“bachche ko har waqt baahon mein hi uthaye rehte ho” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Bachche ko wahin utaar dena taaki kamra chain se rahe. Lambi safai dena ki bachche ko baahon ki zaroorat kyun thi. Aur kaskar pakad lena aur kuch na kehna. Wo insaan aaye to bachche ko kam uthana. Baad mein pal ko dohrana aur ginna ki kitni baar uthaya.

Agli baar kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Ek tippani ko bina dohraye nikal jaane dijiye. Dilase ka ek pal yaad kijiye jis par aapko achha laga. Family mulaqat ke baad khud ke liye thodi shanti nikaaliye.

“bachche ko har waqt baahon mein hi uthaye rehte ho”: kyun…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Ye shabd aksar tab aate hain jab bachche ko us waqt zaroorat ho, to maa-baap ko do taraf jawab dena padta hai.
Bahut se maa-baap uthane ke baare mein ghar se mili baatein lekar aate hain: ek ghar jahan bachchon ko har jagah uthaya jaata tha, ya ek ghar jahan kaha jaata tha “rote bachche ko uthaoge to sir chadha loge.”
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Chaar log kya kahenge, usi se tay hota hai ki mera tareeka sahi hai ya nahi,” ya “Sabko khush rakhna hai, apne bachche ke mamle mein bhi.”

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Log aksar kya karte hain #

Bachche ko wahin utaar dena taaki kamra chain se rahe
Lambi safai dena ki bachche ko baahon ki zaroorat kyun thi
Aur kaskar pakad lena aur kuch na kehna
Wo insaan aaye to bachche ko kam uthana
Baad mein pal ko dohrana aur ginna ki kitni baar uthaya

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Chhota bachcha, baahein aur ek tippani
Aurangabad mein Bua ke ghar Sunday ka khana. Aapka chhota bachcha aapki kursi ke paas rone lagta hai aur aap use kamar par bitha lete ho. Roti todte hue Fufa kehte hain, “Bachche ko har waqt baahon mein hi uthaye rehte ho.” Ek cousin sir hilata hai. Aap muskurate ho, par baahein bachche ke gird kas jaati hain. Lautte waqt aap sab dohrate ho: uska wazan, sisaki, aapne kya kiya. Cousin ka sir hilana sabse der tikta hai.
Dilasa sahi dikhna chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bachche ko kaise dilasa diya jaye, ye doosron ko sahi dikhna chahiye.” Ye lihaaz jaisa lagta hai, aur bahut log haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har baahon par ek nazar bitha deta hai. Aap bachche ki zaroorat se pehle kamre ka chehra padhne lagte ho, aur dilase ka sahaj pal hisaab ban jaata hai.
Nazdeeki itni mayne kyun rakhti hai
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki nazdeeki hamare liye mayne rakhti hai, aur hum chahte hain ki wo sahi dikhe. Kuch gharon mein bachche har waqt baahon mein rahe, kuch mein rote bachche ko uthana bigadna maana gaya. Ho sakta hai aapne dono suna ho. Sahi dikhne ki chaah kamzori nahi. Wo parwah se aati hai, aur narmi ki haqdaar hai.
Har tippani jo shak jodti hai
Har “zyada” thoda shak jodta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta kam hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Kisi khaas insaan ke aate hi bachche ko ek second pehle utaar dete ho. Hall mein rok lete ho, bedroom mein thaam lete ho. Family khane aisi jagah ban jaate hain jahan gale lagane par bhi nazar rehti hai.
Kya kamre ki haami iske laayak hai?
Khud se imaandari se poochhiye: kya apne bachche ko thaamne ke tareeke par nazar rakhne se aap kabhi maa-baap ke taur par zyada pakke hue? Ya zyadatar nazdeeki hadbadi wali lagi? Kitna zyada hai, is par har kisi ki raay hai, aur milti kam hai. Jawab sirf aapke paas hai, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Ye niyam itna kasakar pakadna, kya iske laayak hai?
Aapki baahein aapki apni
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki bachche ko dilasa dene ke tareeke par sochna band. Matlab ye ki ek tippani ab use number nahi de sakti. Aap tippani sun sakte ho, muskura sakte ho, aur apne bachche ko apne dhang se padhna jaari rakh sakte ho. Ye ekdum nahi hota, aur zaroori bhi nahi. Ek-ek baahon se shuru ho sakta hai. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapki baahein aapki rehti hain, aur family khane phir garm lagte hain.
If comments about how you look after your child ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleBachche ko kaise dilasa doon, ye doosron ko sahi dikhna chahiye.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleBachche ko mujhse behtar koi nahi padhta. Tippani nikal sakti hai.

