Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jab ankahi list ho, kaise pehenna hai, kaise pakana hai, kitni zor se hansna hai, to use yaad rakhne ki mehnat apne aap mein bojh ban jaati hai.
Kuch logon mein ye bahut pehle seekhi gayi, aise ghar ya school mein jahan jaise hain waise hona khule dil se chalta tha, isliye kahin aur halki-si naap-tol bhi zyada chubhti hai.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo mujhe apnate to mujhe kuch badalna na padta,” ya “Sachche swagat ke saath koi shart nahi hoti.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kuch zyada “chalne wala” pehenna, phir lautkar wahi badal dena
- Jawab ka shisht wala roop pehle se taiyaar rakhna
- Raay ghar chhodna aur muskaan saath le jaana
- Dal-baati unke tareeke se banana, apne tareeke se nahi
- Visit khatam hone par chupchaap raahat mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Agli baar kuch aur paramparik”
Sunday, Jaipur, Malviya Nagar mein sasural ka flat. Pehla bada tyohaar hai. Aapne apna pasandida kurta pehna, apne ghar ki dish banayi, aur hansi bhi hamesha jaisi khuli thi. Saasu Maa pyaar se kehti hain, “Agli baar kuch aur paramparik pehen lena.” Koi aur aapki dish ko “Achhi hai, chal jayegi” kehta hai. Aap muskurakar bartan uthwate ho, par mehsoos hota hai jaise kisi role ke liye audition chal raha ho.
Sasural mujhe mere jaise hi apnaye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural wale mujhe mere jaise hi apnayein.” Ye ekdum jaayaz lagta hai. Aakhir aapka aana apne hi roop mein hua tha. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke theek hone ka ehsaas unki manzoori se baandh deta hai, aapke kapdon, khane, bolne aur aadaton par. Ghar jaisa lagna ab un logon par tik jaata hai jinke kaam karne ke tareeke pakke ho sakte hain.
Apnaya jaana pyaar kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki apnaya jaana pyaar jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aapke apne ghar mein hamesha aap jaise the waise chala, aur ye naya aur ajeeb lagta hai. Shayad aapne badi mehnat se apne aap par bharosa banaya hai aur use khona nahi chahte. Jo bhi ho, apnaye jaane ki chaah zid nahi. Ye apne jaise shaamil hone ki chaah se aati hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Thoda kam khud jaisa lagna
Har naram salaah ke saath aap thoda kam khud jaise mehsoos karte ho. Kapde apni nahi, unki manzoori ke hisaab se chunne lagte ho. Unke ghar mein hansi bhi dheemi ho jaati hai. Dheere-dheere unke aaspaas aap thode alag insaan ban jaate ho, aur din bhar kisi aur ka role nibhane ki thakaan liye ghar lautte ho, apni awaaz ko yaad karte hue.
Kya unki manzoori chahiye?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unse apnaye jaane ki zaroorat ne kabhi mulaqaatein aasaan ki hain? Ya zyadatar aapko aur satark bana diya hai? Unki tippaniyan aadat se aati hongi, ya kisi aur baat se; wo wahi jaanein. Jo bhi ho, unki salaah aap kaun ho, uska paimana nahi, aur kya rakhna hai aur kya modna, ye sabse achha aap jaante ho. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Aap kaun ho, vote nahi maangta
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki ghulne-milne ke liye bheetar se badal jaayein. Matlab ye ki aap kaun ho, iski samajh unki manzoori ka intezaar na kare. Unke ghar mein kuch bhi pehnein ya pakayein, aap khud ko chupchaap jaante reh sakte ho, aur jahan shaanti ya salamati bani rahe wahan thoda jhuk bhi sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap kaun ho, ye andar aapka rehta hai, table ke us paar se koi bhi dekh raha ho.
Being hurt, threatened or frightened, watched, pressured to change who you are, kept from your family or friends, or having your phone or papers taken is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural wale mujhe mere jaise hi apnayein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMain kaun hoon, iske liye unke vote ki zaroorat nahi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Koi ek cheez chuniye jo aapki apni rehti hai, chahe jo pehnein
- Kadam 2
Visit ke baad koi ek kaam kijiye jo poori tarah aap jaisa lage
- Kadam 3
Koi ek pal sochiye jab wo aapke saath khush dikhe
Is par baat karni hai?
“Mujhe aisi jagah ke baare mein bataiye jahan aap poori tarah khud jaise rehte ho. Wo kaisi hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Gate par ruke hue ek pal ki baat #
“Sasural wale mujhe mere jaise hi apnayein.” Ye aksar chhoti, kaam ki jagahon par sochi jaati hai: Jaipur mein saas-sasur ki building ki lift ke sheeshe ke saamne, gate par aasteen seedhi karte hue, ya phone haath mein liye ye tay karte hue ki aaj kurta pehnein ya saree.
Kai baar baat kapdon ki hoti hi nahi. Chaah itni hoti hai ki wahi hansi, wahi khane ki aadatein aur wahi bolne ka tareeka lekar andar jaayein, aur jawab mein aisi muskaan mile jiske saath sudhaaron ki list na aaye.
