Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye zyadatar sabke saamne aata hai, isliye maa-baap ko kisi doosre insaan ki banaavat ka jawab sabke beech dena padta hai.
Kuch log aise gharon mein pale jahan bolte rehna hoshiyari aur pasand kiye jaane ki nishaani tha, aur chup bacha chinta ki baat.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Bacha chup hai to galti shayad meri hai,” ya “Bacche ke baare mein kamra kya sochta hai, wahi gina jaata hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Bacche ki jagah jawab de dena, taaki chuppi khatam ho
- Bacche ko konchna: “Namaste kar beta”, phir se
- Hansi mein taal dena, aur phir car mein use dohrana
- Aisi mehfilon se bachna jahan ye poocha jaata hai
- Jab se bacha hua, tab se ab tak ka sab kuch khangaalna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Mama ke ghar Bhaubeej, aur ek sawaal
Nagpur mein Mama ke ghar Bhaubeej. Aapka bacha aapki taang ke paas khada baaki bacchon ka khel dekh raha hai. Mausi jhukti hain, jawab nahi milta, aur wo aapki taraf mudti hain: “Aapka bachcha itna chup kyun rehta hai?” Kuch sir ghoomte hain. Aap kehte ho “sharmila hai” aur muskurate ho, par chehra garam ho jaata hai. Baaki shaam aapko bacche ki har chuppi ginti mein aati hai.
Mera bacha kaisa lage, wo mera hai
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mera bacha logon ko kaisa lagta hai, usse meri pehchan banti hai.” Ye aam maa-baap wala garv jaisa lagta hai, aur bahut log haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har thehraav ko number bana deta hai. Bacche ki chuppi aapka result ban jaati hai, aur aap saath aaye bacche se zyada kamre ko dekhne lagte ho. Imtihaan kisi ne maanga nahi, phir bhi jaancha jaata hai.
Hum chahte hain sab apnayein
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki bacchon se pyaar hai aur chahte hain ki sab unhein apnayein. Bahut log aise gharon mein pale jahan bolne wale ki taareef hoti thi aur chup bacche ki fikr, to tab ye niyam samajh aata tha. Ho sakta hai aap khud chup rehne wale the. Jo bhi ho, bacha pasand kiya jaye, ye chaah parwah se aati hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har sawaal jo shak jodta hai
Har “itna chup” thoda shak jodta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta kam hai. Aap bacche ki jagah jawab dene lagte ho. Use “namaste kar” kehkar aage karte ho. Car mein lines ratte ho. Mehfilein maze ki jagah performance ki jagah ban jaati hain, aur bacha bhi bina kahe tanav mehsoos kar sakta hai. Garm parivarik shaam bhi imtihaan lagne lagti hai.
Kya uski chuppi aapka faisla hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: is niyam se kya kabhi aapka bacha kisi kamre mein zyada sahaj hua? Ya zyadatar aap dono tanav mein rahe? Bacche apni raftaar se khulte hain, aur wo raftaar mehmaanon ki chaah ke hisaab se kam hi chalti hai. Jawab sirf aapke paas hai, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Uski chuppi ko apna faisla maanna, kya iske layak hai?
Apne jaisa rehne ki jagah
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap bacche ke mann ki parwah karna chhod do. Matlab ye ki ek sawaal ab aapko number nahi de sakta. Aap muskura sakte ho, keh sakte ho “wo sab kuch dekh raha hai”, aur aage badh sakte ho. Ye ekdum nahi hota. Ek aasaan chuppi se shuru ho sakta hai. Wahin se kuch garmjoshi lautti hai: bacche ko apne jaisa rehne ki jagah milti hai, aur aapko bhi.
If comments about your child ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMera bacha logon ko kaisa lagta hai, usse meri pehchan banti hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera bacha apna insaan hai. Sawaal nikal sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek chup pal ko dekhiye jo bilkul theek tha
- Kadam 2
Bacche ki apne dhang se ki gayi ek cheez ko mann mein naam dijiye
- Kadam 3
Mehfil ke baad khud ke liye thodi shaanti nikaaliye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne aapke bacche ki chuppi ke baare mein poocha, tab aap kahan the aur kaun sun raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Bacche ke swabhaav par ek sawaal #
Nagpur mein Mama ke flat par Bhaubeej. Baaki bacche chilla-chillakar khel rahe hain aur aapka bacha aapki taang ke peeche khada sab dekh raha hai. Mausi jhukkar kuch poochhti hain, jawab nahi milta, phir aapse: “Aapka bachcha itna chup kyun rehta hai?” Halke-se lehje mein, aur bacha har shabd sun raha hai.
