Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Tikau madad aksar nazar se ojhal bhi ho jaati hai.
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan mein shuru hua: sabse bada bachcha jo chhoton ko sambhalta tha, wo student jiske paas hamesha notes hote the.
Is khayal ke peeche aksar ek niyam hota hai: “Agar main hamesha hoon, toh meri qadar hogi,” ya “Zaroorat bane rehna hi mere apnepan ki wajah hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Aur bhi zyada karna, is ummeed mein ki koi toh notice kare
- Is mahine jo-jo sambhala uski chup list rakhna
- Kehna “arre, kuch nahi tha” aur andar halki chubhan paana
- Ishaaron mein batana ki kitna kaam pada hai
- Istemaal hua feel karna, phir aisa feel karne par aparadhi lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo dost jo aapka din bhool gaya
Aap hamesha haan kehte ho: jo kisi ki shift sambhal le, birthday yaad rakhe, aadhi raat ko bhi phone utha le. Is hafte jis dost ki aapne sau baar madad ki, wo aapka bada din poori tarah bhool gaya. Office mein jo zor-zor se shikayat karta hai use wo madad mil gayi jo aapne kabhi maangi hi nahi. Aap sab par muskurate rehte ho, par raat ko thakaan aur andekhe reh jaane ka ehsaas hota hai.
Bharosemand hone ki kuch qadar ho
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bharosemand bane rehne ki kuch toh qadar honi chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Bhalayi par kisi ki nazar jaani chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki bhalmansahat ko ek chup bill bana deta hai jo doosre kabhi dekhte nahi. Aapki bhalayi ab saarthak lagegi ya nahi, ye logon ke dekhne par tik jaata hai, aur bharosemand madad ko sabse aasaani se halke mein liya jaata hai.
Bhalayi matlab kyun rakhni chahiye
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki achha hona matlab rakhna chahiye. Shayad aap ghar mein wo bharosemand bachche the jo kabhi pareshani nahi bana. Shayad jaldi seekh liya ki madadgaar hona hi apni jagah kamaane ka tareeka hai. Jo bhi ho, chahna ki ye gina jaye, khudgarzi nahi. Ye chaah hai ki aapki parwah dikhe. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Wo chup hisaab jo aap rakhte ho
Har andekhi bhalayi thoda bojh jodti hai. Aap chup list rakhne lagte ho. Garam dil se nahi, bhinchi muskaan se madad karte ho. Aur maangne walon par kheejhne lagte ho. Dheere-dheere jo bhalayi kabhi sahaj thi, wo bina tankhwah ki job lagne lagti hai, aur aap sochne lagte ho ki bharosemand bane rehna kabhi theek bhi tha ya nahi.
Kya hisaab rakhna theek hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya bharosemand bane rehne ki qadar ka intezaar karne se kabhi aap zyada keemti feel hue? Ya zyada-tar bas thakaan mili? Tikau madad aksar andekhi ho jaati hai, bas isliye ki wo hamesha rehti hai; kyun koi zikr nahi karta, ye sirf doosre jaante hain. Jo bhi ho, unka na dekhna aapki bhalayi ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko utna nahi deta jitna leta hai.
Dayaluta chunaav, aaraam bhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap dayalu hona chhod do, ya har baat par haan kehte raho. Matlab ye ki aapki bhalayi ab chukaye jaane ka intezaar nahi karti. Jab mann ho tab dijiye, zaroorat ho tab aaraam kijiye, aur apni keemat jaaniye. Yahin kuch chain lautta hai: aapki dayaluta phir chunaav ban jaati hai, halki aur apni marzi se di hui, wo bill nahi jo koi bharta nahi.
Being pressured or frightened into doing more is something else entirely, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBharosemand bane rehne ki kuch toh qadar honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri dayaluta mera chunaav hai. Main aaraam bhi kar sakta/sakti hoon.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Kisi ek haan se pehle mann mein “is baar nahi” kehkar dekhiye
- Din 2
Aaj apne liye ek dayalu kaam kijiye
- Din 3
Ek aisi dayaluta sochiye jo aapne di aur jis par khushi hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke aaspaas kaun aapke chupchaap kiye kaamon ko dekhta hai, aur kaise?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Jo ticket kataye, sab sambhale, yaad rakhe, chhodne jaye #
Cousin ki shaadi thi. Aapne sabke ticket book kiye, Papa ke ghar ka nal theek karwaya, Chachi ka birthday yaad rakha aur sabko Kanpur Central chhoda. Phir family photo lagi, aur shukriya us bhai ko mila jo ek shaam ke liye videsh se aaya. Mann mein wahi baat: “Bharosemand bane rehne ki kuch toh qadar honi chahiye.”
Ye office mein ho sakta hai, doston mein, society ki committee mein. Aap pahunchte ho, sab sambhalte ho, yaad rakhte ho. Sab itni sahajta se chalta hai ki kisi ko dikhta hi nahi ki koi chala raha hai.
