Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Yaaddasht se tulna ka jawab dena mushkil hai, kyunki yaadein saaf-suthre hisse rakhti hain aur baaki chhod deti hain.
Kuch maa-baap “Hamare zamane mein” sunte hain aur pal bhar ko apne bachpan mein laut jaate hain, kisi aur ke kamre mein achhe bachche ka tareeka sunte hue.
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhse zara-si bhi chook nahi honi chahiye,” ya “Mere apne ghar ke baare mein meri raay zyada maayne nahi rakhti.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Bachche ko jaldi-jaldi nipatana, taaki pal jaldi khatam ho
- Jisne bas ek minute dekha, use poora hafta samjhane baith jaana
- Kamre mein saath hans dena, phir gaadi mein use dohrana
- Us insaan ke saamne bachche se zyada aupchaarik ho jaana
- Chup ho jaana aur tulna ko wahin pade rehne dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Khane ki table par Phupha ki tippani
Aurangabad, Bua ke ghar Sunday ka khana. Aapka bachcha zor-zor se ro raha hai. Aap ghutno ke bal baithkar shaanti se baat karte ho, usi dhang se jo aapne tay kiya hai. Bade Phupha sir hilakar kehte hain: “Hamare zamane mein bachche badon ki sunte the.” Kuch log haan mein haan milate hain. Chehra garam ho jaata hai. Aap jaari rakhte ho, par dekhe aur parkhe jaane ka ehsaas rehta hai.
Sawaal utha to galti meri
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Agar meri parvarish par sawaal utha, to zaroor kuch galat ho raha hai.” Ye saavdhani aur vinamrata jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: maa-baap ke taur par aapka bharosa har us insaan ko thama deta hai jiske paas ek raay ho. Aapke achha karne ka ehsaas ab un logon ki manzoori par tika hai jo kisi aur daur mein pale.
Bachche ke liye sahi karna chahna
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki apne bachchon ke liye sahi karna chahte hain. Shayad aapne bahut socha hai ki bachche ko kaise paalna hai, kabhi-kabhi apni parvarish se alag. Shayad aap badon ka aadar karte ho aur unki manzoori chahte ho. Jo bhi ho, niyam bewaqoofi nahi. Ye bachche ke liye pyaar se aata hai. Use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Dekhne walon ke liye paalna
Aisi har tippani khud par shak badhati hai. Aap bachche ke liye nahi, dekhne walon ke liye paalna shuru kar dete ho. Parivaarik jamghaton se bachte ho. Raat ko suni baatein dohrate ho. Soch-samajhkar liye faislon par dobara shak karte ho. Dheere-dheere wo bharosa ghisne lagta hai jo maa-baap ko chahiye, aur wo shaanti kam hoti hai jo bachche ko aapse sabse zyada chahiye.
Kya unki manzoori is keemat ki hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya har tippani ko apni parvarish par faisla sunane dene se aapki parvarish kabhi behtar hui? Ya zyadatar bas tanaav badha? Unke shabd unke apne chune the, kisi aur waqt aur jagah se. Dopahar ki ek tippani aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadne ki keemat iske faayde se zyada hai.
Apne bachche aur apni wajahon ko jaanna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki har salaah ansuni kar dein. Matlab ye ki aapka bharosa sabki manzoori par nahi tika. Aap apne bachche ko aur apni wajahon ko jaante ho. Aap apne dhang se, shaanti se, parvarish jaari rakh sakte ho. Aapka dhang pyaar bhara dhang ho sakta hai. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: bachche ko wo shaanti milti hai jiski use zaroorat hai, aur tippani usi ke paas rehti hai jisne ki.
Basic respect and safety at home are never too much to expect; being threatened, hurt or frightened by anyone is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar meri parvarish par sawaal utha, to zaroor kuch galat ho raha hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleIs bachche aur apni wajahon ki samajh mere paas hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte ki ek baat, jo aapne achhi ki, mann mein dohraiye
- Kadam 2
Tippani aaye to ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj bachche ke saath ek shaant pal ka maza lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne “Hamare zamane mein bachche sunte the” kaha, tab aapka bachcha kya kar raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek aise waqt ki baat, jisme aap the hi nahi #
Aurangabad mein Bua ke ghar Sunday ka khana hai. Aapka chaar saal ka bachcha teesri baar “Kyun?” poochh raha hai. Bade Phupha chai ka ghoont bharkar kehte hain: “Hamare zamane mein bachche badon ki sunte the, zubaan nahi chalate the.” Baaki log baatcheet aage badha dete hain, jaise kuch khaas nahi kaha gaya.
