Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar yun hi, sabke saamne aata hai, bachcha paas hi baitha ho aur poora sach batane ka koi tareeka nahi.
Bahut se log apne bachpan se parivaar ki ek tasveer lekar chalte hain: bhai-behnon se bhara ghar, ya ek akele bachche wala shaant ghar.
Andar ek yaqeen ban sakta hai: “Logon ki raay tay karti hai ki mera parivaar poora hai ya nahi,” ya “Apne parivaar ke baare mein meri raay ki koi ginti nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Hanskar ek halka jawab dena aur jaldi nikal jaana
- Jisne aise hi poochha, use zaroorat se zyada samjhana
- Chup ho jaana aur baat badal dena
- Sochna ki kaash bachche ne ye na suna hota
- Baad mein wahi baat dohrana aur behtar jawab sochna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Shaadi, muskaan aur ek sawaal
Karnal mein cousin ki shaadi hai. Aapka bachcha do buaon ke beech baitha maze se khana kha raha hai. Ek Fufaji, jinse mushkil se jaan-pehchaan hai, jhukkar kehte hain, “Ek hi bachcha? Akela pad jayega bechara.” Wo muskura rahe hain. Dono buaein sir hilati hain. Aap apna rata jawab dekar hans dete ho, par jabda kasa hai. Lautte hue gaadi mein aap behtar jawab sochte ho, aur koi unke liye nahi.
Parivaar poora dikhna chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Achhe parivaar ko bahar walon ko poora dikhna chahiye.” Ye masoom khayal lagta hai, aur zyadatar log haan mein sir hilayenge. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: aapke parivaar ka aakaar number dene ki cheez ban jaata hai, aur kisi bhi table ka koi bhi rishtedaar number de sakta hai. Aap kisi ke poochhne se pehle hi apne ghar ki taraf se jawab dene lagte ho, aur aapke bachche ko chaukanna maa-baap milta hai.
Hum samjhe jaana kyun chahte hain
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki apne parivaar se pyaar hai aur chahte hain ki use dekha aur samjha jaye. Bahuton ke ghar mein parivaar ki ek pakki tasveer rahi, aur unhone use poora ka poora le liya. Shayad aap kai bhai-behen the. Shayad ghar shaant tha. Samjhe jaane ki chaah kamzori nahi, gehri parwah se aati hai, aur use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har sawaal se judta shak
Har sawaal thoda shak jod jaata hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Kisi ke poochhne se pehle cousins aur doston ka zikr, ek chamkayi hui line jeb mein. Jamaave aisi jagahein ban jaate hain jahan aapke parivaar ka swagat bhi hota hai aur use jaancha bhi jaata hai, aur wo line kabhi poori nahi padti.
Kya chamkayi hui line ki keemat hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: kya sawaal ki taiyaari se kabhi apne parivaar par yaqeen pakka hua? Ya zyadatar ek nijee baat sareaam mukadme jaisi lagne lagi? Parivaar ki har kisi ke paas ek tasveer hai, aur tasveerein aapas mein kam hi milti hain. Jawab sirf aapke paas hai, aur koi galat jawab nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna, kya iski keemat waaqai chukane layak hai?
Aapka parivaar aapka hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki bachche ko kaisa lagta hai, uski parwah chhod dein. Matlab ye hai ki ek sawaal ab aapke parivaar ko number nahi dega. Shabd suniye, muskuraiye, aur apni wajahein apne paas rakhiye. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Ek jamaave se bhi shuru ho sakta hai. Wahin se thodi shaanti lautti hai: parivaar aapka rehta hai, aur table phir se garm lag sakti hai.
If comments about your family ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAchhe parivaar ko bahar walon ko poora dikhna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera parivaar jitna hai, utna hai. Sawaal aate-jaate hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek sawaal ko dohraye bina guzar jaane dijiye
- Kadam 2
Is hafte ki ek ghadi ka naam lijiye jab bachcha sahaj tha
- Kadam 3
Jamaave ke baad apne liye ek shaant pal nikaliye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne poochha ki aapka bachcha akela nahi padega, tab kya chal raha tha, aur wahan aur kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Parivaar ke size par ek tippani #
Karnal mein cousin ki shaadi, khane ki line mein, ya office ke tiffin room mein, ya school gate par intezaar karte hue. Koi aapke bachche ko dekhta hai, phir aapko. “Ek hi bachcha? Akela pad jayega bechara.” Aksar pyaar se kaha jaata hai, kabhi baaton-baaton mein, kabhi sir hilate hue.
Sunne mein ye bachche ke saath ki baat lagti hai, par chubhti maa-baap ko hai. Parivaar ka aakaar bahut si wajahon se banta hai, kuch sabko pata, kuch bahut nijee, aur aise shabd use aisa bana dete hain jaise safai deni pade. “Doosra kab la rahe ho?” kehne wale ke liye mazaak hota hai, sunne wale ke liye nahi.
