Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Samajhdari ki tareef aksar is par se jaldi nikal jaati hai ki uski keemat kya thi.
Kuch log isi tareef mein pale hain ki wo aasaan hain: akele sambhal jaate hain, kuch maangte nahi, badon ki zaroorat bina kahe bhaanp lete hain.
Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Sambhalne wala main hoon,” ya “Kisi cheez ki zaroorat hona mujhe pehle se kam kar deta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Muskurate hain, shukriya kehte hain aur andar se soona lagta hai
- Hanskar kehte hain ki aur chaara hi kya tha
- Haami bharte hain aur chupke se aur kaam odh lete hain
- Akele mein sochte hain ki ab unmein kya kami hai
- Baat kisi aur ki taraf mod dete hain
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Tareef aur andar ki kasak
Muzaffarpur mein cousin ki tilak. Bua aapka haath pakadkar sabke saamne muskurakar kehti hain, “Aap toh bachpan se hi kitne samajhdar the, kabhi tang nahin kiya.” Sab sar hilate hain. Aap muskura dete ho, par andar kuch kas jaata hai. Hafta bhaari raha tha aur abhi ek minute pehle aap batane wale the. Ab wo baat yahan rakhna galat lagta hai.
Kuch na chaahna, taakat jaisa
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sambhalne wala main hoon.” Ye taakat jaisa sunai deta hai, aur log iski tareef karte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: kuch bhi chaahna peeche hatne jaisa lagne lagta hai. Aapke thake din, aapki chaahatein, aapki chhoti maangein, sab us bachche se taule jaate hain jise kabhi zyada kuch chahiye hi nahi tha, aur aap unhein chhupane lagte ho.
Samajhdar hona inaam kyun bana
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki samajhdar hone par aksar bachpan mein hi inaam mila. Bahut se log akele sambhalne ki tareef mein pale, aur isne shayad vyast ghar chalane mein madad bhi ki. Kaam aane ki chaah galat nahi. Wo pyaar aur apnapan chaahne se aati hai, aur us parwaah ko dosh nahi, narmi chahiye, chahe usne soch se zyada bojh uthaya ho.
Dheere-dheere jamta hua wazan
Har “aap toh hamesha sambhal lete hain” thoda wazan aur jod deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakad mein nahi aata. Bahar se kisi ko nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aaram talta hai. Jab theek nahi hota tab “theek hoon” nikal jaata hai. Apni zaroorten baad ke liye rakh li jaati hain, aur ek qaabil zindagi mein ankahi baatein jama hoti jaati hain, un logon se bhi jo khushi se sunte.
Kya niyam nibhana zaroori hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya hamesha sambhal lene se aap logon ke kabhi zyada kareeb hue? Ya zyadatar uske saath akele? Qaabil hona aur kuch chaahna ek hi insaan mein saath reh sakte hain. Iska jawab sirf aap de sakte hain, aur koi jawab galat nahi. Jo bhi ho, kahani ka bachcha ek yaad hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakde rehna sahi hai?
Qaabil bhi, zaroorat-mand bhi
Chhodne ka matlab qaabil na rehna nahi. Matlab ye ki ek bade insaan ko aam zaroorten rakhne ki ijaazat hai. Jis din koi chhoti cheez chahiye, usi din dheere se maangi ja sakti hai. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: taakat aapki rehti hai, zaroorten aapki rehti hain, aur purani tasveer ki pakad dheeli padti hai.
If you ever carried more at home than a child should, or still feel unsafe there, with threats, anger that frightens you, or being hurt, your safety comes first, and that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSambhalne wala main hoon, isliye mujhe kuch nahi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMain qaabil bhi hoon, aur mujhe cheezein chahiye bhi ho sakti hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte ki apni ek zaroorat pehchaniye
- Kadam 2
Koi ek chhoti cheez sochiye jo aap maang sakte hain
- Kadam 3
Ek vaakya mein bataiye ki ye hafta sach mein kaisa raha
Is par baat karni hai?
“Samajhdar bane rehne ne aapko kya diya, aur chupke se kya le liya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Beete bachpan ki tareef, aaj ka bojh #
Muzaffarpur mein cousin ki tilak ka aangan. Bua aapka haath thaamkar sabke saamne kehti hain, “Aap toh bachpan se hi kitne samajhdar the, kabhi tang nahin kiya.” Patna ke bus-stand par purane padosi, Gaya ke bazaar mein school ke master ji, sab yahi kehte hain. Pyaar se, tareef ki tarah.
Tareef hi hoti hai, aur aksar lagti bhi tareef ki tarah. Galti, thakaan, kharab din, sab us tasveer ke saamne kuch bedhab-se lagte hain.
Phir bhi chupchaap ek paimana rakh jaati hai: agar bachcha aisa tha, toh ab bade ko kya chhoot hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
“Bachpan se hi samajhdar the” aakhri baar kab suna tha, aur sunkar kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Tareef ke theek baad ka pal #
Kuch log muskurakar “shukriya Bua” kehte hain aur andar ek halki kasak mehsoos karte hain, jiska naam nahi pata. Kuch hanskar kehte hain, “Kya karte, halaat hi aise the,” aur dekhte hain ki baat aage nikal gayi. Kuch ko ajeeb-sa khaalipan lagta hai, jaise kisi aur ki photo unke saamne utha di gayi ho.
