Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Parivaar ke chhote aksar wo dekhte hain jo bade abhi nahi dekh paate: kaam ke naye tareeke, doosra shehar, aaj ke schoolon, naukriyon aur phone ki haqeeqat.
Kuch logon ke liye ye us table se shuru hui jahan sabse bada pehle aur aakhir mein bolta tha, baaki beech bharte the, aur chhoton ne seekha ki chupchaap nikalne ka raasta sir hilana hai.
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Izzat ka matlab suna jaana hai,” ya “Agar wo mujhe kuch samajhte, to poochhte.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Idea apne paas rakhna, aur sirf doston ke saamne nikaalna
- Use kisi aise ke zariye pahunchana jiski bade zyada sunte hain
- Bade hone ka intezaar karna, aur khud se waada karna ki tab behtar sunenge
- Baat par zor se adna, phir lehje par pachtana
- Baithakon mein chup ho jaana aur unhein bas nipatane ki cheez maan lena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Bade baithe hain na, dekh lenge”
Sunday ko Meerut mein Chacha ke ghar bada parivaarik khana hai, aur baat is par aati hai ki is saal sab kaise ho. Aap apna ek idea rakhne lagte ho, aur Chachaji muskurakar kehte hain, “Bade baithe hain na beta, wo dekh lenge.” Sab aage badh jaate hain. Aap dal badhate ho, sir hilate ho, aur idea ko bheetar tah hota mehsoos karte ho. Auto se lautte hue aap bahut chup rehte ho.
Badon ko chhoton ki sunni chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Ghar ke badon ko chhoton ki poori baat sunni chahiye.” Ye poori tarah vaajib lagta hai. Sabke paas kuch dene ko hota hai. Par dekhiye ye kya karta hai: parivaar mein aapke maayne rakhne ka ehsaas un purani aadaton se baandh deta hai jinhein aap badal nahi sakte. Aap suna hua mehsoos karenge ya nahi, ab us par tika hai ki purani peedhi ko sunna kaise sikhaya gaya.
Ghar mein sune jaane ki ahmiyat
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki ghar mein suna jaana izzat jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aap bade ho gaye hain aur vayask ki tarah dekhe jaane ko taiyaar hain. Shayad aap cheezein alag dekhte hain aur madad karna chahte hain. Jo bhi ho, sune jaane ki chaah beadabi nahi hai. Wo apne hi parivaar mein bade ki tarah judne ki chaah se aati hai. Use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har jamavde mein kam bolna
Har taala gaya idea agli parivaarik baithak mushkil kar deta hai. Aap kam bolne lagte ho. Umar vayask ki hai, phir bhi table par khud ko bachcha-sa lagna. Lautte waqt mann mein badon se behas karte ho. Dheere-dheere parivaar ka waqt wo jagah banne lagta hai jahan aap sikud jaate ho, aur saath hone ki garmi mein ek chup jhunjhlahat ghul jaati hai.
Kya sune jaane ka intezaar vaajib hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unse sunne ki zaroorat ne kabhi unhein zyada sunne wala banaya? Ya zyadatar parivaarik khane mushkil kiye? Bahut se bade aise gharon mein pale jahan chhote sunte the, aur purani aadatein badalne mein waqt leti hain, pyaar neeche ho tab bhi. Jo bhi ho, unki aadat aapki awaaz ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadne mein jitna milta hai, usse zyada jaata hai.
Apne mann ko jaanna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap maanna chhod dein ki aapki awaaz maayne rakhti hai. Matlab ye ki uska ehsaas ab table par nahi tika. Aap apna mann jaan sakte ho, jagah ho to halke se baant sakte ho, aur khane ka maza dono soorat mein le sakte ho. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: aap parivaar ki table par apne roop mein baith sakte ho, sune jaayein ya nahi, aur phir bhi ghar jaisa lage.
