Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Anjaan log pal ko bina uske context ke dekhte hain: lambi subah, uske pehle ki der raat, paanch minute pehle ki baat.
Kuch maa-baap bade hote hue dukaanon aur bason mein “log dekh rahe hain” sunte the, aur yaad rakhte hain ki chhote qad se wo kaisa lagta tha.
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Log mujhe kaisa samajhte hain, usi se tay hota hai ki main kaisa maa-baap hoon,” ya “Sabke saamne theek na ho to gina nahi jaata.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Jitni jaldi ho sake dukaan ya bheed se nikal jaana
- Us anjaan ko samjhana jo pehle hi mud chuka hai
- Baaki din sabse chidchide bane rehna
- Jab bhi log aaspaas hon, unke liye paalna
- Raat ko us pal ko behtar jawab ke saath dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Rankala kinare ghaas par rona
Rankala talab ke paas park mein aapka chhota bachcha ghaas par zor-zor se ro raha hai. Aap ghutnon ke bal baithkar shaanti se intezaar karte ho. Paas se guzarti ek Kaki sir hilakar kehti hain: “Arre, aise paalte hain bachche ko?” Chehra jal uthta hai. Aap bachche ko uthakar tezi se ghar chal dete ho, aur baaki din maa-baap ke roop mein apne har faisle ko dohrate ho.
Sawaal utha to parvarish galat
Ye shabd aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se wahan hai: “Agar koi meri parvarish par sawaal uthaye, to parvarish mein kuch galat hai.” Ye saavdhaani aur humility jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: maa-baap ke taur par aapka bharosa har raahgeer ko thama deta hai. Kisi raahgeer ko itni taakat dena bahut hai. Aapki shaanti ab un anjaanon par tiki hai jo zindagi ke bas tees second dekhte hain.
Achha maa-baap hona kyun maayne rakhta
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki achha maa-baap hona bahut maayne rakhta hai. Shayad bachpan mein doosre maa-baap ko zor se parkha jaata suna. Shayad aap roz mehnat karte ho aur har tippani gehri lagti hai. Jo bhi ho, niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye bachche ke liye pyaar aur uske liye sahi karne ki chaahat se aata hai. Ise daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Anjaanon ke liye paalna
Aisi har tippani aapko khud par shak karna sikhati hai. Aap bachche ke liye nahi, dekhne walon ke liye paalne lagte ho. Park aur dukaanon se bachte ho. Raat ko us pal ko dohrate ho. Har saarvajanik jagah mein dekhe jaane ka ehsaas rehta hai, aur nazron se bachne ko bachche ko jaldi-jaldi chalane lagte ho. Dheere-dheere wo bharosa ghista hai jo maa-baap ko chahiye, aur wo shaanti kam hoti hai jo bachche ko aapse sabse zyada chahiye.
Kya anjaan ki raay itni keemti hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya kisi anjaan ki tippani ko khud par faisla sunane dene se aapki parvarish kabhi behtar hui? Ya zyadatar bas tanav badha? Anjaan ne tees second dekhe, aur shabd uske apne chune the. Ek tippani aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi. Parvarish lambi hai; wo pal chhota tha. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadne ki keemat iske faayde se zyada hai.
Anjaan ne bas tees second dekhe
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani jaayaz thi. Matlab ye ki aapka bharosa ab anjaanon par nahi tikta. Aap apne bachche ko aur uski dekhbhaal ko, roz-roz, jaante ho. Tees second kabhi poori kahani nahi batate. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aap bachche ke saath ghar ya bahar shaant reh sakte ho, aur tippani usi ke paas rehti hai jisne ki.
Being followed, threatened or frightened by anyone, or anyone at home hurting or threatening you, is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSawaal utha to meri parvarish mein kuch galat hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera bachcha meri samajh mein hai. Anjaan ne tees second dekhe.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj maa-baap ke roop mein jo achha kiya, uska naam lijiye
- Din 2
Public jagah par kada pal guzre to teen dheemi saansein lijiye
- Din 3
Aaj shaam bachche ke saath ek shaant pal ka maza lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi anjaan ne poochha ki bachche aise paale jaate hain, tab aap aur aapka bachcha kis beech mein the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek anjaan ka sawaal, sabke saamne #
Kolhapur mein Rankala talab ki paal par shaam ki bhel ke thele ke paas aapka bachcha zameen par lot-lotkar ro raha hai. Paas se guzarti ek Kaki rukkar kehti hain: “Arre, aise paalte hain bachche ko?” Aur aage badh jaati hain.
Kuch second ki saarvajanik shaam ko wo barson ki parvarish par faisla bana deti hain, aur aise insaan se jise un barson ki koi khabar nahi. Sawaal jawab ka intezaar nahi karta, aur phir bhi jawab maangta-sa lagta hai.
