Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Aur ye imaandaar lagta hai, haar maanne jaisa nahi.
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan ke bantwaare se shuru hua: bhai-behnon mein ek jo maths mein tez hai, cousin jo khelne wala hai, bachcha jo “arts wala” hai.
“Mere bas ki baat nahi” ke neeche aksar ek shaant niyam baitha hota hai: “Agar aasaani se nahi aata, toh mujhe isme padna nahi chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Koi poochhe usse pehle hi kaam kisi aur ko thama dena
- Sabse pehle khud par mazaak bana lena, taaki koi aur na banaye
- Poore ilaake se door rehna, jaise maths, rasoi ya manch
- Doosron ko gaur se dekhna, par apni baari kabhi na lena
- Ek baar chupchaap aazmana, aur pehli galat chaal par ruk jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Jo batch aapne thukra diya
Saturday ki subah, Jaipur. Aapki dost beginners swimming batch mein bulati hai. Aap muskurakar kehte ho, “Arre, ye mere bas ki baat nahi.” Baad mein group mein uski tasveerein aati hain: geele baal, hansi. Aapko ek halki-si chubhan hoti hai. Aapka ek hissa jaana chahta tha, par purana vaakya pehle bol gaya.
Kuch cheezein bas ki nahi
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Ye mere bas ki baat nahi.” Ye sachchi samajh jaisa lagta hai, zyadatar log haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: darwaze andar jhaankne se pehle hi band kar deta hai. Khel, maths, manch par bolna, khana banana, jo bhi ho, jaldi bahar ho jaata hai, aur aap kabhi nahi jaan paate ki aapko kya achha lag sakta tha.
Label suraksha jaise kyun lagte hain
Hum ye isliye pakadte hain kyunki label suraksha jaise lag sakte hain. Bahut se log kisi roop mein ye niyam seekhte hain, aur us waqt iska matlab banta tha. Shayad kisi ne kaha tha aap khelne wale nahi, gaane wale nahi, ya numbers mein kamzor ho. Shayad ek baar koshish ki aur bigad gayi. Ye niyam bewaqoofi nahi hai. Ye sharmindagi se bachne ki chaah se aata hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Duniya jo chhoti hoti jaati hai
Har baar jab vaakya koi darwaza band karta hai, aapki duniya thodi chhoti hoti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Doosron ko nayi cheezein aazmate dekhte ho. Ek chupchaap jalan hoti hai jiska zikr nahi karte. Aap wahi jaani-pehchani jagahein aur wahi surakshit kaam chunte ho. Waqt ke saath “bas ki baat nahi” ki list aazmayi hui cheezon ki list se lambi ho jaati hai.
Kya ye label keemat ke layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya is niyam ne kabhi aapke liye koi darwaza khola? Ya zyadatar aapko bahar khade hokar dekhne wala banaye rakha? Zyadatar hunar abhyaas se aate hain, is baat se nahi ki koi kaisa bana hai, aur kai log unhein der se khojte hain. Ek purana label iska paimana nahi ki aap kya aazma sakte ho. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat ke layak hai?
Aazmakar khud pata lagana
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki har cheez mein achha hona pade. Matlab ye ki pehle se tay karne ki jagah aap khud pata laga sakte ho. Ek beginners batch mein atpate dhang se ja sakte ho aur us par hans sakte ho. Ye ekdam se nahi hota, aur zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki duniya phir khulti hai, aur aap jaan paate ho ki aapko kya achha lagta hai.
If someone keeps telling you what you can't do, mocks you for trying, threatens or frightens you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleYe mere bas ki baat nahi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAazmakar khud pata lagaya ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte kuch chhota naya aazmaiye, bas dekhne ke liye
- Din 2
Ek cheez notice kijiye jo pehle namumkin lagi, par ab hoti hai
- Din 3
Purana vaakya aaye toh poochhiye: ye mujhe kaise pata?
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sabse zyada kis cheez ke liye khud se kehte ho ki aapke bas ki nahi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kuch shabd jo darwaza dheere se band kar dete hain #
“Ye mere bas ki baat nahi.” Kahi jaati hai maths ke homework par, phone ki nayi setting par, cousin ki shaadi mein speech par, sangeet ke dance floor par, ya us roti par jo ghar mein baaki sabse gol banti hai.
Ye gusse mein nahi kahi jaati. Shaant, lagbhag samajhdari se kahi jaati hai, jaise koi apni lambai bataye, ek seedhe tathya ki tarah, aur phir baat kisi aur cheez par chali jaati hai.
Aap ye sabse zyada kiske liye kehte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us cheez ko aakhri baar kab aazmaya tha, aur koshish kitni der chali?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek chhota kadam peeche #
Aksar ye body se shuru hota hai. Number nikalte hi chehra garam ho jaata hai. Remote, ball ya mic saamne aaye toh haath thehar jaate hain. Thoda-sa peeche jhukna, raaste se hatna.
