Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Yaad rakha jaana ye bhi batata hai ki kamre mein aap ek insaan the, sirf task list nahi.
Kuch logon mein ye us teacher se shuru hua jinhein mahinon pehle kahi gayi baat, fikar ya pasandida subject yaad rehta tha, aur bachche ko laga ki use jaana jaata hai.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar baat zaroori hoti to yaad rehti,” ya “Achha boss meri kahi baat pakadkar rakhta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har baatcheet ke baad likhit saaransh bhej dena
- Apne notes rakhna, ki kabhi kaam aayein
- Baat phir kehna, par chhoti karke, aur phir thaka-sa feel karna
- Sochna ki baat shuru mein saaf thi bhi ya nahi
- Zaroori baatein kam baithkon ke liye bacha lena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo one-on-one jo bhool gaye
Pichhle mahine Chandigarh mein apne one-on-one mein aapne manager ko wo course bataya jo karna chahte the aur wo client jise lead karne ki aas thi. Unhone sar hilaya aur dilchaspi dikhayi. Aaj agle one-on-one mein wo poochhte hain, “Aur, is saal kya socha hai?” jaise pehli baar poochh rahe hon. Aap muskuraakar phir jawab dete hain, par andar kuch thoda aur neeche baith jaata hai.
Parwah yaani yaad rakhna
Andar ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar boss ko parwah hoti, to hamari baat yaad rakhte.” Jaayaz lagta hai. Yaad rakhna dhyaan ki nishaani hai. Par dekhiye wo karta kya hai: har bhooli hui baat ko is saboot mein badal deta hai ki aap maayne nahi rakhte. Aapka qadr paane ka ehsaas ab kisi aur ki yaaddaasht par tika hai, us hafte mein jab unke dimaag mein bees aur baatcheetein ghoom rahi hon.
Yaad rakha jaana, dhyaan mein rakha jaana
Hum ise isliye thaame rehte hain kyunki yaad rakha jaana dhyaan mein rakhe jaane jaisa lagta hai. Shayad ghar mein koi aapki chhoti khabrein hamesha yaad rakhta tha, aur usse apnapan milta tha. Shayad kisi ne nahi rakhi, aur aapne bhoole jaane par gaur karna seekh liya. Yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah mohtaaji nahi hai. Ye apne aaspaas ke logon ke liye maayne rakhne ki chaah hai. Ye hamdardi ki haqdaar hai, ilzaam ki nahi.
Dohrana, phir chup ho jaana
Har bhooli hui baatcheet ek chhota wazan jodti hai. Aap khud ko dohrane lagte hain, phir usmein bewakoof jaisa feel karte hain. Kam batane lagte hain, ki kya faayda. Jo-jo bhoole uski ginti ghar lautte waqt chupchaap karte hain. One-on-one ab kuen se baat karne jaise lagte hain, aur jo ummeedein saajha ki thin wo yojanaon se zyada aisi baatein lagne lagti hain jo kisi ne suni hi nahi.
Kya yaad rakhwana theek hai?
Khud se sachche dil se poochhiye: kya ye ginne se ki unhone kya bhulaya, unhein kabhi zyada yaad aaya? Ya har meeting thodi aur akeli lagne lagi? Ho sakta hai aapke manager ke dimaag mein bas bahut kuch ho, ya unhein shabdon se zyada kaam yaad rehta ho. Jo bhi ho, unki yaaddaasht iski naap nahi ki aap kitna maayne rakhte hain. Is niyam ko itni kasakar thaamna deta kam hai aur maangta zyada.
Aapki yojanaayein asli rehti hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah khatam. Matlab ye ki aapki yojanaayein ab kisi aur ke yaad rakhne par nahi tikin. Aap apni ummeedein saaf pakad sakte hain, bina sharm phir utha sakte hain, aur unki taraf badhte rah sakte hain. Yaad rakha jaana, jab hota hai, ek bonus ban jaata hai. Yahin se kuch sukoon lautta hai: aapki yojanaayein asli rehti hain, koi bhoole ya na bhoole.
Threats, shouting, harassment, humiliation, being singled out for who you are, pay or papers held back, or being frightened at work, are something else, and worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar boss ko parwah hoti, to hamari baat yaad rakhte.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri yojanaayein asli hain, koi bhoole ya na bhoole.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
One-on-one se pehle apni ek ummeed ko khud yaad dila dijiye
- Din 2
Agar wo bhool jaayein, to muskuraakar baat phir keh dijiye
- Din 3
Ek yojana khud se zor se kahiye, bas sunne ke liye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kisne aapki kahi koi baat aise yaad rakhi ki aapko laga aapko jaana jaata hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Wo sawaal jiska jawab pichhle mahine diya tha #
One-on-one ek aise sawaal se shuru hota hai jiska jawab kuch hafte pehle isi kamre mein diya ja chuka hai. Aap dobara, shaanti se jawab dete hain. Shisht chehre ke neeche ek vaakya baith jaata hai: “Boss ko yaad rehna chahiye ki humne kya baat ki thi.”