Aapke aaspaas kaun hai jise aapke ye tikau, chupchaap kiye kaam dikhte hain, aur wo kaise jatata hai ki usne dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ek chhoti, thaki hui saans #
Kuch logon ke bheetar ek chhoti, thaki saans uthti hai, jo mahino se jama ho rahi ho. Kuch ko tab jhat se jalan hoti hai jab koi aur shreya le jaye, aur phir wo use daba dete hain kyunki wo chhoti baat lagti hai.
Bharosemand insaan ka sharir aksar ehsaas tikne se pehle agle kaam mein lag chuka hota hai. Ye aadat aisi hai ki pata hi nahi chalta aap kitna thak chuke ho.
Aakhri baar jab aapki chupchaap ki gayi madad par kisi ka dhyaan nahi gaya, toh agle kaam par jaane se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Tike rehna asli mehnat hai #
Ye ummeed kisi sachchi cheez ke baare mein hai. Bharosemand hona mehnat maangta hai: yaad rakhna, plan banana, tab pahunchna jab suvidha na ho. Ye kaam hai, bhale koi ise kaam na kahe. Iski qadar chahna is mehnat ke dikhne ki chaah hai.
Tikau madad aksar nazar se ojhal bhi ho jaati hai. Sankat dikhta hai. Jo chupchaap das sankat rok de, wo aam taur par nahi dikhta. Isse bharosemand insaan ko apne hi ghar ya team mein andekha lag sakta hai.
Bharosemand hona aapko apne aap mein kya deta hai, un dinon jab sachmuch achha lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Andekhi list rakhne wali awaaz #
“Main na karun toh koi nahi karega.” “Kaam padta hai tabhi phone karte hain.” “Kya kisi ko dikhta hai ki isme kitna lagta hai?” Awaaz aksar peeche chalti rehti hai jabki haath kaam karte rehte hain.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz ek saath do baatein chahti hai: madad ke liye saraahna, aur aaraam ki ijaazat. Dono jaayaz hain, aur khinchaav ulti taraf bhi ho sakta hai.
Lambe din ke aakhir mein jab bharosemand wali awaaz bolti hai, toh wo sabse zyada kya chahti hai: shukriya, madad, ya aaraam?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Bharosemand banna kahan se shuru hua #
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan mein shuru hua: sabse bada bachcha jo chhoton ko sambhalta tha, wo student jiske paas hamesha notes hote the. Bharosemand hona unki pehchaan ban gaya, aur aisi cheez jis par baaki bharosa karne lage.
Kuch ne ise us Maa ya Papa mein dekha jisne sab kuch jode rakha aur jiski chupchaap taareef hoti thi. Tike rehna logon se pyaar karne ka sahi tareeka lagta tha.
Aap pehli baar wo insaan kab bane jis par doosre nirbhar the, aur tab aap par kaun nirbhar tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Bharosemand hone wala niyam #
Is khayal ke peeche aksar ek niyam hota hai: “Agar main hamesha hoon, toh meri qadar hogi,” ya “Zaroorat bane rehna hi mere apnepan ki wajah hai.” Ye garam niyam hai. Par ye kisi ki keemat ko isse bhi jod deta hai ki wo doosron ke liye kitna karta hai.
Kuch log ise bachpan ke madad wale saalon tak le jaate hain; kuch aise parivaar tak jahan tikau bachche ki hi taareef hoti thi. Jo bhi ho, aise niyam ko narmi se dekha ja sakta hai.
Bharosemand hone wala niyam aapko kahan nazdeeki deta hai, aur kahan doosron ke liye karte rehne mein apne liye bahut kam chhodta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Hamesha maujood rehne ki keemat #
Aapke apne plan doosron ke liye tal gaye. Aapki apni khabar baad ke liye rakhi rahi. Ek thakaan jo poori utarti nahi, kyunki agla kaam hamesha rehta hai. Ye chhoti, lagaataar keematein hain, madad ki hi tarah.
Kuch ye bhi dekhte hain ki bharosemand banna kuch maangna mushkil bana deta hai. Sabko unke dene ki aadat hai, zaroorat ki nahi.
Is mahine aap kya maangte, agar bharosemand hona maangne ko itna ajeeb na banata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Wo phone jo sabke liye bajta hai #
Ek aam hafte par nazar daliye jab “Bharosemand bane rehne ki qadar honi chahiye” zor se sunayi de. Phone, booking, parivaar ka group, sab sambhalna. Bas dekhne ki ek tasveer.
Shayad wo insaan hona jise sab phone karte hain, har cheez ko achhe se sambhalna, aur Ravivaar tak aapki apni khabar ankahi.
Ye ek hafta hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur jab chahein rakha ja sakta hai.
Us hafte mein aur kya hai, aur baad ke liye kya chhoot jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya aapki nazar kheenchta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Tikau madad ko halke mein lena aasaan hai #
Log use notice karte hain jo badalta hai, use nahi jo tika rehta hai. Jo cheez hamesha chalti hai, wo prishthbhoomi mein ghul jaati hai. Fridge ke saath aisa hota hai, aur afsos, bharosemand logon ke saath bhi.
