Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jis mehnat ki koi baat na ho, wo ghar ke furniture jaisi lagne lagti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se ugi jahan mehnat par hamesha baat hoti thi, shukriya table ka waisa hi hissa tha jaise namak.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo meri kadar karte to keh dete,” ya “Achhe parivaar mein achha kaam notice hota hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har baar thoda aur karna, shayad kuch asar ho
- Mehnat ka zikr halke mazaak mein kar dena
- Kisi bol ka intezaar karna, aur aise dikhana ki nahi kar rahe
- Chupchaap peshkash karna band kar dena aur dekhna kya hota hai
- Kisi dost ko batana ki isme kitna kuch laga
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Mithai par shukriya, aapko kuch nahi
Poora Saturday sasural ke parivaarik lunch ki taiyaari mein jaata hai: sabzi katna, khana banana, table lagana, bartan maanjna. Lunch par Papa ji, yaani sasur ji, ek rishtedaar ko mithai ke dibbe ke liye shukriya kehte hain. Aapke kiye ki koi baat nahi karta. Aap table ke doosre chhor par muskaan liye baithte ho, aur aapka poora din parose gaye thaaliyon ki bhaap mein chupchaap gum ho jaata hai.
Sasural yogdaan ki kadar kare
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural wale mere yogdaan ki kadar karein.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Mehnat dikhni chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke apnepan ka ehsaas unke shukriya se baandh deta hai. Parivaar ka hissa lagna ab un logon par tik jaata hai jo shayad bas madad ki ummeed rakhte hain, ya ye dekh hi nahi paate ki kitna kuch laga.
Mehnat pyaar ka tareeka kyun
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki mehnat pyaar dikhane ka tareeka lagti hai. Shayad aapko sikhaya gaya ki parivaar ko apna sabse achha do, aur ummeed thi ki dikhega. Shayad aapne unke beech apni jagah kadam-kadam banayi hai. Jo bhi ho, kadar chahna dikhawa nahi. Ye shaamil hone aur apne dene ki keemat pehchani jaane ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Agli mehnat aur bhaari lagti hai
Har bin-shukriya mehnat agli ko bhaari bana deti hai. Aap ginne lagte ho ki aapne kya kiya. Madad garm muskaan ki jagah kasakar kheenchi muskaan se karte ho. Unki table par andekhe lagte ho. Dheere-dheere parivaarik jamghat bina inaam ka kaam lagne lagte hain, aur har baar thoda zyada darr lagta hai, jabki mann ka ek kona ab bhi wahan apnapan chahta hai.
Kya shukriya ki raah dekhna theek?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unke shukriya ki raah dekhne se kaam kabhi halka hua? Ya zyadatar aur andekha mehsoos karaya? Kai parivaaron mein madad par shukriya zor se bahut kam kaha jaata hai; kyun, ye bas wahi jaanein. Jo bhi ho, unki chuppi iska paimana nahi ki aap kya laate ho. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Jo theek lage, wo dena
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab kuch aap hi karte rahein. Matlab ye ki aap kya laate ho, iski samajh unke shukriya ka intezaar na kare. Aap apni mehnat aur parwah ko jaante ho. Jo theek lage wo de sakte ho, aur zaroorat ho to aaram bhi kar sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapka dena aapka apna lagta hai, aur aapki keemat aapki apni nazar mein saaf rehti hai.
Being made to serve without rest, kept apart, watched, threatened, hurt or frightened, or having money or papers kept from you, is not a slow welcome; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural wale mere yogdaan ki kadar karein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai maine kya diya. Jo theek lage, utna dena mera chunav.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Parivaar ke liye kiya koi ek kaam sochiye jis par aapko achha lage
- Kadam 2
Jis khane mein aapka haath laga, use baithkar chain se khaiye
- Kadam 3
Bade parivaarik din ke baad das minute aaram kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Parivaar ke liye aapne jo banaya ya kiya, wo kab notice hua? Kya hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chulhe ke paas goonjta ek khayal #
“Sasural wale is parivaar ke liye mere kiye ki kadar karein.” Ye aksar kaam ke beech mein aata hai: Lohri ya Sunday ke lunch se pehle saag chalate hue, gajak ke packet lapete hue, ya sabke sofe par ja baithne ke baad pyalon ka dher dhote hue.
Ye shayad hi kabhi taaliyon ki chaah hoti hai. Ye ek chupchaap-si ummeed hai ki mehnat kisi tak pahunche, koi dekhe ki table par kitna kuch laga hai, aur ek vaakya, ek nazar ya ek aur roti maangkar keh de.