Aakhri baar “ek hi bachcha? Akela pad jayega” suna, tab aap kahan the, aur aapke mann mein kya aaya jo kisi ne poochha hi nahi?
Pehle kuch pal
Nazar padne ke theek baad ka second #
Kuch log muskurakar wahi rata hua jawab de dete hain. Kuch ka munh kas jaata hai aur wo baat badal dete hain. Kuch hans dete hain aur mann ke kisi kone mein sochte hain ki ye baat kitni der chalegi. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai dene ki zaroorat nahi.
Parivaar ke size wala sawaal un cheezon ko chhoota hai jinhein zyadatar log apne paas rakhte hain, isliye wo sochne se pehle lag jaata hai. Jawab aksar baad mein aate hain, ghar lautte raaste par, poore aur saaf, aur poochhne wale ke kisi kaam ke nahi.
Un shabdon ke theek baad aapne jawab diya, baat taali ya jam gaye, aur us pehli harkat mein andar kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Aisi wajah maangta hai jo kisi ko deni nahi #
Sawaal maa-baap se apne parivaar ke size ka hisaab maangta hai, jaise koi tay ginti ho aur aapka ghar usse hatkar ho. Mann poochhne wale se zyada us ginti ko sunta hai, aur baat maa-baap par aakar lagti hai, kabhi-kabhi bachche par bhi.
Ye aksar yun hi, sabke saamne aata hai, bachcha paas hi baitha ho aur poora sach batane ka koi tareeka nahi. Tab maa-baap ke haath mein ek lambi nijee kahani reh jaati hai aur ek chhota shisht vaakya, aur dono ke beech koi shaant kona nahi hota.
Yahi baat chhuttiyon ya makaan ke baare mein poochhi jaati, toh shayad gappshap lagti.
Jab ye aapke parivaar ki baat hai, tab kya badal jaata hai, aur chubhan mein kitna hissa vishay ka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab shak andar basne lage #
Baar-baar suno toh ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Kahin mere bachche ko kuch kam toh nahi pad raha?” “Cousins ki baat chhed dun, log dekh rahe hain.” “Shayad wo theek kehte hain aur mujhse ek kami reh gayi.” Kabhi-kabhi sawaal tab bhi aa jaata hai jab kisi ne kuch kaha hi nahi.
Poochhne wala kab ka ja chuka hoga, par shak ab park mein, birthday party mein, sone ke waqt bhi aa jaata hai. Kyunki wo aapki apni fikr jaisa bolta hai, wo insaaf lagta hai, kisi aur ki tippani nahi.
Aapka bachcha akele khel raha ho aur aap sochein ki bahar se kaisa dikhta hai, toh kiski awaaz saath jud jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch maa-baapon ke liye parivaar ke size ki ek kahani hai #
Bahut se log apne bachpan se parivaar ki ek tasveer lekar chalte hain: bhai-behnon se bhara ghar, ya ek akele bachche wala shaant ghar. Kisi tasveer ko faisle ki zaroorat nahi. Har ek ek paimana ban sakti hai jise log doosre parivaar ke saamne rakh dete hain.
Kuch log is sawaal ki chubhan ko bachpan ke un sawaalon tak le jaate hain ki bhai-behen hain ya nahi, ya ghar mein akelepan ya bheed tak; kuch nahi le jaate. Jo bhi ho, parivaar ke size par ek tippani us dopahar se kahin purani kisi cheez ko daba sakti hai.
Parivaar kaisa hota hai, iski aapki tasveer pehli baar kahan se aayi, aur jab koi kehta hai aapke yahan kuch kam hai, toh kiski awaaz yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sawaal ke neeche ek chup niyam #
Andar ek yaqeen ban sakta hai: “Logon ki raay tay karti hai ki mera parivaar poora hai ya nahi,” ya “Apne parivaar ke baare mein meri raay ki koi ginti nahi.” Uska dheema roop hai: “Agar kisi ko kami dikhti hai, toh shayad meri wajah se hai.”
Aise yaqeen yaqeen jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo lihaaz jaise lagte hain, jaise tang darwaze par raasta de dena shishtachar lagta hai. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhi roshni mein rakhkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Jo bhi ho, ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin mehfilon mein “agar kisi ko kami dikhti hai toh meri wajah se” aaj bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Paimana dhone ki keemat kya ho sakti hai #
Ye har jamaave ke liye taiyaar jawab ban sakta hai, kisi khaas rishtedaar ke bachche ko dekhte hi ek androoni jhijhak, ya kisi ke poochhne se pehle cousins aur doston ka zikr karne ki aadat. Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki wo apne parivaar ki taraf se jawab dene lage the, isse bahut pehle ki sawaal unka raha hi na ho.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Koi nijee baat chhoone wala sawaal halke mein lena mushkil hai, aur baar-baar lene mein mehnat lagti hai. Saal bhar mein bahut se maamooli pal zaroorat se zyada bojh uthane lagte hain.