Baat bachche ke baare mein kahi jaati hai, par lagti uske bagal mein khade bade ko hai. Us waqt aur us ghar se tulna, jisme aap the hi nahi, aur aisa imtihaan jiske baare mein kisi ne bataya hi nahi ki aap de rahe hain.
Aakhri baar “Hamare zamane mein bachche sunte the” kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur usse theek pehle aapka bachcha kya kar raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Pehle second mein kya hota hai #
Kuch maa-baap batate hain ki andar kuch jam-sa jaata hai: chehre par muskaan tiki rehti hai aur andar thandak utar aati hai, haath bachche ke kandhe ki or badhta hai, ya poora hafta samjhane ka mann karta hai. Kuch ko garmi chadhti hai aur wo chup reh jaate hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, safai dene ki zaroorat nahi.
Jab koi dekh raha ho, aur baat apne bachche ki dekhbhaal jaisi kareebi cheez ki ho, to tippani sochne se pehle hi lag jaati hai. Soch baad mein aati hai, gaadi mein ya sink par, un saare jawabon ke saath jo ghante bhar der se soojhe.
Un shabdon ke baad pehle second mein aapki body ne kya kiya, aur isse kya pata chalta hai ki bachche ke saath wo aam pal aapke liye kitna maayne rakhta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek yaad se aaj ki tulna #
“Itne sawaal kyun poochh raha hai” ek pal ki baat hoti. “Hamare zamane mein” us pal se aage jaakar poore ek daur ko paimana bana deta hai, aur uske saamne khade maa-baap ke paas jaanchne ka koi tareeka nahi ki wo din andar se kaise the.
Yaaddasht se tulna ka jawab dena mushkil hai, kyunki yaadein saaf-suthre hisse rakhti hain aur baaki chhod deti hain. Isliye vaakya aaj par faisle jaisa lagta hai, jabki takrane ko kuch thos nahi milta, aur kuch maa-baap dinon tak mann mein behas karte rehte hain.
Agar tippani poore daur ki jagah kisi ek pal par hoti, to wo kaun sa pal hota, aur wo pal asal mein kitna bada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tulna apne aap chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar bas jaati hai. “Sab dekh rahe hain, sab sahi rakho.” “Ab ye kya kahengi?” “Jaldi karo, isse pehle ki koi kuch bole.” Kabhi-kabhi mehmaan ke ghanti bajane se pehle hi awaaz shuru ho jaati hai.
Kehne wala shayad meelon door ho, par naapna ab andar hota hai, school run mein ya kisi dheemi shaam mein. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai, ye kisi ke beete daur ke baare mein vaakya nahi, samajhdaari lagti hai.
Bachche ke saath ek aam shaam mein, jab tulna sar mein bolti hai, to kiski awaaz udhaar leti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch maa-baap ke liye is vaakya ki ek goonj hai #
“Zubaan mat ladao.” “Chup baitho, bade baat kar rahe hain.” Kuch maa-baap “Hamare zamane mein” sunte hain aur pal bhar ko apne bachpan mein laut jaate hain, kisi aur ke kamre mein achhe bachche ka tareeka sunte hue.
Kuch log chubhan ko un barson tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se, bachche kaise hote the wala vaakya do jagah ek saath dabaav daal sakta hai: aaj yahan khade maa-baap par, aur us bachche par jo kabhi aise kamre mein baitha tha.
Aapke bachpan mein kaun “hamare zamane” ki baatein karta tha, aur jab wo shuru karte the to kamre ka mahaul kaise badal jaata tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche chupchaap baithta ek niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Mujhse zara-si bhi chook nahi honi chahiye,” ya “Mere apne ghar ke baare mein meri raay zyada maayne nahi rakhti.” Kuch maa-baap naram roop dhote hain: “Kisi ne ek bikhra pal dekha to maan leta hai ki sab aisa hi hai.”
Aisi maanyataayein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo saavdhani jaisi lagti hain, jaise darwaza do baar dekhna samajhdaari hai. Isiliye inhein din ki roshni mein nikaalkar dekhna kaargar ho sakta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Bikhra pal kisi ko na dikhe wala niyam kin kamron mein ab bhi fit hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Tulna dhone ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mehmaani mein kamre ko sambhalne mein lage rehna, usmein hona nahi, aam chhote palon ko jaldi nipatana taaki koi toke nahi, aur bachche ke chehre se zyada badon ke chehre dekhna. Kuch maa-baap maanne se bahut pehle dekhte hain ki unhein aisi mulaqaatein kam bhane lagi hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Apne tareeke ko kisi yaad kiye gaye daur ke saamne rakhkar chalna thakata hai, aur usse uga shak ghar tak pahunchkar aam dinon mein bhi baitha rehta hai. Ek saal mein iska matlab kai shaamein ho sakta hai, jo aadhi bachche ke saath aur aadhi kisi ki tippani ke saath guzrin.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ke saath kaun sa aam pal jaldi nipataya gaya ya sudhaar diya gaya, kyunki koi use “unke zamane” se taul sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, ek yaad se naapte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Wo ise apne zamane se taulte hain” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, kuch theek karne ki nahi.