Being threatened, hurt or frightened, watched, kept in or kept from people, having money used to control you, or being pressured to change who you are is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBadon ko chhoton ki poori baat sunni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe apne mann ki samajh hai, table par suni jaye ya nahi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agle parivaarik khane mein ek pal ko jaisa hai, waisa rehne dijiye
- Kadam 2
Wo cheez sochiye jo kisi bade ne sikhayi aur jiski aap qadr karte hain
- Kadam 3
Jab lage ki taal diya gaya, ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Parivaar ke kis bade ne aapki achhi tarah suni, aur unhone kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sofa ke kinare se ek vaakya #
“Ghar ke badon ko chhoton ki poori baat sunni chahiye.” Ye Meerut mein Chacha ke ghar lambi parivaarik baithak mein uth sakta hai jahan badi kursiyan pehle bhar jaati hain, Dadi ke birthday ke plan ki baat mein jahan kisi cousin ka idea hanskar taal diya jaye, ya ek naram-se “bade ho jaoge tab samjhoge” ke baad.
Aksar chaah behas jeetne ki nahi hoti, na ghar ka mukhiya banne ki. Wo chhoti hoti hai: koi idea shuru se aakhir tak suna jaye, unke dwara jinke tajurbe ki aap ab bhi izzat karte hain.
Badon aur chhoton wala ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur tab kya tay ho raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab idea hanskar taal diya jaata hai #
Kuch logon ko chehre par jhat se garmi chadhti hai, ya jabda kasta hai, jab dinon socha idea ka jawab ek muskaan aur baat badalna ho. Baat nigal li jaati hai, isse pehle ki koi poochhe ki wo kya thi.
Kuch ko lagta hai jaise hawa nikal gayi, bheetar ek chuppi, ek shisht sir hilana, aur phir lagna ki umar phir barah ki ho gayi, tees mein bhi. Ye ehsaas isse bahut pehle aa sakta hai ki bade ka matlab kya tha, is par koi soch bane.
Pichhli baar jab parivaar ki baithak mein aapka idea ek taraf kar diya gaya, to theek uske baad aapne kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jinhone gadha, unse suna jaana #
Is apeksha mein sachmuch tuk hai. Bade wahi log ho sakte hain jinki raay aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhti hai, to unse suna jaana kisi anjaan ya colleague se sune jaane se kahin zyada bhaari pad sakta hai.
Parivaar ke chhote aksar wo dekhte hain jo bade abhi nahi dekh paate: kaam ke naye tareeke, doosra shehar, aaj ke schoolon, naukriyon aur phone ki haqeeqat. Us nazar ko taule jaane ki chaah, sirf tal jaane ki nahi, swabhavik hai.
Agar aapke parivaar ka koi ek bada aapki baat poori sun leta, to kiska sunna sabse zyada maayne rakhta, aur unhi ka kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
“Abhi chhote ho” sunne wali awaaz #
“Unhone pehle se tay kar rakha hai.” “Mujhse kisi ne poochha hi nahi.” “Meri baari kab aayegi?” Awaaz aksar parivaar ki baithak ke baad auto ya car mein bolti hai, ya tab jab kisi dost ke us ghar ki story scroll ho jahan sabki suni jaati hai.
Aisi awaazein doosri awaazein bhi dho sakti hain: kisi bade rishtedaar ka chhoton ke baare mein kaha koi vaakya, ya kabhi aapne khud kisi chhote cousin se jo kaha tha. Kuch log paate hain ki wahi purane shabd apni zubaan par aa jaate hain.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki badon ko aapki baat poori sunni chahiye thi, to wo kiske shabd dohraati hai, aur pehli baar kab sune the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Parivaar ki table ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye ye us table se shuru hui jahan sabse bada pehle aur aakhir mein bolta tha, baaki beech bharte the, aur chhoton ne seekha ki chupchaap nikalne ka raasta sir hilana hai. Wo aadar jaisa bhi laga hoga, aur band darwaaze jaisa bhi.
