Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Par bachche ka dhyaan aksar kahin aur hota hai, poora ka poora: ek level, ek cartoon, ek dost ki baat mein.
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: aisa ghar jahan papa ya dadaji ki ek awaaz kaafi thi, jahan doosri baar kehne ki naubat hi nahi aati thi.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jo bachcha pehli baar nahi sunta, wo meri izzat nahi karta,” ya “Ek baar dheel di to sab sir par chadh jayenge.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Dobara kehna, thoda zor se, phir aur zor se
- Haar maankar khud kar dena, andar hi andar gusse mein
- Zor se ginti ginna aur ummeed karna ki is baar chalega
- Kisi cousin se tulna karna jo jhat se sun leta hai
- Chauthi baar nikli apni awaaz par baad mein bura lagna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Paanchvi baar “Joote pehen lo”
School ki subah, saadhe saat baje. “Joote pehen lo, please.” Kuch nahi. “Joote pehen lo, der ho rahi hai.” Phir kuch nahi. Paanchvi baar tak awaaz oonchi aur teekhi ho chuki hai, aur apni hi awaaz kisi aise insaan ki lagti hai jo aap banna nahi chahte the. Beti aakhir munh phulakar joote pehenti hai. Gaadi mein dono chup hain, aur subah pehle se bhaari aur bigdi lagti hai.
Unhein pehli baar mein sunna chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachchon ko pehli baar kehne par hi sun lena chahiye.” Ye bilkul theek lagta hai. Aap to pyaar se kehte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka chain ek bachche ke dhyaan par tik jaata hai, jo sau aur cheezon mein laga hai. Subah achhi jayegi ya nahi, iska faisla ek chhote dimaag par aa jaata hai jo ho sakta hai pehli baar mein shabd pakad hi na paye.
Suna jaana izzat jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki suna jaana izzat jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan bado ka ek shabd kaafi tha, aur wahi ummeed ab bhi hai. Shayad bas thakan hai, aur paanch baar kehna lambe din mein ek cheez aur bhaari lagta hai. Sune jaane ki chaah kathorta nahi hai. Isme har kisi ke liye shaant ghar ki chaah hai, jise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har subah thoda aur kaste hue
Har dohrayi gayi pukaar aapko thoda aur kas deti hai. Har subah aap ladai ke liye taiyaar uthte ho. Awaaz oonchi hoti jaati hai, phir baad mein bura lagta hai. Aap ginte rehte ho ki kitni baar kaha. Dheere-dheere subahein aisi jang lagne lagti hain jo kabhi jeeti nahi jaati, aur bachchon ke saath ke chhote, garm pal hadbadi aur oonchi awaazon mein kho jaate hain.
Kya pehli-baar wala niyam sahi hai?
Imaandari se poochhiye: kya pehli baar mein sunwane ki zaroorat ne kabhi subahon ko shaant kiya? Ya zyadatar har dohrav aur kheej wala bana diya? Bachchon ka dhyaan aksar kahin aur hota hai, kisi game ya sapne mein, aur ansuna karna shayad hi kabhi zid hoti hai. Phir bhi dheemi joote aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi hain. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Ek baar kehna, thodi der dena
Chhodne ka matlab kehna ya ummeed chhodna nahi hai. Matlab ye ki aapka chain pehli baar mein sune jaane par na tike. Aap paas jaakar bachche ki unchaai par aa sakte ho, ek baar saaf keh sakte ho, aur thodi der ki ummeed rakh sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: subahein thodi dheemi, aur bahut zyada naram ho sakti hain, dono ke liye.
Basic respect and safety at home are never too much to expect; being threatened, hurt or frightened by anyone is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bachchon ko pehli baar kehne par hi sun lena chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleEk baar saaf kehna kaafi hai, thodi der ki gunjaish ke saath.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Kuch kehte waqt bachche ki aankhon ki unchaai par aa jaiye
- Din 2
Is hafte ek baar subah das minute pehle shuru kijiye
- Din 3
Awaaz oonchi hone lage to ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun si ansuni pukaar ab bhi yaad hai, aur us shaam aap kya nipatane ki koshish mein the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Rasoi ke darwaaze se lagayi pukaar #
“Mere bachchon ko pehli baar kehne par hi sun lena chahiye.” Ye aksar teesri pukaar par aati hai: school van aane se pehle hall se “Joote pehno!”, mobile par game ki beep ab bhi bajti hui, aur nahane ka paani thanda hota hua, Patna ke kisi flat mein.
Ye ummeed jaisi lagti hi nahi. Lagti hai ghar chalane ki sabse kam shart: kaha, suna, kaam hua, aur sab waqt par darwaaze se nikle. Shayad isiliye ye faasla itna niji lagta hai.
