Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jo bheetar saaf dikhta hai, bahar se aksar nahi dikhta.
Kuch logon mein ye kisi purane manager se aati hai jisne dhyaan diya: team lead jisne mushkil din kaha, “Jao, hum dekh lenge,” ya wo supervisor jisne kisi ki Mummy ka naam lekar haal poochha.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Main wafadaar hoon aur mehnati hoon, to mere liye jagah banayi jayegi,” ya “Achha boss bina bataye dekh leta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Der tak rukna, ki mushkil hafta dikhe nahi
- Har message mein zaroorat se zyada safaai dena, phir bura lagna
- Kuch na kehna, phir is baat par aahat hona ki kisi ne dhyaan nahi diya
- Har chhote jawab ko poori haalat par faisla maan lena
- Agla message mann mein tab tak dohrana jab tak wo shaant na lage
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek ghanta der se aane ki guzaarish
In dinon ghar par mushkil chal raha hai, aur Nagpur mein aapki shaamein lambi aur thakane wali hain. Office mein aap kuch hafte ek ghanta der se aane ko kehte hain. Manager kehte hain, “Sabke apne-apne jhamele hain,” aur baat wahin chhod dete hain. Aap sar hilakar desk par laut aate hain. Par wo shabd aapke saath bhaari bane rehte hain, jaise jis darwaze ke khulne ki ummeed thi, wo chupchaap band ho gaya.
Unhein aapke haalaat samajhne chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Boss ko mere haalaat samajhne chahiye.” Ye bilkul insaani lagta hai. Zindagi chalti hai, aur kaam ko jagah deni chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aap kitna sahaara mehsoos karte hain, ise ek insaan ki aapki zindagi ki kalpana karne ki taaqat se baandh deta hai. Aap sambhale hue mehsoos karenge ya nahi, ab us par tika hai jise desk ke paar ka shayad bahut kam pata hai.
Samjha jaana parwah jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki samjha jaana parwah jaisa lagta hai. Shayad ghar mein jab aap joojh rahe hote the to log dekh lete the, aur aapne kaam se bhi wahi ummeed rakhi. Shayad kisi ne kabhi nahi dekha, aur aapne socha is baar alag hoga. Jo bhi ho, samajh chahna kamzori nahi hai. Wo poore insaan ki tarah dekhe jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Sabke oopar ek aur taal-matol
Har taal-matol us sabke oopar aa girti hai jo aap pehle se uthaye hain. Aap chhipane lagte hain ki kya chal raha hai, kuch din khud se bhi. Ye saabit karne ke liye zyada kaam karte hain ki haalaat ka asar nahi hai. Logon se bhari imaarat mein aur akele lagte hain. Dheere-dheere kaam bhi ek aur jagah ban jaata hai jahan sab kuch jodkar rakhna padta hai, aur saans lene ki jagah aur kam ho jaati hai.
Kya unke samajhne ki zaroorat theek?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unke samajhne ki zaroorat ne kabhi mushkil hafton ko aasaan kiya? Ya zyadatar bas ek aur niraasha jodi? Ho sakta hai manager ko asli zindagi par jawab dena na aata ho, ya unke apne mushkil hon jinka wo zikr nahi karte. Jo bhi ho, unka jawab aapke bojh ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada.
Khud ke saath naram hona
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap samjhe jaane ke haqdaar nahi rahe. Matlab ye ki aapke haalaat kitne kathin hain, iska ehsaas ab unki haami ka mohtaaj nahi. Aap jaante hain ki aap kya utha rahe hain, aur uske baare mein khud ke saath naram ho sakte hain, chahe wo na hon. Samajh aur jagahon se bhi aa sakti hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aap ise zara halke dhang se utha sakte hain, bina raah dekhe.
Threats, shouting, harassment, humiliation, being singled out for who you are, pay or papers held back, or being frightened at work, are something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBoss ko mere haalaat samajhne chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai mere kandhon par kya hai. Naram rehna mere haath.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Khud se pyaar se kahiye ki abhi kya mushkil hai
- Din 2
Mushkil din ke aakhir mein khud ke liye ek chhoti narmi chuniye
- Din 3
Kahin bhi aise ek insaan ko pehchaaniye jo thoda samajhta hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kis manager ne aapko samjha hua mehsoos karaya, aur kaise?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Inbox mein utha ek vaakya #
“Boss ko mere haalaat samajhne chahiye.” Ye khayal tab aata hai jab der se aane ka message type ho raha ho, jab manager ke sheeshe wale cabin ke bahar intezaar chal raha ho, ya jab ek ulte-pulte hafte ke baad Monday ki subah ho.
Kuch logon ke liye chaah buniyaadi insaaniyat ki hoti hai: logon ki apni zindagiyan hoti hain, hafte bigad jaate hain, aur zimmedaari ki jagah baitha koi insaan dekh sakta hai. Ummeed itni aam hai ki uske aur asal ke beech ki doori aise chubhti hai jise naam dena mushkil hai.
