Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kisi ko saraahna ye tasveer bhi deta hai ki career kya ban sakta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye pehle boss se aayi, jo sankat mein shaant rehte the, ya school ke us Sir se jo sakht bhi the aur nyayapriya bhi, “Sir jaisa koi nahi.”
Neeche koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Boss ko kaam mein mujhse behtar hona chahiye,” ya “Jiski izzat na kar sakun, uske saath kaam ka matlab kho jaata hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Apne manager ki tulna doosron se karna, jinhe dekha hai
- Mehnat thaamkar ek chup bachat rakh lena
- Company mein kisi aur jagah saraahne layak log dhoondhna
- Mann mein meeting ko behtar chala lena
- Kamre mein muskurana, baad mein kisi dost se tiffin par baat kar lena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo manager jisne kaam nipatayā
Bhopal ki is firm mein aap kuch had tak us manager ki wajah se aaye the, interview wale tez aur shaant insaan ki wajah se. Chhe mahine baad aap unhe meeting mein kaam nipatate, apni chook ka dosh vendor par madhte, aur deadline ke din jaldi nikalte dekhte ho. Aap ab bhi apna kaam achha karte ho. Par ghar lautte hue ajeeb-sa khaalipan lagta hai, jaise jis cheez par chupchaap bharosa tha, wo kahin kho gayi.
Aisa boss jise aadarsh maanein
Neeche ek niyam hai: “Boss aisa ho jise aadarsh maanne ka mann kare.” Ye jaayaz ummeed lagti hai. Achha leader kaam aasaan karta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke apne kaam ka garv kisi aur ki misaal se baandh deta hai. Jab wo chookte hain, aapki lagan bhi unke saath phisalti hai, aur aapka kaam sirf utna achha lagne lagta hai jitna upar wala insaan.
Saraahne walon se hum kyun seekhte hain
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum unhe dekhkar seekhte hain jinhe saraahte hain. Shayad kisi teacher ya bade bhai ne aapko kaam achhe se karna sikhaya, aur aap usse badhe. Shayad kabhi koi aisa nahi mila, aur aapne chaha ki office de. Boss ko saraahne ki chaah bholapan nahi hai. Wo aage badhne ki chaah se aati hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Apne kaam ki khoyi chamak
Har nirash karne wala pal aapke apne kaam ki chamak thodi kam kar deta hai. Aap kaam aadhe mann se karne lagte ho. Unki har kami dikhti hai, aur apni achhai dikhna band ho jaati hai. Lunch ke waqt chup shikayatein badhti hain. Jahan kaam karne par kabhi garv tha, wo bas haazri lagane ki jagah banne lagti hai, aur jo garv aap saath laye the, wo pheeka padne lagta hai.
Kya perfect boss ka intezaar layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochhiye: kya unke aadarsh hone ki zaroorat ne kabhi aapka kaam behtar kiya? Ya zyada-tar bechain aur nirash rakha? Aapke manager shayad khinche hue hon, upar-neeche chalte hon, ya kuch cheezon mein achhe aur kuch mein kamzor, jaise zyada-tar log. Jo bhi ho, unki misaal aapke kaam ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko jitna deta hai, usse zyada leta hai.
Us dhang se kaam jise aap saraahein
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap achhe netritva ki qadar karna chhod do. Matlab ye ki aapke paimane unke paimanon par nahi tike hain. Upar koi bhi ho, aap us dhang se kaam kar sakte ho jise aap saraahte ho. Unki achhi baatein seekh sakte ho, aur baaki chhod sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aapke kaam ka garv aapka hai, us insaan ka nahi jise aap report karte ho.
Threats, shouting, harassment, humiliation, being singled out for who you are, pay or papers held back, or being frightened at work, are something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMera boss aisa ho jise main aadarsh maan sakun.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUpar koi bhi ho, kaam main apne saraahe dhang se kar sakun.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ki ek achhi ki hui cheez ke baare mein sochiye
- Din 2
Manager ki ek chhoti achhi baat par gaur kijiye
- Din 3
Kisi saraahe hue insaan ki ek aadat ek din ke liye apnaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bade hote waqt aap kise aadarsh maante the, aur unhone aisa kya kiya jo saath reh gaya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo meeting jo aap alag chalate #
Lambi meeting ke beech mein aap khud ko mann mein agenda badalte pakad lete ho: kiske baad kaun bole, faisla kaise ho. Aur seedha-sa khayal aata hai: “Boss aisa ho jise aadarsh maanne ka mann kare.”
Kuch logon ke liye ye kaam ki jagah par ek qutubnuma ki chaah hai, aisa insaan jiska kaam karne ka dhang chalne layak lage. Jise saraha jaata hai, uske saath mehnat halki lagti hai, kyunki use ek disha mil jaati hai.