Kuch logon ko pakki yaaddaasht nahi chahiye hoti, bas ek nishaan chahiye ki pehli baatcheet kahin darj hui. Ek hi baat do baar poochhi jaye to thoda-sa kam suna gaya-sa lag sakta hai.
Kaam par koi baatcheet aakhri baar kab poori tarah suni gayi lagi, aur kis baat se pata chala ki suni gayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shuruaati sawaal par hone wala reset #
Kuch logon ko ek jawab diya hua sawaal phir lautta dekh andar chupchaap reset-sa feel hota hai. Kuch ke chehre par shisht muskaan ban jaati hai, aur uske peeche ek sapaat-si haalat phail jaati hai.
Body kisi vichaar se pehle harkat karti hai: napi-tuli saans, dheemi awaaz, saamne rakhe notes par ek nazar. Uska matlab nikaalna aksar baad mein hota hai, ghar lautte hue.
Pichhli baar kaam par jab aapko khud ko dohrana pada, to jawab tay karne se pehle sabse pehle kya feel hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chahna ki purani baat gini jaye #
Ye ummeed samajh aati hai ki pichhli baatcheet aage saath chale. Kaam par jo hum kehte hain, use shabdon mein dhaalne mein kuch soch lagti hai, aur ye swaabhaavik hai ki wo mehnat aage kaam aaye.
Yaad rakha jaana ye bhi batata hai ki kamre mein aap ek insaan the, sirf task list nahi. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki boss ka kisi chhoti baat ko yaad rakhna kisi bade ishaare se zyada maayne rakhta hai.
Pichhli baatcheet ki kaun-si chhoti baat aap sabse zyada yaad ki hui sunna chahenge, aur wahi kyun?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Minutes likhne wali awaaz #
“Arre, bataya toh tha.” “Saaf-saaf kaha tha maine.” “Kya ek kaan se suna, doosre se nikaal diya?” Ye awaaz aksar meeting ke pehle minute mein aati hai, aur phir galiyare mein.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz thodi thaki hui hai aur thodi ummeed se bhari. Wo chahti hai ki purani baatcheet par aage ki baat ban sake, har baar shuru se na karni pade.
Jab awaaz minutes likhti hai, to kaun-si baat baar-baar dohrati hai, aur kya alag hone ki ummeed rakhti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye us teacher se shuru hua jinhein mahinon pehle kahi gayi baat, fikar ya pasandida subject yaad rehta tha, aur bachche ko laga ki use jaana jaata hai. Ye dhyaan mein rakhe jaane ka ehsaas dheere-dheere ek paimana ban jaata hai.
Kuch ke liye ye ghar se aaya, jahan Dadi ko har birthday aur har exam ki taareekh yaad rehti thi. Kuch rasoi ki mezon par yaad rakhna hi ye kehne ka sabse aam tareeka tha ki aap maayne rakhte hain.
Kisne aapki kahi hui koi aisi baat yaad rakhi jo aapne bas ek baar boli thi, aur us waqt aapko kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Dhyaan mein rakhe jaane wala niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar baat zaroori hoti to yaad rehti,” ya “Achha boss meri kahi baat pakadkar rakhta hai.” Pehla vaakya seedhi shishtata jaisa lagta hai; neeche ka niyam har dohraye gaye sawaal ko ek chhota sandesh bana deta hai.
Aise niyam gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah se aate hain, jo izzat ke laayak hai. Unhein ek asli manager ke hafte ke bagal mein rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai, jisme kai dhaage hain aur kai logon ki baatcheet sambhalni hai.
Ye purane saalon se aaya ho sakta hai, ya waqt ke saath bana ho.
Kaam par “yaad rakhna yaani parwah karna” kahan ab bhi sahi baithta hai, aur kahan kisi vyast dimaag se uski taaqat se zyada maangta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Khud ko dohrana kya le ja sakta hai #
Baatcheet mein halki aah ke saath jaana, zaroori baaton ko chhaant-chhaantkar itna chhota kar dena ki teesri baar na kehni padein, aur kam bolne ki badhti aadat.
Saal bhar mein kuch log paate hain ki wo kam batane lage hain. Phir se kehne ki mehnat, aur chupke se ye sochna ki baat rakhi jayegi ya nahi, bolna ek bojh-sa bana sakta hai.
Pichhle saal kaam ki kaun-si baatcheet aapko sabse achhi lagi, aur kis cheez se wo sachche len-den jaisi lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Shuruaati sawaal ke baras #
Ek aam one-on-one sochiye, us din ka jab “Boss ko yaad rehna chahiye” oonchi awaaz mein hai. Dekhne bhar ka ek drishya.
Shayad wahi “Aur, kya chal raha hai?”, pichhle mahine ki koi baat phir lautti hui, teesri baar diya gaya saaf saaransh, ek sar hilna, aur mez par ek parchi jis par bas “follow-up” likha hai.
