Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar theek usi waqt aati hai, jab bachcha dekh raha hota hai aur faisla abhi garam hota hai.
Kuch maa-baap jaan-boojhkar naram rehte hain, uski wajah unki yaad mein hoti hai: aisa ghar jahan awaazein oonchi thin aur niyam kade, ya aisa jahan lagbhag koi niyam nahi tha.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Log kya sochte hain, usi se tay hota hai ki ye parvarish sahi hai ya nahi,” ya “Apne bachche par meri raay ka wazan hi kitna hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Wahin sakht ho jaana, taaki kamre ko dikh jaye
- Jinhone poochha nahi, unhein apni narmi ki wajahein lambi-lambi samjhana
- Naram bane rehna, aur phir poori dopahar nazron ke neeche mehsoos karna
- Us rishtedaar ke aane par bachche se bolne ka dhang badal lena
- Baad mein us pal ko har taraf se dohrakar faisle ko jaanchna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aadhi plate, uthi hui bhaunh
Indirapuram mein Bua ke ghar Sunday ka lunch. Bachche ne aadhi plate chhodi aur khelne jaane ko poochha. Aapne sir hila diya, plate aadhi bhari rahi. Bua ne raita badhate hue bhaunh uthayi: “Aap inhein bahut dheel dete hain.” Do-teen log hans pade. Chehre par muskaan aayi, par andar kuch kas gaya. Lautte hue aapne wo sir hilana dohraya, aur lunch par itni saaf lagi wajahein ab nahi milti.
Sabke saamne kadak raho
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Achha maa-baap sabke saamne kadak rehta hai.” Ye seedhi samajhdaari lagta hai, aur zyadatar log haan mein sir hilayenge. Par dekhiye ye kya karta hai: har chhoti narmi ko kadakpan ka pradarshan bana deta hai, aur har dekhne wale ko judge. Aap mehfil ke liye faisle karne lagte ho, aur bachche ko wo maa-baap milta hai jo kamre ko dekh raha hai.
Hum pakka kyun dikhna chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki hum chahte hain bachche achhe niklein, aur hum chahte hain ki sab dekhein hum sahi kar rahe hain. Kai logon ka bachpan achhe maa-baap ki ek kadi tasveer ke aaspaas beeta aur unhone use poora apna liya. Shayad aapke ghar mein sakhti thi, ya uska ulta. Pakka dikhna chahna kamzori nahi. Ye gehri parwah se aata hai, aur us par narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Har tippani ka thoda shak
Har “Bahut dheel” thoda shak jodta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Kisi khaas rishtedaar ke aate hi awaaz tez ho jaati hai. Meharbaaniyan tab ke liye bach jaati hain jab koi na dekhe. Parivaar ki mehfilon mein ek saadharan sir hilana bhi aisa lagta hai jiska baad mein jawab dena pad sakta hai.
Kya kadak dikhna is layak hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya kadak dikhne se aap maa-baap ke roop mein kabhi zyada bharosa aaya? Ya zyadatar apne hi ghar mein kisi aur jaisa mehsoos hua? Narmi par sabki raay hai, aur raay aapas mein milti nahi. Iska jawab sirf aap de sakte ho, aur koi jawab galat nahi. Is niyam ko itni kasakar pakadna, kya wo keemat chukane layak hai?
Aapke faisle aapke hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap bachche ke saath apne bartaav ke baare mein sochna band kar dein. Matlab ye ki ek tippani use number dene ka haq kho de. Aap sun sakte ho, muskura sakte ho aur apni baat apne paas rakh sakte ho. Ye ekdum se nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Chhote se shuru ho sakta hai. Wahin chain lautta hai: faisle aapke rehte hain, aur mehfilein phir garm lag sakti hain.
If comments about how you look after your children ever come with threats, being frightened, or someone trying to control your family, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAchha maa-baap sabke saamne kadak rehta hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleBachche ko mujhse behtar kaun jaanta hai. Tippaniyan guzar sakti hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek tippani ko bina dohraye guzar jaane dijiye
- Kadam 2
Apne ek naram faisle ka naam lijiye jis par achha lagta hai
- Kadam 3
Mehfil ke baad apne liye ek shaant pal nikaliye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne aapko dheel dene wala kaha, tab theek pehle kya hua tha aur kaun dekh raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek chhoti-si narmi ke theek baad #
Indirapuram mein Bua ke yahan Sunday ka khaana. Bachche ne aadhi dal-chawal ki plate chhod di aur poochha, “Pet bhar gaya, khelne jaoon?” Aapne sir hila diya. Bua ne raita badhate hue aadhi muskaan se kaha: “Aap inhein bahut dheel dete hain.” Ek chhote se faisle par poore kamre ne number de diye.
Sunne mein ye ek pal ki baat lagti hai, par aksar chot use lagti hai jisne narmi ki. Narmi maa-baap ka chuna hua raasta hai, aur aksar uski wajahein kamre ne suni hi nahi. Aise shabd chunne ko hi galti jaisa bana dete hain.