Pichhli baar jab ye ummeed aayi, aap kis kaam ke beech mein the, aur aaspaas kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Thaali lagne ke baad ka pal #
Kuch logon ki saans pehla kaur uthte hi zara tham jaati hai, aur nazar kisi ke chehre par tik jaati hai ki kaisa laga. Jawab aksar pal bhar ka hota hai, aur dekhne wale ke dekhna khatam karne se pehle baat guzar jaati hai.
Kuch ko tab halki-si chubhan hoti hai jab baat is par chal padti hai ki ye dish pehle kaise banti thi, ya kaun ise behtar banata tha. Muskaan wahin rehti hai, aur uske peeche kuch chupchaap baith jaata hai.
Pichhli baar jab aapne parivaar ke liye sachmuch mehnat ki thi, parose jaane ke theek baad aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Mehnat chahti hai ki use dekha jaye #
Ye chaahat samajh mein aati hai. Log us ghar se zyada judaav mehsoos karte hain jahan unka diya notice hota hai, aur jitni chhoti baat ho, uska dekha jaana utna hi zyada maayne rakh sakta hai.
Jis mehnat ki koi baat na ho, wo ghar ke furniture jaisi lagne lagti hai. Chaahna ki dena thoda dikhe, bahut aam insaani baat hai, kyunki isi se wo saajha hota hai, sirf nipta nahi.
Koi aisa waqt sochiye jab aapne parivaar ke liye jo kiya wo notice hua: wo kya tha, aur kisne notice kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Shaam ka hisaab rakhne wali awaaz #
“Kisi ne dekha bhi?” “Itni mehnat.” “Har baar mujhi se hi kyun?” Ye awaaz aksar thaaliyan sametate hue bolti hai, ya tab jab baaki sab sofe par aaram se baith chuke hon.
Aisi awaaz purane shabd utha leti hai: kisi maa-baap ka andekha raha kaam, kisi teacher ka kabhi “shabash” na kehna, ye maanyata ki dena hi pyaar dikhane ka tareeka hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki ye awaaz ek shaam se zyada dho rahi hai.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki unhein dhyaan dena chahiye tha, to wo sabse zyada kya sunna chahti hai, aur kiske munh se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Notice hone ki chaah kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se ugi jahan mehnat par hamesha baat hoti thi, shukriya table ka waisa hi hissa tha jaise namak. Aise logon ko chup ghar kabhi-kabhi ajeeb tarah se khamosh lagte hain ki jo hua us par kuch kaha hi nahi gaya.
Kuch mein ye is seekh se aayi ki doosron ke liye bahut karna hi apni jagah banane ka tareeka hai. Is seekh ke saath insaan aksar isi ishare ki raah dekhta rehta hai ki kiye hue ki khabar pahunchi ya nahi.
Sabse pehle kisne aapke kiye par dhyaan diya tha, aur usne kya kaha ya kiya, jo aapko yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Dene aur dikhne ka niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo meri kadar karte to keh dete,” ya “Achhe parivaar mein achha kaam notice hota hai.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam har chup shaam ko nateeje mein badal deta hai.
Aisa niyam aksar chuna nahi jaata. Ye un logon ki parwah se banta hai jinke liye khana bana, aur isme sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise is baat ke bagal mein rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai ki ye parivaar apni kadar kaise dikhata hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko kisi khaas shaam se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
“Notice hua matlab kadar hui” kahan theek baithta hai, aur kahan parivaar shukriya aise jatata hai jo aasani se chhoot jaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Chuppi mein dene ki saal bhar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai tyohaar ka khana khushi se zyada fikar ke saath shuru hona, hafte bhar ki taiyaari jo aakhir mein thakaan chhod jaye, aur kisi aise bol ki raah dekhne ki aadat jo aaye ya na aaye.
Mahino mein kadar ki ummeed hisaab mein badal sakti hai: kitne khane bane, kitni mezbaani hui, kitne kaam hue, aur badle mein kya lauta. Kuch log dekhte hain ki hisaab dene ki khushi hi kha jaata hai.
Is saal kis mehnat ki keemat aapko sabse zyada lagi, aur aapne ummeed ki thi ki uske badle kya milega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Tyohaar ke din ki rasoi #
Kisi aam tyohaar ke din ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mere yogdaan ki kadar ho” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye hai.
Shayad tyohaar ka khana banana aur sunna ki pehle ye kaise banta tha, thaaliyan uthana, aur mann mein chalta sawaal ki baat pahunchi ya nahi.
Yahan kuch nahi kehta ki agle paanch saal kaise honge; ye bas ek tasveer hai, aur ise alag rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: subah jaldi uthna, rasoi, parosna, table par baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ka kaun sa hissa aapke saath sabse zyada der rukta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us rasoi ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kadar, kiski zubaan mein? #
Parivaar kadar alag-alag tarah se jatate hain. Kisi ke liye ek aur roti poora bhaashan hai; kisi ko zor se shukriya kehna aupchaarik ya ajeeb lagta hai. Jo ek ko chuppi lage, doosre ke liye wahi dheemi taareef ho sakti hai.
