Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Isse ye bhi ishara milta hai ki kuch chaahne ka bhi sahi-galat tareeka hai.
Bahut se logon ke liye khate waqt dekha jaana jaldi shuru hua: koi rishtedaar rotiyan ginta hua, koi bada kehta hua “Bas, bahut hua,” koi padosi doosri baar maangne ko note karta hua.
Kuch logon mein ek line baith jaati hai: “Khush hone ke liye bhi mujhe ijaazat chahiye,” ya “Mere khane ki ginti sab rakhte hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chammach rakh dena aur kehna ki bas, ho gaya
- Phir bhi kha lena, apne upar “petu” wala mazaak karke
- Us ek insaan ke aas-paas chhoti matra lena
- Chidhna, phir chidhne par hi apradh-bodh karna
- Agli table par har thali par gaur karna, apni wali par bhi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Patte par doosri puran poli
Nellore mein Sankranti ka lunch, bhare ghar mein. Patte par aap doosri puran poli ki taraf haath badhate hain aur Bua bhauhein uthakar kehti hain: “Arre, ye bhi khana hai?” Unki beti muskurati hai, ek cousin aapki thali dekhta hai. Aap chammach rakhkar hanste ho aur kehte ho, “Bas, bas.” Mithai patte par padi rehti hai, aur saath mein ye ehsaas ki sabne aapko kuch chaahte hue dekh liya.
Khush hone ki ijaazat chahiye
Wo pal ek aise niyam par girta hai jo shayad pehle se tha: “Khush hone ke liye bhi mujhe ijaazat chahiye.” Ye sanyam jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: thali ko exam aur har pangat ko kachehri bana deta hai, rishtedaar jury. Mamuli nashta bhi saboot lagne lagta hai, aur aap har niwale se pehle kamra dekhne lagte ho.
Thali exam kyun lagti hai
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki khate waqt dekha jaana bahut khula hua lagta hai, aur khud ko pehle jaanch lena usse aage rehne jaisa. Shayad ye bachpan ki kisi table se shuru hua, jahan rishtedaar pyaar mein rotiyan ginte the. Niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye bina judgement ke table par apna hone ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Niwale se pehle kamra dekhna
Aisi har tippani table ko thoda aur bhaari karti hai. Aap niwale se pehle poore kamre par nazar daalte ho. Kisi ke poochhe bina apni thali samjhate ho. Logon ke beech kam lete ho, aur ghanton tak uske baare mein sochte ho. Dheere-dheere tyohar, parties aur canteen ke lunch sambhalne ki cheezein ban jaate hain, aur swaad, baatcheet aur saath peeche chale jaate hain.
Kya ye jaanch aapke sukoon layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya is niyam se kabhi koi khana zyada achha laga? Ya zyadatar ye bas khud ko khate hue dekhta raha? Thali par ek tippani ek insaan ka ek pal ka khayal hai, aapki zindagi ka niyam nahi. Aur unhone kyun kaha, ye wahi jaante hain. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapke sukoon ki keemat ke layak hai?
Ek thali jo bas thali hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani pyaari thi, ya ki chubhi nahi, ye dikhana hai. Matlab ye ki thali bas thali ho sakti hai. Kisi swaad, tyohar ya dosto ke saath lunch ka maza lene ke liye ijaazat nahi chahiye. Wahin kuch chain lautta hai: bhauhein usi ke paas rehti hai jisne uthayi, aur khana aapka rehta hai.
Being mocked about your body again and again, pressured, threatened or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; someone you trust can help you work out what to do.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleKhush hone ke liye mujhe ijaazat chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleThali bas thali hai. Khane ka maza lena mera haq hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte ek khane mein ek pasand ka swaad gaur se lijiye
- Kadam 2
Jab tippani dobara chale, ek haath table par rakhkar saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Ek aisi table yaad kijiye jahan khana bas khana hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab aapne wo tippani suni, aap kahan the, aur kaun dekh raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Thali par uthi ek bhauhein #
Nellore mein Sankranti ka khana. Pangat baithi hai, kele ke patte bichhe hain, aur Bua parosate hue aapka haath doosre laddoo ki taraf jaata dekhti hain: “Arre, ye bhi khana hai?” Canteen mein koi: “Pakka lena hai?” Party mein cousin: “Bas ek hi laddoo, theek hai?” Kabhi bas bhauhein, tray par tiki nazar.