Phir us jhukne ki safai mein shabd aate hain: “Apna subject nahi”, “tum kar lo”. Peeche hatna pehle hota hai, aur wajah ek second baad aati hai, aise jaise hamesha se wahin thi.
Kin palon mein aap wo chhota kadam peeche lete ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Shabd nikalne se theek pehle aapki body kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Yeh ek kadve ehsaas se bacha leta hai #
Kuch naya aazmana aur usmein kamzor nikalna bade seedhe dhang se bura lagta hai. Dheemapan sabke saamne hota hai. Baaki log ek minute mein samajh lete lagte hain. Ye label us ehsaas ko ek jhatke mein rok deta hai.
Aur ye imaandaar lagta hai, haar maanne jaisa nahi. “Mere bas ki baat nahi” “Koshish ki aur bigad gaya” se narm lagta hai, kyunki iska matlab hai ki koshish karne jaisa kuch tha hi nahi, isliye kuch khoya bhi nahi.
Aur kuch cheezein sachmuch kuch logon ke liye zyada mushkil hoti hain, aisi wajahon se jinmein kisi ki galti nahi. Alag raasta dhoondhna bhi ginta hai.
Ajeeb baat ye hai ki label batata hai ki cheez mushkil kyun hai, par saath hi use mushkil banaye rakhta hai.
Kaisa lagega agar bas itna kahein “abhi seekha nahi hai”, aur wahin ruk jayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo kaam wapas thama deti hai #
“Rehne do, mujhse bigad hi jayega.” “Kuch logon ko bas aata hai.” “Apna subject nahi, kabhi tha hi nahi.” Awaaz tez aur dostana hai. Jaise hi kuch thoda mushkil dikhe, bol padti hai.
Ye aksar bachane wali lagti hai. Office meeting mein, khane ki table par, cricket maidaan par aapko atpata dikhne se bachati hai. Mushkil ye hai ki ye aapko us hisse se bhi door rakhti hai jahan baat samajh aane lagti hai.
Jab awaaz kahe “apna subject nahi”, toh ye shabd kiske hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapne ye tay kiya, ya itni baar suna ki apna khayal lagne laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Aksar ek shuruaati bantwaare se shuru hota hai #
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan ke bantwaare se shuru hua: bhai-behnon mein ek jo maths mein tez hai, cousin jo khelne wala hai, bachcha jo “arts wala” hai. Shayad pyaar se kaha gaya, par baar-baar kaha gaya.
Kabhi ek pal tha. Class mein maths ki copy sabke saamne lautayi gayi. Games period mein sabse aakhir mein chuna jaana. Rasoi mein pehli koshish par hansi. Chhote pal aisa label laga dete hain jo unse kahin zyada tikta hai.
Sabse pehle kisne tay kiya ki aap kis cheez ke bane ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kahan the, aur tab tak aapne asal mein kitni koshish ki thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche ka niyam #
“Mere bas ki baat nahi” ke neeche aksar ek shaant niyam baitha hota hai: “Agar aasaani se nahi aata, toh mujhe isme padna nahi chahiye.” Ye niyam theek-sa lagta hai. Par yahi niyam shuruaat karne wale ko shuruaat se aage badhne nahi deta.
Kabhi iska matlab banta tha. Jo bachcha baaki sabke saamne baar-baar galat karta hai, wo un cheezon ke paas jaana chhod deta hai. Peeche hatna use baar-baar chhota mehsoos karne se bachata tha. Ye surakshit rehne ka hoshiyaar tareeka tha.
Kya aaj bhi wahi sauda hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki zindagi mein kaun-si cheezein shuru mein aasaan nahi thin, aur kaun-si aapne phir bhi seekh li, shayad bina dhyaan diye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Label chupchaap kya chheenta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har mahine colleague se spreadsheet banwana, lambe patra theek se na padhna, khana hamesha kisi aur ke bharose chhodna, ya sab khel rahe hon toh bahar baithe rehna.
Iski keemat chhoot jaati hai, kyunki kuch naatkiya nahi hota. Bas un cheezon ki list banti jaati hai jo kabhi aazmayi nahi gayin. Saal bhar mein wo list lambi ho sakti hai. Poora shauq, poora hunar, poori tarah ki masti, pehle hi din alag rakh di gayi.
Pichhle saal is label ne aapko kis cheez se door rakha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us list mein koi ek cheez hai jise aap chupke se ab bhi kar paana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday #
Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “ye mere bas ki baat nahi” hi sab chala rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, bhavishyavani nahi, aur isme theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad wahi colleague ab bhi numbers sambhalta hai. Shayad koi aur ab bhi bada khana pakata hai, aur aap ab bhi ball wapas thama dete ho. Shayad aap ab bhi unhin palon mein muskurakar “apna subject nahi” kehte ho. Bas din, jaisa chalta hai.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kuch alag chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Door se har hunar pratibha jaisa dikhta hai #
Bahar se jo log kisi cheez mein achhe hain, wo paidaishi lagte hain. Paas se dekhein toh pehle ek lamba daur hota hai jab wo usmein kamzor the: jali hui rotiyan, galat jod, kaanpti pehli speeches jo kisi ko yaad nahi.
