Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Roop par kahi baatein lagbhag shabd-dar-shabd yaad reh jaati hain, aur baar-baar suni baat label jaisi lagne lagti hai, chahe har ek baar chhoti lagi ho.
Kuch logon ke liye aisi line bahut pehle se thi, bhai-behenon aur cousins ke beech, itni baar ki wo tippani kam aur naam zyada lagne lagi.
Kuch log aisi line andar baithti sunte hain: “Log sabse pehle meri twacha dekhte hain,” ya “Is ghar mein baat meri twacha ki hi hoti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Kamre mein hans dena, aur ghar lautte waqt use dohrana
- Kisi khaas rishtedaar ke aate hi thoda satark ho jaana
- Baat badal dena, aur umeed karna ki dobara nahi uthegi
- Pehle khud is par mazaak kar dena, taaki koi aur na kare
- Jamavdon mein chup ho jaana, aur kehna ki farq nahi padta
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Chachi ki chutki aur salah
Salem mein rishtedaar ke ghar ka function. Ek Chachi aapka gaal pakadkar kehti hain, “Arre, kitna kaala rang ho gaya hai tera, dhoop mein mat ghooma kar.” Aaspaas sir hilte hain. Aap tang-sa muskurate ho. Baaki shaam aap chhaanv mein khade rehte ho, photographer se bachte ho, aur wahi purani sharm phir aa baithti hai, jaise apni hi twacha ke liye maafi maangni ho.
Apnaye jaane ko roop badalna
Pehle saaf baat: twacha ke rang par tippani theek nahi, aur isse aapki qadar ya sundarta par kuch nahi badalta. Par unse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Apnaye jaane ke liye mujhe apna roop chhipana ya badalna hoga.” Ye ghul-mil jaane jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki apni twacha ek samasya lagne lagti hai.
Aisi baatein chhoti umar se kyun
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki aisi tippaniyan chhoti umar se shuru ho sakti hain aur unse aati hain jinhein hum chahte hain. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain. Shaayad bachpan mein aksar suna. Shaayad doosron ke liye yahi kehte dekha. Jo bhi ho, apnaye jaane ki chaah kamzori nahi. Ye apnapan chahne se aati hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har tippani se badhti sharm
Aisi har tippani sharm mein kuch jodti hai. Thoda-thoda karke sab judta jaata hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Aap dhoop se, camera se, aage ki qatar se bachte ho. Har tulna notice hoti hai. Paarivaarik mauqon par aap khud ko dekha hua mehsoos karte ho. Jis twacha mein aap rehte ho, wo chhipane ki cheez lagne lagti hai, aur jamavdon mein ek chup ghabrahat rehti hai.
Kya badalna iske laayak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi aapko zyada apnaya hua mehsoos hua? Ya zyadatar chhipna hi hua? Twacha ke rang par tippani kehne wale ke baare mein hai, aapke baare mein nahi. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai?
Aapki twacha aapki hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani theek thi. Wo nahi thi. Matlab ye ki sweekaar hone ke liye ab chhipna ya badalna zaroori nahi. Aap photo mein, roshni mein, jaise ho waise khade ho sakte ho. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek pal se. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin thodi shaanti lautti hai: aapki twacha aapki rehti hai, aur behes ki cheez nahi banti.
Being mocked or shamed for your skin colour again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleApnaye jaane ke liye mujhe apna roop chhipana ya badalna hoga.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri twacha meri hai. Us par behes ki koi baat nahi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agli photo mein roshni mein khade hon
- Kadam 2
Ek aise insaan ko dekhein jo aapko jaise hain waise chahta hai
- Kadam 3
Jab baat lautein, ek dheemi saans lein
Is par baat karni hai?
“Ye kisne kaha, aur jab kaha gaya tab aap kahan the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Twacha par ek baat, itni aasaani se kahi hui #
Salem mein Mausi ke naye ghar ka griha pravesh. Chachi gaal pakadkar kehti hain, “Arre, kitna kaala rang ho gaya hai tera, dhoop mein mat ghooma kar.” School ki photo ki line mein koi phusphusata hai, “Kaalu.” Family group mein photo ke neeche koi yahi baat likh deta hai. Kamra aage badh jaata hai.
Aksar ye yun hi kaha jaata hai, jaise bas koi baat batayi ho. Par sabke saamne kahi jaaye to insaan sabke dekhne ke liye ek rang ban jaata hai, aur jiske baare mein kahi gayi, wo us pal ko kehne mein lage waqt se kahin zyada der saath rakhta hai.