Aakhri baar “Bahut sir chadha rakha hai” ya “Bahut dheel dete hain” kab suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Theek pehle kya hua tha, aur aapki wo wajahein kya thin jo kisi ne poochhi hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Aadhi muskaan ke baad ka ek second #
Koi maa-baap hanskar keh dete hain, “Haan, shayad.” Kisi ka chehra garam ho jaata hai aur bachche se awaaz achanak sakht, bas ye dikhane ko ki wo bhi kadak ho sakte hain. Koi naram bana rehta hai aur sabki nazrein peeth par mehsoos karta hai. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko safai nahi deni.
Narmi par tippani aati hai to saamne mehfil hoti hai, aur mehfil maa-baap ko do taraf kheench sakti hai. Wajahein aksar baad mein yaad aati hain, lautte hue gaadi mein, saaf aur shaant, magar kehne ka mauqa nikal chuka hota hai.
Un shabdon ke theek baad aapne kya kiya: apni baat par tikna, awaaz sakht karna ya jam jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur us pehli harkat mein andar kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye narmi ko taulta hai, us pal ko nahi #
Tippani us pal ko chhodkar maa-baap ko hi ek tarah ka insaan bana deti hai. “Main to das minute aur nahi khelne deti” ek faisle par raay hai. “Bahut dheel dete hain” ek thappa hai, aur mann thappa sunta hai, us chhote faisle ko nahi jisse baat shuru hui thi.
Ye aksar theek usi waqt aati hai, jab bachcha dekh raha hota hai aur faisla abhi garam hota hai. Tab maa-baap do jagah jawab de rahe hote hain, saamne bachche ko aur aaspaas baithe bado ko, aur beech mein sochne ki koi shaant jagah nahi bachti.
Agar baat sirf us ek pal par hoti, aap par nahi, to shayad nikal jaati.
Tab wo kaisi sunayi deti, aur kitni chhoti lagti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab shak andar basne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar bas jaata hai. “Kya mujhe mana kar dena chahiye tha?” “Thoda kadak bano, log dekh rahe hain.” “Shayad sahi keh rahe hain, maine hi bahut chhoot de di.” Kabhi-kabhi bachcha kuch maange, usse pehle hi ye sawaal aa jaata hai.
Kehne wale shayad door hain, par shak ab dining table par, society ki dukaan mein aur sone se pehle hota hai. Kyunki ye aapke apne zameer jaisa sunayi deta hai, ye kisi ki tippani nahi, insaaf jaisa lagta hai.
Jab aap bachche ko narmi se jawab dete hain aur sochte hain ki bahar se kaisa dikhega, tab andar kiski awaaz jud jaati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ki narmi ka ek itihaas hota hai #
Kuch maa-baap jaan-boojhkar naram rehte hain, uski wajah unki yaad mein hoti hai: aisa ghar jahan awaazein oonchi thin aur niyam kade, ya aisa jahan lagbhag koi niyam nahi tha. Kuch wahi apnate hain jo kisi dost ya bhai-behen ke ghar chala. Jo bhi wajah ho, naram faisle mein bahar se dikhne se zyada soch hoti hai.
Kuch log “Bahut sir chadha rakha hai” ki chubhan ko bachpan ke “Hamare zamaane mein Papa ki ek ghoor kaafi thi” ya “Itna nazuk mat bano” tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se, narmi par tippani us shaam se purani kisi cheez par bhi dabaav daal sakti hai.
Bachche ke saath kaise pesh aana hai, ye samajh aapko sabse pehle kahan se mili, aur jab koi us par sawaal uthaye to kiski awaaz yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Narmi ke neeche baitha ek chup niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata ban sakti hai: “Log kya sochte hain, usi se tay hota hai ki ye parvarish sahi hai ya nahi,” ya “Apne bachche par meri raay ka wazan hi kitna hai.” Ek aur roop hai: “Koi etraaz kare to galti meri hi hogi.”
Aisi maanyataein maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo khula dil lagti hain, jaise tang darwaaze par rukkar kisi ko pehle jaane dena tehzeeb lage. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhi ujaale mein rakhkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Kin kamron mein “Koi etraaz kare to galti meri” ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nazron ke neeche faisle ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki naram jawab ki jagah sakht jawab sirf isliye aa jaye ki koi khaas rishtedaar kamre mein aa gaya, ya chhoti-si meharbaani tab ke liye bachayi jaaye jab koi na dekh raha ho. Kai maa-baap ko ye tab dikhta hai jab faisle bahut der se saamne walon ke liye hone lage hon.
Ek chup keemat bhi hai. “Dheel dene wala” kehlana akela bhi kar sakta hai, aur bachcha bhi fark mehsoos kar leta hai, chain se baithe maa-baap aur chehra chadhaye maa-baap ka. Saal bhar mein kai aam pal zaroorat se zyada bhaari ho jaate hain.
Pichhle ek saal mein kaun sa naram faisla isliye zyada bhaari laga ki kaun dekh raha hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, kamre ke liye faisle karte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Koi etraaz kare to galti meri” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki koi cheez nahi.