Sunne mein bacche ke baare mein jigyaasa lagti hai, par chot aksar maa-baap par lagti hai. Bacche ki chuppi is baat ka hissa hai ki wo duniya se kaise milta hai, aur sawaal use aisi cheez bana deta hai jiski safai aapko deni hai.
Aakhri baar jab ye poocha gaya, aap kahan the, aur bade baat karte rahe tab aapke bacche ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Taang ke paas khade chhote shrota ke saath wo pal #
Koi hanskar keh deta hai, “sharmila hai, khul jayega.” Koi bacche ki jagah khud jawab de deta hai. Koi khud chup ho jaata hai aur chehre par garmi chadhti mehsoos karta hai. Ye sab hota hai, aur kisi ko safai ki zaroorat nahi.
Bacche ke saamne bacche ke baare mein poochhe jaane par jawab sochne se pehle nikal jaata hai, kyunki shabd bade aur chhote dono tak ek saath pahunchte hain. Jo aap kehna chahte the, wo aksar lautte waqt auto mein yaad aata hai.
Sawaal ke theek baad aapne kya kiya: samjhaya, taal diya, ya jam gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us waqt aapke bacche ka chehra kya kar raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye swabhaav ko nateeje ki tarah padhta hai #
Sawaal chuppi ko aisi cheez maanta hai jo bigad gayi ho aur jiski wajah honi chahiye. Bacche jitne hote hain, chup rehne ki wajahein utni hoti hain, aur mehfil mein aaya mehmaan kisi ki poori zindagi ka bas ek minute dekhta hai.
Ye zyadatar sabke saamne aata hai, isliye maa-baap ko kisi doosre insaan ki banaavat ka jawab sabke beech dena padta hai. Ek hi saans mein bacche ko bachana aur khud ko bhi, dono karna padta hai.
Agar kisi ne poocha hota ki aapke bacche ko kya pasand hai, to wahi minute kaisa lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal andar basne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye ghar kar leta hai. “Ise ab tak bolna chahiye tha?” “Maine ise jagah kam di?” “Sabke bacche to bakbak karte hain.” Kabhi-kabhi kisi ke kuch kehne se pehle hi ye sawaal aa jaata hai.
Poochne wale door ho sakte hain, par ab ye jaanch bheetar hoti hai, school ke gate par, khaane ki mez par, party mein. Kyunki ye aapki apni fikr jaisi sunayi deti hai, ye kisi aur ki tippani nahi, dhyaan dena lagti hai.
Jab aapka bacha kisi kamre mein chup ho jaata hai, to kaun si awaaz saath aati hai, aur kya kehti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch chubhan sawaal se bahut pehle ki hoti hai #
Kuch log aise gharon mein pale jahan bolte rehna hoshiyari aur pasand kiye jaane ki nishaani tha, aur chup bacha chinta ki baat. Kuch khud wahi chup bache the aur yaad rakhte hain ki unke saamne unki baatein hoti thin. Aisa sawaal wo sab jaga sakta hai.
Kuch log is chubhan ko bachpan ke un saalon se jodte hain jab unki tulna zyada bolne wale cousins se hui. Kuch nahi jodte. Dono tarah se, bacche ki awaaz par tippani us dopahar se kahin purani cheez ko chhu sakti hai.
Aapke parivaar mein chup kaun tha, aur bade uske baare mein kaise baat karte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Jaanch ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Bacha chup hai to galti shayad meri hai,” ya “Bacche ke baare mein kamra kya sochta hai, wahi gina jaata hai.” Ek dheema roop bhi hai: “Mujhe ise sabke liye aasaan banana hai.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo zimmedaari lagti hai, jaise mehmaan aane se pehle ghar sametna tameez lagta hai. Isiliye ise beech-beech mein roshni mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
“Iski chuppi meri galti hai” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Safai dene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mehfil se pehle jawab ratna, bacche ko aage dhakelkar perform karwana, aur kisi rishtedaar ke jhukte hi halki-si sihran. Kuch maa-baap der se dekhte hain ki wo bacche ki chuppi sambhal rahe the, jabki wo koi hal karne ki cheez thi hi nahi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jo bacha samjhe ki baat usi ki ho rahi hai, wo aur chup ho sakta hai, aur maa-baap kamre ki jigyaasa apni chinta ke saath dhote hain. Saal bhar mein aam mauqon ke kai minute tanav mein nikal jaate hain.
Pichhle ek saal mein kis mehfil ka bojh isi sawaal ki wajah se zyada laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur unki taraf se safai dena #
Ek aam Saturday sochiye, us din ka jab “iski chuppi meri galti hai” tez bol raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad usmein cousin ke ghar jaate waqt car mein ratti line hai, bacha jise kamre ke aage dhakel diya gaya, ya hansi ke saath kaha gaya “arre bas sharmila hai”. Kuch hisse sach lagenge, kuch nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer kabhi bhi kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya-kya hai: mulaqatein, namaste, safaiyan, wo jawab jo bacche ke munh kholne se pehle de diye gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Saturday mein, agar kuch dikhe, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chup, yaani kiske muqable? #
Paimana batate hi wo ek bade ki pasand lagne lagti hai ki bacche kaise hone chahiye.