Agli baar ke liye

Agli baar try kijiye #

Kadam 1
Ek tippani ko bina dohraye nikal jaane dijiye
Kadam 2
Dilase ka ek pal yaad kijiye jis par aapko achha laga
Kadam 3
Family mulaqat ke baad khud ke liye thodi shanti nikaaliye

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Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Bachche ke haath upar uthte hi kahi gayi baat #

Aurangabad mein Bua ke ghar Sunday ka khana. Chhota bachcha haath upar karke rone lagta hai, aap use kamar par bitha lete ho. Fufa, roti ke beech mein: “Bachche ko har waqt baahon mein hi uthaye rehte ho.” Koi mausi ya padosan bhi aisa keh deti hain, aksar muskurakar, auron ke saamne.

Sunne mein baat baahon aur kamar ki lagti hai, par chot aksar is par lagti hai ki aap dilasa kaise dete ho. Bachche ko uthana aisa chupchaap faisla hai jo maa-baap din mein kai baar lete hain, aur ye shabd lagte hain jaise har baar ka hisaab rakha ja raha ho.

Aakhri baar jab ye kaha gaya, aap kahan khade the, aur uthane se pehle aapke bachche ne kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Uthane ke theek baad ka pal #

Koi hans deta hai aur bachche ko thoda aur kaskar pakad leta hai. Koi usi waqt bachche ko neeche utaar deta hai, aadha kamre ko khush karne ke liye. Koi baahon mein rakhe rehta hai aur gardan ke peeche chubhti nazarein mehsoos karta hai. Ye sab hota hai, aur kisi ko safai ki zaroorat nahi.

Bachche ko uthana aksar bina soche ho jaata hai, isiliye us par tippani sochne se pehle lag jaati hai. Wajahein baad mein yaad aati hain, lautte auto mein: rona, bheed-bhaad wala farsh, sone ka waqt jo pehle hi nikal chuka tha.

Un shabdon ke theek baad aapne kya kiya: baahon mein thaame rakha, neeche utaara, ya jam gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aur us pehli harkat mein andar kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Ye dilase ko aadat gin leta hai #

Tippani dilase ke ek pal ko aisi aadat bana deti hai jise koi aur naap raha hai. “Zyada” kehti hai, par kiske mukable, ye nahi batati. Mann bachche ke haath upar karne wale chhote-se drishya ki jagah faisla sunta hai, aur wo usi par girta hai jisne uthaya.

Ye shabd aksar tab aate hain jab bachche ko us waqt zaroorat ho, to maa-baap ko do taraf jawab dena padta hai. Bachcha baahein chahta hai aur kamra us par raay. Us ek second mein sochne ki koi shant jagah nahi ki pehle kise sunein.

Agar tippani bachche ke bhaari hote jaane par hoti, na ki aapki parvarish par, to shayad ek saans mein nikal jaati.

Aapke liye wo kyun tikti hai, aur kitna hissa is baat ka hai ki kisne kahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Jab apne aap par shak basne lage #

Baar-baar suno to ye ghar kar leta hai. “Kya bachche ko meri baahon ki aadat pad rahi hai?” “Utaar do, log dekh rahe hain.” “Kahin aage iske liye mushkil na ho jaye?” Kabhi bachche ke haath uthane se pehle hi ye sawaal aa jaata hai.

