Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Saal-dar-saal dohrayi ummeed waade jaisi lagne lagti hai, bhale kisi ne zor se kaha na ho, aur dharra toote to waada tootne jaisi chubhan hoti hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye apne bachpan se aayi: dadi ke ghar ki lambi train yatraayein, cousin bhai-behen qatar mein farsh par sote hue, wo chacha jo aur kuch bhi chal raha ho to bhi har saal aate.
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Kareebi parivaar khaas dinon par ikattha hota hai,” ya “Wo ghar aayein to hum parivaar bane rehte hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Mahinon pehle tareekhein poochhna, aur phir poochhna
- Menu is hisaab se banana ki kaun aa sakta hai, aur haan ka intezaar karna
- “Tumhein theek lage tabhi aana” kehna, aur na aane par dukh maanna
- Un parivaaron ka zikr karna jinke bade ho chuke bachche sab aa rahe hain
- Koi taiyaari hi na karna, taaki kisi ka faisla nirash na kare
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Is baar nahi aa paayenge”
Tyohaaron ka mausam. Aapne ghar saaf kiya, unke pasandida pakwaan banaye, aur khaali kamre ke liye nayi chaadarein li. Phir message aata hai: “Sorry, is baar nahi aa paayenge, kaam bahut hai. Love you!” Aap dil bhejkar “Koi baat nahi” likh dete ho. Phir Jaipur ki sooni rasoi mein saare pakwaan dekhte khade rehte ho aur dil baith jaata hai.
Bachche tyohaar par ghar aayein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachchon ko tyohaaron par ghar aana chahiye.” Ye swabhaavik lagta hai. Tyohaar parivaar ke liye hote hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: poore mausam ko is par tika deta hai ki wo safar karein ya nahi. Ab tyohaar khush lagenge ya nahi, ye kaam, safar aur un zindagiyon ki plans par hai jo us ghar se kahin badi ho chuki hain jahan wo pale.
Ghar ke tyohaar sabse khushnuma kyun the
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki ghar ke tyohaaron mein humari kuch sabse khushnuma yaadein hain. Shayad aapko wo ghar yaad hai jo bachchon ke chhote hote shor aur hansi se bhara rehta tha. Shayad aapne bhi har saal apne maa-baap ke paas yahi safar kiya. Jo bhi ho, unhein ghar chahna zyada nahi hai. Ye pyaar se, aur parivaar ko saath dekhne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Mausam jo khaali lagne laga
Har chhoota tyohaar mausam ko thoda aur khaali kar deta hai. Jis waqt se aap pyaar karte the, usse dar lagne lagta hai. Aapko chot lagti hai, phir aap use chhipate hain. Un parivaaron se tulna karte hain jo har saal jutte lagte hain. Dheere-dheere tyohaar uski yaad ban jaate hain jo nahi hai, aur jo khushi pehle mehsoos hoti thi, wo sannate ke neeche dab jaati hai.
Kya purani tasveer laayak hai?
Imaandari se poochhiye: kya unhein ghar par chahne se tyohaar kabhi bhare-bhare lage? Ya zyadatar khaali kursiyan aur dikhi? Bade ho chuke bachche aksar kaam, safar aur doosre parivaaron ke beech joojhte hain, aur chhoote tyohaar ka unke liye kya matlab hai, ye wahi bata sakte hain. Jo bhi ho, unka na aana aapki unke liye ahmiyat ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Har shakl mein garmjoshi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap chahna chhod dein ki wo wahan hote. Matlab ye ki aapke tyohaar poori tarah is par nahi tike ki kaun aata hai. Aap paas ke logon ka maza le sakte ho, door walon ki awaazein sun sakte ho, aur mausam ko apna bana sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: tyohaar phir garm lag sakte hain, is baar jis bhi shakl mein aayein.
Basic respect and safety are never too much to expect; if anyone in the family is threatened, hurt or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bachchon ko tyohaaron par ghar aana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleTyohaar jis bhi shakl mein aaye, garm ho sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Tyohaar ke liye apni pasand ki ek cheez tay kijiye, bas apne liye
- Kadam 2
Unka koi pasandida pakwaan khud chakhkar dekhiye
- Kadam 3
Tyohaar ki ek dopahar paas rehne wale kisi ke saath bitaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sab ghar par the wala kaun sa tyohaar aapko sabse achhe se yaad hai, aur us din kya pak raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Calendar ke saath badhti ek aas #
“Tyohaar par bachche ghar aayein.” Ye khayal aata hai Jaipur mein tyohaar se pehle zyada mithai kharidte hue, lambi mez ke liye kursiyan ginte hue, October mein Delhi ki train ka time dekhte hue, ya jab padosi ka ghar bade ho chuke bachchon ki awaazon se bhar jaye.
Ye zyada maangna nahi lagta. Lagta hai jaise saal ka ghoomna aisa hi hona chahiye: kuch dinon ke liye sab ek chhat ke neeche, purane mazaak, rasoi ka shor, aur ghar phir utna bada lage jitna pehle lagta tha.
