jaati hai, ek aise kaam par jo use diya gaya tha, ye use pata bhi nahi.
Kya ye ummeed keemat ke layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya bade se ummeed rakhne se usne kabhi garmjoshi se ye kiya? Ya zyadatar shaamein aur khinch gayin? Bachche aksar parwah apne dhang aur apne waqt par dikhate hain, hamesha waise nahi jaise hum sochte hain. Kisi bhi haal mein, Saturday ki ek ansuni awaaz ye paimana nahi ki bada kaisa insaan ban raha hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko jitna deta hai, usse zyada maangta hai.
Parwah apne dhang, apne waqt par
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap ye chahna band kar dein ki bachche ek-doosre ka khayal rakhein. Matlab ye ki aapki shanti ab ek bachche ke kandhe par nahi tiki. Jab parwah ke chhote, bina maange pal aayein, to unka maza lijiye, aur bade ko thodi der aur chhota rehne dijiye. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: ghar halka lagta hai, aapke liye bhi aur uske liye bhi.
If your eldest ever seems weighed down, frightened or worried for their own sake, that is a different thing from this hope, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSabse bade ko chhoton ka dhyan rakhna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleWo apne dhang se, apne waqt par parwah kar sakte hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte bade ki ek chhoti bhali baat notice kijiye
- Din 2
Ek jhagda bina aah bhare khud sulajhaiye
- Din 3
Bade ke saath bas das minute, sirf aap dono
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapne pehli baar kab bade par chhoton ko sambhalne ke liye tek lagayi, aur us din kya chal raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
School bag ke saath thamayi gayi ummeed #
“Sabse bade ko chhoton ka dhyan rakhna chahiye.” Ye aksar subah ki sabse bhaagdaud wali ghadi mein nikalti hai: barah saal ke bachche ko bag thamaya ja raha hai, peeche teen bachche auto mein thunse ja rahe hain, do tiffin abhi band hone baaki hain aur darwaaza pehle se khula hai.
Zor se kahi jaye to ye hukm se zyada naram nikalti hai. Ye aane wale saalon ki ek ummeed jaisi lagti hai: ki bachchon ke paas hamesha ek-doosre ka sahara rahega, ki bada wo hoga jiski taraf baaki mudenge, jaise kabhi apne ghar mein Didi ya Bhaiya hua karte the.
Sabse bade bachche ke baare mein ye baat aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi, aur chhote us waqt kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab bada kahe “abhi nahi” #
Kuch Maa-Baap ko tab jhunjhlahat ki ek kaundh mehsoos hoti hai jab bada poochh le “hamesha main hi kyun?”, aur kisi aur din garv ki chhoti-si lahar, jab bade ne bina kahe chhote ke joote ke feete baandh diye hon.
Ehsaas aksar soch se pehle aa jaata hai: “Bas kar do na, please” munh se pehle hi nikal gaya, ek lambi saans, ya darwaaza zara zor se band hua. Kuch logon ko baad mein ek aur halka-sa ehsaas hota hai, ki bade se in dinon kitna kuch maanga ja chuka hai.
Pichhli baar jab bade ne chhoton ko sambhalne par na-nukur ki, to jawab dene se pehle ke pehle kuch seconds mein aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chaah ki bachchon ke paas ek-doosre hon #
Ye ummeed vaajib isliye lagti hai ki iske neeche ek garm chaah baithi hai. Chaah ye hai ki jab bade vyast hon, aur uske bahut baad bhi, bachchon ke paas ek-doosre hon. Apnon ke liye kuch karna sachmuch maayne ka ehsaas de sakta hai.
Iska ek vyavahaarik pehlu bhi hai. Jis ghar mein ek se zyada bachche hon, wahan bahut-se haath chahiye hote hain, aur bada bachcha sach mein haath banta sakta hai. Isi wajah se ye pakad paana mushkil ho jaata hai ki madad kab chupchaap meherbaani se kaam ban gayi.
Jab aap apne bachchon ko bada hota sochte hain, to sabse zyada kya chahte hain ki bada aur sabse chhota ek-doosre ke liye bane rehne dein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo bade par tek lagati hai #
“Tum bade ho, zara samajhdaari rakho.” “Meri umar mein toh poora ghar chalta tha.” “Bas das minute ki toh baat hai.” Ye awaaz din ki sabse vyast ghadi mein bolti hai, jab kaam teen hon aur haath do.