Aapke kaam ki zindagi mein, ya usse pehle, kaun aisa tha jise aap sach mein saraahte the, aur usne kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kisi aur tareeke ki jhalak #
Kuch logon ko jhat se bechaini ki jhalak feel hoti hai jab faisla us tareeke se ho jo wo nahi chunte. Kuch ko halki giraawat, urja ka dheela padna, jab meeting chalti rehti hai.
Sharir us doori ko pehle pakad leta hai jo ummeed aur jo dikh raha hai unke beech ho: dheemi palak, jhuki hui mudra, ghadi ki taraf ek nazar. Nateeje baad mein bante hain, ghar lautte waqt.
Pichhli baar jab aapne manager ko kuch sambhalte dekha, raay banane se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kisi ke peeche chalne layak chaahna #
Jiske liye aap kaam karte ho, uski izzat kar paane ki ummeed samajh mein aati hai. Manager hafte ka mausam kaafi tay karta hai, aur izzat ho toh disha maanna aur mehnat dena dono aasaan lagte hain.
Kisi ko saraahna ye tasveer bhi deta hai ki career kya ban sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki jis manager ko wo saraahte hain, wo bina kuch kahe dikha deta hai ki kya mumkin hai.
Jiske liye aap kaam karte ho, usme aap sabse zyada kaun si baat dekhna chahenge: nishpakshta, hunar, sthirta, ya narmi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Paimana thaamkar rakhne wali awaaz #
“Ise alag tareeke se sambhala ja sakta tha.” “Kya sach mein aise hi kaam hota hai?” “Jiski izzat ho, wo seedhi baat kehta.” Ye awaaz faisla sunaye jaane ke baad ke minuton mein bolti hai.
Kuch logon ko dikhta hai ki isme us cheez ki tadap hai jo ho sakti thi. Ye thodi aalochak hai aur thodi ummeed, ek naapne ki chhad aur ek chaah, dono saath.
Jab ye awaaz paimana thaamti hai, toh kaun si line sabse zyada aati hai, aur wo kya dekhne ki ummeed karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Achhe leader ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye pehle boss se aayi, jo sankat mein shaant rehte the, ya school ke us Sir se jo sakht bhi the aur nyayapriya bhi, “Sir jaisa koi nahi.” Aisa ek insaan baad mein milne wale har kisi ka paimana bana sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye ghar se aayi: Mama ya Chacha jinhone dukaan ya ghar ko aisi sthirta se chalaya jise saraahna aasaan tha. Kai gharon mein achha leader wahi tha jo aage-aage chalta aur bojh uthata.
Jab aap chhote the, kiske netritva ke tareeke ko aapne sabse zyada saraaha, aur usne asal mein kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Leader ko aadar paana padta hai wala niyam #
Neeche koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Boss ko kaam mein mujhse behtar hona chahiye,” ya “Jiski izzat na kar sakun, uske saath kaam ka matlab kho jaata hai.” Pehla vaakya seedhi samajhdaari lagta hai; neeche wala niyam kaam ki keemat ek insaan se baandh deta hai.
Aise niyam matlab wala kaam karne ki parwah se aate hain, jiski qadar banti hai. Inhe un logon ke bagal mein rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai jo asal mein manage karte hain, aur jinki kuch jagah taaqat aur kuch jagah kami hoti hai.
Ho sakta hai ye purane saalon se chala aa raha ho, ya raaste mein bana ho.
“Boss saraahne layak hona chahiye” kahan ab bhi sach baithta hai, aur kahan ye ek akele insaan se poore kaam ka matlab dhulwata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Misaal ki kami kya keemat le sakti hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai hafte ke beech mein pheekapan, di ja rahi mehnat mein dheelapan, aur har meeting ko chupchaap aise aadarsh se taulne ki aadat jis par koi har baar khara nahi utar sakta.
Saal bhar mein kuch log dekhte hain ki kaam bemaqsad-sa lagne lagta hai. Jab chalne ko koi nahi, toh disha andar se aani padti hai, aur thaka mann ise zyada mushkil paata hai.
Pichhle saal ko sochiye: kaam par kaun sa pal tha jab aap jiska hissa the us par garv hua, aur kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Mann mein chalate hue beete baras #
Ek aam Somvar dekhiye, jab “Boss aisa ho jise aadarsh maanne ka mann kare” zor se sunayi de. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek faisla sunaya gaya, aapka apna sir hilana, agenda ke hashiye par likhi ek pankti, aur kamre mein baaki log paani ki taraf haath badhate hue.
