Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Wo slide ya number jaisa nahi dikhta, aur aksar bas is ehsaas ki tarah ubharta hai ki ye pehle aazmaya ja chuka hai, jise jaldi shabdon mein dhaalna mushkil hota hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye kisi aise senior se shuru hui jisne kaha “Bata to, pehle kaise hota tha”, aur phir suna.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jo maine dekha hai, uske baare mein doosron ko mujhse poochna chahiye”, ya “Seekh aage saunpi jaye, dobara khoji na jaye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Jab humne pehle ye aazmaya tha” se shuru karna aur kamre ko thanda padte dekhna
- Chup rehna, aur phir wahi idea pass hote sunna
- Qissa rok lena, aur ghar lautte hue use dohrana
- Training ka wo kaam le lena jiska sabr kisi mein nahi
- Idea ko kaat-chhaantkar itna chhota karna ki wo naya lage
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Ab zamana badal gaya hai”
Bhopal ki meeting mein aap batate ho ki yahi samasya das saal pehle kaise suljhi thi, kya chala aur kya nahi. Ek naujawan colleague kehta hai, “Ab zamana badal gaya hai,” aur kamra aage badh jaata hai. Baad mein naya plan theek usi dikkat mein atakta hai jo aapne batayi thi. Kisi ko aapki baat yaad nahi aati. Aap desk par chup ho, jaise aisi kitaab jise koi nahi padhna chahta.
Tajurbe ki kuch to qadar ho
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Kaam ki jagah par tajurbe ki qadar honi chahiye.” Ye samajhdaari ki baat lagti hai. Barson wo sikhate hain jo kitaabein nahi sikhatin. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke kaam ke hone ka ehsaas is par tika deta hai ki doosre aapke ateet ko kaise dekhte hain. Aapki qadar ho rahi hai ya nahi, ye us jagah par nirbhar ho jaata hai jo naye ke peechhe bhaagti hai.
Tajurba mushkil se kyun milta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki tajurba mushkil se milta hai. Shayad aap aise ghar mein bade hue jahan badon ki baat suni jaati thi, aur apni baari aane par wahi ummeed rakhi. Shayad aapne itna kuch thokar khaakar seekha ki chahte ho doosron ko wo thokar na lage. Tajurbe ki qadar chahna ghamand nahi hai. Ye kaam aane ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Meeting mein chup hote jaana
Har taali gayi kahani aapko thoda aur chup kar deti hai. Aap jo jaante ho, use dena band kar dete ho. Kamre se taalmel bigda lagta hai. Sochte ho ki log aapko purane khayal ka to nahi samajhte. Dheere-dheere barson mein bani samajh andar band reh jaati hai, aur aap khud us par shak karne lagte ho, jabki wo un tareekon se sahi saabit hoti rehti hai jinhein shayad sirf aap hi dekhte ho.
Qadar ka intezaar kya sahi hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya ye chahna ki ve aapke tajurbe ki qadar karein, kabhi unhein zyada sunne par laya? Ya zyadatar aapko ansuna mehsoos hua? Kaam ki jagahein aksar naye idea ke peechhe bhaagti hain aur poochna bhool jaati hain ki pehle kya hua tha, wajahein jinka aapse kam hi vaasta hai. Jo bhi ho, unki jaldi aapki samajh ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadne mein aap jitna dete ho, wo jitna milta hai usse zyada hai.
Jo jaante hain, use chupchaap istemaal karna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapka tajurba mayne nahi rakhta. Matlab ye ki uski keemat ka ehsaas ab is par nahi tika ki doosre use maangein. Aap jaante ho ki aapne kya seekha hai. Use apne kaam mein istemaal kar sakte ho, jahan jagah ho wahan halke se baant sakte ho, aur chupchaap us par bharosa rakh sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapke barson ki seekh aapki hi rehti hai, zaroorat padne par taiyaar.
Being pushed aside because of your age, or threatened, humiliated or frightened at work, is not a question of how a room listens; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleKaam ki jagah par tajurbe ki qadar honi chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMaine jo seekha, wo mera hai. Use chupchaap istemaal kar sakte hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Barson pehle ki koi ek seekh aaj ke kaam mein istemaal kijiye
- Din 2
Is hafte kisi naujawan colleague se kuch naya seekhiye
- Din 3
Wo ek mauka sochiye jab aapke tajurbe ne baat bachayi
Is par baat karni hai?
“Barson mein seekhi kaun si baat kabhi theek wahi nikli jiski zaroorat thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Whiteboard par likha jaana-pehchana idea #
Meeting mein sab whiteboard ke paas jama hain, aur koi ek hal sujha raha hai jise aapne kuch saal pehle aazmaya jaate, badla jaate aur phir band hote dekha tha. Mann mein wo line ghoomti hai: “Kaam ki jagah par tajurbe ki qadar honi chahiye.”
Kuch logon ke liye chaah bas itni hoti hai ki jo sabak mushkil se mila, use dobara seekhna na pade. Ye maamooli lag sakti hai, aur phir bhi poori meeting mein saath chalti reh sakti hai.