Kuch nirashayein waade tootne jaisi chubhti hain, chahe kisi ne zubaan se kuch kaha hi na ho. Maa-Baap ko bada hona ek aisi bhumika lag sakti hai jo janm ke kram ke saath mil gayi, jabki bade bachche ne uski sharten kabhi dekhi hi nahi.
Jab ye awaaz sabse pehle bade ki taraf haath badhati hai, to aapke apne bachpan ki kaun-si bhumika yaad kar rahi hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bade ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye apni jagah se aati hai: bade hone ke naate baakiyon ko school chhodna, ya sabse chhote hone ke naate bheed bhare station par Bhaiya ka haath yaad rakhna. Kai gharon mein bada bachcha bas badon ka doosra jodi haath hota tha.
Kuch mein ye kahi gayi baaton se aati hai: “Bada beta toh baap samaan hota hai,” “Badi beti toh ghar sambhal leti hai,” ya Nani ke yahan Rakhi par us cousin ki taareef, jo chhuttiyon mein poora ghar chala deta tha. Aisi tasveerein jaldi bhi ban sakti hain aur bahut baad mein bhi.
Bachpan mein bachchon ki qataar mein aap kis jagah the, aur us jagah se aapse kya maanga jaata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo kaam baantta hai #
Neeche koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bada baakiyon ko dekhega,” ya “Agar ye ek-doosre ka khayal rakhein to maine achhe se pala.” Pehla vaakya log sunte hain; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki lagbhag har baar kise bulaya jaye.
Andar se ye niyam jaisa kam aur parivaar jaisa zyada lagta hai, aur ismein ghar ke har bachche ki sachchi parwah ho sakti hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, aaj ke bade ke bagal mein, jiska apna hafta aur apni yojanaayein hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko shuruaati saalon tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Bade wale niyam se parivaar ki kaun-si baatein aaj bhi mel khaati hain, aur kaun-si nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek bachche par tek lagane ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisa bada bachcha jo apni yojanaon ka zikr hi chhod de kyunki jawab pehle se tay lagta hai, chhote ki birthday party ki wajah se chhoota Saturday ka match, ya bistar ki kahani ke baad nau baje shuru hua homework. Chhoti baatein, par saal bhar mein jud jaati hain.
Maa-Baap ke liye bhi ek keemat hai. Jab ek bachcha har vyast ghadi ka jawab ban jaye, to bachchon ke paas ek-doosre ka sahara hone ki wo chaah, bade ki taraf se bina chhutti ki duty jaisi dikh sakti hai, aur uski garmaahat nazar aana mushkil ho jaata hai.
Pichhle saal ka kaun-sa aam hafta bade par sabse zyada tika tha, aur us hafte usne apna kya chhoda?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, pehle bade ko pukarte hue #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “sabse bade ko chhoton ka dhyan rakhna chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad padosi se chhote ko laane ke liye bade ko phir bulana, joote utaarne se pehle hi, do baar toota homework, ek suni par ansuni saans, apni yojana ka ek baar zikr aur phir chhoot jaana.
Yahan kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko kisi bhi pal rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: school ki daud, kaam-kaaj, seedhiyon se pukaar, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dhyan rakhna, kis shakl mein? #
Kisi ka dhyan rakhna kai shaklon mein ho sakta hai: ghar pahunchne ka message, school project mein madad, khane ki table par koi chutkula jo kharab din halka kar de, ya saalon baad di gayi koi salah. Kuch bhai-behenon ki nazdeeki un palon mein badhti hai jo kisi ne tay nahi kiye the.
Koi ummeed tabhi sabse achhi chalti hai jab wo asal mein ho sakne wali baat se mel khaye. Chaudah saal ka bada, jiske apne exam aur dost hain, kuch cheezein aasani se de sakta hai aur kuch aisi keemat par jo bahar se hamesha nahi dikhti.
