Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Shakl par kahi baatein kabhi-kabhi barson tak lagbhag shabdasah yaad rehti hain.
Kuch logon ke liye aisa naam school ya cousins mein barson pehle de diya gaya, aur itni baar liya gaya ki tippani lagna band ho gaya aur bas wahi naam ban gaya jo log unhein bulate the.
Kuch logon ke bheetar aisi line baithti hai: “Log mujhse pehle mera aakaar dekhte hain,” ya “Yahan tikne ke liye saath mein hansna padta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Sabse zor se hans dena, taaki koi samajh na paye ki lagi
- Doosre mazaak banayein, usse pehle khud par mazaak kar dena
- Baat badal dena, aur ummeed karna ki wapas na aaye
- Baad mein chidh aana, aur sochna ki chidhna theek bhi hai ya nahi
- Kuch na kehna, aur lautte waqt dohrate rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Thaali mein dher rotiyan
Vellore mein Mausi ke ghar Sunday ka khaana. Mausi aapki thaali mein rotiyan rakhti hain aur kehti hain, “Seenk hai seenk, kuch kha to lo!” Sab aapko dekhne lagte hain. Aap hanskar baat badal dete ho. Poori shaam aapko table par dekhe jaane ka ehsaas rehta hai, aise logon se jinki neeyat shayad achhi hai par jo aapko kisi masle jaisa mehsoos karate hain. Aap thaali saaf kar dete ho taaki nazrein hatein, phir mithai ka swaad bamushkil aata hai.
Body sabki raay par khara
Seedhi baat: body par tippaniyan, pyaar se kahi hon tab bhi, tab theek nahi jab aapko dekhe jaane jaisa lage, aur ye aapki qadr ke baare mein kuch nahi kehtin. Par inse ek niyam ug sakta hai jo aapka ho jaata hai: “Mere sharir ko sabki raay par khara utarna hai.” Ye aam lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: khaana aur mehfilein jaanch jaisi lagne lagti hain.
Body par baatein saath kyun rehti hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki body par tippaniyan aksar unhi se aati hain jinhein hum chahte hain. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein hai. Shayad ghar mein khaane aur body par bahut baat hoti thi. Shayad aap bas chain se rehna chahte hain. Jo bhi ho, sahaj rehna chahna nakhra nahi. Ye apnapan chahne se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har tippani jodta tanaav
Aisi har tippani thoda tanaav jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Khaane par dekhe jaane ka ehsaas rehta hai. Paarivarik khaane se katrane lagte ho. Lautte hue baatein dohrate ho. Saath baithkar khaane ki garmjoshi mein parakhe jaane ki chubhan mil jaati hai, aur jo mehfilein aasaan ho sakti thin, wo bhaari lagne lagti hain.
Kya sabko khush rakhna zaroori hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi khaana aasaan laga? Ya zyadatar tanaav bhara raha? Kisi body par logon ki raay bas raay hoti hai. Chahein to ek pal iske saath rukiye. Narmi se, bina dosh ke poochhna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna jitna maangta hai, kya utna milta bhi hai?
Saath ka maza lijiye
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippaniyan theek thin. Matlab ye hai ki aapki body par doosron ki raay ab tay nahi karti ki aap table par kaisa mehsoos karein. Aap saath ke liye wahan ho sakte ho. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona bhi nahi chahiye. Chhote se, ek pal se shuru ho sakta hai. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: khaana phir logon ke baare mein ho sakta hai, dekhe jaane ke baare mein nahi.
Being mocked about your body again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; if eating or your body worries you, a doctor or someone you trust can help.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere sharir ko sabki raay par khara utarna hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnki raay unki hai. Saath ka maza mere liye bhi hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agli mehfil mein ek achhi baatcheet par dhyaan dijiye
- Kadam 2
Koi tippani aaye to ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Kisi aise insaan ke saath ka maza lijiye jo kabhi kuch nahi kehta
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab wo kaha gaya tab kya ho raha tha, aur kaun hansa?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Mazaak ki shakl mein aayi ek tippani #
Vellore mein Katpadi ke paas Mausi ka ghar, Sunday ka khaana. Hostel se aaye hain, darwaaze par hi Mausi: “Haay ram, seenk hai seenk!” Thaali mein roti rakhte hue: “Haddiyan gin lo, ghar ka khaana nahi milta kya wahan?” Cousin hanskar: “Seenkiya pehalwan!” Aur sab hanste hue aage badh gaye.