Aakhri baar kab ek hi baat teesri baar kehni padi, aur us waqt kya nipatana tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Har baar chadhti garmi #
Kuch logon ko pehli pukaar par zara-sa khichaav mehsoos hota hai, doosri par garmi, aur teesri tak awaaz aise bahar aati hai jaise apni na ho. Van ka horn gate par bajta ho to ye aur tez hoti hai.
Body pehle bolti hai: kandhe kas jaate hain, saans chhoti ho jaati hai, haath kisi cheez ko zaroorat se zyada zor se pakad leta hai. Sentence baad mein aata hai, kai baar jaisa aap chahte the usse teekha.
Pichhli baar jab chauthi baar bolna pada, to awaaz tez hone se theek pehle body mein kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ghar mein suna jaana chahna jaayaz hai #
Ye ummeed isliye theek lagti hai ki isme sach hai. Suna jaana izzat jaisa lagta hai, aur ghar tab chalta hai jab baat ek baar mein pahunch jaye. Thodi madad chahna, zor se bole bina, galat nahi.
Par bachche ka dhyaan aksar kahin aur hota hai, poora ka poora: ek level, ek cartoon, ek dost ki baat mein. Kaan par joon na rengna kai baar zid nahi, bas dhyaan ka door hona hota hai.
Aapke ghar ki ek aam subah mein ‘pehli baar mein sun lena’ kaisa dikhega: kaun kya kehta, aur bachcha kahan hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Ginti rakhne wali awaaz #
“Kitni baar boloon?” “Ek kaan se sunte hain, doosre se nikaal dete hain.” “Papa ko bulaoon kya?” Ye awaaz aksar subah ki bhaagdaud mein bolti hai, ya shaam ko jab khaane ke liye paanchvi baar bulana pade.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki is ginti mein ek purani thakan chhipi hai: ki meri baat ka wazan hai ya nahi. Awaaz tez hone ke neeche aksar ‘mujhe bhi to suna jaye’ baitha hota hai.
Jab ye awaaz ginne lagti hai, to wo asal mein bachchon se kya sunna chahti hai, aur baat ke poora hone ke alawa kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Sunne wale bachche ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: aisa ghar jahan papa ya dadaji ki ek awaaz kaafi thi, jahan doosri baar kehne ki naubat hi nahi aati thi. Kai gharon mein ek baar mein sun lena hi saleeqa tha.
Kuch mein ye ulti taraf se aati hai: aisa ghar jahan koi sunta hi nahi tha, aur chupchaap ye tay karna ki apne ghar mein baat suni jayegi. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Apne bachpan mein kiski ek awaaz se sab ruk jaata tha, aur aaj wo awaaz ghar mein kiski jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Baar-baar kehne ke neeche ka niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jo bachcha pehli baar nahi sunta, wo meri izzat nahi karta,” ya “Ek baar dheel di to sab sir par chadh jayenge.” Pehla sentence sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har ansuni baat ka kya matlab nikala jayega.
Ye niyam jaisa nahi lagta. Lagta hai saamanya samajhdaari, aur uske kuch hisson mein sach bhi hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek rehta hai, apne bachchon ke saath jaise ve aaj hain, apni umar, apni bhaagdaud aur apne dhyaan ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke ghar mein ‘pehli baar mein suno’ wala ye niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar mein dohrana kya le jaata hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har subah ladai ke liye taiyaar hokar uthna, awaaz jo har baar thodi aur oonchi, aur baad mein uske liye pachhtava. Ginti bhi saath chalti hai ki aaj kitni baar kaha, aur ghar ki subah ek daud ban jaati hai jise koi jeetta nahi.
Ye garm palon ko bhi kha jaata hai: van ke intezaar mein jo mazaak ho sakta tha, darwaaze par jo gale lagna ho sakta tha, wo hadbadi aur oonchi awaazon mein kho jaata hai. Gaadi ya van mein sab chup baithte hain aur subah pehle se bhaari lagne lagti hai.
Pichhle saal ki kaun si aam subah ‘Kitni baar boloon’ ke rang mein rangi rahi, aur uski aapko kya keemat chukani padi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Chauthi pukaar ke aur paanch saal #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “Bachche pehli baar mein sunein” ki awaaz tez hai. Ye bas ek tasveer hai, dekhne ke liye, theek karne ke liye kuch nahi.
Shayad har subah ki ginti, gate par bajta horn, ek awaaz jo van ki or badhte kadmon ke peechhe oonchi hoti hai, aur darwaaze par bina gale lage vidaai.
Isme kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein wapas rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: joote, ghadi, baar-baar bulana, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us subah mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us subah ko dekhkar, kuch dikhta hai to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Suna jaana, kis tarah? #
Sunne ke kai roop ho sakte hain. Ek bachcha awaaz to sun leta hai par us waqt uska dimaag doosri jagah hota hai, aur kabhi wo sunta hai par haan kehne mein der karta hai. Ek baar mein kaan tak pahunchna aur ek baar mein kaam tak pahunchna alag-alag baatein ho sakti hain.
