Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye baar-baar lautti hai: rishtedaar se, doston se, office ke naye aadmi se.
Kuch logon ke liye shakl par tippani bade hone ka hissa thi: school ki photo mein, rishtedaaron ke yahan, class mein chalte naamon mein (taklu, chaand) jinhein shuru karne wala kab ka bhool chuka.
Kuch log aisi line sunte hain: “Log mujhse pehle mere baal dekhte hain,” ya “Yahan tikna hai to sabke jaisa dikhna padega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Pehle khud hi mazaak kar dena, taaki koi aur na kare
- Hans dena, phir poori shaam chup rehna
- Jaldi se baat badal dena
- Chidhna, phir chidhne par khud ko bewakoof lagna
- Ghar lautte waqt wahi baat dohrate rehna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Group photo aur wo hansi
Madurai mein cousin ki shaadi. Group photo se pehle koi mobile mein zoom karke hansta hai: “Arre, baal kahan gaye tere? Ganja ho raha hai!” Sab jhukkar dekhte hain. Aap hans dete ho, par haath apne aap sir tak chala jaata hai. Baaki shaam aap har photo mein peeche ki qatar mein khade rehte ho, aur ek ghante pehle ki befikri kahin kho chuki hoti hai.
Dikhna hi gambhirta tay karta hai
Pehle saaf baat: aisi tippani theek nahi hai, aur isse aapki kadar par koi farq nahi padta. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Mujhe aisa dikhna zaroori hai ki log mujhe gambhirta se lein.” Zyadatar log sir hila denge, sunne mein aam lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har aaina aur har photo ek faisla ban jaata hai.
Shakl par baatein kyun chubhi rehti hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki shakl par kahi baatein bahut der tak chubhti hain. Ye sabse aam chaahton mein se ek hai. Shaayad ghar mein rang-roop par bahut mazaak chalta tha. Shaayad jawaan aur chust dikhne ka dabaav hai. Jo bhi ho, khud ko achha lagna chahne mein koi ghamand nahi. Ye apnaye jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har tippani jo fikr jodti hai
Aisi har tippani thodi fikr aur jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap photo se bachne lagte ho, aaina zyada dekhne lagte ho, sochte ho ki log dekhkar kya sochte honge. Jamavde imtihaan jaise lagne lagte hain, aur urja logon ka saath nibhane ki jagah khud par nazar rakhne mein chali jaati hai.
Kya photo is fikr ke laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi aapka bharosa badha? Ya zyadatar photo se dar hi badha? Kisi ke roop par mazaak us mazaak ke baare mein zyada kehta hai, us insaan ke baare mein kam. Ise narmi se, bina ilzaam ke poochhna theek hai. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai?
Photo mein nahi, logon ke saath
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo tippani theek thi. Matlab ye ki ab wo tay nahi karti ki kamre mein aap kaisa mehsoos karein. Aap photo ke beech mein khade hokar muskura sakte ho. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin thodi shaanti lautti hai: aap logon ke saath maujood reh paate ho, aur aapki kadar wahin rehti hai jahan hamesha thi.
Being mocked about how you look again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMujhe aisa dikhna hai ki log mujhe gambhirta se lein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri kadar photo mein nahi. Main bas maujood rahoon, itna kaafi hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agli photo mein kahin bhi khade hon, aur muskuraayein
- Kadam 2
Ek aise insaan ko notice karein jise aapka saath achha lagta hai
- Kadam 3
Jab wo baat lautein, ek dheemi saans lein
Is par baat karni hai?
“Ye kisne kaha, aur sunne ke liye aur kaun tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Baalon par ek baat, yun hi kahi hui #
Madurai mein cousin ki shaadi ka mandap. Photo se pehle koi sir par haath pherkar hansta hai: “Arre, baal kahan gaye tere? Ganja ho raha hai!” Coimbatore ke office ki lift mein koi kehta hai, “Maatha bada hota ja raha hai.” Sab hanste hain, baat aage badh jaati hai.
Kehne wale ke liye ye halka mazaak hai. Par isse insaan ek cheez ban jaata hai: khabar, plan ya haal-chaal se pehle yahi baat aati hai. Baar-baar suno to lagne lagta hai ki log bas yahi dekhte hain.
Aakhri baar aisa kuch kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun-kaun tha, kisne hansi mein saath diya, aur uske theek baad aapne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Uske theek baad ka ek pal #
Koi fauran palatkar mazaak kar deta hai, koi kandhe uchka deta hai, kisi ki hansi zaroorat se jaldi nikal aati hai. Kisi ka chehra garam ho jaata hai, koi baat badalne tak chup rehta hai. Inmein se kuch bhi samjhane laayak nahi.