Rishtedaar doosre shehar mein ho sakte hain, par shak ab joote ke rack ke paas, lift mein, bedroom ke darwaze par hota hai. Kyunki ye aapki apni samajhdaari jaisa sunaayi deta hai, ye kisi aur ki tippani nahi, insaaf lagta hai.

Bachcha haath uthaye aur aap sochein ki ye kaisa dikhega, tab kiski awaaz saath aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Kuch maa-baap ke liye baahon ki apni kahani hai #

Bahut se maa-baap uthane ke baare mein ghar se mili baatein lekar aate hain: ek ghar jahan bachchon ko har jagah uthaya jaata tha, ya ek ghar jahan kaha jaata tha “rote bachche ko uthaoge to sir chadha loge.” Dono tarah ki baat maa-baap ko ek taraf khinchaav aur doosri taraf awaaz de sakti hai.

Kuch log “zyada” ki chubhan ko bachpan se jodte hain, jab sunte the ki wo zyada maangte hain, ya zyada dhyaan chahiye; kuch nahi jodte. Dono tarah se, kitni nazdeeki ki ijaazat hai, is par tippani us dopahar se purani kisi cheez ko chhoo sakti hai.

Bachche ko kitna uthana chahiye, iska aapka apna andaza pehli baar kahan se aaya, aur jab koi kahe ki ye zyada hai to kiski awaaz yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Baahon ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #

Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Chaar log kya kahenge, usi se tay hota hai ki mera tareeka sahi hai ya nahi,” ya “Sabko khush rakhna hai, apne bachche ke mamle mein bhi.” Ek dheema roop bhi hai: “Kisi ne etraaz kiya, to galti shayad meri hai.”

Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo lihaaz lagti hai, jaise tang gali mein kisi ko raasta de dena tameez lagti hai. Isiliye ise beech-beech mein roshni mein rakhkar dekhna theek hai.

Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.

“Kisi ne etraaz kiya, matlab galti meri” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinme nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Nazron ke neeche dilasa dene ki keemat #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki kisi khaas insaan ke kamre mein aate hi bachche ko ek second pehle neeche utaar dena, ya use bedroom mein baahon mein lena aur hall mein nahi. Kuch maa-baap der se dekhte hain ki wo apni nazdeeki bheed ke hisaab se ghata-badha rahe the, aur ye ghatana-badhana ab unka nahi raha.

Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Dekhne wale ki aankh ke neeche dilasa dene mein mehnat lagti hai, aur bachcha aaram se thaame haath aur hadbadi wale haath ka farq mehsoos kar leta hai. Saal bhar mein roz ke kai pal zaroorat se thode bhaari ho sakte hain.

Pichhle ek saal mein kis pal bachche ko dilasa dena isliye bhaari laga ki kaun dekh raha hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Paanch saal aur kamre ke liye baahein #

Ek aam mangalwar sochiye, us din ka jab “kisi ne etraaz kiya, matlab galti meri” tez bol raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.

Shayad usme family khane par ek pal pehle neeche utaara bachcha hai, car mein di gayi safai ki wo kyun ro raha tha, ya hall mein chhota rakha gaya gale lagana. Kuch hisse sach lagenge, kuch nahi.

Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer kabhi bhi kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.

Usme kya-kya hai: baahein, nazarein, aur kisi khaas insaan ke aate hi bachche ko neeche rakhna?Is par baat kijiye ›

Us mangalwar mein, agar kuch dikhe, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Zyada, lekin kiske mukable? #

Paimana batate hi wo ek aadmi ki pasand lagne lagta hai, jo maa-baap ke apne bachche ko padhne ke tareeke ke bagal mein rakhi hai.

Wahi baahein ek kursi se aadat lagti hain aur doosri se dilasa. Mehmaan wo pal dekhta hai jab bachcha uthaya gaya; maa-baap ko wo bechain raat, bheed wala station aur lambi dopahar maaloom hai jo usse pehle guzri.