Pichhle saal mein parivaar ke baare mein kaun-sa maamooli sawaal zaroorat se zyada bhaari laga, aur kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Kamre ko jawab dete paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “agar kisi ko kami dikhti hai toh meri wajah se” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, kuch theek karne ko nahi.
Shayad usmein lift mein rata hua jawab hai, ek playdate jo kuch isliye tay hui ki koi kuch na keh sake, ek mehfil jismein cousins ka zikr do baar aaya. Kuch hissa sach lagega, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka jawab abhi nahi chahiye, aur tasveer kisi bhi pal rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: sawaal, taiyaar lines, table par baithe bachche ki taraf nazar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch dikhe, toh wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Akela kiski tulna mein? #
Paimana naam lete hi ye ek ki tasveer jaisa dikhne lagta hai, jiske bagal mein ek parivaar ki asli zindagi rakhi hai.
Ek hi ghar ek darwaze se soona aur doosre se bhara dikh sakta hai. Mehmaan ko khane ki table par ek bachcha dikhta hai; maa-baap ko uske dost, cousins, lambi dopaharein aur bachche ka apni duniya mein rehne ka dhang pata hai.
“Akela” ko kisi paimane ki zaroorat hai: kis bachche ki tulna mein, kis mohalle, kin doston, kin dinon ki tulna mein, aur tay kaun kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi saheli bataye ki kisi ne uske akele bachche ke baare mein yahi poochha, toh aap usse sabse pehle kya poochhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch log kya paate hain #
Kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain toh apne bachche ko dekhte hain: wo kiske saath khelta hai, doston ki baat kaise karta hai, kaise sahaj rehta hai.
Kuch aur log unhein dekhte hain jinhone unke parivaar ke baare mein narmi se poochha: ek dost jisne kaha “unke baare mein batao”, koi teacher, koi aur maa ya pita jisne kaha “hamare yahan bhi ek hi hai.” Kai baar wo awaazein hamesha se thin, bas sawaal se dheemi.
“Akela” shabd ke bagal mein rakhkar, us bachche ko dheere se dekhne par kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapke parivaar ke baare mein kisne kabhi aise poochha ki achha laga, aur kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Parivaar ki safai deni zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki parivaar kitna bada hona chahiye, ya ye dikhawa karna nahi ki shabd chubhe nahi. Matlab bas itna hai ki ek tippani ki aapke agle jamaave aur apne parivaar ke baare mein aapke ehsaas par pakad dheeli ho jaye.
Jab maa-baap jawab ka rehearsal band karte hain, toh kai baar halka lagta hai. Wo kabhi poora hota bhi nahi, kyunki har poochhne wale ke paas apni ginti hai, aur wo ek tippani ko har jamaave ke beech mein rakhta hai. Kuch sawaalon ko jawab nahi chahiye, aur kisi ko dena zaroori nahi.
Sawaal ko poochhne wale ke paas hi rehne dein, aur apni wajahein aur apni nijta apne paas rakhein, toh kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle jamaave ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar tab se “shayad mujhse ek kami reh gayi” chal raha hai, toh usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap uski jagah aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Hamara parivaar jitna hai, utna hai, aur wo hamara hai.”
Ye abhi sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log pehankar dekhte hain, aur kuch paate hain ki chupchaap dohrane se purane sawaal ke liye thodi kam jagah bachti hai, khaaskar jamaave se theek pehle ke minuton mein.
Apne parivaar ke baare mein aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo sahi ho, aur jise har poochhne wale ki haami na chahiye ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “akela pad jayega” ko jawab, behas ya wajah nahi chahiye. Kuch baaton ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur phir rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise lambi shaam ke baad coat khoonti par taang diya jaye.
Ye taal dena nahi. Ye chunna hai ki dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain isse baaki din ke liye jagah bachti hai: bachche ki school ki kahani, Sunday ki sair, taash ki wo baazi jo zaroorat se lambi chali.
Aaj raat sawaal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya maamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki agle jamaave mein, ya uske baad wale mein, wo saath baithe rehne ke liye majboor nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shak ki pakad thodi dheeli pade #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki shak ek darja dheema ho gaya. Aapka parivaar ab bhi aapka hai, aur sawaal ab bhi bas sawaal hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina taiyaar line wala jamaava, bina nazar wala school gate, ya lunch ko dohraye bina guzri shaam.
Kisi ko kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, toh ek baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya ho sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi akela-bachcha wali line”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: akela kiski tulna mein, aur kahan se dekhkar?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubhta hai: sawaal, ya uske peeche ki ginti
- Akele mein yaad kijiye ki is hafte aapka bachcha kab khush tha
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne apne liye chahi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wahi chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne poochha ki aapka bachcha akela nahi padega, tab kya chal raha tha, aur wahan aur kaun tha?
- Aapke mann mein kya aaya jo aapne zor se nahi kaha?
- Jab aapka bachcha sabse sahaj hota hai, toh kaisa hota hai?
- Jis aam din shak zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar shak thoda halka ho, toh sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?