Shayad usmein kisi rishtedaar ke ghar jaate hue gaadi mein sakht ki gayi naram baat hai, parivaar ke WhatsApp group mein teen baar samjhaya gaya ek faisla, ek chhoti meharbaani jo tab ke liye bachayi gayi jab koi na dekhe. Kuch hissa sahi lag sakta hai, kuch nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi ek taraf rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: faisle, mulaqaatein, safaiyan, wo chunav jo ek aankh kamre par rakhkar kiye gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday mein, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dheel, magar kiske muqable? #
Paimana batate hi ye aksar kisi ek ki pasand lagti hai, jo ek maa-baap ki apne bachche ki samajh ke bagal mein rakhi hai.
Wahi jawab ek kursi se dheel lagta hai aur doosri se samajhdaari. Mehmaan wo pal dekhta hai jab faisla utarta hai; maa-baap ko wo poora hafta pata hai jiska wo hissa hai, aur wo sab jo mehmaan ne kabhi dekha hi nahi.
“Bahut dheel” ka kuch matlab tab banta hai jab koi paimana ho: kiske ghar ke muqable, kis bachche, kis shaam, aur tay kisne kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar koi dost bataye ki ek chhote faisle par kisi ne use bahut dheel dene wala keh diya, to usse sabse pehle aap kya poochhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dobara dekhne par kuch logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch maa-baap us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain to bachche ko dekhte hain: abhi kya hua tha, chehra kya keh raha tha, use kya chahiye tha.
Kuch ko wo log yaad aate hain jinhone raay dene se pehle wajah poochhi: ek saheli jo samajhna chahti thi, koi teacher, koi doosre maa-baap jinhone kaha, “Hamare yahan bhi aisa hi hota hai.” Wo awaazein shayad pehle se thin, bas tippani se dheemi.
“Bahut dheel” ke bagal mein rakhkar, us pal ko dheema dekhne par kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Raay dene se pehle aapki wajah kisne kabhi poochhi, aur wo baatcheet kaisi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Behes nipatana zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki faisla sahi tha, na ye dikhana ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka aapke agle faisle par aur bachche ke saath baaki din kaisa lage, is par kam dakhal rahe.
Kuch maa-baap ko halka lagta hai jab wo safai ka rehearsal chhod dete hain. Wo kabhi poori nahi hoti, kyunki har mehmaan ko alag jawab chahiye, aur ek tippani har faisle ke beech mein baith jaati hai. Kuch kamre sunenge hi nahi, aur wahan kisi ko aazmana nahi.
Kaisa lagega agar “Bahut dheel” kehne wale ke paas hi rehne dein, aur apni wajahein apne paas rakhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli mulaqaat ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “Shayad maine hi bahut chhoot de di” tab se chal raha hai, to usse seedhe bhidne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch maa-baap iski jagah ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine naram faisla liya, un wajahon se jo kamre ne suni nahi.”
Ye shuru mein sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jise kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki chupchaap dohrane par purane sawaal ke liye thodi kam jagah bachti hai, khaaskar kisi ke aane se pehle ke minuton mein.
Bachche ke saath aapke pesh aane ke baare mein aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo theek ho aur jiske liye har mehmaan ki haan zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har “Bahut dheel” ko safai, behes ya agli baar kadak awaaz nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise chaabiyan darwaaze ke paas ki katori mein.
Ye peechhe hatna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapka dhyaan kahan jaye, aur kuch maa-baap kehte hain ki isse din ke baaki hisse ke liye jagah bachti hai: school se lautne ki paidal sair, nahate waqt ka mazaak, gaadi mein banaya hua gaana.
Aaj shaam ke liye tippani neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi thi ya baat khatam. Bas itna ki use agle faisle, ya uske baad wale mein, saath baithna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shak thoda dheela pade #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki shak ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Aapke faisle ab bhi aapke hain, badalne ke liye bhi, aur tippani bas tippani hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: apni raftaar se liya gaya faisla, kisi ke ghar jaate hue gaadi mein wajahein ratte bina safar, ya dinner ko baar-baar dohraye bina guzri shaam.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya thoda bhi alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi dheel wali line”
- Chupchaap poochhiye: dheel, magar kiske muqable aur kahan se dekhkar?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada kya chubha: tippani, ya faisla karte hue dekha jaana
- Is hafte ka koi ek naram faisla, uski wajah ke saath, chupchaap yaad kijiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne khud ke liye chahi
Sab chhote, nijee aur apni marzi se. Jo theek lage, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne aapko dheel dene wala kaha, tab theek pehle kya hua tha aur kaun dekh raha tha?
- Us faisle par tikte ya use badalte hue aapne kiski nazrein apne oopar mehsoos kin?
- Us naram faisle ki kaun si wajah ghar tak aapke saath aayi, jise sunne ko kisi ne poochha nahi?
- Jis aam din shak zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar shak thoda halka pade, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?