Aakhri baar jab kisi anjaan ne sabke saamne poochha “aise paalte hain bachche ko?”, tab aap kahan the, aur aapke bachche ke saath kya ho raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab poori bheed mudti-si lage #
Kuch maa-baap ko gardan tak garmi chadhti lagti hai, aur lagta hai poori bheed mudkar dekh rahi hai. Kuch bachche se kahi baat ka sira kho dete hain. Kuch teekha jawab de dete hain aur shaam bhar use dohrate hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, kisi ko safai ki zaroorat nahi.
Sabke saamne anjaan se parkhe jaana bahut tezi se lagta hai, sochne se pehle, kyunki darshak sab ek saath lagte hain aur unmein se kisi ko jaancha nahi ja sakta. Shaant jawab aamtaur par baad mein aata hai, bus stop par ya bistar mein.
Us anjaan ke sawaal ke baad ke seconds mein aapki bachche ke saath chal rahi baatcheet ka kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kuch second, poori parvarish par faisla #
“Lagta hai mushkil pal hai” ek pal ke baare mein hota. “Aise paalte hain bachche ko” usse aage jaakar poori parvarish par bol deta hai, jaise ek saarvajanik minute un saare andekhe dinon ka namoona ho.
Anjaan log pal ko bina uske context ke dekhte hain: lambi subah, uske pehle ki der raat, paanch minute pehle ki baat. Isliye sawaal ek aise din par girta hai jo tha hi nahi, aur maa-baap phir bhi usi ka bachav karne lagte hain.
Us saarvajanik pal se pehle ke ghante mein kya hua tha, wo hissa jo koi anjaan dekh hi nahi sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab bheed sir ke andar aa jaye #
Ek baar bhi suna ho to ye andar bas sakta hai. “Log dekh rahe hain.” “Wo Kaki kya sochengi?” “Sabke saamne tamasha mat banne do.” Kabhi-kabhi awaaz ghar se nikalne se pehle, lift mein ya dukaan ke darwaze par shuru ho jaati hai.
Anjaan chala gaya, par ab dekhna andar hota hai, har line mein, har waiting room mein. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz jaisi lagti hai, ye ek raahgeer ke vaakya se zyada samajhdaari lagti hai, jise us jagah se kahin door le aaya gaya jahan wo kaha gaya tha.
Bachche ke saath bahar nikalne par aap kiski nazrein sochte ho, aur wo nazrein kitni paas lagti hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch maa-baap ke liye dekhe jaane ka ek itihaas hai #
Kuch maa-baap bade hote hue dukaanon aur bason mein “log dekh rahe hain” sunte the, aur yaad rakhte hain ki chhote qad se wo kaisa lagta tha. Bade hokar kisi anjaan ka sawaal poori gali ki nazar ka ehsaas lauta sakta hai.
Kuch log chubhan ko un barson se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se, un logon se parkhe jaana jo dobara kabhi nahi dikhte, phir bhi bhaari pad sakta hai, shayad isliye ki unhein baaki tasveer dikhane ka koi tareeka nahi.
Bachpan mein jab saarvajanik jagah par log dekh rahe hote the, to aaspaas ke bade kya karte the, aur aapko kya yaad hai ki kaisa lagta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Dekhe jaane ke baare mein ek chup niyam #
Neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Log mujhe kaisa samajhte hain, usi se tay hota hai ki main kaisa maa-baap hoon,” ya “Sabke saamne theek na ho to gina nahi jaata.” Kuch maa-baap narm roop dhote hain: “Dekhne wale sab dekh lete hain ki mujhse kya galat ho raha hai.”
Aisi maanyataein maanyata jaisi lagti nahi. Wo doosron ke prati aam sajagta jaisi lagti hain, jaise lift mein awaaz dheemi rakhna tehzeeb hai. Isiliye inhein bheed se door, dheere-dheere dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se dekha ja sakta hai.
“Dekhne wale sab dekh lete hain ki mujhse kya galat ho raha hai” kin kamron mein ab bhi fit hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Bheed ke liye paalne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai chhoti ki gayi sair, bachayi gayi qataarein, bheed dekhkar baad ki bus lena, aur bahar aisa lehja jo ghar mein kabhi nahi bola jaata. Kuch maa-baap ajnabiyon ki nazron ke hisaab se safar tay karne lagte hain, iska pata chalne se bahut pehle.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Dikhawe ke saath paalna thakata hai, aur anjaan ka sawaal ghar tak aakar aam dopaharon mein bhi baitha rehta hai. Ek saal mein iska matlab kai aisi sair ho sakti hain jo bachche ke saath se zyada manch par hone jaisi lagi.
Pichhle saal bachche ke saath kaun si sair isliye chhoti, chup ya saavdhaan rahi ki bheed mein aapne nazrein soch li?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, darshakon ke liye sair #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “dekhne wale sab dekh lete hain ki mujhse kya galat ho raha hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, kuch theek karne ki nahi.