Aksar muskaan ke saath aane se lagta hai ki iska koi matlab hi nahi hona chahiye. Phir bhi jaise bhi laga ho, shabdon ne insaan ko kamre ke dekhne layak ek aakaar bana diya, aur aisa kehne ka koi aasaan raasta bhi nahi dikhta.
Aakhri baar kahan suna, ya kuch aisa hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun hansa, kaun nahi, aur baat aapko chhodkar aage badh gayi to un shabdon ka aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Mann se pehle body kyun jawab deti hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki chehra garam ho gaya, ek saans pal bhar ruki, muskaan bina soche aa gayi. Kuch sabse pehle aur sabse zor se hanste hain; kuch chup hokar intezaar karte hain ki baat aage badhe. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi chahiye.
Sabke saamne shakl-soorat par kahi baat body mein ek second ke bheetar darj ho jaati hai, sochne se pehle. Sochna bahut baad mein aa sakta hai, ghar lautte hue paidal, ye dohrate hue ki wahan kaun tha aur kya wo bhi hansa.
Un shabdon ke baad aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Hansi, jam gayi, ya wahan se hatna chaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur wo pehla asar is baare mein kya keh sakta hai ki wo pal ya wo insaan aapke liye kitna maayne rakhta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Halke mein kahi, par insaan ko naapti hai #
Aisi tippani beparwah lagti hai, lagbhag yoon hi ki baatcheet jaisi. Par zor se kehne par poora insaan ek aakaar ban jaata hai jise dekha jaye, aur us pal uske baaki roop, dost, kaam karne wala, mazedaar qissa sunane wala, uske peeche chup ho jaate hain.
Shakl par kahi baatein kabhi-kabhi barson tak lagbhag shabdasah yaad rehti hain. Jab wo mazaak ki shakl mein aati hain, to kuch logon ko do cheezein ek saath lagti hain: shabd khud, aur ye ehsaas ki bura maanne ki ijaazat nahi hai.
Agar tippani aapke kiye kisi kaam par hoti, to use parakha aur kaata ja sakta tha.
Jab wo aapki shakl-soorat par ho, to kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab mazaak unke bina bhi chalta rahe #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. Kabhi wahi mazaak bankar ajeeb waqt par dohraya jaata hai, kabhi nazar se bache rehne ki dhakel bankar, kabhi kisi ke kuch kahe bina hi, bas bheed wale kamre mein ghuste hi.
Shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Phir bhi jab mazaak andar chalne lage to apne aap aata hai, aur chunki wo apni awaaz mein bolta hai, use seedhi-saadi samajh maan liya jaata hai, kisi aur ki line nahi.
Jab wo bolta hai to kiski awaaz mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi galiyare se, kisi khaas insaan se, aaj se barson pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye pehle ek naam mila #
“Seenk.” “Seenkiya.” Kuch logon ke liye aisa naam school ya cousins mein barson pehle de diya gaya, aur itni baar liya gaya ki tippani lagna band ho gaya aur bas wahi naam ban gaya jo log unhein bulate the.
Aise chidhane ki wajahein toli-toli mein alag hoti hain, aur jise chidhaya gaya use shayad hi kabhi samjhayi jaati hain. Jo bachche ke mann mein reh jaata hai wo chupchaap nishkarsh hai: ki uska sharir kisi ke bhi mazaak ka khula vishay hai.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki log aapke saamne aapke aakaar par baat karte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne shuru kiya, kisne saath diya, aur naam bulaye jaane par aapne kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek mazaak ki chhodi hui chup baat #
Kuch logon ke bheetar aisi line baithti hai: “Log mujhse pehle mera aakaar dekhte hain,” ya “Yahan tikne ke liye saath mein hansna padta hai.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Lagta hai bas pata hai ki toliyan kaise chalti hain, jaise library mein awaaz dheemi kar lena. Isiliye inhein beech-beech mein dhoop mein nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai, tathya ki tarah nahi, ek tippani ki chhodi cheez ki tarah.
Kya koi fit baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ye niyam kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saath mein hansne ki keemat #
Ye bahar jaane, photo aur plan par asar kar sakta hai, yaani hafte ke un aam hisson par jahan dekhe jaane ki baari aati hai. Kuch log dekhe jaane ke hisaab se plan banane lagte hain, aur kuch ghumne-phirne ko kisi ke tay karne se pehle hi na mil jaati hai.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Saath mein hansne mein mehnat lagti hai, aur aaspaas ke log sirf mazaak wala roop hi dekh paate hain, kabhi wo nahi jise bura laga. Saal bhar mein ye aise pal ban sakte hain jo bahar se theek dikhe aur asal mein poore theek nahi the.
