Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Upar se ye aksar sabke beech aata hai, bacha saamne baitha, faisla abhi garam.
Bahut se maa-baap apne bachpan se snacks aur screen ke niyam lekar aate hain: ek ghar jahan mithai-namkeen kam aur ginkar milte the, ya ek ghar jahan kisi ne dekha hi nahi.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Char log kya kahenge, usi se tay hota hai ki mera faisla sahi hai ya nahi,” ya “Mujhse koi galti nahi honi chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Cheez wahin haath se le lena
- Jhat se koi wajah bata kar halka-sa hans dena
- Date rehna aur poori dopahar aankhon ke neeche mehsoos karna
- Wo packet ya phone chhupa dena, jab wo rishtedaar ghar aayein
- Baad mein sawaal ko dohrana aur har taraf se apni safai dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chips, phone aur ek bhaunh
Nashik mein cousin ki shaadi. Sangeet mein teen ghante bacha shaant raha, to aapne chips ka packet aur phone thama diya. Agli kursi se Mami bhaunhein chadhati hain: “Bacche ko ye sab kyun khane dete ho?” Aaspaas ke log mudkar dekhte hain. Aap muskurate ho, par packet ki kurkur zaroorat se tez lagti hai. Baaki shaam aap bacche ko khate dekhte ho aur mez ko aapko dekhte hue.
Har jaanch mein pass hona
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere har roz ke faisle par kisi ki bhi jaanch pass honi chahiye.” Ye zimmedaari jaisa lagta hai, aur bahut log haami bharenge. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har packet aur har screen ek chhota imtihaan ban jaati hai, jise koi bhi dekhne wala jaanch sakta hai, chahe use us din ki khabar ho ya na ho. Aap kamre par ek aankh rakhkar paalne lagte ho.
Sahi dikhne ki chaah kyun hai
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki bacche ke liye sahi karna chahte hain, aur chahte hain ki wo dikhe bhi. Bahut logon ne bachpan mein ghar ke khane aur dekhne par chupchaap taulti nazarein dekhin aur unhein andar le liya. Ho sakta hai aap par nazar rahi ho, ho sakta hai kisi ne dekha hi na ho. Pass hone ki chaah kamzori nahi. Wo parwah se aati hai, aur narmi ki haqdaar hai.
Har bhaunh jo shak jodti hai
Har bhaunh thoda shak jodti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye dikhta kam hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Mehmaan ke aane se pehle packet bag mein chala jaata hai. Cartoon beech mein band ho jaata hai. Lift mein koi wajah ratti jaati hai. Parivaarik mauqe aisi jagah ban jaate hain jahan roz ki baat ko bhi safai deni padti hai.
Kya pass hona iske layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: har jaanch pass karne se kya aap kabhi maa-baap ke taur par zyada pakke hue? Ya zyadatar apne achhe din chhipane layak lage? Snack aur screen par raay har kisi ki hai, aur aapas mein milti kam hain. Jawab sirf aapke paas hai, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Ye niyam itni kasakar pakadna, kya utne ki keemat deta hai?
Aapke roz ke din aapke
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki bacche ko kya milta hai, us par sochna band. Matlab ye ki ek sawaal ko ab aapka din number dene ka haq nahi. Aap bhaunh sun sakte ho, muskura sakte ho, aur apni baat apne paas rakh sakte ho. Ye ekdum nahi hota. Chhote se shuru ho sakta hai, ek-ek pal se. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapke roz ke din aapke rehte hain, aur mauqe phir apne lagte hain.
If comments about what you give your children ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere har roz ke faisle par kisi ki bhi jaanch pass honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleApne din ki khabar mujhe hai. Sawaal nikal sakte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek sawaal ko bina dohraye nikal jaane dijiye
- Kadam 2
Ek roz ka faisla chuniye jis par aapko achha lagta hai
- Kadam 3
Kisi mauqe ke baad khud ke liye thodi shaanti nikaaliye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne poocha ki bacche ko ye kyun dete ho, tab kya ho raha tha, aur kaun dekh raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sawaal jo asal mein sawaal nahi #
Nashik mein cousin ki shaadi, sangeet ka teesra ghanta. Bacha thaka hai, phir bhi shaant baitha hai, to aapne chips ka packet pakdaya aur haath mein phone. Bagal ki kursi se Mami ki bhaunhein chadhti hain: “Bacche ko ye sab kyun khane dete ho?” Ya “Itni-si umar mein mobile?” Sawaal ka nishaan bas dikhane ke liye hai.
Sunne mein baat packet ya screen ki lagti hai, par chot aksar us par lagti hai jisne thamaya. Ek chhota-sa roz ka faisla achanak safai dene ke kathghare mein khada ho jaata hai, aur lagta hai ki faisle ke saath aap bhi taule ja rahe ho.