Ye fikr ya mazaak ki tarah kaha jaata hai. Par ye thali ko saboot aur ek niwale ko aisi cheez bana deta hai jiski ijaazat chahiye, aur pangat mein baitha har koi jury.
Aakhri baar ye kahan suna, ya wo nazar kahan dekhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun dekh raha tha, aur us pal aapki thali mein kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek niwala jo achanak zor se lage #
Kuch logon ka haath beech hawa mein ruk jaata hai, chammach rakh di jaati hai, ya khud par “Bada petu hoon” jaisa mazaak nikal jaata hai. Koi zid mein khata chala jaata hai, koi thali sarka deta hai, aur koi baaki khana ek-ek chhote niwale mein khatam karta hai.
Khate waqt dekhe jaane ka ehsaas ek second mein darj ho jaata hai, sochne se pehle. Ek seedhi si khushi aisi cheez ban jaati hai jiski safai deni pade, aur sochna baad mein aata hai: lautte waqt, ya agli baar jab khana lage.
Uske baad ke secondon mein aapke haathon aur chehre ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Swaad ka kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Nijee baat ko sabke saamne rakh deta hai #
Khana sabse aam cheezon mein hai, aur sabse nijee mein bhi. Thali mein kya hai is par tippani use sabka masla bana deti hai, aur pangat ka har aadmi us baat ka judge ban jaata hai jo kisi aur ka mamla tha hi nahi.
Isse ye bhi ishara milta hai ki kuch chaahne ka bhi sahi-galat tareeka hai. Mann ka laddoo, pasandida mithai, tyohar ki khaas cheez, mushkil din ka nashta, sab par chupke se muhar lag jaati hai, aur sharm khane ki nahi, chaahne ki hoti hai.
Us tippani ne aapko us cheez ko chaahne ke baare mein kya mehsoos karaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usi thali ke saath, agar koi na dekh raha hota, to kaisa lagta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab bhauhein rasoi tak peecha kare #
Raat ko khaali kitchen mein bhi ye chalta reh sakta hai: “Loon kya?” “Koi dekh raha hai?” “Kya kahenge?” Kabhi niwala uthne se pehle hi bolne lagta hai, ghar mein bhi, jab aas-paas koi nahi.
Tippani ek table par hui thi, aur kehne wala mithai aane tak bhool bhi gaya hoga. Par chunki awaaz apni hi soch jaisi lagti hai, ye kisi khaas dopahar ki bachi hui baat nahi, seedhe-seedhe sanyam lagti hai.
Ye kiski awaaz mein bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas table par, kisi khaas insaan se uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Thali par nazar kaise aayi #
Bahut se logon ke liye khate waqt dekha jaana jaldi shuru hua: koi rishtedaar rotiyan ginta hua, koi bada kehta hua “Bas, bahut hua,” koi padosi doosri baar maangne ko note karta hua. Maqsad aksar khayal rakhna hota hai, aur pahunchta aksar niyam ki tarah hai.
Saalon mein bachcha ye dhaarna utha sakta hai ki khana naapne aur manzoor karwane ki cheez hai. Byore har ghar mein alag hain, aur bachche se kam hi poocha jaata hai ki use is par kya lagta hai.
Pehli baar kab dikha ki aap kya khaate hain, is par log bolte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun tha, aur aapne khane ki table par kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ijaazat wala ek niyam #
Kuch logon mein ek line baith jaati hai: “Khush hone ke liye bhi mujhe ijaazat chahiye,” ya “Mere khane ki ginti sab rakhte hain.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo samajhdaari jaise lagte hain, jaise raat ko darwaza band karna. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhar nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Is niyam ko aisi cheez ki tarah dekha ja sakta hai jo kisi tippani ne peeche chhodi, koi tathya nahi.
