Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Faisle tab bhi behtar chalte hain jab unhein chunne wale wahi hon jo unke saath jeete hain.
Kuch logon ke liye ye aise parivaar se shuru hui jahan faisle upar se neeche aate the, aur ijazat ka intezaar karne ki yaad se ek chupchaap irada bana: aisa ghar ho jahan plan bas plan hon.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo hum par bharosa karte, to raay dene ki zaroorat na padti”, ya “Hamare chunav hamare hi hain”.
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Plan ko pehle mann mein unke saamne chalakar dekhna
- Plan jab apne liye pakka lage tab batana
- Use sawaal banakar rakhna aur haan ki ummeed karna
- Unki raay chalne dena aur phir andar se chup rehna
- Plan bana lena, phir sochna ki wo kaise liya jayega
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Arre, sofa wahan rakho”
Hafton se aap baithak ko naye sire se sajane aur is Diwali ghar par shaanti se rehne ka plan bana rahe the. Phir Indore, Vijay Nagar ke flat mein sasural wale aate hain, chaaron taraf dekhte hain aur kehte hain, “Arre, sofa khidki ke paas rakho, aur tyohaar toh sab hamare yahan hi manayenge.” Sab sir hilate hain. Aap muskurakar chai daalte ho, par bheetar plan chupchaap tah hokar gayab ho rahe hain.
Hum apne faisle khud lein
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural wale hamein apne faisle khud lene dein.” Ye ekdum jaayaz lagta hai. Ghar ko khud chalna chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke apne ghar hone ka ehsaas is par tik jaata hai ki doosre kitna peeche hatte hain. Aap apni zindagi ke maalik ho ya nahi, ye un rishtedaaron par nirbhar ho jaata hai jo shayad purani aadat se sabke liye tay karte aaye hain.
Chunna bade hone jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki apne liye chunna bade hone jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aapne apna ghar aur apna tareeka banane mein bahut mehnat ki hai. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan bade sab tay karte the, aur khud se waada kiya ki apne ghar mein alag hoga. Jo bhi ho, tay karne ki chaah bedabi nahi hai. Wo apne ghar ko apna mehsoos karne se aati hai. Wo daya ki haqdaar hai, dosh ki nahi.
Ghar jo kam apna lage
Har chheena gaya faisla aapke ghar ko thoda kam apna bana deta hai. Aap chupke se plan banane lagte ho, phir us par bura lagta hai. Unke plan maan lete ho, phir dinon tak kadwahat rehti hai. Unke chale jaane ke baad bhi mann mein unse behas chalti rehti hai. Dheere-dheere aapka ghar unki ek shaakha jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur apne chunav karne par jo garv tha wo feeka padne lagta hai.
Har raay se ladna kya sahi hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unke peeche hatne ki zaroorat ne kabhi agli mulaqaat aasaan ki hai? Ya zyadatar aapko aur tana hua banaya hai? Bahut se parivaar hamesha milkar faisle karte aaye hain, aur wo salaah kyun dete rehte hain, ye wahi jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, unki raay aapke ghar chalane ke haq ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Pyaar se sunna, ghar apna chalana
Chhodne ka matlab har chunav saunp dena nahi hai. Matlab ye ki aapke apne ghar ka ehsaas unki sehmati par nirbhar na rahe. Aap sun sakte ho, shukriya keh sakte ho, aur jahan aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai, chupchaap apne dhang se kar sakte ho. Yahin thodi shaanti lautti hai: aapka ghar aapka hi rehta hai, sofe samet, chahe darwaze se kitni bhi raay aayein.
Being hurt, threatened or frightened, watched, pressured to change who you are, kept from your family or friends, or having money, phone or papers kept from you is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural wale hamein apne faisle khud lene dein.
Try karne ke liye naya rulePyaar se sunna aur ghar apne dhang se chalana, mere haath mein hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ghar ki koi ek chhoti cheez chuniye aur use apne dhang se kijiye
- Kadam 2
Jab wo salaah dein to “shukriya” kahiye aur baat rehne dijiye
- Kadam 3
Apne ghar ki koi ek cheez sochiye jo poori tarah aapki lagti hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke ghar ne kaun sa faisla liya jis par aapko achha laga?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo plan jiska ek aur paathak hai #
“Sasural wale hamein apne faisle khud lene dein.” Ye aksar us mod par aati hai jab plan aadha bana hota hai: Diwali kahan manani hai, baithak ka sofa kahan rakhna hai, Sunday ka din kaise bharna hai, aur saath mein ye ehsaas ki khabar sunkar kaisi pratikriya aayegi.
Ye unki raay ke khilaf dhakka nahi hai. Ye us ghar ki baat hai jo chahta hai ki uske plan uske apne rahein, taaki pehle chunav ho aur baad mein bataya jaye, bina pehle se vote liye.