Isme jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer kisi bhi pal neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: kursi, shuru ka sawaal, mann mein ek saaransh, ghumaya jaata pen?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us meeting mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usmein, agar kuch dikhe, aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Yaaddaasht aur parwah ek cheez nahi hain #
Manager ki kisi baatcheet ki yaad un wajahon se feeki pad sakti hai jinka is baat se koi waasta nahi ki wo kitni zaroori thi: bhara hua hafta, bahut saare log, badli hui praathmikataayein. Yaad rehna parwah ka taraazu nahi hai.
Kuch log paate hain ki likhit notes, ek chhota saaransh ya saajha document dono ke liye yaad rakhne ka kaam kar deta hai. Ek jaayaz ummeed ek se zyada tareekon se poori ho sakti hai, aur tareeke se zyada bharosemand hona maayne rakhta hai.
Agar yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah ko koi ek khaas aadat banna pade, to aap use kya banana chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo saath le jaaya gaya #
Dohraye gaye sawaalon ke bagal mein kuch yaad rakhi gayi baatein bhi hongi: aapki batayi baat par ek chhota follow-up, aapke bolne ke baad hua koi badlaav, ya email ki ek pankti jisse laga ki baatcheet sambhalkar rakhi gayi thi.
Inhein naam dene se aur ki chaah khatam nahi hoti. Ek jaayaz ummeed aur ek chhota-sa sachcha notice saath reh sakte hain, aur notice kisi se kuch nahi maangta.
Kaam par ya uske bahar, kisne aapki kahi koi baat aage badhayi, aur uske baare mein aap kya apne paas rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Ek baar kehna, aur tikne dena #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ho sakta hai ki dohraya gaya sawaal aapki haisiyat par faisla na rahe. Jo jaayaz hai wo rahe: chaah ki purani baat gini jaye, chaah ki gambhirta se liya jaye. Dheeli pad sakti hai pakad, taaki bhooli hui baat bas ek bhooli hui baat rahe, poore rishte par bayaan nahi.
Is ummeed mein wo baat shamil nahi hai jab kaam par kisi ki taraf se dhamki, pareshaan kiya jaana ya beizzati ho, ya aapki pehchaan ki wajah se nishaana banaya jaye, chahe wo aapka gender ho, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, viklangta ya aap kahan se hain.
Bina tankhwaah ka kaam, roke gaye kaagzaat ya tankhwaah, asurakshit kaam, ya darr lagna bhi isme nahi aata. Ye kuch aur baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak hai; chupchaap saavdhaan rehna surakshit raasta ho sakta hai.
Kaam ki jagah par buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hai, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Is ummeed ko halke se thaame ek one-on-one sochiye: sabse pehle kya kahenge, aur kya jeb mein rakhenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Dohraye gaye sawaal ke liye zyada sachchi pankti #
“Boss ko yaad rehna chahiye ki humne kya baat ki thi” ke bagal mein kuch log aisi pankti taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe yaad rakha jaana achha lagega, aur jo maine kaha wo do baar kehna pade tab bhi maayne rakhta hai.” Use purani pankti ko haraana nahi hai, bas uske bagal mein baithna hai.
Aisa vaakya shuru mein udaar lag sakta hai aur istemaal se aam. Kuch logon ko apni ek saadi-si pankti mil jaati hai, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah ke baare mein imaandaar ho, par aapki haisiyat ko us par na tikaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Dohraya gaya sawaal neeche rakha ja sakta hai #
Har dohraye gaye sawaal par Friday tak faisla zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein mez par rakhi notebook ki tarah neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai. Agar aapki pehchaan ki wajah se aapko nishaana banaya jaye, bina tankhwaah kaam karaya jaye, ya kaam par koi daraye, to wo kuch aur baat hai aur gambhirta se lene laayak hai.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha ya tay ho gaya. Bas itna ki aaj raat minutes sambhalna zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar shuruaati sawaal halka pade #
Bas ek pal ke liye sochiye ki chaah ek darja halki hai. Yaad rakhe jaane ka mann ab bhi hai, par purani baat bina aah ke phir kahi ja sakti hai.
Shayad aap one-on-one se nikalte hain aur us ek baat ko pehchaante hain jo kehkar achha laga, chahe jawab mein kuch bhi aaya. Ya ye ki purana sawaal ab imtihaan na rahe to kamra kaisa lagta hai.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kya pehchaanenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein, agar jachein #
- Yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah ko naam dijiye, aur ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Pichhli kisi baatcheet ki ek baat dekhiye jo sachmuch aage aayi
- Wo baatcheet sochiye jo aap sabse zyada karna chahenge
- Dekhiye ki ek hi baat do baar poochhe jaane par kaisa lagta hai
- Kisi saathi ki koi aisi baat sochiye jo aapko yaad rahi
Chhote, nijee aur zaroori nahi. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kisne aapki kahi koi baat aise yaad rakhi ki aapko laga aapko jaana jaata hai?
- Kaam ki kaun-si baatcheet aap aaj bhi pyaar se yaad karte hain, aur kyun?
- Apne se bade kisi ne aapko kab sachmuch suna?
- Agar yaad rakhe jaane ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to aap sabse pehle kya feel karenge?
- Kaam mein kya pehle se dikhata hai ki aapki baat pahunchti hai, aur jise aap zyada dekhna chahenge?