“Zyada” ko paimana chahiye, warna uska matlab nahi: kis bachche ke mukable, kis shaam, kis tarah ke din, aur tay kaun kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar koi dost bataye ki kisi rishtedaar ne usse kaha ki bachche ko bahut uthate ho, to aap usse sabse pehle kya poochna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise jaldi pehchanna

Dobara dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #

Kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain to bachche ko dekhte hain: use kya chahiye tha, chehra kaisa hua, baahon mein sharir kaise dheela pada.

Kuch ko yaad aata hai ki kisne unhein bachche ke saath dekhkar kuch naram kaha tha: koi padosan jo muskurayi, teacher jisne bataya ki bachcha kitna shant rehta hai, koi aur maa-baap jisne kaha “hamara bhi aisa hi tha”. Kabhi-kabhi ye awaazein pehle se thi, bas dheemi.

“Zyada” ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhein to us pal ka dheema replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kisne kabhi aapke bachche ko dilasa dene ke tareeke par aisi baat kahi jo achhi lagi, aur kya kaha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›

Isse sulah

Behas suljhana zaroori nahi #

Sukoon ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki baahon ke baare mein kaun sahi tha, na ye dikhana ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka bachche ke saath aapke agle pal par, aur us din ke baaki hisse par, kam dakhal rahe.

Kuch maa-baap ko safai ka rehearsal band karke halka lagta hai. Wo kabhi poora hota nahi, kyunki har dekhne wale ka apna aankda hai, aur har gale lagane ke beech ek hi tippani baithi rehti hai. Kuch kamre sunenge bhi nahi, aur unhein parakhna kisi ka kaam nahi.

Kaisa lagega agar “zyada” uske paas rahe jisne kaha tha, aur apne bachche ko padhne ki aapki nazar aapke paas?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Agli mulaqat ke liye ek sachchi line #

Agar us din se “shayad bachche ko zaroorat se zyada pyaar se uthaya ja raha hai” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap uski jagah ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Us pal bachche ko kya chahiye tha, ye mujhe pata hai.”

Ye abhi sach na lage to bhi chalega. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmaate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane par purane sawaal ke liye thodi kam jagah bachti hai, khaaskar family mulaqat se pehle ke kuch minutes mein.

Bachche ko dilasa dene ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho aur jiske liye har dekhne wale ki haami zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch bojh utaarkar rakha ja sakta hai #

Har “zyada” ke liye safai, behas ya bachche ko uthane ka koi naya tareeka zaroori nahi. Kuch baaton ko bas dekha ja sakta hai, thodi der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur utaarkar rakha ja sakta hai, jaise thaila aakhirkaar darwaze ke paas khoonti par taang diya ho.

Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain ki isse baaki din ke liye jagah bachti hai: kandhe par neend mein jhuka sir, nanhi peeth par rakha haath, bedroom tak ki dheemi chaal.

Aaj raat tippani ko utaar dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki agli baar jab bachcha haath uthaye to use beech mein baithna nahi padega.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar shak ki pakad zara dheeli pade #

Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki apne aap par shak ek paydaan shant ho gaya. Aapka bachcha ab bhi haath utha raha hai, aur tippani ab bhi bas tippani hai.

Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kamre par nazar daale bina bachche ko uthana, wajahein rate bina family mulaqat, ya ginti ke bina beeti shaam.

Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye wo aapka hai, aur dekhne laayak hai. Use theek se dekhna chahein to chat bas ek tap door hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya ho sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmaate hain #

Mann mein naam dein: “Phir wahi baahon wali line”
Chupchaap khud se poochhein: zyada, kiske mukable, aur kahan se dekha hua?
Dekhein ki zyada kya chubhta hai: tippani, ya dilasa dete waqt dekhe jaana
Pichhli baar bachche ko uthaya tha to use kya chahiye tha, chupchaap yaad karein
Aaj ki koi ek chhoti chaahat dekhein, jo bas aapke liye thi

Sab chhote, sab nijee, sab apni marzi ke. Jo theek lage wahi chunein.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.

“bachche ko har waqt baahon mein hi uthaye rehte ho” itna kyun chubhta hai?