Boss ke baare mein ye khayal aapke mann mein aakhri baar kab aaya, aur uske aaspaas ka hafta kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Padhne se pehle ka dhakka #
Kuch logon ko pet mein dhakke ki tarah lagta hai jab jawab ek shabd mein aaye, “Noted.”, ya jab us dopahar meeting ka bulaava aa jaye jise wo khaali rakhna chahte the.
Message padhne se pehle hi ye ehsaas aa sakta hai: chehre par garmi, ek teekha sawaal ki “Inhein dikh nahi raha kya chal raha hai?”, jaldi mein likha aur mitaya gaya jawab. Soch baad mein aati hai, aksar ghar lautte hue.
Pichhli baar jab boss ka jawab bura laga, to jawab dene se pehle, bilkul shuru mein, aapne kya feel kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Kaam par dekhe jaane ki ahmiyat #
Aisi ummeed mein sachmuch samajh hai. Job hafte ka bada hissa aur kuch shaamein bhi le leti hai, to zindagi bhaari pade tab thodi gunjaaish ki ummeed swaabhaavik hai.
Jo bheetar saaf dikhta hai, bahar se aksar nahi dikhta. Kathin hafta apne dimaag mein bahut shor karta hai, aur desk ke us paar ya video call par lagbhag anadekha reh sakta hai, khaaskar jab zyadatar chupchaap saha gaya ho.
Aapke haalaat ke baare mein boss sachmuch kya jaante hain, aur aap kya chahte the ki wo apne aap bhaanp lein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo apna case dohrati hai #
“Inhein toh pata hi hoga kya chal raha hai.” “Dil wala koi bhi dekh leta.” “Itne saal se yahan hoon, thodi riyayat toh banti hai.” Ye awaaz message bhejne ke baad ke antaral mein bolti hai, jab jawab abhi ek dhoosar tick hai.
Saalon ka achha kaam mann mein ek analikha samjhauta ban sakta hai, aur kuch logon ko ek chhota jawab us samjhaute ke toote jaisa chubhta hai, jabki wo kabhi likha ya kaha nahi gaya.
Jab awaaz boss ke saamne aapka case dohrati hai, to kis line par lautti hai, aur kya sunne ki ummeed karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Achhe boss ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye kisi purane manager se aati hai jisne dhyaan diya: team lead jisne mushkil din kaha, “Jao, hum dekh lenge,” ya wo supervisor jisne kisi ki Mummy ka naam lekar haal poochha. Ek achha boss poori tasveer bana sakta hai ki koi bhi boss kaisa ho sakta hai.
Kuch mein ye kisi teacher ya pehli job se aati hai jahan kisi ne jagah banayi, ya kisi ne nahi banayi, aur unhone tay kiya ki kaam alag bhi ho sakta hai. Kuch ise ek insaan tak le jaate hain; kuch ko lagta hai ye kai chhoti cheezon se bani.
Kis manager, teacher ya bade ne aapko sabse pehle dikhaya ki kaam par samjhe jaane ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur unhone kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo har jawab padhta hai #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Main wafadaar hoon aur mehnati hoon, to mere liye jagah banayi jayegi,” ya “Achha boss bina bataye dekh leta hai.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; niyam tay karta hai ki har jawab ko kaise padha jaye.
Aisa niyam seedhi-saadi nishpakshta jaisa lag sakta hai, aur aksar uske kareeb hota bhi hai. Isiliye use is job aur is boss ke saath, jaise wo aaj hain, dekhne laayak hai.
Kaam ke kin hisson mein samjhe jaane ka niyam aaj bhi baithta hai, aur kaun-se hisson tak wo pahunchta hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Intezaar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai kase jabde ke saath khola gaya inbox, bina kisi khushi ke jama kiya gaya achha kaam, ek team lunch jo chhoot gaya kyunki boss ke paas baithna bahut chubhne wala laga. Chhoti cheezein, jo agle din bhi saath chalti hain.
Job ek insaan se lambi behas jaisi bhi lagne lagti hai, jo zyadatar ghar jaate hue aapke apne sar mein chalti hai, aur har jawab samjhe jaane ki pariksha ban jaata hai.
Pichhle saal mein office ka kaun-sa aam din sabse halka laga, aur usmein kya alag tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Dekhe jaane ka intezaar, paanch aur baras #
Ek aam Tuesday lijiye, us din ka jab “Boss ko samajhna chahiye” zor se baj raha ho. Ye sirf dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ek stand-up jisme sab shaant sunayi deta hai, teen tarah se likha gaya jawab, desk par khaya gaya lunch, ghar ka adhoora chhoda call, team ke liye ek idea jo kisi aur din ke liye roka gaya.
Isme kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer kisi bhi pal rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: messages, meetings, do baar padhe gaye jawab, anakahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya hua, aur kya alag rakha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar, agar kuch, toh aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Samjha jaana, theek kis tarah? #
Koi ummeed tab sabse achhi chalti hai jab wo utni ho jitni asal mein ho sake. “Mere haalaat samjhein” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: naram lehja, ek deadline aage khisakna, ek sawaal poochh lena, ya bas do baar samjhana na padna.