Tyohaar wali ye aas aakhri baar kab aayi thi, aur tab aap kya taiyaar kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pehle uchhaal, phir dhak #
Kuch maa-baap ko tab halki uchhaal mehsoos hoti hai jab parivaar ke group mein tareekhein aati hain, aur chhoti-si dhak jab koi jawab “Dekhte hain” ya “Is baar mushkil hai” aaye, jabki abhi kisi ne kuch tay bhi nahi kiya.
Ehsaas soch se pehle aa jaata hai: mez par ek khaali jagah ki jhalak, aadhi bani pakwaanon ki list, us kamre mein achanak sannata jahan message padha gaya. Kuch logon ke liye tark baad mein aata hai, jab shaam aage badh chuki hoti hai.
Pichhli baar jab aapke bachche ne kaha ki shayad tyohaar par ghar na aa paye, to jawab dene se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bhari mez ki aas jaayaz hai #
Ye ummeed waajib isliye lagti hai ki kai gharon mein saal ka yahi dharra raha hai. Tareekh par saath bitaye kuch din poore parivaar ki yaadein dho lete hain: rasoi, milna-julna, seedhiyon ki deewar par tangi photo.
Saal-dar-saal dohrayi ummeed waade jaisi lagne lagti hai, bhale kisi ne zor se kaha na ho, aur dharra toote to waada tootne jaisi chubhan hoti hai. Bachche un dinon ki tasveer shayad bilkul alag banate hon.
Jab aap tyohaar ko waisa sochte hain jaisa use hona chahiye, to rasoi mein kaun hai, kaun hans raha hai, aur kaun si awaaz pehle pahunchti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Kursiyan ginne wali awaaz #
“Saal mein chaar din ki to baat hai.” “Sabke bachche aa jaate hain.” “Ghar kis liye hota hai, agar iske liye nahi?” Ye awaaz achhi thaaliyan utaarte hue bolti hai, ya “Agli baar dekhte hain” wala message padhte hue.
Chhoti mez ke liye khud ko taiyaar karna poore mausam ko gher sakta hai. Kuch maa-baap ko hafton aisa lagta hai, tyohaar shuru hone se bahut pehle se shaamein bharta hua.
Jab ye awaaz ginne lagti hai ki kaun aa raha hai aur kaun nahi, to mez ki kis kursi par baar-baar lautti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bhare ghar ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye apne bachpan se aayi: dadi ke ghar ki lambi train yatraayein, cousin bhai-behen qatar mein farsh par sote hue, wo chacha jo aur kuch bhi chal raha ho to bhi har saal aate. Kuch gharon mein tyohaar ka matlab hi tha ki sab ghar aayein.
Kuch ke liye ye apne bachchon ke chhote dinon se bani: milkar banayi sajaavat, har saal wahi mithai, un kuch dinon mein ghar apni poori bharaai par. Kuch log aisi tasveer chhoti umar tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Apne bachpan ka kaun sa tyohaar aapko pehli baar dikha gaya ki ghar aana kaisa hona chahiye, aur us mez par kaun baitha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Parivaar ke calendar mein likha niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Kareebi parivaar khaas dinon par ikattha hota hai,” ya “Wo ghar aayein to hum parivaar bane rehte hain.” Pehla sentence sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki tareekhon par har jawab kaise padha jaye.
Ye niyam ki tarah kam hi dikhta hai. Reet aur pyaar ek saath lagta hai, aur aksar dono hota hai. Isiliye ise aapke bade ho chuke bachchon ki aaj ki zindagi ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhna theek hai: unka kaam, unke apne ghar, unke apne calendar.
Kuch log aise niyam ko chhoti umar se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
Aaj ki paarivaarik zindagi ke kin hisson mein ghar aane wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Tareekhon ka intezaar kis keemat par #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki poora October tickets ke baare mein poochhte guzre, tyohaar ka hafta aadha phone dekhte hue, aur jo bachche aaye unke saath achhi shaam us kursi ko takte hue jis par aam taur par koi ek baithta hai. Kuch natakeey nahi, phir bhi bahut dhona.
Nirasha aksar tasveer aur asal ke beech ke faasle mein rehti hai. Jab tasveer sabke liye mez ki ho, to zyadatar ke liye mez kam padti lag sakti hai, bhale us par aapke apne log aur bahut saara achha khaana ho.
Itne baras thaami gayi aas ka wazan asli hota hai.
Pichhle kuch tyohaaron mein kaun sa pal unke na aa paane ke rang mein sabse zyada ranga raha, aur kamre mein aur kya ho raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kursiyan ginte paanch aur tyohaar #
Tyohaar se kuch hafte pehle ki ek aam shaam sochiye, us din jab “Mere bachche ghar aayein” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad hafton pehle sabke liye mez ki plan aur jagahon ki do baar ginti, kisi aur ki taraf se rail ka time-table dekhna, ek recipe shuru karke wapas rakh dena, pakwaanon ki list dobara likhna.