Beete bachche ki tareef ek second mein aaj ke insaan par faisle jaisi lag sakti hai. Jo usmein judna chahiye, wo khel jo nahi khele, wo kaam jo odh liye, wo mood jo chup rakhe, aksar baad mein aata hai, jab koi pooch nahi raha hota.
“Bachpan se hi samajhdar the” sunne ke baad ke pehle palon mein aap aam taur par kya karte hain, aur kya karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ooncha paimana rakhne wali tareef #
Ye us bachche ki tareef hai jo ab nahi hai, aur aaj ke bade ko usi tasveer ke bagal mein rehna padta hai. Bhale irade ka ek vaakya sunne wale ko ye bhi mehsoos kara sakta hai ki asli toh wahi samajhdar bachcha tha, aur aaj wala uski thodi kamzor nakal hai.
Samajhdari ki tareef aksar is par se jaldi nikal jaati hai ki uski keemat kya thi. Ek shaant, suljhe bachche ke peeche aisa ghar ho sakta hai jise ek suljhe bachche ki zaroorat thi, chhote bhai-behen ki dekhbhaal ho sakti hai, ya bas bahut saari chuppi. Tareef nateeja dekhti hai, keemat kam hi poochti hai.
Us bachpan ka kaun sa hissa hai jiske baare mein kaash tareef ne poocha hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab samajhdar bachcha pehle bol pade #
Baar-baar suno toh wo tasveer dimaag mein bolne lagti hai. “Arre, chhodiye, baat kya banana.” “Sambhal lijiye, aapse toh hamesha sambhal jaata hai.” “Aur logon ke halaat isse bure hain.” Koi zaroorat uthti hai, us bachche se milayi jaati hai aur chupchaap mita di jaati hai.
Awaaz samajhdari jaisi sunai deti hai, isliye ye swabhav lagti hai, kisi aise role ki tarah nahi jis par kabhi tareef mili thi. Chhutti taal di jaati hai, koi maang nigal li jaati hai, kathin hafta bina bataye nikal jaata hai, kyunki kahani ka bachcha batata nahi.
Aapke dimaag mein kiski awaaz kehti hai ki samajhdar bachcha toh bas sambhal lega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye samajhdar hona hi role tha #
“Isne toh kabhi tang nahin kiya.” “Chhota-sa bada aadmi hai.” Kuch log isi tareef mein pale hain ki wo aasaan hain: akele sambhal jaate hain, kuch maangte nahi, badon ki zaroorat bina kahe bhaanp lete hain. Tareef sachchi thi, aur uski khinchaai bhi.
Kai gharon mein samajhdar bachcha ghar chalane mein haath bataata tha, aur wajahein aam thin: Papa ki lambi duty, ghar mein naya bachcha, kisi ka bahar jaakar kamaana. Bachcha isse jo pakad leta hai, wo aur chauda hai: ki aasaan bane rehna hi pyaar paane ka raasta hai. Ye baat zor se shayad hi kabhi kahi jaati hai.
Pehli baar kab gaur kiya ki samajhdar banne par wahwahi milti hai, aur tab kamre mein aam taur par kaun hota tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sambhalne ke baare mein ek chup niyam #
Andar kahin ek chup niyam ban sakta hai: “Sambhalne wala main hoon,” ya “Kisi cheez ki zaroorat hona mujhe pehle se kam kar deta hai.” Kuch log us ghar ke badal jaane ke baad bhi ise uthaye chalte hain jisne ise sikhaya tha.
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo mizaaj jaise lagte hain, jaise haath ka sadha hona qudrati lagta hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikaalkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin kamron mein “sambhalne wala main hoon” aaj bhi theek baithta hai, aur kinmein ab nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Samajhdar bane rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki koi maang tab tak ankahi reh jaaye jab tak badi na ho jaaye, kisi dost ko mushkil mahine ki khabar na mile, zaroori aaram talta rahe kyunki samajhdar toh chalta rehta hai. Kuch log sabke sahare ban jaate hain aur unki khabar koi nahi leta.
Ek aur chupchaap keemat bhi hai. Tasveer banaye rakhne mein mehnat lagti hai, aur aaspaas ke log aksar bas qaabil, sanwra hua roop hi dekh paate hain. Ek saal mein aise kai pal jud jaate hain jab kuch chahiye tha aur samajhdar ne kaha, “Main theek hoon.”
Pichhle ek saal mein samajhdar bane rehne ki keemat aapne kis roop mein chukai, kisi maang mein, kisi aaram mein ya kisi baatcheet mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur aasaan bane rehna #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “bas sambhalna hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek nigli hui maang, ghar ke phone par wo baatcheet jisme bas sunna aur kam bolna hota hai, ek taala hua aaram, kisi dost ke aadhe-adhoore poochhne par jhat se “main theek hoon.” Kuch jaana-pehchana lagega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Tasveer mein kuch tay nahi hai, aur use jab chahein kinare rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, messages, wo insaan jo hamesha aapse hi kehta hai ki ye suljha do?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sambhalne wale bane poore din ko dekhkar aapki nazar sabse zyada kis par rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Samajhdar, magar kis keemat par? #
Kabhi iska matlab hota hai ki bachcha sochne wala aur naram dil tha, jo bahut achhi baat hai. Kabhi iska matlab hota hai ki bachcha kuch samay bachcha reh hi nahi paaya.