Aakhri baar kab barson mein seekhi hui koi baat theek wahi nikli jiski zaroorat thi, aur wo kya thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Board ke paas kheenchi gayi saans #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ek jhatke mein saans khinch jaati hai, pen neeche rakh diya jaata hai, aadha vaakya nigal liya jaata hai. Kuch ko gardan mein dheemi garmi chadhti mehsoos hoti hai jab kamra naye plan par sar hilata hai.
Body pehle bol deti hai: ek haath doosre haath par, ghadi par ek nazar, chehre par tiki hui muskaan. Soch-samajhkar di jaane wali vyaakhya, khud ko ya kisi dost ko, aksar lift mein ya ghar lautte hue aati hai.
Aisi pichhli meeting mein, bolne ka faisla karne se pehle, aapki body ne sabse pehle kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jo seekha hai, uski keemat hai #
Ye ummeed ki insaan ne jo seekha hai use gambhirta se liya jaye, poori tarah samajh aati hai. Barson mein ek bhandaar jama hota hai: kya bigda, kya chala, aur wo chhote raaste jo kahin likhe nahi gaye.
Meeting mein wo bhandaar dikhta nahi. Wo slide ya number jaisa nahi dikhta, aur aksar bas is ehsaas ki tarah ubharta hai ki ye pehle aazmaya ja chuka hai, jise jaldi shabdon mein dhaalna mushkil hota hai.
Is kaam ke baare mein aisi ek baat kya hai jo aapne barson karke hi jaani, aur usse kise faayda hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Pichhli koshish yaad rakhne wali awaaz #
“Ye film hum pehle dekh chuke hain.” “Kisi ne poocha nahi ki pichhli baar kya hua.” “Humne bhi baal dhoop mein safed nahi kiye.” Ye awaaz aksar presentation ke beech bolti hai, jab koi joshila colleague abhi-abhi “fresh” shabd bolkar hata ho.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz aadhi yojana ke baare mein hai aur aadhi is chaah ke baare mein ki lambe raaste ko kamre mein baitha koi ek baar to maane.
Jab awaaz pichhli koshish yaad karti hai, to kahani ka kaun sa hissa sabse zyada sunana chahti hai, aur kise?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Tajurbe ki izzat kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye ye kisi aise senior se shuru hui jisne kaha “Bata to, pehle kaise hota tha”, aur phir suna. Ek aisa insaan jisne lambi yaaddaasht ko kaam ki cheez maana, kisi bhi kaam ki jagah ke liye paimana ban sakta hai.
Kuch ke liye ye aise ghar se aayi jahan bade faisle se pehle badon se poocha jaata tha, aur zyada dekh chuke logon ki sunna bas tareeka tha. Kai parivaaron mein ye achhe sanskaar ki nishaani thi.
Sabse pehle kisne poocha ki aapne barson mein kya seekha, aur sachmuch jawab sunna chaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Barson ka kya kaam hai, iska niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jo maine dekha hai, uske baare mein doosron ko mujhse poochna chahiye”, ya “Seekh aage saunpi jaye, dobara khoji na jaye.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; uske neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har naya idea kaise padha jaye.
Aise niyam mushkil se paayi jaankari ki qadar se aate hain, jo qadar karne layak baat hai. Inhein aaj ki is team ke saath rakhkar dekha ja sakta hai, jiske auzaar tez hain aur jiske cheezein seekhne ke tareeke alag hain.
Ho sakta hai ye purane saalon se chala aa raha ho, ya naya ho.
Kaam par ye niyam kahan ab bhi khara baithta hai, aur kahan nayi koshish team ke apne dhang se kaam aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nigle hue qisse kya chheen sakte hain #
Ye aisa dikhta hai: ek kaam ki chetavani jo rok li gayi, kase jabde ke saath nikli meeting, wo lunch jo usi mez se bachne ke liye jaldi nipta liya gaya. Har cheez chhoti, par poora hafta unse bhara.
Kaam khud ansune hone ki rehearsal jaisa lagne lag sakta hai. Apne hunar ko jaanne ki chupchaap ki khushi is sawaal se dab jaati hai ki kaun poochega, jo ek dopahar ke liye kaafi dimaag khaata hai.
Pichhle kuch mahinon mein kaam ki kaun si baatcheet sachmuch achhi lagi, aur use kya cheez achha banati thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Nigle qisse ke paanch saal #
Ek aam Friday sochiye, us din jab “Kaam ki jagah par tajurbe ki qadar honi chahiye” zor se bol raha hai. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai.
Shayad qissa baad mein galiyare ke liye rakh liya jaata hai, kisi colleague ke saath ek halki hansi hoti hai, kaam achhe se niptata hai, aur dopahar weekend ki planning par khatam hoti hai.
Yahan kisi cheez ka jawab zaroori nahi, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya-kya hai: planning session, purane jaisa lagta naya idea, ungliyon mein ghoomta pen?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Friday mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske baare mein agar kuch dikhta hai, to wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Qadar, kis shakl mein? #
“Tajurbe ki qadar” ka matlab ho sakta hai shuruaat mein poocha jaana, mushkil case milna, kisi naye ko saath bithaya jaana, ya bas vaakya poora hone tak suna jaana. Har ek alag chaah hai, aur bade se shabd ke muqable inhein naam dena aasaan hai.