Isme se kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur ye tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: message, lists, plans, tareekhon ke sawaal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam ko dekhein to aapko kuch nazar aata hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath hona, kis shakl mein? #
Saath hona ek se zyada shaklon mein aa sakta hai. Ek beta jo chhuttiyon ke baad do din ke liye aaye, ek beti jo Sydney se call kare jab khaana parosa ja raha ho, mez par tiki screen se ek jhatpat namaste: har ek apne dhang ka ghar aana ho sakta hai.
Parivaar ke kareeb rehna aur apni zindagi banana, dono ek hi saal mein ho sakte hain. Bade ho chuke bachchon ki tyohaar ki apni tasveer ho sakti hai, jisme doosre ghar aur doosri tareekhein hon. Isse aapki aas galat nahi hoti, sahi bhi nahi.
Tyohaar ka jo-jo matlab aapke liye hai, usme kaun sa hissa sabko kamre mein maangta hai, aur kaun sa kisi door baithe tak pahunch sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Mausam pehle se kya liye baitha hai #
Kabhi-kabhi ye dekhna garm lagta hai ki mausam pehle se kya laata hai, chahe betartib: jo bachcha aaya, tyohaar ke din ki lambi call, kisi doosre shehar ke chhote flat mein aapki recipe se bani cheez ki photo.
Ye dekhna farz nahi, aur isse aas chhoti nahi hoti; sabke aane ki chaah aur jo aaya use garmjoshi se dekhna saath baith sakte hain. Jo chhoti cheezein kisi ko karni nahi thin, wahi shayad sabse zyada dekhne laayak hon.
Kuch saal kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Pichhle saal ke tyohaaron mein pehle se kya tha, chahe kitna bhi chhota, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Tyohaar ki mez se sulah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis mez ki aap tasveer banate hain aur jo aap sajate hain, uska faasla poore mausam ka mood tay karna chhod de, aapke liye bhi aur jo wahan hon unke liye bhi.
Isme jo waajib hai wo reh sakta hai: ikattha hone ki chaah, reetiyan, rasoi. Jo dheeli ho sakti hai wo pakad hai, taaki mez unke liye saje jo aa rahe hain, aur jo nahi aa rahe unke liye video call tiki rahe, aur shaam mein phir bhi achhi cheezein rahein.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye aur aapke bachchon ke liye.
Sochiye, is ummeed se sulah wala ek tyohaar: aap kya paka rahe honge, aur kiske saath ka maza le rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Mausam ke liye ek zyada sachchi line #
“Mere bachchon ko tyohaaron par ghar aana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unhein ghar par paakar achha lagta hai, aur tyohaar ka maza lena ab bhi mere haath mein hai.” Ye jeetne ke liye nahi, purani ke bagal mein baithne ke liye hai.
Shuru mein ye kisi aur ka sentence lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko apni line har mausam mein thodi aur jagah gheerti milti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachchi line kya hogi, jo bhare ghar ka pyaar rakhe aur us mausam ki jagah chhode jo asal mein milta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch saal bas is saal jaise reh sakte hain #
Agle saal ke tyohaaron ka har sawaal abhi tay karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko bas notice kar liya jaye, pal bhar thaama jaye aur rakh diya jaye, jaise Jaipur mein almaari mein lapetkar rakha faltu gadda, ya Kanpur ki chhat par ek kone mein jamayi gayi plastic ki kursiyan.
Sab ghar aayein, ye chaah jab tak chahein chupchaap aapki reh sakti hai, aur jaanne laayak hai, tareekhein jo bhi niklein.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch kam tha, ya ki baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki aane wale tyohaar ko uske aane se pehle har shaam nahi bharna hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar zara dheela pade #
Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, ummeed ek paayadaan dheemi hai. Bhare ghar ki chaah ab bhi hai, par “Agli baar dekhenge” ek jawab hai, parivaar par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: mez unke liye sajana jo aa rahe hain aur tiki video call unke liye jo nahi, yoon hi koi pasandida pakwaan banana, ya hafte ke liye kisi dost ki plan ko haan kehna.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur notice karne laayak hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Tareekhein aayein to dekhiye ki sabse pehle aap kya sochte hain
- Jawab “Shayad” aaye to dekhiye ki wo khaali jagah kaun si kahani sunane lagti hai
- Aaj ki apni koi ek chhoti-si chaahat notice kijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: tyohaar ka kaun sa hissa mere liye sabse zaroori hai?
- Tyohaar ki mez ko apne kisi bade ho chuke bachche ki nazar se sochiye
Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sab ghar par the wala kaun sa tyohaar aapko sabse achhe se yaad hai, aur us din kya pak raha tha?
- Tyohaar ki tareekhon par aaya kaun sa jawab ab bhi dimaag mein hai, aur aapne kya ummeed ki thi?
- Tyohaar ki kaun si ek reet aap sabse zyada chahenge ki bachche nibhate rahein, wo jahan bhi hon?
- Sabke ghar aane ki ummeed thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aap kya notice karenge?
- Tyohaar ko aapke liye garm kaun sa insaan ya cheez pehle se banati hai, jiska aap aur maza lena chahenge?