Pichhli baar jab ye chaah aayi, aap kis taiyaari mein the, aur sabse pehle haath kis cheez ki taraf gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Darwaze se pehle ka wo pal #
Kuch logon ko gate par peeth apne aap seedhi hoti mehsoos hoti hai, haath dupatte ya collar ko theek kar deta hai, aur awaaz zara naram ho jaati hai, jaise koi doosri setting chun li gayi ho.
Kuch ko pehle kuch nahi lagta, jab tak pehli tippani nahi aati aur kandhe upar nahi uth jaate. Baal katwane ya sabzi ke namak par pyaar se kahi baat bhi parkhe jaane ka halka-sa ehsaas la sakti hai, jo body ko mann se pehle pata chal jaata hai.
Pichhli baar darwaze par, “Namaste” bolne se pehle ki saans mein, aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Poore ke poore apnaye jaane ki chaah bahut insaani hai #
Ye chaah samajh mein aati hai. Log wahin sabse zyada khulkar baithte hain jahan unhein khud ko sambhalkar nahi chalna padta, aur bahuton ke liye parivaar wo pehli jagah hai jahan wo ye dhoondhte hain.
Jab ankahi list ho, kaise pehenna hai, kaise pakana hai, kitni zor se hansna hai, to use yaad rakhne ki mehnat apne aap mein bojh ban jaati hai. List chhoti ho, ye chaahna ekdum swabhavik hai.
Koi aisi jagah sochiye jahan aap bilkul khud jaise rehte ho.
Wahan andar kadam rakhna kaisa lagta hai, aur aaspaas kaun hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Lift ke sheeshe wali awaaz #
“Ye chalega kya?” “Aasteen par zaroor nazar jayegi.” “Har baar inke liye hi kyun taiyaar hota hai koi?” Ye awaaz aksar lift mein, parking mein, ya kisi aur ke swaad ke hisaab se kadchhi chalate waqt bolti hai.
Aisi awaaz purane paimano se taulti hai: kisi bua ki tippani, kisi magazine ki tasveer, kisi dost ki misaal. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki wo aise insaan se mila rahi hai jo us ghar mein hai hi nahi.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki sasural walon ko apnana chahiye, to wo kiska paimana uthaye hue hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bina sudhare pahunchne ki chaah kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye bahut pehle seekhi gayi, aise ghar ya school mein jahan jaise hain waise hona khule dil se chalta tha, isliye kahin aur halki-si naap-tol bhi zyada chubhti hai.
Kuch mein ye ulti taraf se ugi: barson har kamre ke hisaab se dhalna, jo kaam bhi aaya, aur ummeed ki shayad ye parivaar wo jagah hoga jahan dhalna band ho sakega.
Aakhri baar kab aur kahan ye sambhalna poori tarah neeche rakhna ho saka, aur us kamre ko itna aasaan kisne banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Swagat ki keemat wala niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo mujhe apnate to mujhe kuch badalna na padta,” ya “Sachche swagat ke saath koi shart nahi hoti.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam har chhote samayojan ko bill ki tarah ginta hai.
Aisa niyam aksar chuna nahi jaata. Ye is chaah se banta hai ki swagat dil se ho, aur isme sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise us tareeke ke bagal mein rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai jisse parivaar asal mein bante hain: dheere-dheere, kai mulaqaaton mein.
Kuch log aise niyam ko pehli atpati visit se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Sachcha swagat kahan baithta hai, aur kaun sa riwaaz aapko apna chuna hua lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein poshak ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aisi visit jo ek raat pehle se shuru ho jaye, kya pehnein aur kya le jaayein, aur kai din baad tak ki thakaan par khatam ho, har pal “on” rehne ki. Bahar se ye mehnat nahi dikhti, kabhi-kabhi karne wale ko bhi nahi.
Waqt ke saath apnaye jaane ki ummeed dheere-dheere sambhalne mein badal sakti hai: kaun si raay le jaani hai, kaun sa mazaak chhodna hai, kaun si dish banani hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki parivaarik mauke par wo maze se zyada waqt isi ko sambhalne mein lagate hain.
Pichhle jamghat ke baare mein sochiye: shaam ka kitna hissa wo banne mein gaya jo ummeed thi, aur kitna use jeene mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek Sunday jo car mein shuru hota hai #
Kisi aam Sunday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Mujhe mere jaise hi apnayein” zor se baj raha ho. Aaj kuch bhi badalne ki zaroorat nahi.
Shayad sasural se pehle car mein kapde badalna, sheeshe mein ek nazar, aur darwaze ke liye sajaya hua apna ek roop.
Aisi tasveer dekhne ka ek tareeka hai, aur panna kabhi bhi palta ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: poshak, gaadi ka safar, pahunchna, pehli taareef ya tippani?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ka kaun sa pal aap thoda alag chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us car ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya khatakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Apnaya bhi jaana, thoda badalna bhi #
Har ghar ki apni aadatein hoti hain, aur bahut se log naye ghar mein thoda dhalte hain, aksar bina bura mane. Ek hi insaan poori tarah apnaya hua mehsoos kar sakta hai aur phir bhi tyohaar par wo dish ghar walon ke dhang se bana sakta hai.