Chhote mein kahi kahani aksar lambi kahani se zyada door tak jaati hai, aur “Aap kis cheez par nazar rakhenge?” jaisa sawaal kamre ko toke jaane ka ehsaas karaye bina tajurbe ka istemaal karne deta hai. Teams alag hoti hain, kuch ise doosron se aasaani se sun leti hain.
Agar agli meeting mein aapke tajurbe ko ek hi vaakya mein pesh karna ho, to wo vaakya kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Kaam ki jagah pehle se kya deti hai #
Jo izzat nahi aayi uske baghal mein kuch aisi bhi ho sakti hai jo aayi: koi colleague jo phone karke poochta hai ki ye kaam kaise hota hai, kisi system ko samjhane par ek sar hilna, desk par bina kahe rakh di gayi chai ka cup.
Inmein se kisi ek ko dekhne se aur qadar paane ki chaah kam nahi hoti. Dono ek hi desk par, ek hi Tuesday ko sach ho sakti hain.
Jawab ka koi sahi aakaar nahi.
Yahan log pehle se kya karte hain jo dikhata hai ki wo aapki jaankari ko ahmiyat dete hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Kamra kaise sunta hai, aur aap kya jaante hain #
Sulah ka matlab ho sakta hai ki jo izzat aap chahte the aur jis meeting mein aap the, unke beech ki khaai poore din ka swaad bigadna band kar de. Umar ki wajah se kinare kar diya jaana is baat ka sawaal nahi ki kamra kaise sunta hai; use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Kaam par dhamkaya jaana, utpeedan ya beizzati, ya aapki pehchaan ki wajah se alag chhaanta jaana (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, koi disability ya wo jagah jahan se aap aaye), ye alag baat hai, aur ise gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Yahi baat bina paise ke kaam, salary ya kaagzaat roke jaane, asurakshit kaam aur darr par laagu hoti hai; aise mein saath chalna ya satark rehna hi surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kaam ki jagah par buniyadi izzat aur suraksha “zyada maangna” kabhi nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na doosron ke liye. Ek aisi meeting sochiye jisme ye chaah zara halke haath se thaami gayi hai.
Nigle hue qisse mein jo taaqat jaati thi, uska aap kya karenge, aur wahan baithne mein aapko kya achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Meeting room ke liye ek sachchi line #
“Kaam ki jagah par tajurbe ki qadar honi chahiye” ke paas kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe ummeed thi ki jo maine seekha hai use suna jayega, aur wo jaanne layak ab bhi hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purani line ke baghal mein khada hona hai.
Aisi line pehle udhaar ki lag sakti hai aur istemaal se apni ho jaati hai. Kuch ko apne saade shabd behtar baithte hain, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachchi line kya hogi, jo ummeed ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur kamre ki haami ki mohtaaj na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Qissa baad ke liye rakha ja sakta hai #
Har meeting ke khatam hone se pehle aapka jawab dena zaroori nahi. Baat ko notice kiya ja sakta hai, feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur diary mein tah kiye panne ki tarah rakha ja sakta hai, ab bhi aapka, ab bhi sach.
Tajurbe ki qadar ki chaah jitni der chahein nijee reh sakti hai. Dhamki, utpeedan, beizzati, pehchaan ki wajah se alag chhaanta jaana, bina paise ka kaam, salary ya kaagzaat rokna, asurakshit kaam ya darr, ye alag baat hai, aur inhein gambhirta se lena chahiye; satark rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aaj raat ise rehne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab kuch sahi tha, ya mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki aaj ki shaam ko kisi faisle ki zaroorat nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad ek paaydaan dheeli ho #
Bas tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek paaydaan shaant hai. Qadar paane ki chaah ab bhi hai, aur qissa halke se thaama hai, apne mann mein poora sunaya hua, aur jaisa hai waisa hi anand liya hua.
Ho sakta hai ek aisi meeting jo dohrav ke bina khatam ho, ya hunar ka anand usi ke liye lene ka ek pal.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo notice karna aapka hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Barson ki koi ek seekh chuniye jo aap aaj bhi roz istemaal karte hain
- Agli meeting mein dekhiye ki idea zyada chubha ya lehja
- Lambi kahani ka chhota roop sochiye, ek vaakya mein
- Ek aise colleague ko sochiye jo aapki jaankari ki qadar karta hai, aur wo kya karta hai
- Dekhiye hafte mein kahan aapke hunar ki izzat hoti hai, bhale pal bhar ke liye
Chhote, nijee aur optional. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Barson mein seekhi kaun si baat kabhi theek wahi nikli jiski zaroorat thi?
- Kaun si jaankari aap saath rakhte hain jis par aapko chupchaap garv hai?
- Sabse pehle kisne poocha ki aap kya jaante hain, aur sachmuch suna?
- Agar tajurbe ki qadar paane ki chaah zara dheeli pade, to aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?
- Yahan kaun aapki jaankari ki izzat karta hai, aur aap ye kaise dekhte hain?