Aakhri baar ye, ya isse milti-julti baat, kahan suni?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kahi, kaun-kaun sun raha tha, aur us din se pehle aisi baatein kitni baar sun chuke the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle hi kyun lag jaati hai #
Kuch logon ka chehra garam ho jaata hai, muskaan aadhi jam jaati hai, saans ek pal ruk jaati hai. Kuch fauran hanskar taal dete hain, kuch baaki shaam chup ho jaate hain. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko samjhane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kisi ke rang-roop par doosron ke saamne kahi baat sharir mein ek second ke andar darj ho jaati hai, sochne se pehle. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai, ghar lautte waqt: kisne suna, aur kisi ne kuch kaha ya nahi.
Wo pehli pratikriya bata sakti hai ki wo kamra, ya wo insaan, aapke liye kitna maayne rakhta tha.
Un shabdon ke baad ke pal mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya: jam gaya, hans diya, ya kamre se nikal jaana chaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Batane jaisi baat, par chhaantne jaisi lagti hai #
Vaakya sunne mein seedha bayan lagta hai, jaise kisi ki lambai ka zikr. Par zor se, sabke saamne kaha jaaye to ek insaan ko alag nikaal deta hai, aur use swagat se zyada tole jaane aur jagah batayi jaane ka ehsaas karata hai.
Roop par kahi baatein lagbhag shabd-dar-shabd yaad reh jaati hain, aur baar-baar suni baat label jaisi lagne lagti hai, chahe har ek baar chhoti lagi ho. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo bina chahe aise pal ginne lage hain.
Pichhli baar jab kahi gayi, tab wo us kamre mein kya kar rahi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur usne aapko wahan apni jagah ke baare mein kya mehsoos karaya: swagat, tole jaana, ya kuch aur?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tippani apne aap chalne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar bas jaati hai. Kabhi wahi vaakya banakar ajeeb palon mein lautti hai, kabhi nazar se bache rehne ke ishaare ki tarah, kabhi kisi ke kuch kehne se pehle hi, bas family group ke jal uthne se.
Shabd ek baat ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Phir bhi vaakya andar chalne lage to apne aap aa jaata hai, aur apni awaaz jaisa lagta hai, isliye kisi aur ke shabd nahi, bas taiyaari lagta hai.
Jab ye bolti hai, to kiski awaaz mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki, ya kisi khaas jamavde mein, kisi khaas insaan se, aaj se bahut pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye cousins ke beech shuru hua #
“Kaalu.” “Ghar ka sabse kaala.” Kuch logon ke liye aisi line bahut pehle se thi, bhai-behenon aur cousins ke beech, itni baar ki wo tippani kam aur naam zyada lagne lagi.
Aisi baaton ke peeche ki wajahein har ghar mein alag hain, aur sunne wale bachche ko kam hi samjhayi jaati hain. Jo reh jaata hai, wo bachche ka chupchaap nikaala nateeja hai: ki uski twacha wo cheez hai jis par log ungli uthayenge, aur kisi bhi jamavde mein baat uth sakti hai.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki aapki twacha par aapke saamne baat hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun-kaun tha, aur aapne apne chehre aur apni awaaz ke saath kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Tippani jo peechhe chup niyam chhod jaati hai #
Kuch log aisi line andar baithti sunte hain: “Log sabse pehle meri twacha dekhte hain,” ya “Is ghar mein baat meri twacha ki hi hoti hai.”
Aise niyam niyam nahi lagte. Wo bas jaanna lagte hain ki parivaar ya kamra kaise chalta hai, jaise ghar se nikalne se pehle chaabi utha lena. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhaar dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ki jad bachpan mein paate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah use dekha ja sakta hai, ek tippani ke chhode niyam ki tarah, tathya ki tarah nahi.
Inmein se koi fit baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin kamron mein wo ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Is tippani ko dhone ki chup keemat #
Ye bahar jaane, photos aur plan ko chhoo sakti hai, yaani saal ke un aam hisson ko jinmein dekha jaana shamil hai. Kuch log dekhe jaane ke hisaab se plan banane lagte hain, aur kuch bulaavon ko na kah di jaati hai, isse pehle ki kisi ne tay kiya ho ki jaana nahi hai.
Ek chup keemat bhi hai. Jab dhyaan ka ek hissa agli tippani ke liye hamesha taiyaar rehta hai, to cousins, kisson aur hansi ke liye kam bachta hai. Saal bhar mein ye aisi family shaamon mein badal sakta hai jinmein gaye to the, par poore mann se maza nahi liya.