Iska matlab ye nahi ki aapki madad ki qadar nahi, aur shukriya ki kami jaayaz nahi banti. Bas itna ki chuppi parwah ki kami se zyada aadat ki ho sakti hai.
Aapke parde ke peeche wale kaun se tikau kaam logon ko sabse zyada chaunkayenge agar unhe pata chale, aur kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jahan tike rehna pehle se gina jaata hai #
Kuch nishaan ho sakte hain: ek cousin jo sankat mein sabse pehle aapko phone karta hai, ek saathi jo mushkil file aap par chhodta hai, koi chhota jo aapki plan banane ka tareeka apnata hai, ek dost jo kehta hai “Mujhe pata tha tumhe yaad rahega.”
Ye milkar wo shukriya nahi bante jiski aapko aas thi. Ye unhi dinon ke hain, bharosa kiye jaane ke zyada shaant roop, jo agla kaam karte hue aasaani se chhoot jaate hain.
Logon ke aap par bharose aur nirbharta ka kaun sa chhota nishaan dobara dekhne layak hai, aur wo kisse aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Tike rehna, par nichude bina #
Iska matlab ye nahi ki sab kuch bina kuch paye karte rahein. Chahna ki aapka tikna gina jaye, jaayaz hai. Iska matlab hai ki doosron ki chuppi ab aapki madad ki keemat tay nahi karegi.
Izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi hoti. Agar dabaav, ilzaam ya darr ke sahare aapse aur karwaya jaye, apne logon se roka jaye, ya hafton nichod diya jaye, toh wo kuch aur hai; use gambhirta se lena theek hai, aur saavdhan rehna mehfooz chunaav ho sakta hai.
Agar jo aap sabke liye uthate ho wo bhaari lagne laga hai, toh use sunne wala bhi chahiye: koi bharose ka insaan sun sakta hai.
Ek aisa hafta sochiye jisme bharosemand ki bhi dekhbhaal ho: apne liye aap ek cheez kya karoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Lambe din ke aakhir ki ek line #
“Bharosemand bane rehne ki kuch toh qadar honi chahiye” ke paas kuch log aisi line rakhte hain: “Mera tike rehna matlab rakhta hai, aur main bhi matlab rakhta/rakhti hoon, sirf apne kiye ki wajah se nahi.” Kisi line ko jeetna zaroori nahi.
Sab kuch sambhalne ke lambe din ke baad ye bahut seedhi lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apne lafz zyada jamte hain.
Aap apne shabdon mein kya rakhoge, ek aisi line jo tike rehne ka garv bhi rakhe aur aapki apni zaruraton ko bhi jagah de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Andekhi list aaj raat ke liye band ho sakti hai #
Har bina-shukriya kaam ki ginti aaj raat zaroori nahi. List ko dekha aur band kiya ja sakta hai, jaise bistar ke paas band ki hui diary.
Aapke tike rehne ki qadar ki chaah aapki reh sakti hai. Dabaav ya darr ke sahare aur karwaya jaana bilkul kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
List aaj raat band karne ka matlab ye nahi ki andekha rehna theek tha, ya kuch tay ho gaya. Bas itna ki aaj raat aapki apni ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar bharosemand ki bhi baari aaye #
Maan lijiye, bas kalpana mein, ummeed thodi neeche rakhi hai. Aap ab bhi wo ho jis par log bharosa karte hain, aur is hafte aap kisi ko apne liye bhi phone karte ho, bas baat karne ko.
Wo maamooli ho sakta hai: apni khabar par lambi baatcheet, ek shaam jisme kuch sambhalna nahi, Somvar ko halke kadam.
Ye tasveer jab tak chahein apne paas rakhiye. Iske baad: yahan sukoon kaisa dikh sakta hai, aur aapki zindagi mein pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap sabse pehle kise pakdoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Bharosemand insaan ke liye chhoti baatein #
- Is hafte ek chhota kaam sirf apne liye kijiye
- Ek aisa nishaan dekhiye jisse lage ki koi aap par bharosa karta ya qadar karta hai
- Jab saans uthe, toh ehsaas ko ek shabd de dijiye
- Mann mein sochiye ki ek chhoti cheez maang rahe hain, aur kaisa lagta hai
- Agar kisi ka nuksaan nahi hota, toh ek chhota kaam ek din ke liye rukne dijiye
Mann kare toh ek aazmaiye. Inmein se koi bhi kaam nahi hai.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke aaspaas kaun aapke chupchaap kiye kaamon ko dekhta hai, aur kaise?
- Aap pehli baar wo insaan kab bane jis par sab nirbhar the?
- Kisi ne aapki achhi dekhbhaal kab ki, aur kya kiya?
- Agar tike rehne ko shukriya ki zaroorat na hoti, toh aap sirf apne liye kya karte?
- Bharosemand hona aapko pehle se kya deta hai jis par aapko garv hai?