Aakhri baar ye kab suna tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kahan the, aur packet ya screen ke peeche ki wo wajah kya thi jo kisi ne poochi hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Bhaunhon ke baad ka wo pal #
Koi jhat se packet wapas le leta hai, aadha Mami ko khush karne ke liye. Koi hanskar jaldi se koi wajah bata deta hai. Koi date rehta hai aur gardan ke peeche chubhti nazarein mehsoos karta hai. Ye sab hota hai, aur kisi ko safai ki zaroorat nahi.
Faisle jaisa sunayi dene wala sawaal sochne se pehle lag jaata hai. Wajahein baad mein yaad aati hain, lautte waqt gaadi mein: lamba safar, thaka bacha, wo shaanti jiski badaulat agla ek ghanta nikla. Sab saaf, sab shaant, aur kehne ka waqt nikal chuka.
Us sawaal ke theek baad aapne kya kiya: apni baat pakde rakhi, badal di, ya bas jam gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us pehli harkat mein andar kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Roz ke ek din se hisaab maangta hai #
Sawaal ek chhote-se roz ke faisle ka hisaab aise maangta hai jaise wo koi bada faisla ho. Wo us poore din ko chhod deta hai jiski wajah se packet thamaya gaya, aur packet ya screen ke zariye maa-baap ke baare mein ek raay bana deta hai. Mann chhote faisle ki jagah wahi raay sunta hai.
Upar se ye aksar sabke beech aata hai, bacha saamne baitha, faisla abhi garam. Maa-baap do taraf phans jaate hain: ek taraf haath mein cheez pakde bacha, doosri taraf aaspaas baithe bade, aur beech mein sochne ki koi shaant jagah nahi.
Yahi baat agar koi dost chai par jigyaasa se poochta, to shayad dilchaspi lagti.
Bhaunh chadhakar poochne par kya badal jaata hai, aur chubhan mein kitna hissa lehje ka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab apne aap par shak basne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye ghar kar leta hai. “Mana kar dena chahiye tha?” “Rakh do, log dekh rahe hain.” “Shayad wo sahi hain aur main hi laparwah hoon.” Kabhi bacche ke kuch uthane se pehle hi ye sawaal aa jaata hai.
Poochne wali Mami shayad door ho, par ab ye jaanch almari ke paas, dukaan mein, sofe par hoti hai. Kyunki ye aapki apni fikr jaisi lagti hai, ye kisi aur ka sawaal nahi, zimmedaari lagti hai.
Bacche ko kuch thamate waqt jab ye khayal aata hai ki kamre ko kaisa dikhega, to kiski awaaz saath aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch maa-baap ke liye khane-peene ki apni kahani hai #
Bahut se maa-baap apne bachpan se snacks aur screen ke niyam lekar aate hain: ek ghar jahan mithai-namkeen kam aur ginkar milte the, ya ek ghar jahan kisi ne dekha hi nahi. Kuch log niyam kisi dost ya bhai-behen se udhaar lete hain. Jahan se bhi aaya ho, roz ke faisle ke peeche bahar se dikhne se zyada soch hoti hai.
Kuch log is chubhan ko bachpan se jodte hain, jab unke apne faislon par ungli uthti thi, ya bataya jaata tha ki kya khana hai aur kya dekhna hai. Kuch nahi jodte. Dono tarah se, bacche ko kya mila, is par sawaal us dopahar se purani kisi cheez ko chhu sakta hai.
Aapke apne bacche ke liye “roz ki baat kya hai” ka andaaza pehli baar kahan se aaya, aur jab koi us par sawaal kare to kiski awaaz yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Packet ke neeche ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Char log kya kahenge, usi se tay hota hai ki mera faisla sahi hai ya nahi,” ya “Mujhse koi galti nahi honi chahiye.” Uska ek dheema roop bhi hai: “Kisi ne bhaunh chadhai, matlab maine kam kiya.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo savdhaani lagti hai, jaise taala do baar kheench kar dekh lena samajhdaari lagta hai. Isiliye ise beech-beech mein roshni mein rakhkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
“Kisi ne bhaunh chadhai, matlab maine galat kiya” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nazron ke neeche faisla lene ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki Mami ke aane se pehle packet bag mein chhip jaye, cartoon beech mein band ho jaye, ya ek lambi safai taiyaar ho us sawaal ke liye jo kisi ne poocha hi nahi. Kuch maa-baap ko bahut der se dikhta hai ki wo bheed ke liye chun rahe the, khud ke liye nahi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Safai dena akela kar deta hai, aur bacha bhi mehsoos karta hai jab Mummy ya Papa akad jaayein. Saal bhar mein roz ke kai pal zaroorat se bhaari ho jaate hain.
Pichhle ek saal mein kaun sa roz ka faisla is wajah se bhaari laga ki kaun dekh raha hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur bheed ke liye chunna #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “kisi ne bhaunh chadhai, matlab maine galat kiya” tez bol raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad usmein mehmaan ke aane se pehle chhipaya packet hai, cartoon jo beech scene mein band hua, ya lift mein ratti hui safai. Kuch hisse sach lagenge, kuch nahi.
Abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer kabhi bhi kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya-kya hai: snack, screen, nazarein, kamre par ek aankh rakhkar liye gaye faisle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch dikhe, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kiske muqable? #
Paimana batate hi wo ek aadmi ki pasand lagne lagta hai, jo maa-baap ke apne din ki samajh ke bagal mein rakhi hai.
Wahi chips ek kursi se laparwahi lagte hain aur doosri se aam baat. Mehmaan wo pal dekhta hai jab cheez thamayi gayi; maa-baap ko safar, thaki dopahar aur aaspaas ke sau chhote faisle maaloom hain, jo mehmaan ne kabhi nahi dekhe.
Sawaal ko koi paimana chahiye, warna uska matlab nahi: ye, kis snack ke muqable, kis din, kis bacche, kis tarah ke hafte mein, aur tay kaun kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost bataye ki shaadi mein kisi ne snack par usse sawaal kiya, to aap usse sabse pehle kya poochna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain to bacche ki taraf dekhte hain: packet dekhkar khili muskaan, screen ki shaanti, uske baad ka baaki din.
Kuch ko yaad aata hai ki kisne unse narmi se poocha tha: ek jigyaasu dost, teacher, koi aur maa-baap jisne kaha “mera bhi yahi karta hai”. Kabhi-kabhi wo awaazein pehle se thin, bas sawaal se dheemi.
Sawaal ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhein to us pal ka slow replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kabhi bacche ke saath aapke din ke baare mein aise poocha ki apnapan laga, aur wo baatcheet kaisi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Behas suljhana zaroori nahi #
Sukoon ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki packet ya screen sahi thi, na ye dikhana ki sawaal chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka agle faisle par aur bacche ke saath baaki din par kam dakhal rahe.
Kuch maa-baap ko safai ka rehearsal band karke halka lagta hai. Wo kabhi poora hota bhi nahi, kyunki har dekhne wala lakeer apni jagah kheenchta hai, aur har faisle ke beech ek hi sawaal baitha rehta hai. Kuch log sunenge nahi, aur unhein parakhna kisi ka kaam nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar sawaal usi ke paas rahe jisne poocha tha, aur apni wajahein aapke paas?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli mehfil ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar us din se “shayad main hi laparwah hoon” chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap uski jagah ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine ek roz ki baat tay ki, wajahein kamre ne nahi suni.”
Ye abhi sach na lage to bhi chalega. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane par purane sawaal ke liye thodi kam jagah bachti hai, khaaskar mehfil se pehle ke kuch minute mein.
Roz ke faislon ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho aur jiske liye har dekhne wale ki haami zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch bojh utaarkar rakha ja sakta hai #
Har chadhi bhaunh ka jawab, behas ya agli baar chhipa packet zaroori nahi. Kuch baaton ko bas dekha ja sakta hai, thodi der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur utaarkar rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambi sair ke baad bhaari shawl khoonti par taang di ho.
Ye peeche hatna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain ki isse baaki din ke liye jagah bachti hai: saajha mazaak, chipchipe haath, shaant shaam ka manpasand cartoon.
Aaj raat sawaal ko utaar dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki use agle faisle mein, ya uske agle mein, baithna nahi padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shak ki pakad zara dheeli pade #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki apne aap par shak ek paydaan shaant ho gaya. Aapke faisle ab bhi aapke hain, badle ja sakte hain, aur sawaal ab bhi bas sawaal hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: kamre par nazar daale bina packet thamana, mulaqat se pehle wajahein ratte bina jaana, ya shaam bina party dohraye bitana.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye wo aapka hai, aur dekhne layak hai. Use theek se dekhna chahein to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya ho sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dein: “Phir wahi bacche ko ye kyun khane dete ho wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochein: kiske muqable, aur kahan se dekha hua?
- Dekhein ki zyada kya chubhta hai: sawaal, ya faisle ke waqt nazron ka saaya
- Is hafte ka koi ek roz ka faisla aur uski wajah chupchaap yaad karein
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti chaah dekhein, jo bas aapke liye thi
Sab chhote, sab nijee, sab apni marzi ke. Jo theek lage wahi chunein.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne poocha ki bacche ko ye kyun dete ho, tab kya ho raha tha, aur kaun dekh raha tha?
- Us faisle ko pakde rakhte ya badalte hue aapne kiski nazar apne upar mehsoos ki?
- Us faisle ki kaun si wajah aap ghar saath le aaye, jo kisi ne sunni hi nahi chahi?
- Kisi aam din, jab shak tez ho, aap kya-kya taalte rahenge?
- Agar shak thoda dheela pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?