Ye kamzori nahi. Ek vaakya ke liye taiyaar rehna sach mein mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal mein isne kya liya, agar kuch liya: koi outing, photo, plan, ya wo shaam jo un shabdon ke intezaar mein guzri?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab wo line tez ho #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “Is ghar mein baat meri twacha ki hi hoti hai” tez baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ke liye ek tasveer hai, sudhaarne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shaayad ek family group, ek-do plans, koi mulaqat, kuch baatcheetein, logon wali ek shaam. Kuch jaana-pehchana lage, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ke dikhne ka koi sahi ya galat tareeka nahi.
Abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer mein kuch pakka nahi hai. Abhi dekh lena kaafi hai.
Usmein kya hai: messages, plans, chupchaap chhodi gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapko kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Twacha par ek vaakya, poore insaan par nahi #
Shabd jo bhi rahe hon, wo ek baat par ek vaakya the, ek insaan ke, ek kamre mein.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Us din usne jo kiya, kaha, banaya ya jiski parwah ki, wo bhi kamre mein tha; vaakya ne bas ek cheez chuni.
Aise rakhein to poore insaan ko, uske doston, kaam, hansi aur plans ke saath, twacha par ek vaakya kitna dhak sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur tareeka: agar wahi shabd usi jamavde mein koi chhota cousin sunta, to ghar lautte waqt aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kahan se shuru karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dohrate hain to chhoti baatein dikhti hain: kaun hansa, kisne nazar hatayi, kisne baat badli, kisne aankh milayi. Kabhi kamra shabdon ke peechhe utna nahi tha jitna tab laga, kabhi tha, aur ye jaanna bhi kaam ka hai.
Baaki wo log aur jagahein dekhte hain jahan ye baat kabhi aati hi nahi: wo dost jo khabar sunna chahta hai, team ka saathi jo plan poochhta hai, Nani-Dadi jo bas hafte ka haal poochhti hain. Wo awaazein hamesha thin, aksar dheemi.
Unmein se kaun sabse pehle yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo aapke saath kis baare mein poochhte hain, agar wo nahi poochhte jo kahi gayi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Is behes ko jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani se sehmat ho gaye, chahe wo jaise bhi lagi ho. Matlab ye ki ek insaan ka vaakya is par kam kahe ki kaun si photo khinche, kin mulaqaton ko haan ho, aur baaki shaam kaisi jaaye.
Kuch logon ko tab halka lagta hai jab wo har jamavde ke raaste mein sahi jawab ki rehearsal karna chhod dete hain. Wo rehearsal shaayad hi poori hoti hai, aur kehne wale ko kamre ke kendra mein rakhti hai.
Agar shabd unhin ke rahein, ek kamre mein bola gaya ek vaakya, aur agle jamavde aur uske baad wale mein dhone ki cheez na banein, to kaisa lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne laayak ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar ye tippani saalon se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe ladna zaroori nahi. Kuch log iski jagah aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek insaan ka vaakya tha, mera saaransh nahi.”
Uska sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log pehnkar dekhte hain, aur kuch paate hain ki kabhi-kabhaar kehne se wo utni jagah le leti hai jitni purani tippani gherti thi, khaaskar family jamavde mein jaate hue.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo is baare mein sahi ho ki kya kaha gaya aur kahan, bina us kamre mein kisi ke sehmat hone ki zaroorat ke?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Twacha par har tippani ko jawab, safai ya agli baar ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch baat ko notice kiya ja sakta hai, thodi der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag farsh par rakh diya jaaye.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki urja kahan jaaye, aur kuch log kehte hain ki isse un cousins aur doston ke liye jagah bachti hai jinke saath aasaani rehti hai, aur jamavde ke un hisson ke liye jinke liye wo aaye the.
Aaj shaam ke liye tippani neeche rakh dene ka matlab nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki baaki sab mein, agli photo ya agli mulaqat tak, uska saath jaana zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara-sa dheela pade #
Bas tasveer ke taur par sochiye ki niyam ek paydaan dheema hai. Parivaar ki photo bas ek din ke logon ki photo hai, aur jamavda bas jamavda.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: aisi baatcheet jismein dhyaan saamne wale par rahe, aasaan logon ke saath aisi shaam jismein purana vaakya dohraya na jaaye, ya group ki ek photo jise rakh liya aur like kiya.
Kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar aap ise theek se dekhna chahein, to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dein: “Lo, phir wahi vaakya”
- Dekhein ki pal ka kaun sa hissa zyada tez hai: shabd ya lehja
- Chupchaap poochhein: ye vaakya kiska hai, aur kab shuru hua?
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad karein jiske saath ye baat kabhi nahi uthti
- Aaj ki koi ek chhoti chaah notice karein, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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