Kuch ke liye ye kisi ek bade se ugi jisne suna: ek Dadaji jinhone pote se naya phone samjhane ko kaha, ek Buaji jinhone kaha “batao, tum kya sochte ho”. Aisa ek anubhav bata deta hai ki parivaar kya ho sakta hai.
Pehla bada kaun tha jisne aapki raay poochhi, ya pehla jisne saaf nahi poochhi, aur wo kaisa laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kaun pehle bolega, is par niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Izzat ka matlab suna jaana hai,” ya “Agar wo mujhe kuch samajhte, to poochhte.” Pehla vaakya wahi hai jo log sunte hain; neeche wala tay karta hai ki har parivaarik baithak ka kya matlab hai.
Aisa niyam shayad hi chuna jaata hai. Aksar wo badon aur umar wale doosre niyam ke saath-saath badhta hai, jise kai parivaar bhi pujte hain, aur dono ek insaan mein saath baith sakte hain. Isi wajah se ise shanti se dekhna theek hai, jaisa wo aaj aapke parivaar mein hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain; kuch nahi. Jo bhi ho, ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj kahan sune jaane ka niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Kinare par intezaar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki achhe idea kabhi uthe hi nahi, parivaar ka faisla pehle se tay hokar pahunche, ya kisi bade se rishta garam hone ki jagah aupcharik hi rahe. Kuch shor wala nahi; par sab kuch maujood.
Jab badon se suna jaana poora insaan maane jaane jaisa ban jaye, to pehle se tay har faisla ek chhota faisla-sa padha ja sakta hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki ghar mein jo idea wo baantna chhod dete hain, wahi bahar sabse aaram se baant paate hain.
Pichhle saal mein aapka kaun-sa idea parivaar ki table tak kabhi nahi pahuncha, aur uska kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Baithak ke kinare ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Saturday sochiye, jis din “badon ko hamari sunni chahiye” tez sunayi deta hai. Yahan bas dekhna hi maanga jaata hai.
Shayad parivaar ki baithak ke kinare baithe hue, idea ankaha, kisi aur ka plan haathon-haath ghoomta, ek vaakya ki jagah sir hilana, baad mein kisi dost ko message.
Ye tasveer hai, andaaza nahi, aur jab chahein band ki ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: jamavda, kursiyan, kaun bolta hai, kaun sir hilata hai, plan jo chal pada?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Saturday ko dekhte hue, kuch alag se dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Poori baat sunna, kis tarah? #
Bade shayad ise alag tarah se dekhte hon. Unke liye pehle se tay karna wo bojh uthana lag sakta hai jo chhoton ko na uthana pade, aur poochhna use lautane jaisa. Kuch thake hote hain, aur plan unki parwah karne ka tareeka hai.
Isse aapki apeksha galat nahi ho jaati, aur unki bhi nahi. Ye izzat ki do tasveerein hain jo abhi saath rakhkar dekhi nahi gayi. Aur ek bada, akele mein, aksar wahi insaan nahi hota jo poore parivaar ke saamne hota hai.
“Hamari suno” mein jo-jo hai, usmein se aapko kya sabse zyada chahiye: poochha jaana, gambhirta se liya jaana, ya aakhir mein kuch kehne ka haq?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Badon se pehle se kya mil raha hai #
Jis sunvaai ki aas thi, uske bagal mein kuch cheezein ho sakti hain jo bade pehle se apne andaaz mein dete hain: darwaaze par Dadi ka sir par haath, dasvin baar sunayi kahani jismein koi nayi baat nikal aaye, koi Chacha jo chupke se poochh lein ki exam kaise gaye.
Inse sune jaane ki chaah radd nahi hoti, aur badle mein kuch dena bhi nahi padta. Ek kami aur ek chhoti meherbaani dono ek hi ghar mein sach ho sakti hain, aur doosri ko dekhna apne aap mein saarthak hai.
Parivaar ke kisi ek bade ko sochiye.