Bahut se jo log qabil lagte hain, unhone bas jaldi shuru kiya tha, ya kamzor daur mein unka hausla badhaya gaya, hansi nahi udayi gayi. Aaj dikhne wala farq aksar ghanton ka hai, insaan ka nahi. Ghante dikhte nahi, isliye pratibha lagte hain.
Kisi aise ke baare mein sochiye jo aapke “bas ki baat nahi” wali cheez mein achha hai.
Unki pehli koshish kaisi rahi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab wo galat hue, tab unke bagal mein kaun khada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par logon ko kya milta hai #
Gaur se dekhne par kai logon ko lagta hai ki label bahut purana hai. Das-barah saal ki umar mein, kuch buri koshishon ke baad laga, aur uske baad kabhi jaancha nahi gaya. Bade ne kabhi dobara aazmaya hi nahi; sirf bachche ne aazmaya tha.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki unhone uske baad mushkil cheezein seekhi hain, bas us naam se nahi. Nayi job, naya shehar, nayi bhasha, naya phone, ghar mein naya bachcha. Har ek mushkil tha, aur har ek seekha gaya.
Bade hokar aapne kya seekha jo shuru mein namumkin laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab tak aap usmein kamzor the, tab khud se kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Har cheez apni ho, zaroori nahi #
Is yaqeen se sulah ka matlab har cheez mein maahir banna nahi. Kuch cheezein mushkil ya uubau rahengi, aur wo theek hai. Kuch seekhna na chahna ek asli aur jaayaz chunav hai.
Farq “mujhe nahi karna” aur “mujhse nahi hoga, isliye koshish nahi” mein hai. Ek faisla hai. Doosra saalon pehle kisi chhote aur kam umar ke insaan ka band kiya darwaza hai. Sirf doosra dobara dekhne layak hai.
Aur kuch cheezein sachmuch kuch logon ke liye zyada mushkil hoti hain, aisi wajahon se jinmein kisi ki galti nahi. Alag raasta dhoondhna bhi ginta hai.
Aapke “bas ki baat nahi” wali kaun-si cheez sachmuch “mujhe nahi karna” hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur kaun-si ek darwaza hai jise aap zara-sa dhakelna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Ye mere bas ki baat nahi” ki jagah kuch log aisi line aazmate hain: “Abhi seekha nahi hai, aur dheeme chalne ki ijazat hai.” Ye purani line se ladti nahi. Bas kahani ko thoda insaaf se kehti hai.
Shuru mein thodi jhoothi lag sakti hai, jaise koi naya shabd jo munh mein atpata baithe. Ye aam baat hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere se kuch baar kehne par nayi line fit hone lagti hai. Kuch ko nahi lagta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kuch imaandaar, khushmizaaj nahi, jo darwaza zara-sa khula chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch din purana label laut aata hai #
Thake din mein, jab form uljha ho ya jod baith na raha ho, purani line seedhe laut sakti hai: “Dekha, mere bas ki baat nahi.” Wo purani aadat bol rahi hai, jaise koi jaana-pehchana gaana dimaag mein bajne lage.
Itna notice karke naam dena kaafi ho sakta hai: “Phir wahi label.” Usse behas karna zaroori nahi, aur maanna bhi zaroori nahi. Use wahan rehne dijiye aur agla kadam sochiye.
Shaam bhar ke liye label rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya mushkil cheez aasaan ho gayi. Bas itna ki aaj use baaki har cheez mein saath nahi chalna.
Shaam mein kya hoga, uski jagah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar label thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki label ek darja dheema hai. Wo ab bhi kabhi-kabhi aata hai, par use ek vote milta hai, aakhri faisla nahi.
Kai log pehle chhoti cheezein sochte hain: ek mushkil jod par do minute aur tike rehna, kadchhi thamane ki jagah khud chalana, manual ka poora panna padhna.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi ko dikhana zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Us din sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #
- Jab “bas ki baat nahi” sunayi de, mann mein “abhi” jod dijiye
- Us cheez par ek chhota video dekhiye, aazmane ka irada rakhe bina
- Uska ek chhota hissa notice kijiye jo aap pehle se kar paate ho
- Koi ek cheez yaad kijiye jismein aap kabhi kamzor the aur ab kar paate ho
- Pehli koshish ko atpati hone dijiye, aur koshish karne ko hi poora maqsad ginye
Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sabse zyada kis cheez ke liye khud se kehte ho ki aapke bas ki nahi?
- Sabse pehle kisne aapko achhe aur bure mein baanta?
- Kuch aazmane par wo bigad jaye toh kaun-sa ehsaas aata hai?
- Jis aam din ye label zor se bole, aap kya doosron ko thama rahe honge?
- Agar label thoda halka ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?