Isse aapki chaah zyada nahi ho jaati, na unki chuppi kaafi. Bas do tareeke hain izzat jatane ke jinki abhi tulna nahi hui. Kuch logon ko kaam ka lagta hai ye dekhna ki parivaar kya dikhata hai, aur ye bhi jaanna ki aap kya sunna chahenge.
“Mere yogdaan ki kadar” ke bheetar kya sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai: ek bol, ek ishara, ya kaam mein barabar hissa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Kadar ki chaah ke bagal mein chhote ishare pehle se ho sakte hain: saaf chaati hui thaali, koi rishtedaar jo recipe poochta hai, koi mehmaan jo agli baar wahi dish maangta hai, chawal par budbudaya hua ek “Achha bana tha.”
Aise ishare ko dekh lene se faasla band nahi hota, aur na hi aur dene ki wajah banta hai. Chaah aur chhota ishara ek hi table par saath baithe hain, aur ishara apne aap mein dekhne layak hai.
Aakhri baar jo khana aapne banaya ya jiski mezbaani ki, uske baad kisi ne aisa kya kiya jisse laga ki baat pahunchi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Dish ka maza, chahe kuch bhi kaha jaye #
Koi nahi kehta ki kadar ki chaah zyada thi; sukoon tab aata hai jab dene aur sunne ke beech ka faasla khane ka maza tay karna chhod de. Dekhe jaane ki chaah jaayaz bani rehti hai. Buniyaadi izzat aur salamati kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai sanket ki raah dekhna, taaki banane wala bhi apna banaya khana chakh sake. Bina aaram kaam karaya jaana, sabke baad ya alag khana, ya ghar ki zindagi se jaan-boojhkar bahar rakha jaana dheema swagat nahi hai; wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Agar sasural mein kabhi chot pahunchayi jaye ya dhamkaya jaye, nigaraani ya peechha kiya jaye, phone, kaagzaat ya passport le liye jayein, ghar mein roka jaye ya apne parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, ya darr lage, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Aapse ya aapke parivaar se paise, tohfe ya gehnon ki maang, aapse paise chhupakar rakhna, aur bachche ke liye dabaav bhi yahi baat hai. In sab mein saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aisa khana sochiye jahan ye chaah halki baithti hai: aapne kya banaya hota, aur aap kya chakh rahe hote?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Khane ke aakhir ke liye ek vaakya #
“Sasural wale mere yogdaan ki kadar karein” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log paas mein aisi line rakhte hain: “Mera diya maayne rakhta hai, aur dene mein mujhe maza aa sakta hai.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas paas rehna kaafi hai.
Pehchaan ki ummeed ke aage nayi line ajeeb lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko istemaal se wo saaf hoti dikhti hai; kuch doosra vaakya dhoondh lete hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo dekhe jaane ki chaah ko thaame rakhe aur dene ko aapka apna rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Har mehnat par faisla zaroori nahi #
Kuch kaam kiya ja sakta hai, uska anand liya ja sakta hai, aur chulhe par thandi hoti kadhai ki tarah rasoi mein chhoda ja sakta hai. Mehnat asli thi, tippani ho ya na ho.
Agar kisi ghar mein chot ya dhamki ho, phone ya kaagzaat le liye jayein, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, paise ya tohfon ki maang, bachche ke liye dabaav ho, ya darr lage, to wo chup table se alag baat hai, use gambhirta se lein; wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek shaam ke liye khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Ek khana, jo bas khana hai #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja halki hai. Kadar ki chaah ab bhi hai, par khana khana hai, dene ka aakhri paimana nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise apne tareeke se banana aur pakte waqt chakhna, ya chulhe par ek minute chammach lekar khade rehna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage hum dekhenge ki isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Parivaar ke khane se pehle ek dish chuniye jo aap bas isliye banayein ki wo aapko pasand hai
- Gaur kijiye ki apni kaun si mehnat karte waqt aapko sabse zyada achha laga
- Kisi ek rishtedaar ko sochiye jisne aapka kiya kuch notice kiya ho
- Jo ban raha hai, use pakte waqt hi chakh lijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: dene ka kaun sa hissa mere apne liye hai?
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Parivaar ke liye aapne jo banaya ya kiya, wo kab notice hua? Kya hua tha?
- Kis tarah ka dena aapko karte waqt sabse zyada achha lagta hai?
- Parivaar mein kaun aise kadar jatata hai ki aapko dikhti hai?
- Aise khane mein jahan sanket ki raah dekhna naram pad gaya ho, kya alag dikhega?
- Sasural ki taraf se izzat ka kaun sa chhota ishara sabse aasani se achha laga hai?