Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Seekhna tab aasaan hota hai jab pyaar se dikhaya jaye, number na diye jayein.
Kuch logon mein ye kisi bhale-se pehle din se ugi, school, office ya dost ke ghar mein, jahan sawaal ka swagat hua aur galti par muskaan mili.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo bhale hote to mujhe apni raftaar se seekhne dete,” ya “Achhe naye sadasya sab kuch jaldi sahi kar lete hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Gaur se dekhna aur jo wo karte hain wahi dohrana
- Badi galti se bachne ko chhote sawaal poochhna
- Jaldi se “sorry” keh dena, chahe wajah pata na ho
- Kaam theek unke tareeke se karna, phir sochna ki kaisa laga hoga
- Tab tak rukna jab koi aaspaas na ho, tabhi apne tareeke se karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Tauliye dobara tah, chai “zara pheeki”
Sasural ke paas rehne ka pehla mahina, Indore, Vijay Nagar ka ghar. Aap tauliye apne tareeke se tah karte ho; wo dobara tah hote hain. Chai waise banate ho jaise hamesha banayi hai; koi kehta hai, “Zara pheeki hai.” Aap table lagate ho, aur thaaliyan hata di jaati hain. Har baat chhoti hai. Par Sunday ki raat tak anaadipan aur thakaan ka ehsaas gher leta hai, jaise is ghar ki duniya mein kuch bhi kabhi sahi nahi hoga.
Aapko tour-tareeke seekhne ka waqt chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural wale mujhe unke tour-tareeke seekhne ka waqt dein.” Ye ekdum jaayaz lagta hai. Naya ghar koi hafte bhar mein nahi seekhta. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke theek chalne ka ehsaas is par baandh deta hai ki wo aapko kitna waqt dete hain. Aap kaabil lagein ya nahi, ab un logon par tika hai jinhein shayad andaaza nahi ki ek saath kitni nayi chhoti aadatein apnani hain.
Naya seekhna nazuk kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki kuch naya seekhna nazuk lagta hai, aur sabr meharbaani jaisa. Shayad apne ghar mein cheezein alag hoti thin, aur ab aap do tarah ki aadatein dhote ho. Shayad aapko bas kaam achhe se karna pasand hai, aur galat hona khalta hai. Jo bhi ho, waqt chahna zyada nahi. Ye bina jaldbaazi ke shaamil hone ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Seedhi baaton par bhi do baar sochna
Har chhoti tok aapko aur anaadi mehsoos karati hai. Aap seedhi baaton par bhi do baar sochne lagte ho, jaise tauliye tah karna. Koi na dekhe tab bhi lagta hai ki dekha ja raha hai. Jin kaamon mein barson se haath sadha tha unmein bharosa ghatta hai. Dheere-dheere naya ghar aisi pariksha ban jaata hai jisme aap baar-baar atakte ho, aur thakaan har waqt bani rehti hai, jabki aapne kuch galat kiya hi nahi.
Kya unke sabr ka intezaar theek hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unse narmi ki zaroorat ne kabhi tok ko aasaan kiya? Ya zyadatar har ek ko aur chubhaya? Kai parivaar chhoti baaton par aksar tokte hain, shayad bina dekhe ki naye insaan par kaisa asar hota hai; kyun, ye bas wahi jaanein. Jo bhi ho, unki tok aapki kaabiliyat ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Khud ko waqt dena
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab kuch ek saath seekh lein. Matlab ye ki aapke theek chalne ka ehsaas unki pratikriya par na tike. Khud par naram raha ja sakta hai, ek-ek aadat seekhi ja sakti hai, aur apne kuch tareeke bhi rakhe ja sakte hain. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: is nayi duniya mein pair tikaye ja sakte hain, narmi se, apni raftaar se.
Being hurt, threatened or frightened, watched, pressured to change who you are, kept from your family or friends, or having money, phone or papers kept from you is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural wale mujhe unke tour-tareeke seekhne ka waqt dein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleKhud ko waqt dena mere haath mein hai. Ek-ek aadat karke.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Is hafte unki koi ek aadat seekhiye, bas ek
- Din 2
Apni bhi koi ek chhoti aadat rakhiye
- Din 3
Kuch toke jaane par khud se narmi baratiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapne kab kuch naya aaram se seekha tha? Kya baat use aaramdeh bana rahi thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kapdon ki tokri mein dabi ek ummeed #
“Sasural wale mujhe unke tour-tareeke seekhne ka waqt dein.” Ye aksar chhote kaamon ke beech aati hai: tauliya galat taraf se tah hua, masale ka dibba galat shelf par lauta, ketli us nishaan tak bhari jo asal mein wo nishaan nahi tha.
Aksar ye khayal kisi ki aadaton ki shikayat nahi hota. Ye naye ghar ki lay seekhne ke liye bina jaldbaazi wale waqt ki chaah hai, taaki chook chook rahe, kisi chhote-se saboot mein na badle.