Insaan ko aaj ke roop se bhi aanka ja sakta hai, sirf usse nahi jiski tareef hoti rahi. Kuch logon ko do cheezein alag karna kaam aata hai: kahani ka samajhdar bachcha, aur aaj ka insaan jiski aam zaroortein hain. Pehla yaad hai; doosra maang sakta hai.
“Samajhdar” ko paimana chahiye: kiske muqable, aur kis keemat par?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost bilkul aapka bachpan bataye, wahi chuppi, wahi kaam, toh us bachche ke baare mein aap kya sochenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere-dheere dohrane par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log wo pal dheere se dohrate hain toh dekhte hain ki tareef ne kya chhod diya: wo khel jo nahi khele, wo dopaharein jo kisi ki dekhbhaal mein gayin, wo sawaal jo kabhi poochhe nahi. Tareef ke bagal mein rakhne par kuch ko dikhta hai ki usne inmein se kuch nahi poochha.
Kuch ko wo log dikhte hain jo aaj ka haal poochhte hain: koi dost jo kehta hai, “Sach batao, chal kaisa raha hai?”, koi bhai jise unka bewaqoofana roop yaad hai, koi colleague jo kehne ki jagah deta hai ki thake hain. Kabhi aise log kaafi hote hain, aur kabhi kahani kisi khaas kamre ki hoti hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun aapko kam samajhdar hone ki chhoot deta hai, aur wo kya karta hai jisse ye aasaan ho jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kahani ke bachche jaisa bane rehna zaroori nahi #
Sukoon ka matlab tareef thukrana nahi, na ye dikhana ki usmein apnapan nahi tha. Matlab bas itna ki ek jamaavde ka ek vaakya ye tay na kare ki ek bade insaan ko kitni jagah lene ki ijaazat hai.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo das saal ke apne roop ki tasveer par khara utarne ki koshish chhod dete hain. Wo tasveer nibhana mushkil hai, kyunki usmein koi kharab din aaya hi nahi, aur use nibhane ki koshish ek yaad ko aaj ka maalik bana deti hai.
Kuch mehfilein ye qissa sunati rahengi, aur unhein sudharne ki zaroorat nahi.
Aisi mehfil mein bhi aam zaroorton wala insaan hona kaisa lagega, jahan purani kahani suni ja rahi ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ek line jo kuch log paas rakhte hain #
Agar “sambhalne wala main hoon” barson se chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Main qaabil bhi hoon, aur mujhe cheezein chahiye bhi ho sakti hain.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log pehankar dekhte hain, aur parivaar ke jamaavde ya mushkil hafte se pehle dheere se kehne par purani line ki kuch jagah le leti hai.
Apni zaroorton ke baare mein ek sachcha vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga, jo samajhdar hone par tika na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “bachpan se hi samajhdar the” ko sudhaar, asliyat ki kahani ya jawab nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein school ka bastaa utaarkar rakh dete hain.
Iska matlab us pyaar ko thukrana nahi jo iske peeche hai. Ye chunna hai ki energy kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse aaj ke liye, aur un zaroorton ke liye jagah bachti hai jinhein samajhdar bachche ke paas pehchanne ka waqt nahi tha.
Aaj ki shaam vaakya ko neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use agli parivaarik jutaan, agli baar ghar jaane ya agle kathin hafte tak saath nahi chalna hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar tasveer thodi naram pade #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hai. Qaabil hona ab bhi aapka hissa hai, par poora aap nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: jis din zaroorat uthe usi din koi chhota-sa kaam maang lena, kisi dost ko bata dena ki hafta bhaari raha, ya aaram bina kamaye le lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Agar bina maafi maange kuch chaahna mumkin ho jaaye, toh sabse pehle kya alag lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar aasaan bane rehna zaroori na hota, toh aap pehle kaun si chhoti cheez karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi samajhdar bachche ki kahani”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: samajhdar, magar kis keemat par?
- Is hafte ki apni ek zaroorat ek seedhe vaakya mein gaur kijiye
- Kisi ek aise insaan ko sochiye jo aapko kam samajhdar hone deta hai
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti cheez gaur kijiye jo aapne bas maze ke liye ki
Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Jo ho paaye, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Samajhdar bane rehne ne aapko kya diya, aur chupke se kya le liya?
- Sabse pehle kisne mehsoos karaya ki aasaan bane rehna hi pyaar paane ka raasta hai?
- Agar samajhdar bachcha dekh na raha ho, toh is hafte aap kya maangte?
- Jis aam din sambhalne wala niyam zor se bole, aap kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar purani kahani dheeli pade, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?