Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wo raay ki jagah sharir ko hi problem bana deta hai.
Bahut gharon mein is par chupchaap niyam the ki ladki, ladka, bahu, dulhan, bhare badan ya duble ya lambe insaan ko kya pehenna chahiye.
Kuch logon ko ek line baithti sunaayi deti hai: “Mera sharir tay karta hai ki kya pehenna theek hai,” ya “Mujhe doosron ki suhooliyat ke hisaab se pehenna chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Use wapas rakhkar kuch “safe” utha lena
- Ghar le aana, aur almari ke peeche daal dena
- Pehen lena, aur poori shaam use theek karte rehna
- Hanskar keh dena “haan, sahi baat hai”
- Aaine ke liye nahi, aunty ke liye taiyaar hona
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Hanger par chhodi hui dress
Cousin ki shaadi se pehle Bengaluru mein shopping, Commercial Street. Aap trial room se ek aisi dress mein bahar aate ho jo aapko bahut pasand hai, aur mummy maathe par bal daalkar kehti hain: “Rehne do, apni figure dekhkar pehno.” Sales wali nazar pher leti hai. Aap hanskar “sahi baat hai” kehte ho aur dress taang dete ho. Auto mein lautte hue aap usi ke baare mein sochte rehte ho.
Sharir jo tay kare pehenna
Wo shabd ek aise niyam par girte hain jo shayad pehle se hai: “Mera sharir tay karta hai ki kya pehenna theek hai.” Ye achhe saleeke jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aaina dhoondhne se pehle hi aapko dekhne walon ke hisaab se taiyaar kara deta hai. Pehenna is par tik jaata hai ki koi kya kahega, aur almari ijaazat wali cheezon ki list ban jaati hai.
Dukaan ki baat kyun chipakti hai
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki choice ke pal par sharir par ki gayi tippani rangey haath pakde jaane jaisi lagti hai. Safe cheez uthana usse aage rehne jaisa lagta hai. Shayad niyam aise ghar se aaya jo aapko ghurti nazron se bachana chahta tha. Niyam bewakoofi nahi hai. Wo apnaaye jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Use narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Peeche padi sabse sundar cheez
Har aisi tippani almari mein kuch chhod jaati hai. Aap safe kurta chunte ho. Garmi mein bhi cardigan pehente ho. Sabse sundar cheez tag lagi peeche padi rehti hai. Dheere-dheere aaine ke saamne taiyaar hona us bheed se molbhaav ban jaata hai jo wahan hai bhi nahi, aur kuch pehenkar achha lagne ki seedhi-si khushi kam hoti jaati hai.
Kya doosron ke liye taiyaar hona theek?
Khud se sachchai se poochhiye: is niyam ko pakde rakhne se kya kabhi kisi kamre mein aap zyada apne jaise lage? Ya zyadatar chhote? Dukaan ki tippani ek insaan ki pasand hai, ek din ki, aapke sharir par faisla nahi. Kehne wala hi jaanta hai kyun kaha. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapke sukoon ki keemat ke laayak hai?
Ek almari jo aapki hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani theek thi, ya aapko kuch khaas pehenna hi hai. Matlab ye ki aapka sharir ab aisi problem nahi jise kapdon ko hal karna hai. Aap apni pasand ka chun sakte ho, apne waqt par. Wahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: vaakya dukaan mein kehne wale ke paas rehta hai, aur aapki almari aapki banti hai.
Being mocked about your body again and again, pressured, threatened or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; someone you trust can help you work out what to do.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMera sharir tay karta hai ki kya pehenna theek hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleFitting kapde ki baat hai. Pasand chunna mera haq hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Almari mein ek aisi cheez dekhiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Kadam 2
Tippani dohraye to mez par haath rakhkar saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Aaj ek aisa pal notice kijiye jab pehenkar sahaj laga
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki ye nahi jachega, tab aap kahan the aur kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Aasteen, gale aur rang par faisla #
Trial room ke parde ke bahar se mummy: “Rehne do, apni figure dekhkar pehno.” Shaadi mein lehenga dekh rahi aunty: “Ye tum par nahi jachega.” Dukaan ke sheeshe ke paas koi dost, darwaze par koi sasuraal wala, casual Friday par koi colleague. Ek kurta, ek shirt, ek jeans, aur ek vaakya jo faisla suna deta hai.