Unki kaun si chhoti aadat ne haal mein aapko sabse zyada atkaya, aur khayal kaisa sunayi diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Toke jaane ke baad ka pal #
Kuch logon ko chhoti-si toka-taki par, chahe pyaar se hi ho, halki garmi chadhti mehsoos hoti hai, aur “Arre sorry!” kisi ehsaas ko parakhne se pehle hi nikal jaata hai. Haath cheez ko theek karne chala jaata hai.
Kuch ko us waqt kuch nahi lagta aur baad mein dheere-dheere replay chalta hai: vaakya ka theek-theek lehja, kaun se kamre mein kaha gaya, aur kisne suna. Body ko us pal ko neeche rakhne mein mann se zara zyada waqt lagta hai.
Pichhli baar jab aapko ghar ka koi tareeka dikhaya gaya, jawab dene se pehle us pal mein aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ghar seekhne mein sabko waqt lagta hai #
Ye samajhna aasaan hai ki ye kyun maayne rakhta hai. Har ghar mein chhote-chhote aise niyam hote hain jo kisi ne likhe nahi, aur unhein seekhna lamba, chupchaap kaam hai. Bina darshakon ke uske liye jagah chahna bahut swabhavik hai.
Seekhna tab aasaan hota hai jab pyaar se dikhaya jaye, number na diye jayein. Jis naye insaan ko galat karne ki aazaadi lage wo aksar ram jaata hai; jise lage ki use dekha ja raha hai, wo apni taaqat sahi dikhne mein laga sakta hai.
Koi aisi jagah sochiye jahan aapne tour-tareeke aaram se seekhe: kisne dikhaya, aur kya baat use aaramdeh bana rahi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Tah karne par number dene wali awaaz #
“Phir galat ho gaya.” “Unhone dekh liya.” “Mujhe apne aap kyun nahi pata?” Ye awaaz aksar toke jaane ke theek baad bolti hai, ya shaant kamre mein, kaam nipat jaane ke bahut baad.
Aisi awaaz purani kakshaon se udhaar le sakti hai: wo teacher jo har galti par nishaan lagate the, pehli job jahan chookein ginti jaati thin. Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye kamre mein baithe kisi se bhi zyada kadai se number deti hai, aur kuch dekhte hain ki kamra bhi kada naapta hai.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki unhein aapko waqt dena chahiye, to wo kitna waqt sochti hai, aur usmein kya karna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Naram shuruaat ki tasveer kahan se bani #
Kuch logon mein ye kisi bhale-se pehle din se ugi, school, office ya dost ke ghar mein, jahan sawaal ka swagat hua aur galti par muskaan mili. Wo paimana har naye ghar mein saath chalta hai.
Kuch mein ye ulte se aayi: aisa daur jab har chook pakdi gayi, aur chupchaap thana gaya ki agli baar seekhne ki jagah milegi. Tab naya parivaar wo jagah ban sakta hai jahan ye ummeed zor se kehna sabse mushkil hota hai.
Koi pehla insaan yaad kijiye jo kuch naya seekhte waqt aapke saath naram raha, aur usne kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sab kuch sahi karne ka niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo bhale hote to mujhe apni raftaar se seekhne dete,” ya “Achhe naye sadasya sab kuch jaldi sahi kar lete hain.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam har tok ko nishaan mein badal deta hai.
Aisa niyam shayad hi chuna jaata hai. Ye bina sharmindagi ke apnaye jaane ki chaah se banta hai, aur isme sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise is baat ke bagal mein rakha ja sakta hai ki ghar ke baaki sadasyon ko apni aadatein seekhne mein kitna waqt laga tha.
Kuch log aise niyam ko pehle mushkil hafte se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
“Jaldi seekho” aaj bhi kahan baithta hai, aur kahan dheemi raftaar ekdum aam hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek mausam tak pariksha mein rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisi visit ya din jo ishare padhne ke liye haathon aur chehron ko takte guzre, har chhoti baat pehle se tay karne ki chup thakaan, aur kaam karne se pehle uska sahi tareeka mann mein dohrane ki aadat.
Mahino mein waqt ki chaah dekhe jaane ke ehsaas mein badal sakti hai: kiski nazar tah par padi, daalne par, rakhne par. Kuch log dekhte hain ki ghar aaram ki jagah nahi, dikhawe ki jagah lagne lagta hai.
Pichhle kuch hafton par nazar daliye: kaun sa chhota kaam sabse zyada saavdhani maangta tha, aur usne aapse kya maanga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Dekhte hue guzri tah ki ek subah #
Kisi aam subah ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe waqt dein” zor se baj raha ho. Isme kuch theek karne ko nahi hai.
Shayad unke tah karne ka tareeka dekhna aur chupchaap dohrana, almari ke upar ruka hua haath, aur ek tauliya jo theek-thaak tah ho gaya.