Wo aapko pehle se kya dete hain, chahe wo sunne jaisa na lage?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Kamre ke kinare se sulah #
Is apeksha se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada maang thi, ya ki bade galat hain us bojh mein jo wo uthate hain. Matlab hai ki sune jaane aur aapki jagah tay kar diye jaane ke beech ka faasla har parivaarik jamavde mein chalna band kar de.
Vaajib hissa reh sakta hai: ki idea aakhir tak suna jaye, ki aapko soch sakne wala maana jaye. Buniyaadi izzat aur safety kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hai, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Jo dheela ho sakta hai, wo har faisle ka wazan hai.
Dhamkiyan, nigrani ya peecha kiya jaana, ghar mein band rakha jaana ya logon se milne na dena, paise ke sahare aap par qaabu, apne jaisa hona chhod dene ka pressure, ya darr lagna kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye; wahan saath chalna safe chunaav ho sakta hai.
Aur agar parivaar mein koi bachcha ya naujawan kisi ke aas-paas bechain dikhe, to wo nazar rakhne layak hai, parde mein daalne layak nahi.
Is chaah se sulah wali parivaarik baithak sochiye: aapki jagah kahan hoti, aur kya kehkar aapko achha lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Peeche ki qataar ke liye ek line #
“Ghar ke badon ko chhoton ki poori baat sunni chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine ummeed ki thi ki wo mujhe sunenge, aur mere vichaar dono haal mein qeemti hain.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas paas rehna hai.
Nayi line shuru mein paraayi lag sakti hai. Kuch log paate hain ki istemaal se jaani-pehchani ho jaati hai; kuch ko kabhi nahi jamti, to doosri aazmate hain. Dono mein se kuch bhi aazmane wale ke baare mein kuch nahi kehta.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo badon ka maan rakhe aur phir bhi aapki soch aapki rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch idea apni baari ka intezaar kar sakte hain #
Har idea ka isi mahine baithak tak pahunchna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko ulta-palta ja sakta hai, sahejkar rakha ja sakta hai, aur filhaal neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise shelf par padi notebook jo kisi aur din ke liye taiyaar hai.
Kuch parivaar faisle lene ka tareeka nahi badlenge, aur aaj ise parakhne ki zaroorat nahi. Idea jitni der chahe nijee reh sakta hai aur phir bhi achha rehta hai. Agar koi bada kabhi dhamki ya darr se palatkar jawab de, to wo poochhe na jaane se alag hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki ye theek tha, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki ise har jamavde mein dhona zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar chaah zara dheeli padti #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki apeksha ek paydaan shant ho gayi. Sune jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ek taala gaya idea bas ek taala gaya idea hai, aapki soch par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise kinare baithkar uska ek vaakya kisi dost se ya khud se zor se keh dena, ya kisi bade ki kahani thodi zyada jigyasa se sunna.
Ismein se kuch bhi ghar par kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo uthe, wo aapka hai. Aage dekhenge ki is aas se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya thoda alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dekhiye ki kis bade se baat karna sabse aasaan hai, aur kab
- Baithak se pehle apna idea ek baar mann mein poora bol lijiye
- Dekhiye ki aapke idea ka kaun-sa hissa aapke liye sabse zaroori hai
- Dekhiye ki kisi bade se unke apne chhotepan ke dinon ki baat sunna kaisa lagega
- Khud se chupchaap poochhiye: ismein faisle ki baat kitni hai, aur gambhirta se liye jaane ki kitni?
Chhote, nijee, aur sab apni marzi ke. Jo ho sake, aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Parivaar ke kis bade ne aapki achhi tarah suni, aur unhone kya kiya?
- Aapka kaun-sa idea aap chahte hain ki poora suna jaata?
- Aap kisi bade se unke apne bachpan-jawani ke baare mein kya poochhenge?
- Agar badon se ye apeksha zara dheeli pade, to sabse pehle aap kya notice karenge?
- Kisi bade se mili kaun-si chhoti cheez aapko pyaari hai, bhale wo sunna na ho?