Aakhri baar kaun sa plan aapne mann mein gadha, bolne se pehle, aur jawab mein kya sunne ki ummeed thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Plan zubaan par aane se pehle ka pal #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki bolne se pehle wo mann mein ek vaakya dohra rahe hain: kaise kahein, kaun si baat pehle rakhein, kaise kahein ki sab pehle se tay hai. Ye rehearsal baatcheet se bahut pehle shuru ho sakti hai.
Kuch ko salaah aate hi kandhe zara jhukte mehsoos hote hain, bhale wo pyaar se kahi gayi ho, kyunki body pehle hi kai baar sun chuki hai ki aisa jawab kaisa sunayi deta hai. Ye kisi vichaar se bhi tez hota hai.
Pichhli baar jab unhein koi plan bataya, bolna shuru karne se theek pehle ke pal mein aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ghar ko apni baat kehne ki jagah chahiye #
Ye chaah samajh mein aati hai. Ghar roz ke chhote chunavon se banta hai, aur unhein khud karne ka bharosa milna apni zindagi mein bada hone ka ehsaas deta hai. Ye chaahna utna hi swabhavik hai jitna apna darwaza chaahna.
Faisle tab bhi behtar chalte hain jab unhein chunne wale wahi hon jo unke saath jeete hain. Jis ghar mein rehne walon ne plan banaya ho, wo bhaag-daud mein bhi apna lagta hai.
Apne ghar ka koi aisa faisla yaad kijiye jis par aapko garv hua: wo kya tha, aur use lena kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo committee bitha leti hai #
“Kya kahenge wo?” “Yunhi aage nahi badh sakte.” “Har baar is par charcha kyun hoti hai?” Ye awaaz aksar calendar, saamaan ki list ya adhoore message ke upar bolti hai, kisi se kuch kehne se bahut pehle.
Aisi awaaz doosre waqton ke shabd utha leti hai: koi bada rishtedaar jo har baat mein raay deta tha, ya ye seekh ki achha parivaar pehle poochhta hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz ek aisi meeting se behas kar rahi hai jo hui hi nahi.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki wo hamein tay karne dein, to wo kis faisle ki baat kar rahi hoti hai, aur kiski raay se darr rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Apne ghar ki baat kehne ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye ye aise parivaar se shuru hui jahan faisle upar se neeche aate the, aur ijazat ka intezaar karne ki yaad se ek chupchaap irada bana: aisa ghar ho jahan plan bas plan hon.
Kuch ke liye do parivaaron se, jinke faisle lene ke dhang bilkul alag the, ek mein baithkar baat aur doosre mein jo bade hon unka kaha. Dono mein koi galat nahi, par dono ko jodna ek saath do naqshe padhne jaisa lag sakta hai.
Pehli baar kisne aap par bharosa kiya ki aap apna koi plan khud banayein, wo kya tha, aur us bharose ka ehsaas kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kiska plan hai, iska niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo hum par bharosa karte, to raay dene ki zaroorat na padti”, ya “Hamare chunav hamare hi hain”. Pehla vaakya wo hai jo sunayi deta hai; uske neeche ka niyam har salaah ko kaise suna jaye, ye tay karta hai.
Aisa niyam shayad hi koi chunta hai. Ye saksham samjhe jaane ki chaah se banta hai, aur usme sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise us parivaar ke paas rakhkar dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai jaisa wo asal mein hai: jahan salaah kabhi jude rehne ka tareeka bhi hoti hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko us waqt se jodte hain jab unki baat kaat di gayi thi; kuch nahi.
“Hamara chunav” aapke ghar mein kahan achha baithta hai, aur kahan thodi raay sunna aasaan ho sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Har plan pehle se pass karane ki keemat, ek saal mein #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai plan sahi mauke ke intezaar mein talte rehna, faisle batane se pehle naram kiye jaana, aur peeche ek lagaataar sawaal ki wo kaisa lagega. Kuch bhi bada nahi; par har mahine ka thoda hissa le leta hai.
Waqt ke saath, azaadi se tay karne ki chaah ek tarah ki pehle ki baatcheet mein badal sakti hai, jahan plan banne se pehle hi mann behas mein pad jaata hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki plan banane ka maza hi chala gaya.
Is saal kaun se plan ka maza pehle se pass karane mein sabse zyada gaya, aur uski keemat unhein kya chukani padi jo use bana rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Rehearse kiye shabdon ki ek shaam #
Ek aam shaam sochiye, aise din ki jab “Hamein tay karne dein” ki awaaz tez hai. Yahan aapse koi kaam nahi maanga ja raha.
Shayad plan banne se pehle hi use mann mein unke saamne chalakar dekhna, aur chunav ko us awaaz se aakaar lete dekhna jisse abhi poochha bhi nahi gaya.