Ye dekhne ki tasveer hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kapde, rasoi, kamre ke paar ki nazar, ye khayal ki ye kaise hona chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us subah ka kaun sa hissa aapke liye sabse tez hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us subah mein aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tok, ya bas ek aadat dikhayi ja rahi hai? #
Ghar ke bheetar se dekhein to kisi kaam ka tareeka dikhana baantne jaisa lag sakta hai, number dena nahi. Jo rishtedaar kehta hai “Hamare yahan aise hota hai” wo wahi jaankari de raha ho sakta hai jo use kabhi mili thi, us ikloote dhang se jo wo jaanta hai.
Isse aapki ummeed zyada nahi ho jaati. Wahi vaakya madad ke liye kaha ja sakta hai aur phir bhi nishaan jaisa lag sakta hai, aur jaisa laga wo bhi sach hai.
“Mujhe waqt dein” ke bheetar sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai: raftaar, lehja, ya doosron ke saamne toka jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Waqt ki chaah ke bagal mein pehle se chhoti meharbaaniyan ho sakti hain: koi rishtedaar jo batata hai ki cheezein kahan rakhi hain, saath milkar banane ka prastaav, kisi chook par chupchaap “Arre rehne do, kuch nahi” jo chhoti nikli.
Seekhte waqt mili meharbaani chaah ko tez nahi karti, na radd karti hai. Dono ek hi hafte mein baithi hain, aur meharbaani ko apne aap mein dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai.
Aakhri baar ghar mein kisi ne aapko kuch seekhne mein madad ki thi: usne kya kiya, aur kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Dheemi shuruaat ko narmi se thaamne ka tareeka #
Ise halka karne ka matlab ye nahi ki waqt chahna zyada tha, ya zyada tez banne ka dabaav; bas faasla har chhote kaam ka ehsaas tay karna chhod de. Pyaar se dikhaye jaane aur chook ki jagah paane ki chaah jaayaz hai. Buniyaadi izzat aur salamati kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Jo naram ho sakta hai wo hai number dena, taaki tauliya bas tauliya rahe. Jo tok gaali-galauj, chillane, saza, ya khane-aaram se roke jaane ke saath aaye, wo seekhne ki baat hi nahi hai; wo bhi kuch aur hai.
Agar sasural mein kabhi chot pahunchayi jaye ya dhamkaya jaye, nigaraani ya peechha kiya jaye, phone, kaagzaat ya passport le liye jayein, ghar mein roka jaye ya apne parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, ya darr lage, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Aapse ya aapke parivaar se paise, tohfe ya gehnon ki maang, paise chhupakar rakhna, aur bachche ke liye dabaav bhi yahi baat hai. In sab mein saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aisi subah sochiye jab ye chaah halki baithti hai: kaun sa chhota kaam apni raftaar se ho raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Kaam ke beech ke liye ek vaakya #
“Sasural wale mujhe unke tour-tareeke seekhne ka waqt dein” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log paas mein aisi line rakhte hain: “Is ghar ko seekhne mein jitna waqt lagta hai, lagega.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas paas rehna kaafi hai.
Nayi line pehle dheeli aasteen jaisi naram lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko istemaal se wo zyada fit hoti hai; kuch use tab tak badalte hain jab tak wo theek na baithe. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo waqt ki chaah ko thaame rakhe aur ghar ko apni raftaar se seekhne ki jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Chook chook hi reh sakti hai #
Har tok ka jawab zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek baar note kiya ja sakta hai, aur tah kiye tauliyon ke saath shelf par chhoda ja sakta hai.
Agar kisi ghar mein chot ya dhamki ho, phone ya kaagzaat le liye jayein, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, paise ya tohfon ki maang, bachche ke liye dabaav ho, ya darr lage, to wo tok se alag baat hai, use gambhirta se lein; wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek shaam ke liye tok ko rehne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Number kam dene wali ek subah #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja halki hai. Waqt ki chaah ab bhi hai, par chook chook hai, kisi ke naam ka nishaan nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise apni daraaz mein koi ek cheez apne dhang se tah karna, ya aisa kaam notice karna jo aap bina soche kar lete ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage hum dekhenge ki isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Unki koi ek aadat notice kijiye jo pehle hi seekhi ja chuki hai
- Ek aisa kaam chuniye jo aapse achha banta hai, aur use maze se kijiye
- Sochiye ki baaki sabko ghar ke tour-tareeke seekhne mein kitna waqt laga tha
- Koi chook notice kijiye jo aakhir mein maayne nahi rakhi
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: kis tarah karna mujhe apna lagta hai?
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapne kab kuch naya aaram se seekha tha? Kya baat use aaramdeh bana rahi thi?
- Unki kaun si aadatein aap pehle hi apna chuke ho?
- Ghar mein kaun aapko cheezein pyaar se dikhata hai?
- Number dena zara kam ho jaye to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?
- Seekhte waqt mili kaun si chhoti meharbaani aap aur notice karna chahenge?