Aksar ise salah ki tarah kaha jaata hai, jaise style ka thoda gyaan baanta ja raha ho. Par iska matlab nikalta hai ki kuch shareeron ko kuch kapdon ki ijaazat hai aur kuch ko nahi, aur kisi aur ne pehle hi jaanch liya ki ye wala kis taraf aata hai.
Ye aakhri baar kahan suna, ya isse milta-julta kuch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wahan kaun tha, aur kapda kaun-sa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Hanger zara der tak haath mein #
Kuch log batate hain ki unhone use jhat se wapas taang diya, hanskar: “Sahi baat hai.” Kuch ko sheeshe mein chehra garam lagta hai. Kuch use le lete hain, kuch nahi kehte, aur phir kabhi pehente nahi.
Kapdon par tippani, kapdon mein khade hokar suni jaaye, to ek second mein sharir mein darj ho jaati hai, sochne se pehle. Jo cheez abhi tak theek lag rahi thi wo alag lagne lagti hai, aur sheesha bhi jaise doosra sheesha ho jaata hai.
Uske baad ke seconds mein aapne us kapde ka kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sheesha tab kaisa dikh raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Pasand ko faisla bana deta hai #
Kapde khud ko dikhane ke sabse nijee tareekon mein se hain. Jo vaakya bataye ki aap kya nahi pehen sakte, wo dikhne se zyada kehta hai: ki aapka sharir kaisa dikhna chahiye, aur ki choice poori tarah aapka nahi.
Wo raay ki jagah sharir ko hi problem bana deta hai. Dress theek hai, din theek hai, aap theek ho, jab tak koi “apni figure dekhkar” nahi kehta. Phir ek sharir hai jise sambhalna hai aur parhez ki ek list hai.
Jab wo vaakya kaha gaya, to aapne jo chuna tha uske baare mein usne aapko kya mehsoos karaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle usme aapko kya pasand aaya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab faisla almari tak pahunch jaye #
Wo almari ke saamne apne aap khada ho sakta hai: “Ye wala nahi.” “Mere badan par nahi jachega.” “Chaar log dekhenge.” Ye taiyaar hote waqt shuru ho sakta hai, ya usse bhi pehle, dukaan ki khidki mein kuch achha dekhkar.
Vaakya ek baar, ek dukaan mein kaha gaya tha, aur chai tak bhool bhi gaya hoga. Par wo har aaine ke saamne baitha ek chup salahkaar ban sakta hai, aur kyunki wo aapki apni pasand jaisa sunaayi deta hai, wo kisi ki tippani nahi, apna style lagta hai.
Wo kiski awaaz mein bolta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya kisi khaas dukaan mein kisi khaas insaan se uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch gharon mein ye faisla kaise bana #
Bahut gharon mein is par chupchaap niyam the ki ladki, ladka, bahu, dulhan, bhare badan ya duble ya lambe insaan ko kya pehenna chahiye. Bade aksar bachana chahte hain: ghurti nazron se, taane se, baatein banne se.
Isse sunne wale ke liye baat halki nahi ho jaati. Jo bachcha saalon “apni figure dekhkar” sunta hai, wo mehsoos karne lag sakta hai ki uska sharir kapdon ke liye problem hai, kapde sharir ke liye nahi.
Pehli baar kab suna ki kuch kapde aapke liye nahi hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kaha, aur uske baad us kapde ka kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sharir kya pehen sakta hai, iska niyam #
Kuch logon ko ek line baithti sunaayi deti hai: “Mera sharir tay karta hai ki kya pehenna theek hai,” ya “Mujhe doosron ki suhooliyat ke hisaab se pehenna chahiye.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagta hai pasand ka saleeka hai, jaise boondabaandi mein raincoat pehen lena samajhdaari lagti hai. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Aise niyam ko kisi tippani ke chhode hue nishaan ki tarah dekha ja sakta hai, tathya ki tarah nahi.
Kya aisi line fit hoti hai, ya thodi-bahut, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin jagahon mein ye fit baithta hai, aur kinme nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Almari chupchaap kya sambhal leti hai #
Ye shaadiyon, ghoomne jaane, photos, ek aam Friday, kuch pehenkar achha lagne ki chhoti khushiyon tak pahunch sakta hai. Kuch logon ki almari safe cheezon se bhar jaati hai, aur peeche kuch cheezein tag lagi padi rehti hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab dhyaan ka ek hissa is par rehta hai ki kapda sharir ke baare mein kya kahega, tab mauke, logon aur din ke liye kam bachta hai. Kapda pehena ja sakta hai aur poora enjoy nahi.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Dekhne walon ke hisaab se taiyaar hona mehnat maangta hai.