Kuch maata-pita paate hain ki paas aakar aankh milakar ek baar saaf kehna, chillakar teen baar kehne se zyada kaam karta hai. Isse sune jaane ki chaah galat ya sahi nahi ho jaati, bas pahunchne ka ek aur raasta dikhta hai.
‘Sune jaana’ mein jo kuch bhara hai, usme se sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai: kaam ho jaana, izzat milna, ya shaant subah?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se suna jaata hai #
Jo baatein ansuni reh jaati hain, unke saath kuch logon ko ye dekhna achha lagta hai ki kya pehle se suna jaata hai: khaane par ek baat jis par bachcha turant hans pada, wo hidayat jo chupchaap nibhayi gayi, pukaar par ek baar mein aaya wo din.
Inmein se kuch bhi bakaya nahi hai, aur ise dekhne se chaah kam nahi hoti: sune jaane ki aas aur jo suna jaata hai uska notice dono saath reh sakte hain. Kuch shaamon mein list chhoti hoti hai, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke bachche bina dobara kahe pehle se kya sun lete hain, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Chain, aur ek shaant shaam #
Is ummeed se chain ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis shaam ki aapko aas thi aur jisme chaar pukaarein hain, unke beech ka faasla poori raat ka mood tay karna band kar de.
Jo isme jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: suna jaana, aisa ghar jo oonchi awaazon ke bina chale, thodi madad. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo har pukaar ka wazan hai, taaki thoda shaant hokar ek baar aur bulana bas ek baar aur bulana ho, aur khaana phir bhi ban jaye.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi, ghar mein sabke liye bhi.
Is chaah se chain wali kisi shaam ki sochiye: uski kaun si baat aapko achhi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ek vyast shaam ke liye zyada sachchi line #
“Mere bachchon ko pehli baar mein sun lena chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Meri chaah hai ki meri baat pahunche, aur ek baar saaf keh dena kaafi ho sakta hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purani line ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Shuru mein ye feeki lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko pata chalta hai ki apne shabdon ki line waqt ke saath purani wali ke paas thodi jagah bana leti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur dono theek hain. Koi aur line hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein kaun sa sentence zyada sachcha hoga, jo sune jaane ki aas rakhe aur har pukaar ka bojh halka kar de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch shaamein jaisi thin, waisi reh sakti hain #
Har ansuni baat ka aaj raat niptara zaroori nahi. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek baar aah bhari ja sakti hai, aur tiffin ke dabbon ke saath counter par chhodi ja sakti hain, Patna ki rasoi mein ho ya kisi aur ghar mein, jabki baaki shaam chalti rahe.
Kuch shaamein sachmuch uska waqt nahi hoti, aur aapko parakhna nahi hai. Sune jaane ki chaah mushkil shaamon mein niji reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi asli chaah hai, jaanne laayak, chahe kisi ne use kehte suna ho ya nahi.
Raat ke liye use neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch kam tha, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki dohrayi gayi pukaaron ki ek shaam ko poore parivaar-jeevan ka haal nahi banna hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar wazan, zara-sa, halka padta #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek paayadaan dheemi ho. Sune jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par pehli pukaar ka theek-theek jawab na milna koi imtihaan nahi raha.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bachche ke paas jaakar saaf awaaz mein ek baar kehna, subah das minute pehle shuru karna, ya awaaz oonchi hone se pehle ek dheemi saans.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna nahi hai. Jo ubharta hai wo aapka hai, dekhne laayak. Aage: is chaah se chain ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag mehsoos hoga, chahe thoda hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Log kuch chhoti cheezein aazmate hain #
- Is khayal ko apna koi naam dijiye, jaise “Pehli pukaar ki aas”
- Teesri baar kehne se pehle ek dheemi saans par dhyaan dijiye
- Aaj apne liye jo chaha, chahe kitna chhota, use gaur se dekhiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye ginti kaam ki hai, ya sune jaane ki?
- Ek pal ke liye subah ko bachche ki jagah se dekhiye, jab uske haath mein game ho
Chhoti, niji aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun si ansuni pukaar ab bhi yaad hai, aur us shaam aap kya nipatane ki koshish mein the?
- Chauthi baar tak aapki awaaz mein kya aa jaata hai jo pehli baar mein nahi tha?
- Ghar mein dohrate waqt bachpan ki kiski awaaz sunayi deti hai?
- Agar pehli baar mein sune jaane ki chaah thodi dheeli pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Aapke bachche do baar kahe bina pehle se kya karte hain, jiska aap aur maza lena chahenge?