Sabke saamne kahi baat sharir mein sochne se pehle darj ho jaati hai. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai: ghar lautte waqt, ya raat ko, jab wahi line aur use sunne wale chehre dobara chalte hain.
Ye pehli pratikriya bata sakti hai ki aisi baatein aapne pehle kitni baar suni hain.
Us ek pal mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya: kasa, hansa ya thehar gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek cheez chunkar use headline bana dena #
“Meeting mein idea achha tha” kisi kaam ke baare mein hai. Baalon wali baat kaam chhodkar ek cheez pakad leti hai, aur hansi ke saath aati hai, isliye aitraaz karna mushkil ho jaata hai. Vaakya kisi ek ka hota hai, par chubhan asli hoti hai.
Ye baar-baar lautti hai: rishtedaar se, doston se, office ke naye aadmi se. Ek baar ka mazaak halka rehta hai, par har mulaqat par wahi ho to lagta hai ki log din, kaam aur raay wale insaan ko nahi, ek cheez ko pehchante hain.
Agar wo baat us din ke aapke kisi kaam ya raay par hoti, to aap kya chahte ki wo kya ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us ek shabd mein aapka kitna hissa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab baat kahe jaane se pehle hi goonje #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar bas jaati hai. Kamre mein ghuste waqt ya lift mein “Ganja ho raha hai” apne aap phir bajta hai, jabki abhi kisi ne kuch kaha bhi nahi.
Kehne wala door ho sakta hai, par dohrana ab andar chalta hai: shaant palon mein lautta vaakya, chupke se nazar mein na aane ka ishaara. Awaaz apni jaisi lagti hai, isliye samajhdaari ki baat lagti hai, kisi aur ke shabd nahi.
Jab wo baat lautti hai to kiski awaaz mein bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya kisi khaas kamre mein, kinhin khaas logon se bahut pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye roop par baatein bachpan se thin #
“Dekho to kaise baal hain!” “Maatha to papa jaisa hai.” Kuch logon ke liye shakl par tippani bade hone ka hissa thi: school ki photo mein, rishtedaaron ke yahan, class mein chalte naamon mein (taklu, chaand) jinhein shuru karne wala kab ka bhool chuka.
Kuch gharon mein bachchon ki shakl par bolna aam baatcheet thi, aur wajahein har ghar mein alag hain. Jo reh jaata hai, wo chupchaap nikala nateeja hai: ki log sabse pehle ek cheez dekhte hain, aur uske liye taiyaar rehna padta hai.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki log aapke baalon par bolte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun-kaun tha, aur tab aapne ise kya samjha, jab iske liye shabd bhi nahi the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chupchaap baitha niyam #
Neeche kahin ek niyam baith sakta hai. Kuch log aisi line sunte hain: “Log mujhse pehle mere baal dekhte hain,” ya “Yahan tikna hai to sabke jaisa dikhna padega.”
Aise niyam niyam nahi lagte. Wo sadak paar karne se pehle dono taraf dekhne jaise lagte hain: saadharan samajhdaari. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhaar din ki roshni mein nikaalkar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ki jad bachpan mein paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah use dekha ja sakta hai.
Inmein se koi fit baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin kamron mein wo ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Baalon par ek baat chupchaap kya badal deti hai #
Ye bahar jaane, photos, plans aur dekhe jaane ke anubhav ko chhoo sakti hai. Kuch log dekhe jaane ke hisaab se plan banane lagte hain, aur kuch jagahon par jaana chhod dete hain, isse pehle ki unhone tay kiya ho ki jaana nahi hai.
Ek chhipi keemat bhi hai. Agli tippani se ek kadam aage rehne mein dhyaan lagta hai, aur wo dhyaan baatcheet se kat jaata hai. Saal bhar mein ye bahut-si shaamein ho sakti hain jinmein aadha dhyaan kamre ko padhne mein raha.
Ye kamzori nahi. Har kamre mein usi baat par nazar rakhna sach mein mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal isne aapka kya chhua, agar kuch chhua ho: koi outing, photo, plan, koi baatcheet?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab wo line tez ho #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “Log mujhse pehle mere baal dekhte hain” tez baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, sudhaarne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shaayad usmein lift ki ek sawaari hai, ek meeting, kisi rishtedaar ka aana, kuch photos, aur har ek ke peeche kahin wo tippani, ya kahin nahi. Kuch jaana-pehchana lage, kuch bilkul nahi.
Abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch pakka nahi hai. Abhi dekh lena kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: kamre, baatcheetein, plans?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Baal par baat, ya poore insaan par? #
Baalon par tippani insaan ke ek chhote hisse ki taraf ungli karke use zor se bol deti hai. Ye dikh jaaye to baat ek pal ki ek cheez bhar reh jaati hai, aur saamne khade insaan ke baare mein, jiske paas din, kaam aur raay hai, bahut kam kehti hai.
Yahi baat anjaan se, saalon purane dost se, ya har mulaqat par bade rishtedaar se aa sakti hai. Shabd wahi, par unka wazan alag hota hai, aur kuch log dekhte hain ki kaun si baat tikti hai aur kaun si phisal jaati hai.
Ek aur tareeka: agar kisi kareebi dost se har baar ghuste hi baalon ki baat ki jaati, to aap chahte ki log uske baare mein iske badle kya notice karein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dohrate hain to dekhte hain ki asal mein kya chal raha tha: koi baatcheet, koi plan, ya koi khabar jo wo suna rahe the.
Baaki log unhein dekhte hain jo ye baat kabhi nahi chhedte: jo dost match, job ya weekend ki baat karta hai, jo saathi poochta hai ki aapki kya raay hai. Wo awaazein hamesha thin, bas us tippani se dheemi thin.
Us tippani ke bagal mein rakhkar dekhein to usmein kya kho gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Unmein se kiski awaaz aajkal aapke mann mein chup ho gayi hai, aur wo us pal ke baare mein kya kehti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Zaroori nahi ki pakka jawab mile #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki baat ko kuch nahi maan liya jaaye, ya dikhawa ho ki kuch laga nahi. Matlab ye ki ek tippani ka photo, plan aur baaki shaam par dakhal kam ho jaaye.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo aisa tagda jawab dhoondhna chhod dete hain jo mazaak hamesha ke liye band kar de. Wo khoj shaayad hi khatam hoti hai, kyunki har kamra alag hai, aur tippani har kamre ke beech mein baithi rehti hai.
Yojana ya niyam ki tarah nahi, bas ek shaam ki tasveer ki tarah, jismein us shabd ka dakhal thoda kam hai.
Agar ye shabd kehne wale ke hi rahein aur aap unhein ghar na le jaayein, to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne laayak ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Sab bas yahi baat dekhte hain” saalon se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iski jagah aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek aadmi ka vaakya tha, mera saaransh nahi.”
Uska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log pehnkar dekhte hain, aur kuch paate hain ki kabhi-kabhaar kehne se wo utni jagah le leti hai jitni purani line gherti thi, khaaskar kisi jamavde se pehle.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo us tippani ke baare mein sahi ho aur jise maanne ke liye kamre mein kisi ka sehmat hona zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Baalon par har tippani ko jawab, hansi ya agli baar ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch baat ko notice kiya ja sakta hai, thodi der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag farsh par rakh diya jaaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki urja kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un cheezon aur logon ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke liye wo jamavde mein aaye the.
Aaj shaam ke liye shabd neeche rakh dene ka matlab nahi ki wo theek the, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki unhein aaj agli photo ya agle kamre tak saath nahi jaana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara-sa dheela pade #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki niyam ek paydaan dheema hai. Vaakya kisi ek ka vaakya rehta hai, aur kamra bas ek kamra.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: doston ke saath ki ek photo bas isliye rakh lena ki din achha tha, bina taiyaar line ke jamavde mein jaana, ya baatcheet ka usi par tike rehna jiske baare mein wo thi.
Kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar aap ise theek se dekhna chahein, to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dein: “Lo, phir wahi baalon wali baat”
- Chupchaap poochein: jab ye baat aayi, tab asal mein baat kya chal rahi thi?
- Dekhein ki pal ka kaun sa hissa zyada tez tha: shabd ya uske baad ki hansi
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad karein jo ye baat chhede bina baat karta hai
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti chaah notice karein, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Ye kisne kaha, aur sunne ke liye aur kaun tha?
- Kis hisse ne zyada peechha kiya: shabdon ne, ya uske baad ki hansi ne?
- Kaun hai jo aapse baat karta hai aur ye baat kabhi nahi chhedta?
- Aisi line kabhi tez ho jaaye to us waqt aapke aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar ye zara halki pade, to sabse pehle kya notice hoga?