Pichhle saal isne kya liya, agar kuch: koi outfit, ghoomna, photo, ya thodi sahajta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam mangalwar, niyam zor se bolta hua #
Ek aam mangalwar ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “mera sharir tay karta hai ki kya pehenna theek hai” zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad wahi grey kurta phir se, dupatta ya shawl kandhon par kaskar, pasandida cheez aaj bhi hanger par kisi aur din ke liye. Kuch jaana-pehchana lag sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ka koi sahi ya galat roop nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakh sakte hain.
Usme kya hai: almari, aaina, do baar badla hua outfit?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Fitting kapde ki baat hai, qadr ki nahi #
Kapda theek baithta hai ya nahi, ye cut, fabric aur silai ka sawaal hai. “Apni figure dekhkar” use kapde se insaan par le jaata hai, aur darzi ki baat qadr ki baat ban jaati hai. Ye do bahut alag sawaal hain.
Pasand badalti bhi rehti hai. Jise ek aunty bekaar kehti hain, doosri pyaara kehti hai, aur kuch saal baad wahi design har showroom ki khidki mein hota hai. Faisla pakka sunaayi deta hai, par zyadatar wo ek din ek insaan ki nazar hai.
Agar koi kareebi dost wahi kapda uthaye aur use yahi sunna pade, to ghar lautte waqt usse aap kya kehna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheere dohrane par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log dukaan wala pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to gaur karte hain ki sales wali kuch nahi boli, dost ne bas sir hilaya, aur vaakya feeka padte hi sheesha phir aam lagne laga. Kamra kai baar uske peeche utna nahi tha jitna laga.
Kuch ko wo waqt aur jagahein dikhti hain jahan kapdon par baat kabhi hui hi nahi: dost jo bas kehta hai “achha hai”, aaram wale kapdon ka din, koi tyohaar jab sabne apni pasand ka pehena. Wo pal hamesha se the.
Inme se pehle kaun yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab aapne kya pehena tha, aur din kaisa laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Kapde ki behas jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab vaakya se sehmat hona nahi, na ye tay karna ki kehne wale ka irada bura tha. Matlab bas itna ki wo tippani almari, aaine aur din ke baaki hisse par kam chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo mann mein us tippani se behas karna chhod dete hain. Wo behas kabhi khatam nahi hoti, aur har dukaan, har almari ke beech ek hi insaan ki nazar bithaye rakhti hai.
Kapde pehenna kaisa lagega agar wo vaakya usi ke paas rahe jisne kaha, ek dukaan mein ek din ki ek raay ki tarah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar wo tippani barson se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ki pasand thi. Mere sharir ka niyam nahi.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas pehenkar dekhne ki line hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki almari ke saamne dheere se kehne par ye us purani tippani ki bhari hui jagah mein se thodi le leti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo hui baat ke baare mein sahi ho aur jise sahi maanne ke liye us dukaan mein khade kisi insaan ki zaroorat na pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baat hanger par hi rehne di jaye #
Har tippani ko jawab, safai ya agli dukaan ki planning nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur hanger par chhoda ja sakta hai, jab kapda wapas rakha jaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse us mauke, un logon aur us din ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jiske liye ye outfit tha.
Tippani ko hanger par chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki use agle aaine ya kal ki subah tak peeche-peeche aana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara dheela ho jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema hua. Almari bas almari hai, usme wo cheezein hain jo kisi ko bas pasand hain.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ek baar mein taiyaar ho jaana, pasandida cheez ko peeche wale hanger se nikal lena, aaine mein ek nazar jisme koi faisla nahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai, kitna bhi chhota ho. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, chaahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka pehla chhota nishaan kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi figure wali baat”
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun-sa hissa zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya kehne ka lehja
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye taiyaari abhi kiske liye hai?
- Almari mein ek aisi cheez dekhiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Aaj pehenne ka mann tha aisi ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki ye nahi jachega, tab aap kahan the aur kaun tha?
- Kaun-sa hissa sabse zyada ruka: shabd, lehja, ya kapde ka kya hua?
- Us vaakya se pehle usme aapko kya pasand aaya tha?
- Jis din wo tippani almari par dohrayi jaye, aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar niyam thoda halka ho, taiyaar hote waqt sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?