Kya aisi koi line aapko fit baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin tablon par ye fit baithta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ginti ki chupchaap keemat #
Ye tyoharon, parties, ghar ke lunch aur office ki canteen ko chhoo sakta hai, un jagahon ko jahan khana saath hone ka hissa hai. Kuch log kisi ke kuch kahe bina hi table par kam maza lene lagte hain, ya wahan jaate hi nahi.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab dhyaan ka ek hissa dekhe jaane par rehta hai, to swaad, saath aur baatcheet ke liye kam bachta hai. Ek khana haazir rehkar bhi poori tarah jiya nahi jaata.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Thali ki rakhwali mein asli mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein isne kya le liya, agar kuch: koi tyohar, koi lunch, koi mithai, thoda sukoon?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab niyam zor se bole #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Khush hone ke liye bhi ijaazat chahiye” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad kisi colleague ki desk par thukrayi gayi chai, bina khola aage badha diya gaya mithai ka dabba, chammach uthane se pehle kamre par ek nazar. Kuch jaana-pehchana lag sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ka koi sahi-galat roop nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein kinare rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: lunch, nashta, niwale se pehle kamre par ek nazar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Thali report card nahi hai #
Ek thali par ek tippani ek insaan ka ek pal ka khayal hai. Ye poori zindagi ka faisla nahi, aur khane wale ne kya kiya, kiski parwah ki, ya kya chahiye, is baare mein kam hi kehti hai. Khane ke baare mein bhi zyada nahi kehti.
Table par zyadatar log apni thali aur apni baaton mein lage hote hain. Wo bhauhein kai baar kisi aur baat ki bhi ho sakti hai, jo sabse paas wale par nikal aayi. Isse chubhan chhoti nahi hoti. Bas uske bagal mein rehti hai.
Agar koi kareebi dost ye pal sunata, ek haath mein laddoo aur doosre mein Bua ki bhauhein ke saath, to lautte waqt aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheemi replay mein logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to dekhte hain ki kitna kam waqt laga: ek vaakya, ek nazar, aur Bua agli katori ki taraf badh gayin. Pangat aksar utni uske saath nahi thi jitni lagi thi.
Kuch ko wo tablen dikhti hain jahan kisi ki thali par koi kuch nahi kehta: ek dost jo bina bole katori badha deta hai, ek colleague jo wahi cheez khata hai, ek cousin jo sab chat karke hansta hai. Wo tablen hamesha se thin.
Sabse pehle kaun si table yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wahan baithna kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Thali ki safai dena zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab tippani se sahmat hona nahi, na ye waada karna ki ab alag khayenge. Matlab ye ki ek niwale, tyohar ya baaki shaam par us tippani ka kam chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo apni thali kisi ko samjhana chhod dete hain. Us safai ka koi ant nahi, aur ye ek insaan ki bhauhein ko har table par sabse aage bithaye rakhti hai.
Agla khana kaisa hoga agar tippani usi insaan ke paas reh jaaye jisne ki, ek din ki ek table par kahi gayi baat bankar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar wo tippani saalon se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe behes ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Thali bas thali hai. Ye koi exam nahi jo mujhe pass karna hai.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki baithne se pehle chupchaap kehne par purani tippani ki thodi jagah bhar jaati hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo hua uske baare mein sahi ho, aur jise table par kisi ke haan kehne ki zaroorat na pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein joothe patton ke saath chhoot sakti hain #
Har tippani ko jawab, safai ya agle khane ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur khaali steel ki thaliyon aur bachi hui sabzi ke saath wahin chhoda ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse swaad, kisson aur un logon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinke saath khana aasaan lagta hai.
Tippani ko joothe patton ke saath chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki use agle niwale ya aaj raat tak saath nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Thali bas thali rehti hai, aur uske saamne ek insaan jise kuch pasand hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bina idhar-udhar dekhe pehla niwala, tyohar ka lunch jismein khana din ka ek hissa bhar hai, ek table jahan koi kisi ki thali par kuch nahi kehta.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ho. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, zara sa hi sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka pehla chhota nishaan kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi thali wali baat”
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada zor se kya laga: shabd, ya bhauhein
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: ye nazar kiske liye hai?
- Ek aisi table yaad kijiye jahan khana bas khana hai
- Aaj ka ek swaad yaad kijiye jo achha laga, chahe kitna bhi chhota
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab aapne wo tippani suni, aap kahan the, aur kaun dekh raha tha?
- Kaun sa hissa sabse der tak raha: shabd, bhauhein, ya table ki khamoshi?
- Us khane ko chaahne ke baare mein tippani ne aapko kya mehsoos karaya?
- Jis din tippani baar-baar chale, us pal aas-paas kya hota hai?
- Agar niyam thoda dheela ho, to agli table par sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?