Ek hi bacha rishtedaaron se bhare hall mein chup dikh sakta hai aur ghar par apne pasandida khilone ke saath bolte nahi thakta. Mehmaan wo pal dekhta hai jab bacha use dekh raha hai; maa-baap wo poora hafta, jiska wo pal hissa hai.
“Itna chup” ko paimana chahiye, warna uska matlab nahi: kis bacche ke muqable, kis kamre mein, kis ghante, aur dekha kisne?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost bataye ki kisi ne usse poocha, “Aapka bachcha itna chup kyun hai?”, to aap usse sabse pehle kya poochna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain to bacche ko dekhte hain: gaur se dekhti aankhein, ghar ka wo chhota-sa mazaak jo bas aap log samajhte hain, kaise wo sab kuch le raha tha.
Kuch ko yaad aata hai ki kisne bacche ki baat alag tarah se ki thi: koi teacher jisne kaha tha “ye bahut kuch notice karta hai”, ya koi dost jo chupchaap baithkar drawing banane laga. Kabhi-kabhi ye awaazein pehle se thin, bas sawaal se dheemi.
Sawaal ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhein to us pal mein kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kabhi aapke bacche ke baare mein aise baat ki jo aap dono ke liye barabar aur sachchi lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Behas suljhana zaroori nahi #
Sukoon ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki aapka bacha aisa kyun hai, na ye dikhana ki sawaal chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka is par kam dakhal rahe ki aap apne bacche ko kaise dekhte ho, aur us din ka baaki hissa kaisa lagta hai.
Kuch maa-baap ko safai taiyaar karna chhodkar halka lagta hai. Wo kabhi poora hota nahi, kyunki har mehmaan ke hisaab se bolne ki sahi maatra alag hai. Kuch log poochte rahenge, aur sabko jawab dena kisi ka kaam nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar sawaal usi ke paas rahe jisne poocha tha, aur apne bacche ke baare mein aapki apni nazar aapke paas?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli mehfil ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar us din se “shayad mujhse kuch chook hui” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap uski jagah ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mera bacha pehle kamre ko samajh raha hai.”
Ye abhi sach na lage to bhi chalega. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane par purane sawaal ke liye thodi kam jagah bachti hai, khaaskar mehfil se pehle ke kuch minute mein.
Aapke bacche ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho aur jiske liye kamre ki haami zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch bojh utaarkar rakha ja sakta hai #
Har “itna chup kyun” ka jawab, plan ya agli party mein konch zaroori nahi. Kuch baaton ko bas dekha ja sakta hai, thodi der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur utaarkar rakha ja sakta hai, jaise darwaaze ke paas khoonti par tanga coat.
Ye kisi cheez ko andekha karna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain ki isse baaki din ke liye jagah bachti hai: lift mein phusphusaya mazaak, fridge par lagi drawing, wo haath jo aapka haath dhundh leta hai.
Aaj raat sawaal ko utaar dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki use agli mehfil mein baithna nahi padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar jaanch ki pakad zara dheeli pade #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki jaanch ek paydaan shaant ho gayi. Aapka bacha ab bhi wahi hai jo wo hai, aur sawaal ab bhi bas sawaal hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina ratte jawab ke pahunchna, chuppi ko baithne dena, ya shaam bina party dohraye bitana.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye wo aapka hai, aur dekhne layak hai. Use theek se dekhna chahein to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya ho sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dein: “Phir wahi chup bacche wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochein: chup, kiske muqable, aur kahan dekha hua?
- Dekhein ki zyada kya chubhta hai: sawaal, ya use sunne wale log
- Is hafte bacche ki apne dhang se ki gayi koi ek cheez chupchaap yaad karein
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti chaah dekhein, jo bas aapke liye thi
Sab chhote, sab nijee, sab apni marzi ke. Jo theek lage wahi chunein.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne aapke bacche ki chuppi ke baare mein poocha, tab aap kahan the aur kaun sun raha tha?
- Jab aapka bacha kisi kamre mein chup ho jaata hai, to aapko kiski awaaz sunayi deti hai?
- Aap chahte ki us insaan ne aapke bacche ke baare mein iski jagah kya poochha hota?
- Kisi aam din, jab jaanch tez ho, aap kya-kya taalte rahenge?
- Agar jaanch thodi dheeli pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?