Shayad sabse sunsaan ghadi mein dukaan jaana, park isliye chunna ki khaali hai, bas isliye chhodna ki bhari dikhi, bahar dheemi awaaz aur ghar mein hi sahaj. Kuch fit hoga, kuch nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein band kar sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: kaam nipatana, sair, qataarein, chhoti ki gayi bahar ki ghadiyan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch, to aapki nazar kis par rukti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek anjaan kitna dekh sakta hai? #
Anjaan kuch second dekhta hai, bheed ki ek daraar se, aage-peeche ki awaaz ke bina. Use bachcha, din, plan ya wajah pata nahi. Jo bhi usne dekha samjha, wo bahut thode par bana andaaza hai.
Wahi chand second kisi aise ke liye jo khud wahan se guzra ho, bilkul aam dikh sakte hain: lamba din, chhota-sa insaan, bhari hui jagah. Andaaza is par tikta hai ki dekhne wala kaun hai aur kitni door se.
Agar aap kisi aur maa-baap ko usi pal mein, usi jagah dekh rahe hote, to unke din ke baare mein kya andaaza lagate?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Phir se dekhne par kuch maa-baap ko kya dikhta hai #
Us saarvajanik pal ko dheere se dohrane par kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki wo kitna aam tha: ek chhota insaan, ek thaka hua din, bheed.
Kuch aise anjaanon ko dekhte hain jinhone kuch alag kiya: jisne darwaza thaama, jis maa-baap ne aankh milakar halka-sa sir hilaya, jis dukaandaar ne aise chalaya jaise kuch hua hi nahi. Kai baar wo log bhi wahin the, bas dheeme.
Poori parvarish ke sawaal ke paas rakhkar, us pal ka dheema replay kya dikhata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us saarvajanik jagah mein sawaal poochne wale ke siwa aur kaun aapko yaad hai, aur wo kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Ja chuke insaan ko jawab dene ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab kisi anjaan se sehmat hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki saarvajanik sawaal chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki kuch second aur ek guzarti awaaz agli sair, aur bheed mein bachche ke saath hone ke ehsaas par kam chale.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab wo mann mein us anjaan ko jawab dena chhod dete hain. Anjaan sun nahi sakta, dobara milta nahi, aur rehearsal use har bus aur har qataar mein bithaye rakhti hai. Uska sawaal ek vaakya tha; aapki shaam usse kahin lambi.
Kaisa lagega agar sawaal ko usi paal par ya usi bhel ke thele par chhod dein jahan poochha gaya tha, aur bas apni shaam saath ghar le jayein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Bheed-bhaad wali jagahon ke liye ek sachchi line #
Agar “sabne mujhse galti hote dekhi” us din se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap iske bajaye aisi line rakhte hain: “Ek anjaan ne second dekhe. Din mujhe pata hai.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki paas rakhne par ye anjaan ke sawaal se ghiri thodi jagah wapas le leti hai, khaaskar bheed wali sair par.
Us saarvajanik pal ke baare mein aapki apni sachchi line kya hogi, jo sahi ho aur jise bheed mein kisi ki sehmati na chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bench par chhodi ja sakti hain #
Har anjaan ke sawaal ko jawab, palatwaar ya agli sair ke behtar plan ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise bhaari bag talab ki paal par bench par utaar diya jaye.
Ye haar nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki dhyan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain isse sair ka apna hissa khulta hai: paani par battakhein, bhel ka swaad, ghar tak paidal lautte haath mein chhota haath.
Shaam bhar ke liye sawaal neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use ghar saath nahi chalna hai, na agli sair par.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar dekhe jaane ka ehsaas thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki dekhe jaane ka ehsaas ek darja dheema hai. Anjaan ab bhi anjaan hain, aur bheed bas bheed.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bhari hui bus bina dobara soche lena, jhoole par zyada der rukna, ya qataar mein jahan dhyan bachche par hi rahe.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota, aur gaur karne laayak. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Bachche ke saath bahar nikalne par sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sabse pehle kaun si chhoti cheez aapki hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir us anjaan ka sawaal”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: usne asal mein kitne second dekhe?
- Gaur kijiye ab kya zyada zor se hai: sawaal, ya aaspaas ki bheed
- Ek aise doosre maa-baap ko yaad kijiye jo poochne ki jagah sir hilata
- Aaj ki sair mein ek chhoti cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi
Har ek chhota, nijee aur apni marzi ka hai. Aaj jo jache, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi anjaan ne poochha ki bachche aise paale jaate hain, tab aap aur aapka bachcha kis beech mein the?
- Sawaal ke baad wale second mein aapko kya laga ki poori bheed soch rahi hai?
- Ghar lautte hue aapne mann mein us anjaan ko kaun sa jawab diya?
- Jis aam din dekhe jaane ka ehsaas zor se ho, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ye ehsaas thoda halka ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?