Shayad ek weekend, jo kisi ek ki tippaniyon ke hisaab se plan hua, bachche ka hansta sawaal jiska jaldi mein jawab diya gaya, kisi rishtedaar se phone jis par samjhane mein waqt gaya. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein hata sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: school run, phone call, mulaqaatein, kisi ke dekhne se pehle sanware gaye chhote pal?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kaun sa zamana, theek-theek? #
Ye naam lete hi vaakya ek yaad jaisa dikhne lagta hai, jo ek insaan ki hai, kamre mein ek kursi se dekhi hui.
Yaad aur paimane alag cheezein hain. Jo pal ek mehmaan ko zyada laga, wahi kisi dost ko ya school ke gate par khade doosre maa-baap ko aam lagta hai, jisne aise sau pal dekhe hain.
“Hamare zamane mein” ka koi matlab banne ke liye ek zamana chahiye: kaun sa ghar, kaun si gali, kaun sa saal, aur kiski nazar se?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost bataye ki kisi rishtedaar ne uske bachche ke baare mein “Hamare zamane mein bachche sunte the” kaha, to aap us dost se kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Phir se dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Us pal ko dheere se dohrane par kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki asal mein kya ho raha tha: ek sawaal, ek lambi kahani, badon se bhare kamre mein ek chhoti awaaz.
Kuch un logon ko dekhte hain jinhone ek minute se zyada dekha hai: dost jise poora hafta pata hai, teacher jo chhutti ke waqt koi achhi baat batati hai, padosi jo school run par haath hilata hai. Kai baar wo awaazein hamesha thin, bas dheemi.
Laute hue shabdon ke paas rakhkar, us pal ka dheema replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne aapke bachche ke saath aapke dinon ka ek minute se zyada dekha hai, aur jis mulaqaat mein tulna hui, uske baare mein wo kya kahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kisi yaad se jeetne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab kisi ke zamane par sehmat hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek yaad kiya gaya daur is par kam chale ki aapki dopahar kaisi beete aur bachche ke saath agla aam pal.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab wo mann mein ateet se behas karna chhod dete hain. Yaaddasht ko jaancha ya haraya nahi ja sakta, aur har daur us insaan ko kamre mein rakhta hai jo ghar ja chuka. Kuch kamre sach mein nahi sunte, aur unhein aazmane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar “Hamare zamane mein” usi ke paas rehne dein jisne kaha, aur us mulaqaat se bas wo rakhein jo aapke kaam ka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar “Mujhse kuch galat ho raha hai” us mulaqaat ke baad se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap iske bajaye aisi line rakhte hain: “Wo mere din ka ek minute tha, kisi aur ki yaad ki nazar se dekha hua.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki dheere se kehne par ye tulna ki thodi jagah le leti hai, khaaskar mulaqaat se pehle wale ghante mein.
Us ek minute ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho aur jise sahi maanne ke liye mehmaan ki sehmati na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Hamare zamane mein” ko jawab, itihaas ka paath ya agli baar zyada saleeqe wala plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambi dopahar ke baad school bag darwaze par patke jaate hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain ki isse shaam ke liye zyada bachta hai: nahana, betuka gaana, do baar padhi gayi sone ki kahani.
Shaam bhar ke liye tulna neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo sone ke waqt, ya kal ki school run mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar tulna thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki tulna ek darja dheemi hai. Mulaqaat ab bhi mulaqaat hai, aur yaad kiya gaya daur wahin hai jahan tha.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bachche ki lambi kahani poori sunna, mulaqaat ka maza usi ke liye lena, ya lautte hue gaadi mein replay ke bina baithna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Bachche ke saath ek aam dopahar mein sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi hamare-zamane wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: kaun sa zamana, theek-theek, aur kiski nazar se?
- Gaur kijiye ki us mulaqaat ka kaun sa hissa ab zyada tez hai: shabd ya lehja
- Ek aisa insaan yaad kijiye jisne aapke dinon ka ek minute se zyada dekha hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chaahi
Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi se. Aaj jo aasaan lage, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne “Hamare zamane mein bachche sunte the” kaha, tab aapka bachcha kya kar raha tha?
- Us pal aap bachche ki jagah kiske chehre ko dekh rahe the?
- Us mulaqaat ka kaun sa hissa ghar aakar sone ke waqt baar-baar chalta raha?
- Jis aam din tulna zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar tulna thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?