Kuch poochha nahi ja raha, aur tasveer jab chahein kinare rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: meeting, agenda, bolne ka kram, aur mann mein chupchaap chalta dohrav?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us meeting mein aur kya-kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saraahna ek se zyada jagahon se aa sakti hai #
Jise saraaha jaye, wo ek kadam aage wala colleague ho sakta hai, doosri team ka koi, client, purane teacher, ya koi lekhak jiska kaam aap padhte ho. Boss kai sambhav sroton mein se ek hai.
Saraahna aksar adhoori bhi hoti hai. Log kisi ki ek khoobi ko saraahte hain aur baaki par tatasth rehte hain, aur manager seekhne layak ek cheez de sakta hai, bina har baat ka aadarsh bane.
Agar aap apne manager se ek gun seekhna chunein, chahe chhota, toh wo kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Yahan se seekhne layak kya hai #
Jis misaal ki chaah thi, uske bagal mein chhoti saraahne layak baatein bhi ho sakti hain: ek bhaari dopahar mein manager ki shaanti, kisi colleague ki sachchayi, team ke kisi ki aadat jo aap udhaar lena chahenge.
Inhe naam dene se aadarsh ki chaah radd nahi hoti. Dono saath sach ho sakte hain, aur dekhne ke badle kisi se kuch nahi maanga jaata.
Aapke aaspaas, kaam par ya usse bahar, kaun ek aisi baat karta hai jise aap apnana chahenge, aur wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Apni misaal khud banna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ho sakta hai ki kaam ka matlab ek insaan par tika na rahe. Jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: ek misaal ki chaah, jinke liye kaam karte hain unki izzat ki chaah. Dheeli pakad ho sakti hai, taaki manager ki kamiyan kami ki tarah darj hon, tasveer ka ant bankar nahi.
Ye alag baat hai agar office mein koi, boss, client ya colleague, aapko pareshaan kare, dhamkaye, beizzat kare, ya aapke gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, kisi disability ya aap kahan se aaye hain iski wajah se alag nishana banaye.
Aise hi tankhwah ya kaagzaat roke jaana, bina tankhwah ya jokhim bhara kaam, ya darr: ye kuch aur hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak. Saath chalna ya saavdhan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Office mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi.
Aisa ek din sochiye jab aap waise colleague ki tarah kaam karein jise aap saraahte: aap sirf apne liye kya karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Lambi meeting ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Boss aisa ho jise aadarsh maanne ka mann kare” ke bagal mein kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Koi aadarsh mile toh achha lage, aur kai logon se seekha ja sakta hai.” Purani line ko haraana zaroori nahi, bas uske saath khada rehna kaafi hai.
Aisa vaakya shuru mein bahut saja-sajaya lag sakta hai aur istemaal se sahaj. Kuch log apne shabd dhoondh lete hain, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo ek misaal ki chaah ko imaandaari se kahe, bina ek akele insaan se use poora karwaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Nirasha darwaze ke bahar ruk sakti hai #
Manager se har nirasha par hafte ke aakhir tak faisla chahiye, aisa nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur meeting room ke darwaze par chhoda ja sakta hai, mez par rakhe badge ki tarah.
Kisi ko aadarsh maanne ki chaah jab tak chahein nijee reh sakti hai. Agar office mein koi dhamkaye, aapko aapki pehchaan ki wajah se alag nishana banaye, ya tankhwah ya kaagzaat roke, toh wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak; saavdhan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Aaj ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki ye sahi tha ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki shaam ko review baithak nahi banna.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar paimana halka baithe #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja naram hai. Kisi ke peeche chalne ki chaah ab bhi hai, par meeting ye seekhne ka mauka ban sakti hai ki aap kya alag karte.
Shayad aap meeting mein baithte ho, aur ek cheez note kar lete ho jo kisi din alag karenge, mann ke peeche ek chhoti nijee line.
Isme se kisi ko batane ki zaroorat nahi; ye aapke paas rehta hai. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo line kya kahegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein, agar achhi lagein #
- Chaah ko narmi se naam dijiye, aur dekhiye ki wo maang kya rahi hai
- Aisi ek baat dekhiye jo aapka manager karta hai aur aap rakhna chahenge
- Ek vaakya mein sochiye ki aap kaise leader honge
- Kisi aise insaan ke baare mein sochiye jiske kaam karne ke tareeke ko aap saraahte ho
- Dekhiye ki aapki apni kaun si aadatein aapko garv deti hain
Chhote, nijee aur apni marzi ke. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bade hote waqt aap kise aadarsh maante the, aur unhone aisa kya kiya jo saath reh gaya?
- Kis leader ya teacher ne mehnat ko saarthak feel karaya?
- Aap kaam par apne shaant dhang se kis baat ke liye jaane jaana chahte ho?
- Agar aadarsh boss ki chaah zara dheeli pade, toh aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?
- Aapke aaspaas kaun pehle se aisa gun dikhata hai jise aap zyada dekhna chahenge?