Ise purvanumaan nahi, ek khaaka samajhiye; jab chahein mita sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: aadha bana plan, mann mein chalti baatcheet, taiyaar kiye gaye shabd, apekshit pratikriya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein kiski awaaz sabse tez hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein kya alag se dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Salaah, ya vote? #
Salaah dene wale ise alag dekh sakte hain. Kuch ke liye raay dena ghar ki zindagi ka hissa banne ka tareeka hai, baandhne ke liye nahi. Sunne wale ko sujhaav aur hukm ek jaise sunayi de sakte hain.
Isse aapki ummeed galat nahi ho jaati, na unki salaah koi masla. Kuch log maante hain ki raay sunna aur use maanna alag rakhne se madad milti hai, jaise ishara garmjoshi se liya ja sakta hai bina maane. Kuch ko ye algaav mushkil lagta hai, aur wo bhi jaayaz hai.
“Hamein tay karne dein” ke andar kya aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai: poochha jaana, baad mein bataya jaana, ya aakhri baat aapki hona?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Apne liye tay karne ki chaah ke saath aisi cheezein bhi ho sakti hain jo pehle hi mil chuki hain: ghar sambhalne ka prastaav, ek sujhaav jo kaam ka nikla, ya koi rishtedaar jo poochta hai ki plan kaisa raha, ye nahi ki pehle pass hua ya nahi.
Kaam ka prastaav chaah ko khatam nahi karta, aur use sehmati se chukana nahi padta. Chaah aur prastaav ek hi hafte mein reh sakte hain, aur prastaav apne aap mein dekhne layak ho sakta hai.
Unki aakhri salaah jo kaam ki nikli, wo kya thi, aur aap tak kaise pahunchi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Saath wala plan, aur apni baat #
Apni baat ki chaah zyada nahi hai, aur har raay dakhal nahi hai; aapka plan aur unki raay poore faisle par ladna band kar sakte hain. Ghar ke chunav ghar ke hon, ye chaahna jaayaz hai, aur wo rehti hai.
Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ki ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Jo dheela pad sakta hai wo rehearsal hai, jisse plan banane ke liye hi zyada jagah bachti hai.
Agar aapke kaam, padhai, sehat, kahin aane-jaane ya kisse milne ke faisle kabhi aapke liye kiye jayein, ya chot pahunchane ya dhamkane, nazar rakhne ya peechha karne, phone, kaagaz ya passport chheen lene, ya darr ke saath thope jayein, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Yahi baat tab bhi, jab aapko apne parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, paise, tohfe ya gehne maange jayein, paisa aapse roka jaye, ya bachche ke liye dabaav ho; wahan saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Sochiye ye chaah aaram se baithi ho: plan banana kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Aadhe bane plan ke liye ek pankti #
“Sasural wale hamein apne faisle khud lene dein” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log paas mein aisi pankti rakhte hain: “Hum apne faisle khud karte hain, aur koi raay suni jaye to bhi swagat hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas paas rehna hai.
Itni dridh maanyata ke liye nayi pankti zara dheeli lag sakti hai. Kuch logon mein wo istemaal se jam jaati hai; kuch use tab tak badalte hain jab tak sachchi na lage. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sach ke zyada kareeb vaakya kya hoga, jo ghar ki apni baat bhi rakhe aur kisi raay ke sune jaane ki jagah bhi chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch raay bas suni ja sakti hain #
Har raay ka jawab dena zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, ek baar note kiya ja sakta hai, aur shelf par tahaye hue naqshe ki tarah chhoda ja sakta hai. Plan ghar ka hi rehta hai.
Agar faislon ke saath chot pahunchana ya dhamkana, phone ya kaagaz chheenna, aapko apne parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakhna, paise ya tohfe maangna, bachche ke liye dabaav, ya darr aaye, to wo salaah se alag hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai; wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kisi raay ko shaam bhar pade rehne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir apni ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Wo plan jiska maza pehle liya jaye #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja halki hai. Apne liye tay karne ki chaah ab bhi hai, par raay bas raay hai, vote nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise koi chhota plan banakar use kisi ke sunne se pehle apne mann mein jee lena, ya kamre mein bina kisi aur ke ghanta bhar planning ka maza lena.
Yahan kisi cheez ko kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka apna hai. Aage dekhte hain ki isse sulah karne ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa hi sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Plan batane se pehle naam lena ki is chunav se asal mein kya chahiye
- Dekhna ki kaun se faisle poori tarah aapke hain aur kaun se saajhe
- Unki koi ek salaah yaad karna jiske liye aap khush the
- Wo pal pehchanna jab plan apne mann mein pakka hone lagta hai
- Chupchaap poochhna: agar jawab se farq na padta, to hamara plan kya hota?
Sab nijee, sab vaikalpik. Jo ho sakta lage, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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