Isse aapki chaah galat nahi hoti, na koi dhalna haar. Kuch logon ko “badalne ko kaha jaana” aur “apni marzi se koi riwaaz baantna” ko alag karke dekhna kaam ka lagta hai: pehla maang hai, doosra tohfa, aur dono ka ehsaas bahut alag hota hai.
Visit par aap jo cheezein badalte ho, unmein kaun si khushi se aur kaun si aap chhodna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Apnaye jaane ki chaah ke bagal mein kuch pal pehle se mile hue ho sakte hain: aapke banaye kisi khane par taareef, koi rishtedaar jo aapke kaam ke baare mein poochta hai, koi chacha jo bina soche aapke mazaak par hans dete hain.
Inse chaah mit nahi jaati, aur iske liye ehsaan jatane ki bhi zaroorat nahi. Jo abhi poori nahi hui ummeed aur ek chhota-sa swagat, dono ek hi table par sach ho sakte hain, aur swagat ko uski apni jagah par dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai.
Pichhli visit mein kaun aapke saath aasani se baitha, aur usne theek-theek kya kiya jisse wo aasaan bana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Saamne ke darwaze se ek halka raasta #
Ise halka karne ka matlab ye nahi ki apnaye jaane ki chaah zyada thi, ya har riwaaz ek maang hai. Matlab ye ki faasla poori visit ka faisla na kare. Apne jaise pahunchna aur narmi se baat ki jaana ek jaayaz chaah hai aur bani rah sakti hai.
Buniyaadi izzat aur salamati kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye. Jo dheela pad sakta hai wo hai har waqt ki nigaraani, taaki kapde sirf kapde rahein.
Agar sasural mein kabhi chot ya dhamki ho, nigaraani ya peechha kiya jaye, phone, kaagzaat ya passport le liye jayein, ghar mein roka jaye, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, khud ko badalne ka dabaav ho, ya darr lage, to wo kuch aur hai, use gambhirta se lein.
Aapse ya aapke parivaar se paise, tohfe ya gehnon ki maang, paise chhupakar rakhna, aur bachche ke liye dabaav bhi yahi baat hai. In sab mein saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aisi visit sochiye jahan ye chaah halki baithti hai: aap kya pehne hote, kiski namaste sunte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Lift ke sheeshe ke liye ek vaakya #
“Sasural wale mujhe mere jaise hi apnayein” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log paas mein aisi line rakhte hain: “Main ek hi insaan hoon, aur is parivaar mein meri jagah abhi ban rahi hai.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas paas rehna kaafi hai.
Itni badi chaah ke aage nayi line kabhi naram lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki istemaal se wo baith jaati hai; kuch use tab tak badalte hain jab tak wo apni awaaz na lage. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapke laaye hue apne ko thaame rakhe aur us parivaar ke liye jagah chhode jo abhi aapko jaan raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Har tippani ko chhaantna zaroori nahi #
Kuch baatein suni ja sakti hain, ek baar note ki ja sakti hain, aur wahin chhodi ja sakti hain jahan giri thin, jaise khoonti par tanga coat. Chaah aapki rehti hai, chahe tippani aage badha di jaye.
Agar kisi ghar mein chot ya dhamki ho, phone ya kaagzaat le liye jayein, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, khud ko badalne ka dabaav, paison ki maang, bachche ke liye dabaav ho, ya darr lage, to wo pasand-napasand se alag hai, use gambhirta se lein; wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek shaam ke liye tippani ko rehne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Apni chuni hui poshak mein pahunchna #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja halki hai. Apnaye jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par visit visit hai, aapke laaye hue apne par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise apne jaise pahunchna aur dekhna ki kaun namaste karta hai, ya sheeshe ki jaanch hall mein hi chhod aana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage hum dekhenge ki isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Visit se pehle ek cheez chuniye jo aap isliye pehnein ki wo aapko pasand hai
- Dhyaan dijiye ki aapka kaun sa hissa unke ghar mein sabse aasani se pahunchta hai
- Kisi ek rishtedaar ko sochiye jo aapke saath jaise hain waise sahaj dikhte hain
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun sa badlaav aap khushi se karte ho aur kaun sa chhodna chahenge
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: agar koi naap-tol na kar raha ho, to mere saath kya jayega?
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Mujhe aisi jagah ke baare mein bataiye jahan aap poori tarah khud jaise rehte ho. Wo kaisi hai?
- Aapka kaun sa hissa sasural mein sabse aasani se pahunchta hai?
- Parivaar mein kaun aapke saath jaise aap hain waise sahaj raha hai?
- Agar aap zara kam nape-tule mehsoos karte hue pahunchein, to darwaze par kya alag hoga?
- Sasural ka kaun sa chhota swagat aap aur zyada notice karna chahenge?