Boss alag hote hain, jobs bhi. Kuch ko lagta hai ki jo manager ek tarah se zyada nahi de sakta, wo doosri tarah se kuch de sakta hai, aur kuch ko lagta hai jagah sachmuch hai hi nahi. Inmein se koi bhi is par faisla nahi ki hafta kitna kathin tha.
Agar “mere haalaat samjhein” ko ek chhoti, thos cheez banna ho, to ek aam Wednesday ko wo kya hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo kaam pehle se deta hai #
Jis samajh ki aap ummeed karte the, uske saath-saath ye dekhna bhi theek hai ki is job ya usmein maujood logon se pehle se kya mila hai, chahe kitna chhota ya oncha-neecha: ek deadline jo ek baar sach mein khisaki, kisi saathi ka call sambhal lena, report par ek jhatpat “Thanks”.
Inhein dekhna ummeed ko radd nahi karta, aur ummeed inhein radd nahi karti. Bina maange mili chhoti cheezein aasaani se chhoot jaati hain, aur un par doosri nazar daalne mein kuch nahi lagta.
Ek aam hafte mein, office mein ya bahar kisi ne aapko pehle se kya diya hai jise aap aur saaf dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Khuli mutthi mein rakhi ek ummeed #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada thi, ya sahi thi. Matlab ye ki ummeed aur jawab ke beech ki doori har kaam-kaaji din nahi chalti rehti. Usmein jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: kathin hafte mein thodi gunjaaish ki chaah. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo pakad hai.
Agar boss, ya office mein koi bhi, aapko dhamkaye, pareshaan kare, beizzat kare, ya is wajah se alag nishaana banaye ki aap kaun hain (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, koi viklangta, ya kahan se hain), to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak hai.
Bina paise ka kaam, roki gayi tankhwaah ya kaagzaat, aur darr lagna bhi isi mein aate hain; saavdhaan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai. Office mein buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi, aapke liye bhi aur aaspaas ke logon ke liye bhi.
Aur agar ghar mein koi bimaari, koi apna kho dena, ya koi aapko chot pahuncha ya dara raha ho, to wo is ummeed se bhaari hai, aur use aise insaan ki zaroorat hai jo use theek se sun sake.
Ek aise kaam-kaaji din ki kalpana kijiye jo is ummeed se sulah mein hai: pehle ghante mein aap kya karenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Kaam-kaaji hafte ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Boss ko mere haalaat samajhne chahiye” se behas karne ke bajaay kuch log ye line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Is hafte thodi aur gunjaaish chahiye thi, aur mera hafta phir bhi ginaa jayega.” Ise purani line ko haraana nahi hai, bas uske paas khadi hona hai.
Apni line shuru mein udhaar ki lagti hai aur istemaal se jaani-pehchani ho jaati hai; kuch ke liye kabhi poori fit nahi baithti, aur koi doosri hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo ummeed ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur boss ki sahmati ki zaroorat na rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baatein daftar ke darwaze par reh sakti hain #
Kaam ki har khaali jagah Friday tak bharni zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, ek minute feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur daftar ke darwaze ya parking mein rakha ja sakta hai, jaise nikalte waqt bag mein daala gaya I-card.
Har daftar ke paas dene ko jagah nahi hoti. Samjhe jaane ki ummeed nijee reh sakti hai, aur sachchi rehti hai. Agar office mein kuch aapko daraye ya alag nishaana banaye, ya ghar mein jo ho raha hai wo aapko chot pahuncha raha ho, to wo alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak hai.
Shaam ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo jaayaz tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki office ka din poora-ka-poora aapke saath ghar nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad zara bhi dheeli ho #
Bas ek pal ke liye ummeed ko ek darja shaant karke dekhiye. Samjhe jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ek jawab bas ek jawab hai.
Shayad kuch chhota: bina tanaav ke khola gaya inbox, desk se door kiya gaya lunch, ya ek achha kaam jise usi ke liye saraha gaya.
Kisi aur ko isme se kuch sunne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka hai, chahe kitna chhota. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Chaah aaye to use kuch seedhe shabd dijiye aur rehne dijiye
- Chhota jawab aaye to use ek baar aur padhiye, screen par likhe bas shabdon ki tarah
- Aaj aap kya chahte the, chahe kitna chhota, us par gaur kijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: aaj samjhe jaane ka matlab kya hota?
- Dekhiye kaun-sa hissa zyada zor se bolta hai: jawab ke shabd, ya uska waqt
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kis manager ne aapko samjha hua mehsoos karaya, aur kaise?
- Office mein kisne aapka mushkil hafta aasaan kiya, aur kya kiya?
- Purane kis manager ne sahi kiya, aur uski kaun-si baat aapko aaj bhi yaad hai?
- Agar boss ke samajhne ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?
- Ek aam kaam-kaaji hafte ki kaun-si chhoti achhi baat aap zyada notice karna chahenge?