Jo kuch aap chahte hain ki bada chhoton ko de, usmein se kaun-sa hissa bina maange apne aap panap sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bada jo pehle se deta hai #
Kabhi-kabhi kuch Maa-Baap ye dekhna chahte hain ki bada chhoton ko pehle se kya deta hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya ooncha-neecha: chhote ki drawing ki taareef, school se pehle dhoondh diya gaya khoya moza, sabse chhote ke liye chuna gaya cartoon, peeche ki seat par saajha ki gayi hansi.
Ye kisi ka haq nahi hai, aur jo aapne chaha use katata bhi nahi; dono saath reh sakte hain. Logon ke beech ki garmaahat tab sabse sachchi lagti hai jab wo apni marzi se di jaye, badle ki ummeed ke bina, isliye jo pal bada khud chunta hai, wahi dekhne layak ho sakte hain.
Kuch hafton mein kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Bada bina kahe chhoton ke liye kya karta hai, jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur chaah ko banaye rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki ye zyada maang thi, ya ki ye sahi thi. Matlab ye hai ki jis madad ki aapne aas ki aur jo mili, unke beech ka faasla har vyast shaam aur har baar jab bada kahe “aaj nahi” chalana band kar de.
Jo ismein theek hai, wo bana reh sakta hai: bachchon ke paas ek-doosre hon, aur us ghar mein haath bantana jise kai haath chahiye. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo pakad hai, taaki bade se poochha ja sake aur uski na ko aaj ki na suna jaye, parivaar ke baare mein nahi.
Buniyaadi izzat aur safety kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na kisi bhi bachche ke liye, bade ke liye bhi nahi.
Is chaah se sulah wali kisi vyast shaam ki tasveer banaiye: kaun kya kar raha hai, aur bada apne liye kya kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Vyast ghadi ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Sabse bade ko chhoton ka dhyan rakhna chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Meri chaah hai ki ye ek-doosre ka khayal rakhein, aur bada bhi bachcha bana rahe.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purani line ke bagal mein khade rehna hai.
Kuch logon ko apni line shuru mein atpati lagti hai aur istemaal se jaani-pehchani hoti jaati hai; kuch ko kabhi poori baithti nahi. Dono theek hain, aur kisi aur din doosri line aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo bachchon ke liye chaah ko banaye rakhe aur bade ke liye apni zindagi ki jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch shaamein bina sulajhi bhi chalti hain #
Har sawaal ka, ki kaun kise sambhale, aaj raat faisla hona zaroori nahi. Kuch ko bas dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise seedhiyon ke neeche gira school bag, ya sink mein bheegne ko chhoda tiffin.
Aisi chaah jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai. Agar bada kabhi bojh tale ya apni hi fikar mein dikhe, to wo is chaah se alag baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki ye sab sahi tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki aaj ki bhaagdaud ko har bachche ki jagah tay nahi karni hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar tek thodi dheeli hoti #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye, ki ummeed ek sur dheemi ho. Bachchon ke paas ek-doosre wali chaah wahi hai, par bada bachchon mein se ek hai, doosra bada nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise poochhna, aur pehle dekh lena ki aaj uske liye theek hai ya nahi, kisi chhote ka kaam doosre tareeke se ho jaana, ya bade ko apni khaali shaam ka maza lete dekhna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi, aur jo bhi uthe wo aapka hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah kaisi dikh sakti hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab sabse pehle bade ka naam nikle, dekhiye ki din ka kaun-sa waqt hai
- Bade ki taraf haath badhane se pehle dekhiye ki umar na ginein to baari kiski hoti
- Aaj apne liye jo ek cheez chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti, use notice kijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: meri chaah hai ki mere bachchon ke paas ek-doosre mein kya ho?
- Bade ka hafta uski taraf se sochiye: school, dost, baaki sab
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapne pehli baar kab bade par chhoton ko sambhalne ke liye tek lagayi, aur us din kya chal raha tha?
- Jab aap chhote the to aapka dhyan kisne rakha, aur unhein kya karte yaad karte hain?
- Aap sabse zyada kya chahte hain ki bade hokar aapke bachche ek-doosre ke baare mein kahein?
- Agar bade wali chaah thodi dheeli hoti, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karte?
- Bada chhoton ko pehle se kya deta hai, jise aap aur notice karna chahenge?