Ye kamzori se nahi. Chahe jaisa bhi laga ho, muskaan banaye rakhna sach mein mehnat hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein isne kya liya, agar kuch liya: koi bahar jaana, photo, plan, ek hansi jisne dene se zyada liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab ye baat zor se ho #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Saath mein hansna padta hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad kuch message, ek-do plan, kuch baatcheetein, kuch logon ke saath ek dopahar. Kuch jaana-pehchana hoga, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ke liye koi sahi-galat shakl nahi hoti.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch bhi tay nahi. Bas dekhna kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: message, bahar jaana, chupchaap tali gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Aakaar par mazaak, poore insaan par nahi #
Shabd jo bhi rahe hon, wo insaan ke ek hisse ke baare mein ek tippani thi, ek ne kahi, ek pal mein.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse zyada hai. Us din usne jo kiya, kaha ya jiski parwah ki, wo bhi wahin tha; mazaak ne bas ek cheez chunkar use headline bana diya.
Is tarah dekhein to poori life, kaam, dosti, plan, ismein ek tippani kitna dhak sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur nazar: agar kisi kareebi dost ne bheed ke saamne yahi mazaak suna hota, to uske baad aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kahan se shuru karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab kuch log wo pal dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to unhein dikhta hai ki kaun hansa aur kaun nahi, kisne baat badli, kisne nazar milayi. Kabhi kamra mazaak ke peeche utna nahi tha jitna tab laga, kabhi sach mein tha, aur wo jaanna bhi kaam ka hai.
Kuch ko ve jagahein aur log dikhte hain jahan ye mazaak kabhi aata hi nahi: dost jo aapka hafta sunna chahta hai, team jo plan maangti hai, nani-dadi jo bas khabar sunna chahti hain. Wo kamre hamesha se the, bas shaant.
Unmein se kaun sa insaan ya kamra sabse pehle yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jis baare mein mazaak hua tha uske alawa, unke saath hone par wo aksar kis baare mein poochhte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sahi jawab dhoondhna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki wo bas mazaak tha, wo jaise bhi laga ho. Matlab bas itna ki un shabdon ka is par kam chale ki kis safar ko haan mile, kaun si photo ho, aur baaki din kaise guzre.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo sahi jawab ki rehearsal karna chhod dete hain. Wo rehearsal kam hi khatam hoti hai, aur kisi ek ke mazaak ko din ke beech mein bithaye rakhti hai.
Kaisa lagega agar mazaak unhi ka rahe, ek pal mein kahi gayi baat, na ki kuch aisa jo ek kamre se agle kamre aur uske agle tak saath chale?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar wo naam barson se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo kisi ek ka mazaak tha, mera saar nahi.”
Iska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki kabhi-kabhi bolne se, khaaskar group ke saath bahar jaane se pehle, purane mazaak ki bhari jagah thodi khaali hoti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo is baare mein sahi ho ki kya kaha gaya aur wo kitna dhakta hai, aur kisi aur ki haami na maange?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Body par kahi har baat ko palatkar jawab, hansi ya agli baar ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein bhaari thaila farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un doston ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke saath aasaani rehti hai, aur ghumne-phirne ke liye, mazaak ke us pal ke liye nahi.
Tippani ko shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki use aaj ki baaki cheezon, agli group photo ya agli chat mein saath jaana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki wo niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Mazaak bas kisi ka kiya mazaak hai, aur group photo bas ek achhi dopahar ki photo.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisi baatcheet jismein dhyaan saamne wale par rahe, aasaan sangat walon ke saath safar ko haan, ya aisi ghar ki wapsi jismein dohrane ko kuch na ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe thoda hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi mazaak”
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya hansi
- Chupchaap poochhiye: ye mazaak kiska hai, aur kahan se shuru hua?
- Kisi aise ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jiske saath ye mazaak kabhi nahi aata
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
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- Us pal ka kaun sa hissa sabse der tak aapke saath raha?
- Sabse pehle kya aata hai: chot, gussa, sharmindagi, ya kuch aur?
- Agar aisi koi line zor se baje, to us waqt aapke aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar wo thodi halki pad jaye, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?